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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

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The story of our mother Hawwa.

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O Hawwa, who is your role model?

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O Hawwa, who is your role model in life?

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A question to which I do not think you would give the wrong answer.

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And I expect you to say:

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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, is my role model.

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This answer, which comes to mind so quickly,

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carries great significance for the soul.

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It also indicates the immense status of the Prophet, peace be upon him, in your heart.

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However, Allah has tested us, O Hawwa, with His words:

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“Say, (O Muhammad, to mankind): If ye love Allah, follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (3:31)

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And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.

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“Say: Obey Allah and the messenger. But if they turn away, lo! Allah loveth not the disbelievers (in His guidance).” (3:32)

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“Say: Obey Allah and the messenger. But if they turn away, lo! Allah loveth not the disbelievers (in His guidance).” (3:32)

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Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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This noble verse is the criterion for anyone who claims to love Allah

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while not following the Muhammadan way.

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Such a person is, in reality, a liar in his claim

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until he follows the Muhammadan law

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and the Prophetic religion in all his words, deeds, and states.

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As it is established in the Sahih from the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, that he said:

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"Whoever performs an act that is not in accordance with our matter, it is rejected."

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That is why He said:

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“Say, (O Muhammad, to mankind): If ye love Allah, follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (3:31)

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Meaning: You will receive more than what you sought from your love for Him,

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which is His love for you.

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And that is greater than the first.

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As some wise scholars have said:

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The point is not that you love,

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rather, the point is that you are loved.

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Al-Hasan al-Basri and others among the salaf said:

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A people claimed that they loved Allah,

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so Allah tested them with this verse, saying:

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“Say, (O Muhammad, to mankind): If ye love Allah, follow me; Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (3:31)

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Then the Almighty said:

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"And He will forgive you your sins,"

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"And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful."

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Meaning:

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By your following the Messenger, peace be upon him,

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you will attain all of this through the blessing of his mission.

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Then the Almighty said, commanding everyone, elite and commoner alike:

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“Say: Obey Allah and the messenger. But if they turn away, lo! Allah loveth not the disbelievers (in His guidance).” (3:32)

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"But if they turn away,"

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meaning: if they oppose his command,

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“Say: Obey Allah and the messenger. But if they turn away, lo! Allah loveth not the disbelievers (in His guidance).” (3:32)

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this indicates that opposing his way is disbelief.

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And Allah does not love those who are characterized by that.

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And wherever one claims and asserts within himself that he loves Allah

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and seeks to draw near to Him,

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he must follow the Messenger, the unlettered Prophet,

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the Seal of the Messengers,

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and the Messenger of Allah to all of the two heavy groups:

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the jinn and mankind.

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For if the prophets were present,

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nay, the messengers,

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nay, the messengers of strong resolve among them,

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in his time,

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they would have had no choice but to follow him and enter into his obedience,

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and to follow his law.

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O Hawwa,

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I need a few minutes of your time

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to reflect on the words of Ibn Kathir mentioned above,

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in his Tafsir of the verse,

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then to look at your own state,

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and then to apply the words of Allah the Almighty:

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“And those who put away false gods lest they should worship them and turn to Allah in repentance, for them there are glad tidings. Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to My bondmen” (39:17)

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“And those who put away false gods lest they should worship them and turn to Allah in repentance, for them there are glad tidings. Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to My bondmen” (39:17)

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"So give good tidings to My servants,"

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"Who listen to speech,"

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"and follow the best of it."

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“Who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.” (39:18)

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“Who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.” (39:18)

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O Hawwa,

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Allah the Almighty said regarding the story of our father Adam

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and our mother Hawwa:

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"And We said, 'O Adam...'"

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“Therefor we said: O Adam! This is an enemy unto thee and unto thy wife, so let him not drive you both out of the Garden so that thou come to toil.” (20:117)

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“Therefor we said: O Adam! This is an enemy unto thee and unto thy wife, so let him not drive you both out of the Garden so that thou come to toil.” (20:117)

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“It is (vouchsafed) unto thee that thou hungerest not therein nor art naked,” (20:118)

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“And that thou thirstest not therein nor art exposed to the sun's heat.” (20:119)

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"Then Satan whispered to him,"

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"He said, 'O Adam...'"

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“But the devil whispered to him, saying: O Adam! Shall I show thee the tree of immortality and power that wasteth not away?” (20:120)

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"and a kingdom that does not deteriorate."

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"So they ate of it, and their private parts became apparent to them,"

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"and they began to fasten together"

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"from the leaves of Paradise."

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“Then they twain ate thereof, so that their shame became apparent unto them, and they began to hide by heaping on themselves some of the leaves of the Garden. And Adam disobeyed his Lord, so went astray.” (20:121)

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"Then his Lord chose him and turned to him in forgiveness and guided him."

