WEBVTT 00:00:00.780 --> 00:00:09.779 *Riyad al-Salihin* (The Meadows of the Righteous) from the words of the Master of the Messengers, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:00:09.779 --> 00:00:18.260 Chapter: Filial Piety and Upholding Kinship Ties. 00:00:18.260 --> 00:00:20.260 Allah Almighty said: 00:00:20.260 --> 00:00:24.260 “And serve Allah. Ascribe no thing as partner unto Him. (Show) kindness unto parents, and unto near kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and unto the neighbour who is of kin (unto you) and the neighbour who is not of kin, and the fellow-traveller and the wayfarer and (the slaves) whom your right hands possess. Lo! Allah loveth not such as are proud and boastful,” (4:36) 00:00:24.260 --> 00:00:30.260 "...and show kindness to parents, near relatives, orphans, the needy, 00:00:30.260 --> 00:00:39.390 the neighbor who is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer, and those whom your right hands possess." 00:00:39.390 --> 00:00:41.390 And He Almighty said: 00:00:41.390 --> 00:00:46.390 “O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom ye claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the wombs (that bare you). Lo! Allah hath been a watcher over you.” (4:1) 00:00:46.390 --> 00:00:48.390 And He Almighty said: 00:00:48.390 --> 00:00:54.390 "...those who uphold what Allah has commanded to be upheld..." the verse. 00:00:54.390 --> 00:00:56.460 And He Almighty said: 00:00:56.460 --> 00:01:00.460 “We have enjoined on man kindness to parents; but if they strive to make thee join with Me that of which thou hast no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what ye used to do.” (29:8) 00:01:00.460 --> 00:01:02.460 And He Almighty said: 00:01:02.460 --> 00:01:09.459 “Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (17:23) 00:01:09.459 --> 00:01:15.459 “Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (17:23) 00:01:15.459 --> 00:01:20.459 “Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (17:23) 00:01:20.459 --> 00:01:23.459 “Thy Lord hath decreed, that ye worship none save Him, and (that ye show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, say not "Fie" unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word.” (17:23) 00:01:23.459 --> 00:01:27.459 “And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little.” (17:24) 00:01:27.459 --> 00:01:32.459 “And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little.” (17:24) 00:01:32.459 --> 00:01:34.579 And He Almighty said: 00:01:34.579 --> 00:01:41.579 “And We have enjoined upon man concerning his partners - His mother beareth him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years - Give thanks unto Me and unto thy parents. Unto Me is the journeying.” (31:14) 00:01:41.579 --> 00:01:44.579 "...and his weaning is in two years— 00:01:44.579 --> 00:01:47.579 'Be grateful to Me and to your parents...'" 00:01:47.579 --> 00:01:55.120 On the authority of Abu 'Abd al-Rahman 'Abdullah ibn Mas'ud, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:01:55.120 --> 00:01:59.120 I asked the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him: 00:01:59.120 --> 00:02:03.120 "Which deed is most beloved to Allah Almighty?" 00:02:03.120 --> 00:02:07.120 He replied, "Performing prayer at its appointed time." 00:02:07.120 --> 00:02:09.120 I asked, "Then which?" 00:02:09.120 --> 00:02:12.120 He replied, "Filial piety toward parents." 00:02:12.120 --> 00:02:14.120 I asked, "Then which?" 00:02:14.120 --> 00:02:18.120 He replied, "Jihad in the path of Allah." 00:02:18.120 --> 00:02:20.120 Agreed upon. 00:02:20.120 --> 00:02:24.780 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:02:24.780 --> 00:02:28.780 The greatest obligatory right of Allah Almighty after Tawhid 00:02:28.780 --> 00:02:31.460 is the ritual prayer. 00:02:31.460 --> 00:02:36.460 Hastening to perform the prayer at the beginning of its prescribed time is better than delaying it, 00:02:36.460 --> 00:02:41.460 because it was stipulated—for it to be the most beloved of deeds to Allah— 00:02:41.460 --> 00:02:43.460 that it be performed at its due time, 00:02:43.460 --> 00:02:45.460 namely, the earliest part thereof. 00:02:45.460 --> 00:02:48.030 The greatest of the rights owed to fellow human beings 00:02:48.030 --> 00:02:50.030 is the right of parents; 00:02:50.030 --> 00:02:55.030 it directly follows the right of Allah, as noted previously in the verses cited, so bear this in mind. 00:02:55.030 --> 00:03:00.610 Jihad in the path of Allah is the noblest form of sacrifice. 