WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:15.529 Our mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her: “O ‘A’ishah, permit me to worship my Lord.” 00:00:15.529 --> 00:00:22.089 Education through personal example is one of the most important methods of upbringing. 00:00:22.089 --> 00:00:30.179 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was the greatest example for his household and for the Ummah in general. 00:00:30.179 --> 00:00:35.179 Therefore, Allah the Almighty commanded us to follow his example, saying: 00:00:35.179 --> 00:00:52.179 “Verily in the messenger of Allah ye have a good example for him who looketh unto Allah and the Last Day, and remembereth Allah much.” (33:21) 00:00:52.179 --> 00:01:00.380 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was the most God-fearing of this Ummah and the one who possessed the most awe of Him, glory be to Him. 00:01:01.380 --> 00:01:06.379 His worship clearly reflected this awe and piety. 00:01:06.379 --> 00:01:17.379 Whoever wishes to worship Allah the Almighty will find no method better than the method of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, in his worship of his Lord. 00:01:17.379 --> 00:01:26.439 The worship of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was not limited to a specific season of worship, such as Ramadan, for example. 00:01:26.439 --> 00:01:31.439 Rather, his worship of Allah was constant and present in all his states. 00:01:31.439 --> 00:01:42.540 If a man wishes to raise his household to obey Allah, he will find no method better than being obedient to Allah in private and in public. 00:01:42.540 --> 00:01:47.540 They will see in him a good example, and his actions will precede his words. 00:01:47.540 --> 00:01:55.540 A man should not think that the eyes of his household—his wife and children—are unobservant of him. 00:01:55.540 --> 00:02:03.540 They see him and watch him without him realizing, and the effect of this eventually appears upon them, even if after some time. 00:02:03.540 --> 00:02:12.759 In the story of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, with his wife ‘A’ishah, there is a model of these beautiful examples. 00:02:12.759 --> 00:02:20.759 It shows the Prophet’s, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, devotion to worship and his leaving of a warm bed. 00:02:20.759 --> 00:02:27.759 It also shows the observation of his wife ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, of his worship of his Lord. 00:02:27.759 --> 00:02:31.759 This observation influenced her life later on. 00:02:31.759 --> 00:02:34.919 ‘Ata’ Ibn Abi Rabah says: 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:42.919 “I entered with ‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar and ‘Ubayd Ibn ‘Umayr upon ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, while she was behind her curtain.” 00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:45.919 She asked, “Who are these?” 00:02:45.919 --> 00:02:50.919 We said, “‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar and ‘Ubayd Ibn ‘Umayr.” 00:02:50.919 --> 00:02:58.919 She said, “O ‘Ubayd Ibn ‘Umayr, you are as the ancients said: ‘Visit occasionally, and you will be loved more.’” 00:02:58.919 --> 00:03:03.919 Ibn ‘Umar said, “Leave us to our serious business.” 00:03:03.919 --> 00:03:10.050 “Tell us of the most amazing thing you saw from the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.” 00:03:10.050 --> 00:03:13.050 She wept intensely. 00:03:13.050 --> 00:03:17.050 Then she said, “All of his affairs were amazing.” 00:03:17.050 --> 00:03:21.050 “He came to me one night after I had entered my bed.” 00:03:21.050 --> 00:03:25.050 “He entered with me until his skin touched my skin.” 00:03:25.050 --> 00:03:32.050 “Then he said, ‘O ‘A’ishah, permit me to worship my Lord, the Almighty.’” 00:03:32.050 --> 00:03:35.050 She said, “I said, ‘O Messenger of Allah.’” 