1 00:00:01,419 --> 00:00:07,419 The story of the Hajj of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 2 00:00:07,419 --> 00:00:15,619 Asma’ bint Abi Bakr exits her state of ihram for ‘Umrah. 3 00:00:15,619 --> 00:00:21,379 The Companions responded to the command of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 4 00:00:21,379 --> 00:00:23,379 to exit the state of ihram. 5 00:00:23,379 --> 00:00:27,379 He told them to convert it into an ‘Umrah for those who had not brought the sacrificial animals (hady). 6 00:00:27,379 --> 00:00:32,380 Among the female Companions who exited ihram, having not brought the sacrificial animals, was 7 00:00:32,380 --> 00:00:35,380 Asma’ bint Abi Bakr al-Siddiq, 8 00:00:35,380 --> 00:00:38,380 the wife of al-Zubayr ibn al-‘Awwam. 9 00:00:38,380 --> 00:00:41,450 Asma’, may Allah be pleased with her, says: 10 00:00:41,450 --> 00:00:43,450 "We set out in a state of ihram." 11 00:00:43,450 --> 00:00:47,450 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 12 00:00:47,450 --> 00:00:51,450 "Whoever has the sacrificial animal with him, let him remain in his state of ihram, 13 00:00:51,450 --> 00:00:55,450 and whoever does not have the sacrificial animal with him, let him exit ihram." 14 00:00:55,450 --> 00:00:58,509 "I did not have the sacrificial animal with me, so I exited ihram." 15 00:00:58,509 --> 00:01:02,539 "Al-Zubayr had the sacrificial animal with him, so he did not exit ihram." 16 00:01:02,539 --> 00:01:05,540 She said: "So I put on my clothes, 17 00:01:05,540 --> 00:01:08,540 then I went out and sat next to al-Zubayr." 18 00:01:08,540 --> 00:01:11,540 He said: "Move away from me." 19 00:01:11,540 --> 00:01:15,579 I said: "Are you afraid that I might jump on you?" 20 00:01:15,579 --> 00:01:19,310 What occurred from Asma’, may Allah be pleased with her, 21 00:01:19,310 --> 00:01:22,310 was that she exited ihram and applied perfume, 22 00:01:22,310 --> 00:01:24,310 and wore her beautiful clothes, 23 00:01:24,310 --> 00:01:27,310 and sat beside her husband. 24 00:01:27,310 --> 00:01:31,310 However, he did not exit ihram because he had brought the sacrificial animal. 25 00:01:31,310 --> 00:01:34,310 Al-Zubayr feared for himself that he might commit 26 00:01:34,310 --> 00:01:37,310 one of the prohibitions of ihram. 27 00:01:37,310 --> 00:01:40,310 So he said to her: "Move away from me." 28 00:01:40,310 --> 00:01:44,409 In this is a reminder for the woman performing Hajj 29 00:01:44,409 --> 00:01:48,409 that she should not perform any action while in ihram 30 00:01:48,409 --> 00:01:51,409 that affects her husband, tempts him, or seduces him, 31 00:01:51,409 --> 00:01:54,409 such as holding hands, 32 00:01:54,409 --> 00:01:56,409 or pressing against his body, 33 00:01:56,409 --> 00:02:00,409 or any movement that could arouse him while in the state of ihram. 34 00:02:00,409 --> 00:02:02,409 As for after exiting ihram, 35 00:02:02,409 --> 00:02:05,409 she may adorn herself for her husband, 36 00:02:05,409 --> 00:02:07,409 and she may entice him. 37 00:02:07,409 --> 00:02:10,620 Fatimah, daughter of the Messenger of Allah, 38 00:02:10,620 --> 00:02:13,620 adorns herself to welcome her husband. 39 00:02:13,620 --> 00:02:18,069 Fatimah, daughter of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 40 00:02:18,069 --> 00:02:20,069 may Allah be pleased with her, 41 00:02:20,069 --> 00:02:23,069 was with our Prophet during the Farewell Pilgrimage. 42 00:02:23,069 --> 00:02:27,069 She was among the members of his household who had not brought the sacrificial animal. 43 00:02:27,069 --> 00:02:31,069 When the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, commanded them 44 00:02:31,069 --> 00:02:33,069 to convert it into an ‘Umrah, 45 00:02:33,069 --> 00:02:37,069 she responded to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 46 00:02:37,069 --> 00:02:41,199 Her husband, ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him, 47 00:02:41,199 --> 00:02:43,199 had gone to Yemen 48 00:02:43,199 --> 00:02:47,199 at the request of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 49 00:02:47,199 --> 00:02:49,229 When he returned from Yemen, 50 00:02:49,229 --> 00:02:52,229 he caught up with the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 51 00:02:52,229 --> 00:02:54,229 while he was in Makkah, 52 00:02:54,229 --> 00:02:57,229 after the people had exited their ‘Umrah 53 00:02:57,229 --> 00:03:00,229 and before they entered into the state of Hajj. 54 00:03:00,229 --> 00:03:05,360 