00:03:00.610 --> 00:03:05.280 Righteous deeds vary in virtue over one another; 00:03:05.280 --> 00:03:09.050 they are not all of the same rank. 00:03:09.050 --> 00:03:13.050 It is permissible to ask about multiple matters in a single sitting. 00:03:14.620 --> 00:03:16.620 One should treat a scholar with gentleness and consideration, 00:03:16.620 --> 00:03:18.620 refraining from overburdening him with excessive questioning, 00:03:18.620 --> 00:03:22.419 out of concern for causing weariness. 00:03:22.419 --> 00:03:26.419 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:03:26.419 --> 00:03:30.419 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 00:03:30.419 --> 00:03:32.419 "No child can repay his father, 00:03:32.419 --> 00:03:35.419 unless he finds him enslaved, 00:03:35.419 --> 00:03:38.539 purchases him, and emancipates him." 00:03:38.539 --> 00:03:41.819 Narrated by Muslim. 00:03:41.819 --> 00:03:45.879 *Yajzi* (repays) means to adequately reward or compensate. 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:47.879 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:03:47.879 --> 00:03:50.939 The immense status of the parents' right in Islam. 00:03:50.939 --> 00:03:56.490 A child is never permitted to enslave his parents or either of them; 00:03:56.490 --> 00:03:58.490 and should that occur, 00:03:58.490 --> 00:04:03.490 it is one of the portents of the Hour and signs of the changing times, 00:04:03.490 --> 00:04:06.490 as mentioned previously in the Hadith of Gabriel. 00:04:06.490 --> 00:04:11.159 A father is automatically emancipated as soon as his child purchases him, 00:04:11.159 --> 00:04:14.159 since the purchase itself is the legal cause of emancipation. 00:04:14.159 --> 00:04:19.110 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, 00:04:19.110 --> 00:04:23.110 that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 00:04:23.110 --> 00:04:27.209 “Then, when they have reached their term, take them back in kindness or part from them in kindness, and call to witness two just men among you, and keep your testimony upright for Allah. Whoso believeth in Allah and the Last Day is exhorted to act thus. And whosoever keepeth his duty to Allah, Allah will appoint a way out for him,” (65:2) 00:04:27.209 --> 00:04:29.209 "...let him honor his guest; 00:04:29.209 --> 00:04:33.240 and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, 00:04:33.240 --> 00:04:35.269 let him uphold the ties of kinship; 00:04:35.269 --> 00:04:39.269 and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, 00:04:39.269 --> 00:04:42.269 let him speak good or remain silent." 00:04:42.269 --> 00:04:44.269 Agreed upon. 00:04:44.269 --> 00:04:48.290 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:04:48.290 --> 00:04:52.129 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 00:04:52.129 --> 00:04:55.569 "Allah Almighty created the creation, 00:04:55.569 --> 00:05:00.449 and when He finished with them, the womb arose and said: 00:05:00.449 --> 00:05:04.750 'This is the station of one seeking refuge in You from severance.' 00:05:04.750 --> 00:05:07.149 He said, 'Yes. 00:05:07.149 --> 00:05:10.350 Are you not pleased that I should maintain ties with whoever maintains ties with you, 00:05:10.350 --> 00:05:12.819 and sever ties with whoever severs ties with you?' 00:05:12.980 --> 00:05:14.819 It said, 'Yes indeed!' 00:05:14.819 --> 00:05:17.810 He said, 'Then that is yours.'" 00:05:17.810 --> 00:05:22.050 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: 00:05:22.050 --> 00:05:24.290 "Recite if you wish: 00:05:24.290 --> 00:05:32.290 “Would ye then, if ye were given the command, work corruption in the land and sever your ties of kinship?” (47:22) 00:05:32.290 --> 00:05:39.699 “Such are they whom Allah curseth so that He deafeneth them and maketh blind their eyes.” (47:23) 00:05:39.699 --> 00:05:41.870 Agreed upon. 00:05:42.029 --> 00:05:44.670 In a narration by al-Bukhari: 00:05:44.670 --> 00:05:47.149 "Allah Almighty said: 00:05:47.149 --> 00:05:53.790 'Whoever maintains ties with you, I will maintain ties with him; and whoever severs ties with you, I will sever ties with him.'" 00:05:53.790 --> 00:05:57.839 "He finished with them" means He completed their creation. 00:05:57.839 --> 00:06:04.350 "The one seeking refuge" is the one turning to You for protection and seeking Your help. 00:06:04.350 --> 00:06:06.750 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:06:06.750 --> 00:06:10.990 Everything other than Allah, Glorified and Exalted be He, is created, 00:06:10.990 --> 00:06:14.689 brought into being after having not existed. 