00:03:35.050 --> 00:03:39.050 “‘I truly love your closeness, and I love your desire.’” 00:03:39.050 --> 00:03:43.180 She said, “So he stood up to a water skin in the house.” 00:03:43.180 --> 00:03:47.180 “He performed wudu’ from it, then recited the Qur’an.” 00:03:47.180 --> 00:03:53.180 “Then he wept until I thought his tears had reached his lap.” 00:03:53.180 --> 00:04:00.180 “Then he sat and supplicated and wept until I thought his tears had reached his waist.” 00:04:00.180 --> 00:04:06.210 “Then he lay on his right side and placed his right hand under his right cheek.” 00:04:06.210 --> 00:04:12.210 “Then he wept until I thought his tears had reached the ground.” 00:04:12.210 --> 00:04:17.430 “Then Bilal came to him after he had given the adhan, and he greeted him.” 00:04:17.430 --> 00:04:21.430 “When he saw him weeping, he said, ‘O Messenger of Allah.’” 00:04:21.430 --> 00:04:27.430 “‘Do you weep when Allah has forgiven your past and future sins?’” 00:04:27.430 --> 00:04:33.430 “He said, ‘Should I not be a grateful servant? And why should I not weep when there was revealed to me tonight:’” 00:04:33.430 --> 00:04:38.430 ﴿Indeed, in the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of the night and the day...﴾ 00:04:38.430 --> 00:04:44.430 “Woe to the one who reads it and does not reflect upon it.” 00:04:44.430 --> 00:04:49.500 “Woe to you, O Bilal, should I not be a grateful servant?” 00:04:49.500 --> 00:04:53.589 Narrated by Al-Tahawi in Mushkil al-Athar. 00:04:54.589 --> 00:05:00.009 We observe the great etiquette of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:05:00.009 --> 00:05:04.009 In his asking permission from his wife ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 00:05:04.009 --> 00:05:08.009 To rise for his prayer and his worship of Allah. 00:05:08.009 --> 00:05:13.069 This permission was sought because the time was ‘A’ishah’s time. 00:05:13.069 --> 00:05:18.069 It was the time allocated to her from his day and night, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:05:18.069 --> 00:05:20.069 Along with his other wives. 00:05:20.069 --> 00:05:23.069 If she missed that night, 00:05:23.069 --> 00:05:28.069 She would have to wait until her turn came again after ten days. 00:05:28.069 --> 00:05:32.139 It was part of his beautiful etiquette, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:05:32.139 --> 00:05:35.139 That he asked her permission to leave her bed, 00:05:35.139 --> 00:05:38.230 To devote himself to the worship of his Lord. 00:05:38.230 --> 00:05:40.230 In this is a lesson for the husband, 00:05:40.230 --> 00:05:45.230 In the etiquette of dealing with one’s wife and the times allocated to her. 00:05:45.230 --> 00:05:50.230 These times should not be for emergency appointments with people, 00:05:50.230 --> 00:05:53.230 Or for phone calls, 00:05:53.230 --> 00:05:56.230 Which he cannot find a place for in his schedule, 00:05:56.230 --> 00:06:00.230 Unless he asks her permission, and she grants it with love, 00:06:00.230 --> 00:06:03.230 As ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, did. 00:06:03.230 --> 00:06:06.230 And she would not grant him permission with love, 00:06:06.230 --> 00:06:09.230 Unless this action from him was rare, 00:06:09.230 --> 00:06:13.300 And his respect for her times was the norm. 00:06:13.300 --> 00:06:16.300 Furthermore, the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:06:16.300 --> 00:06:19.300 Gives us another lesson regarding the type of work, 00:06:19.300 --> 00:06:23.300 For which a man might set aside his family’s time. 00:06:23.300 --> 00:06:25.300 It is the worship of Allah. 00:06:25.300 --> 00:06:29.300 And the worship of Allah is constant and at all times. 