When his wife, Fatimah, daughter of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 55 00:03:05,360 --> 00:03:07,360 may Allah be pleased with her, 56 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:09,360 learned of his arrival from his journey, 57 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:11,360 she adorned herself for him, 58 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,360 and perfumed her tent to welcome him. 59 00:03:13,360 --> 00:03:17,460 So ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib came to her tent, 60 00:03:17,460 --> 00:03:21,460 and found that Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, had exited ihram, 61 00:03:21,460 --> 00:03:25,460 and had put on dyed garments and applied kohl. 62 00:03:25,460 --> 00:03:27,460 He disapproved of this action. 63 00:03:28,550 --> 00:03:30,550 ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib says: 64 00:03:30,550 --> 00:03:33,550 "I found Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, 65 00:03:33,550 --> 00:03:35,550 had put on dyed garments, 66 00:03:35,550 --> 00:03:38,550 and had perfumed the house." 67 00:03:38,550 --> 00:03:42,550 A wife in such a state, having prepared herself 68 00:03:42,550 --> 00:03:44,550 to welcome her husband, 69 00:03:44,550 --> 00:03:51,550 expects something different from what the Lady of the Women of Paradise, may Allah be pleased with her, saw. 70 00:03:51,550 --> 00:03:55,550 She saw disapproval of her action on his face, 71 00:03:55,550 --> 00:03:57,550 so she initiated the conversation and said: 72 00:03:57,550 --> 00:04:02,550 "What is the matter with you? The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 73 00:04:02,550 --> 00:04:05,550 commanded his Companions, and they exited ihram." 74 00:04:05,550 --> 00:04:09,650 The reason for ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib’s, may Allah be pleased with him, disapproval 75 00:04:09,650 --> 00:04:12,650 was what had become firmly rooted in the minds of the Arabs: 76 00:04:12,650 --> 00:04:15,650 that ‘Umrah should not be performed during the months of Hajj, 77 00:04:15,650 --> 00:04:18,649 and that the pilgrim should perform only one ritual, 78 00:04:18,649 --> 00:04:22,649 from which he does not exit until the Day of Sacrifice. 79 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,680 This is what the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, addressed 80 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:30,680 and clarified as invalid during this pilgrimage of his. 81 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:36,350 He found some hesitation among the Companions in complying with his implementation. 82 00:04:36,350 --> 00:04:41,350 When ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, disapproved of Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, 83 00:04:41,350 --> 00:04:43,350 she said to him: 84 00:04:43,350 --> 00:04:45,350 "My father commanded me to do this." 85 00:04:45,350 --> 00:04:48,350 But he was not convinced by that, 86 00:04:48,350 --> 00:04:53,350 so he went to inquire from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, himself. 87 00:04:53,350 --> 00:04:56,379 ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, says: 88 00:04:56,379 --> 00:05:00,379 "I went to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 89 00:05:00,379 --> 00:05:03,379 complaining about Fatimah for what she had done, 90 00:05:03,379 --> 00:05:09,379 seeking a legal ruling from the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, regarding what she mentioned from him." 91 00:05:09,379 --> 00:05:13,379 I informed him that I had disapproved of that action of hers. 92 00:05:13,379 --> 00:05:14,379 He said: 93 00:05:14,379 --> 00:05:18,379 "She spoke the truth. 94 00:05:18,379 --> 00:05:20,379 I am the one who commanded her to do it." 95 00:05:20,379 --> 00:05:24,829 In this is the etiquette of a woman welcoming her husband, 96 00:05:24,829 --> 00:05:28,829 especially if he is returning from a journey. 97 00:05:28,829 --> 00:05:31,829 It also includes adorning oneself for one’s husband while traveling, 98 00:05:31,829 --> 00:05:33,829 even if it is during the journey of Hajj. 99 00:05:33,829 --> 00:05:35,829 In these etiquettes 100 00:05:35,829 --> 00:05:40,829 lies the well-being of the spouses and happiness in both worlds. 