00:06:14.769 --> 00:06:20.500 An emphasis on the absolute prohibition of severing kinship ties and turning away from relatives. 00:06:20.500 --> 00:06:25.709 Seeking refuge must be directed solely to Allah alone, without partner. 00:06:25.709 --> 00:06:29.870 Upholding ties of kinship is a cause for Allah's mercy upon His servants, 00:06:29.870 --> 00:06:34.620 and a means for goodness to flourish among people. 00:06:34.620 --> 00:06:39.259 Severing kinship ties leads to turning away and showing indifference toward divine remembrance, 00:06:39.259 --> 00:06:43.379 and is a cause of corruption and mischief. 00:06:43.379 --> 00:06:46.019 The finest commentary through which the Qur'an can be explained 00:06:46.100 --> 00:06:50.180 is the speech of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him; 00:06:50.180 --> 00:06:54.259 and the best evidence cited to clarify the meaning of a hadith 00:06:54.259 --> 00:06:58.750 is the Word of Allah, Mighty and Majestic. 00:06:58.750 --> 00:07:02.540 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:07:02.540 --> 00:07:07.980 A man came to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and said: 00:07:07.980 --> 00:07:13.500 "O Messenger of Allah, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?" 00:07:13.500 --> 00:07:15.899 He replied, "Your mother." 00:07:15.899 --> 00:07:18.300 The man asked, "Then who?" 00:07:18.300 --> 00:07:20.139 He replied, "Your mother." 00:07:20.139 --> 00:07:22.060 The man asked, "Then who?" 00:07:22.060 --> 00:07:23.740 He replied, "Your mother." 00:07:23.740 --> 00:07:25.740 The man asked, "Then who?" 00:07:25.740 --> 00:07:27.660 He replied, "Your father." 00:07:27.660 --> 00:07:29.779 Agreed upon. 00:07:29.779 --> 00:07:31.459 And in another narration: 00:07:31.459 --> 00:07:36.129 "O Messenger of Allah, who is most entitled to good companionship?" 00:07:36.129 --> 00:07:37.569 He replied, "Your mother, 00:07:37.569 --> 00:07:39.089 then your mother, 00:07:39.089 --> 00:07:40.610 then your mother, 00:07:40.610 --> 00:07:42.209 then your father, 00:07:42.209 --> 00:07:45.100 then your nearest relatives, in order of proximity." 00:07:45.180 --> 00:07:48.100 *Al-Sahabah* carries the meaning of companionship (*al-suhbah*). 00:07:48.100 --> 00:07:50.579 As for his phrase, "then your father" in the accusative case (*thumma abaka*), 00:07:50.579 --> 00:07:53.779 it is governed in this form by an elided verb, 00:07:53.779 --> 00:07:56.259 meaning: "then treat your father with piety." 00:07:56.259 --> 00:07:57.779 In another narration it is in the nominative: 00:07:57.779 --> 00:07:59.220 "then your father" (*thumma abuka*), 00:07:59.220 --> 00:08:02.639 which is straightforward in meaning. 00:08:02.639 --> 00:08:04.399 "Your nearest relatives, in order of proximity" (*adnaka adnaka*) 00:08:04.399 --> 00:08:08.029 means the closest in kinship, then the next closest. 00:08:08.029 --> 00:08:10.560 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:08:10.560 --> 00:08:15.490 Giving special care to the mother due to her physical vulnerability and greater need. 00:08:15.490 --> 00:08:20.430 Honoring relatives is not all at a single, uniform level. 00:08:20.430 --> 00:08:23.709 Prioritizing rights and assigning them to their proper ranks 00:08:23.709 --> 00:08:26.560 is the normative principle and the essence of justice. 00:08:26.560 --> 00:08:30.480 If a man is obligated to provide financial maintenance for both his mother and his father, 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:33.679 yet finds only enough for one of them, 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:37.730 the mother is given precedence. 00:08:37.730 --> 00:08:41.809 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:08:41.809 --> 00:08:43.009 who said: 00:08:43.009 --> 00:08:44.529 "May his nose be rubbed in the dust! 00:08:44.529 --> 00:08:46.529 Then may his nose be rubbed in the dust! 00:08:46.529 --> 00:08:47.889 Then may his nose be rubbed in the dust: 00:08:47.889 --> 00:08:50.850 whoever finds his parents in their old age, 00:08:50.850 --> 00:08:53.409 either one of them or both, 00:08:53.409 --> 00:08:56.100 and yet does not enter Paradise!" 00:08:56.100 --> 00:08:59.379 Narrated by Muslim. 00:08:59.379 --> 00:09:00.580 *Raghim* 00:09:00.580 --> 00:09:05.100 means it clung to the dust in abject humiliation. 