00:06:29.300 --> 00:06:32.300 However, the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:06:32.300 --> 00:06:36.300 Taught us that our Lord has a right over us, 00:06:36.300 --> 00:06:39.300 And our spouse has a right over us, 00:06:39.300 --> 00:06:42.300 And our guest has a right over us, 00:06:42.300 --> 00:06:45.300 And he commanded us to give everyone who has a right their due. 00:06:45.300 --> 00:06:48.300 All of these are acts of worship to Allah. 00:06:48.300 --> 00:06:51.329 We also observe the selflessness of ‘A’ishah, 00:06:51.329 --> 00:06:54.329 In what the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, loved, 00:06:54.329 --> 00:06:56.329 Of rising for worship, 00:06:56.329 --> 00:06:59.329 Over what she loved of being close to him, 00:06:59.329 --> 00:07:01.329 And enjoying his company. 00:07:01.329 --> 00:07:03.329 This selflessness from ‘A’ishah, 00:07:03.329 --> 00:07:06.329 Stemmed from what she saw of balance, 00:07:06.329 --> 00:07:09.329 In the life of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:07:09.329 --> 00:07:12.329 With her and in being close to her. 00:07:12.329 --> 00:07:15.329 So when he asked her permission for some of her time, 00:07:15.329 --> 00:07:17.329 She granted it to him. 00:07:17.329 --> 00:07:20.329 Such a thing is attainable for every husband, 00:07:20.329 --> 00:07:23.420 Who has achieved balance with his wife. 00:07:23.420 --> 00:07:25.420 We also observe from the story, 00:07:25.420 --> 00:07:28.420 The precision of the observation of ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:07:28.420 --> 00:07:31.420 Of the worship of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:07:31.420 --> 00:07:34.420 She did not sleep and leave him, 00:07:34.420 --> 00:07:36.420 To worship Allah alone. 00:07:36.420 --> 00:07:39.420 Rather, she observed how he worshipped. 00:07:39.420 --> 00:07:42.420 This observation influenced her life, 00:07:42.420 --> 00:07:45.420 Later on, in her increasing her own worship, 00:07:45.420 --> 00:07:48.420 After the passing of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:07:48.420 --> 00:07:51.649 The eloquent lesson, 00:07:51.649 --> 00:07:54.649 That we all need, 00:07:54.649 --> 00:07:57.649 From this Prophetic story, 00:07:57.649 --> 00:08:00.649 With our mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:08:00.649 --> 00:08:03.649 Is that the etiquettes derived, 00:08:03.649 --> 00:08:06.649 From the Prophetic biography of our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:08:06.649 --> 00:08:09.649 And following his example in them, 00:08:09.649 --> 00:08:12.649 By worshipping through rituals, 00:08:12.649 --> 00:08:15.649 Should not be separated from the aspect of social interaction, 00:08:15.649 --> 00:08:18.649 With one’s wife and children. 00:08:18.649 --> 00:08:21.649 Presenting such a story, 00:08:21.649 --> 00:08:24.649 Just as it serves to explain weeping, 00:08:24.649 --> 00:08:27.649 Out of fear of Allah and devotion to Allah, 00:08:27.649 --> 00:08:30.649 In the night and gratitude for blessings, 00:08:30.649 --> 00:08:33.649 It also serves to explain marital rights, 00:08:33.649 --> 00:08:36.649 And the etiquette of dealing with one’s wife. 00:08:37.649 --> 00:08:40.649 The way ‘A’ishah described her state, 00:08:40.649 --> 00:08:43.649 With the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, by saying, 00:08:43.649 --> 00:08:46.649 “And he pressed his skin against my skin,” 00:08:46.649 --> 00:08:49.649 She did not mention it in vain. 00:08:49.649 --> 00:08:52.649 Rather, it is an important part of the events of the story, 00:08:52.649 --> 00:08:55.649 Which carries its own significance. 00:08:55.649 --> 00:08:58.649 Just as it is part of the biography of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:08:58.649 --> 00:09:02.100 With his wives. 00:09:02.100 --> 00:09:05.100 We shall continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 00:09:05.100 --> 00:09:10.460 Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds. 00:09:10.460 --> 00:09:13.460 Our mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.