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“He said: Go down hence, both of you, one of you a foe unto the other. But when there come unto you from Me a guidance, then whoso followeth My guidance, he will not go astray nor come to grief.” (20:123)

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"Some of you are enemies to others."

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"And if there should come to you guidance from Me,"

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"then whoever follows My guidance..."

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“He said: Go down hence, both of you, one of you a foe unto the other. But when there come unto you from Me a guidance, then whoso followeth My guidance, he will not go astray nor come to grief.” (20:123)

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O Hawwa,

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these verses indicate

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that a woman should follow her husband,

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and that she is a follower of him

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in three instances:

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The first:

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"Then Satan whispered to him."

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The Almighty mentioned Satan’s whispering to Adam, not Hawwa,

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because a woman often follows her husband in his actions.

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Al-Tahir ibn 'Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"Satan’s restriction of his enticement to Adam,

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even though he wanted both Adam and Hawwa to eat,

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was because he knew that a woman’s tendency to follow her husband is rooted in her nature."

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The second:

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“Then they twain ate thereof, so that their shame became apparent unto them, and they began to hide by heaping on themselves some of the leaves of the Garden. And Adam disobeyed his Lord, so went astray.” (20:121)

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"And Adam disobeyed his Lord."

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He did not mention Hawwa,

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even though both of them disobeyed their Lord.

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Al-Tahir ibn 'Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"Attributing the disobedience to Adam without his wife

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indicates that Adam was a role model for his wife,

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so when he ate from the tree, his wife followed him."

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The third:

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"He said, 'Descend from it, all of you.'"

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Meaning Iblis and Adam,

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and He did not mention Hawwa,

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because she is a follower of her husband.

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Al-Tahir ibn 'Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"Those commanded to descend from Paradise

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were Adam and Iblis,

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while as for Hawwa,

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she was a follower of her husband."

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O Hawwa,

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a woman’s following of her husband is an innate matter.

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For whenever a woman loves her husband, she follows him

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and makes him her role model in life.

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This is a beautiful thing

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when the husband is upon guidance from Allah the Almighty.

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But the problem, O Hawwa,

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manifests in two matters:

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The first:

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If the husband’s actions are contrary to the command of Allah

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and the command of His Messenger, peace be upon him,

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then here lies the trial and the test.

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Will you prioritize the command of Allah and the command of His Messenger,

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or will you prioritize your love for your husband and your desire to please him?

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This problem, O Hawwa,

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has several causes,

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among them your thinking that obeying Allah will cause you to lose your husband

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and end your married life,

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or that it will increase the problems within it,

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so you prioritize pleasing your husband over pleasing Allah.

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Mu'awiyah wrote to 'A'ishah, the Mother of the Believers, may Allah be pleased with her:

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"Write me a letter advising me,

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and do not make it too long."

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So 'A'ishah wrote to Mu'awiyah:

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"Peace be upon you."

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"To proceed:"

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"I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, say:"

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"Whoever seeks the pleasure of Allah by displeasing the people,

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Allah will suffice him against the people."

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"And whoever seeks the pleasure of the people by displeasing Allah,

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Allah will entrust him to the people."

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"And peace be upon you."

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Narrated by al-Tirmidhi.

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And for you, O Hawwa,

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there is a lesson in the corrupt scholars of this time

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who strove to please the rulers,

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even at the expense of the religion.

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The consequence was that Allah empowered those whom they sought to please—while desiring the world—against them;

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some of them were imprisoned,

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and some of them were killed.

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So do not be deceived by your husband’s pleasure with you for a period of time,

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for Allah grants respite but does not neglect.

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The second problem, O Hawwa,

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appears when you disagree with your righteous husband,

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and your following him was initially because he is your husband.

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So when you disagree with him,

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you intentionally oppose him in his religious practice

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and do what angers him,

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things you know he considers reprehensible.

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And the thing women do most in such situations

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is display their beauty (tabarruj)

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and change their appearance in their style of dress

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to spite the husband.

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This may fall under the hadith of the Prophet, peace be upon him,

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in which he said:

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"Three, do not ask about them:

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A man who separates from the community,

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disobeys his leader,

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and dies in a state of disobedience;

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a slave or maidservant who runs away and dies;

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and a woman whose husband is absent,

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having provided for her worldly needs,

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yet she displays her beauty after him.

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Do not ask about them."

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Narrated by Ahmad.

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And nothing will save you from these problems, O Hawwa,

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except that you follow the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, sincerely,

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and that your goal be the pleasure of Allah truly.

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We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills.

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And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

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The story of our mother Hawwa.