101 00:05:40,829 --> 00:05:45,240 The dialogue of our Mother Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, 102 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,240 with the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 103 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,779 Just as the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, commanded 104 00:05:51,779 --> 00:05:54,779 the people to exit their ihram 105 00:05:54,779 --> 00:05:56,779 and convert it into an ‘Umrah, 106 00:05:56,779 --> 00:06:00,779 he likewise commanded his wives to exit their ihram. 107 00:06:00,779 --> 00:06:04,779 As our Mother Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, said: 108 00:06:04,779 --> 00:06:07,779 "The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 109 00:06:07,779 --> 00:06:11,779 commanded his wives to exit ihram in the year of the Farewell Pilgrimage." 110 00:06:11,779 --> 00:06:14,879 But despite his command, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 111 00:06:14,879 --> 00:06:17,879 for his wives to exit their ihram, 112 00:06:17,879 --> 00:06:20,879 he himself did not exit his ihram. 113 00:06:20,879 --> 00:06:24,910 So our Mother Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, wondered, 114 00:06:24,910 --> 00:06:26,910 and said to him: 115 00:06:26,910 --> 00:06:28,910 "What is the matter with the people? They have exited ihram for ‘Umrah, 116 00:06:28,910 --> 00:06:31,910 yet you have not exited your ‘Umrah. 117 00:06:31,910 --> 00:06:33,910 What is preventing you?" 118 00:06:33,910 --> 00:06:35,009 He said: 119 00:06:35,009 --> 00:06:38,009 "I have matted my hair and brought the sacrificial animal, 120 00:06:38,009 --> 00:06:41,009 so I will not exit ihram until I sacrifice my animal." 121 00:06:42,009 --> 00:06:44,139 Matting (talbid) 122 00:06:44,139 --> 00:06:48,740 is to apply something to the hair so that it sticks together. 123 00:06:48,740 --> 00:06:52,740 This question came from our Mother Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, 124 00:06:52,740 --> 00:06:56,740 because she had learned from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 125 00:06:56,740 --> 00:07:00,740 not to command them to do something while he himself does the opposite, 126 00:07:00,740 --> 00:07:04,740 unless he has a specific reason for doing so. 127 00:07:04,740 --> 00:07:07,740 So she wanted to clarify the secret behind his contradiction 128 00:07:07,740 --> 00:07:11,740 of what he had commanded his wives and the Companions to do. 129 00:07:11,740 --> 00:07:14,899 In this is a lesson for the man 130 00:07:14,899 --> 00:07:17,899 that he should not command his wife to do something while he does the opposite, 131 00:07:17,899 --> 00:07:20,899 unless there is a legal justification. 132 00:07:20,899 --> 00:07:23,899 Just as it is a reminder for the woman 133 00:07:23,899 --> 00:07:26,899 to inquire from her husband or guardian 134 00:07:26,899 --> 00:07:29,899 about the actions she sees that contradict his words, 135 00:07:29,899 --> 00:07:33,899 for perhaps he has a legal justification for that 136 00:07:33,899 --> 00:07:35,899 which she does not know. 137 00:07:35,899 --> 00:07:40,220 It is apparent from the event that our Mother Hafsah, may Allah be pleased with her, 138 00:07:40,220 --> 00:07:44,220 had not heard the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 139 00:07:44,220 --> 00:07:48,220 while he was clarifying and explaining to the people the reason for his refraining 140 00:07:48,220 --> 00:07:50,220 from exiting his ihram, 141 00:07:50,220 --> 00:07:53,220 which was that he had brought the sacrificial animal. 142 00:07:53,220 --> 00:07:57,220 And she did not hear him express his wish that he had not brought the sacrificial animal, 143 00:07:57,220 --> 00:07:59,220 and that he would have converted it into an ‘Umrah. 144 00:07:59,220 --> 00:08:02,259 There is no surprise in that, 145 00:08:02,259 --> 00:08:05,259 for the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 146 00:08:05,259 --> 00:08:09,259 directed his words primarily in the gatherings of men. 147 00:08:09,259 --> 00:08:13,259 Not all of the wives of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 148 00:08:13,259 --> 00:08:15,259 had the same eagerness to acquire knowledge 149 00:08:15,259 --> 00:08:19,259 as our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 150 00:08:19,259 --> 00:08:23,259 who surpassed the rest of his wives in knowledge, 151 00:08:23,259 --> 00:08:27,259 and no one competed with her in that except the Mother of the Believers, 152 00:08:27,259 --> 00:08:30,259 Umm Salamah, may Allah be pleased with her.