00:09:05.100 --> 00:09:07.460 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:09:07.460 --> 00:09:10.340 Filial piety and benevolence toward parents 00:09:10.340 --> 00:09:12.820 are obligatory under all circumstances, 00:09:12.820 --> 00:09:16.830 in their youth and in their old age. 00:09:16.830 --> 00:09:18.990 Parents, in their advanced age, 00:09:18.990 --> 00:09:22.669 stand in greater need of devoted care 00:09:22.669 --> 00:09:26.850 on account of their weakness and physical dependency. 00:09:26.850 --> 00:09:31.250 A Muslim should show consideration for the vulnerable and the elderly, 00:09:31.250 --> 00:09:34.860 treating them with gentleness and mercy. 00:09:34.860 --> 00:09:39.899 Undutifulness to parents incurs the Hellfire and expulsion from Allah's mercy, 00:09:39.899 --> 00:09:45.899 while filial piety is a paved path leading to Paradise. 00:09:45.899 --> 00:09:48.700 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, 00:09:48.779 --> 00:09:51.899 that a man said: "O Messenger of Allah, 00:09:51.899 --> 00:09:55.820 I have relatives with whom I try to maintain ties, but they sever them; 00:09:55.820 --> 00:09:59.259 I treat them well, but they mistreat me; 00:09:59.259 --> 00:10:02.980 and I am forbearing with them, yet they act insolently toward me." 00:10:02.980 --> 00:10:04.500 He replied: 00:10:04.500 --> 00:10:06.899 "If you are indeed as you have said, 00:10:06.899 --> 00:10:10.019 it is as though you are feeding them hot ashes; 00:10:10.019 --> 00:10:16.220 and there will never cease to be a supporter from Allah on your side against them as long as you remain upon that." 00:10:16.220 --> 00:10:18.429 Narrated by Muslim. 00:10:18.509 --> 00:10:20.590 "Feeding them hot ashes" (*tusiffuhumu al-mall*) 00:10:20.590 --> 00:10:24.269 means it is as if you are making them swallow searing ashes. 00:10:24.269 --> 00:10:27.870 This is an analogy comparing the guilt and sin that overtake them 00:10:27.870 --> 00:10:32.110 to the burning agony that afflicts someone forced to consume hot ashes. 00:10:32.110 --> 00:10:35.389 No blame attaches to the one who treats them with kindness; 00:10:35.389 --> 00:10:40.029 rather, a tremendous burden of sin falls upon them for neglecting his right 00:10:40.029 --> 00:10:42.509 and inflicting harm upon him. 00:10:42.509 --> 00:10:45.659 And Allah knows best. 00:10:45.659 --> 00:10:48.059 Among the lessons of this hadith: 00:10:48.139 --> 00:10:51.340 The foundational principle in dealing with relatives 00:10:51.340 --> 00:10:53.659 is benevolence, maintaining contact, 00:10:53.659 --> 00:10:56.460 patience, and making excuses for them. 00:10:56.460 --> 00:10:59.419 It should not be based merely on reciprocal treatment; 00:10:59.419 --> 00:11:04.720 rather, one ought to endure hardship and harm for the sake of upholding the tie. 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:07.519 Repaying evil with good 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:10.799 is likely to prompt the wrongdoer to return to the truth, 00:11:10.799 --> 00:11:13.039 as Allah Almighty said: 00:11:13.039 --> 00:11:16.000 "Repel evil with that which is better..." 00:11:16.000 --> 00:11:23.470 “The good deed and the evil deed are not alike. Repel the evil deed with one which is better, then lo! he, between whom and thee there was enmity (will become) as though he was a bosom friend.” (41:34) 00:11:23.470 --> 00:11:26.269 You cannot discipline someone who has disobeyed Allah regarding you 00:11:26.269 --> 00:11:29.870 with anything better than obeying Allah regarding him. 00:11:29.870 --> 00:11:35.519 Complying with Allah's command is a means of securing Allah's aid for the believing servant. 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:39.600 Severing kinship ties brings distress and torment in this world, 00:11:39.600 --> 00:11:44.110 as well as sin and severe reckoning in the Hereafter. 00:11:44.110 --> 00:11:48.509 A Muslim should seek reward from Allah in his righteous conduct, 00:11:48.509 --> 00:11:53.500 and the malice of others should never deter him from his noble habits. 00:11:53.500 --> 00:11:56.059 In this context, we recall 00:11:56.059 --> 00:12:00.379 the gentle reproach of the Lord of the worlds to Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, 00:12:00.379 --> 00:12:04.299 when he resolved to cut off his financial support to Mistah ibn Uthathah, 00:12:04.299 --> 00:12:08.620 who had defamed his honor during the Incident of the Slander; 00:12:08.620 --> 00:12:11.019 whereup Allah Almighty revealed: 00:12:11.019 --> 00:12:14.299 "And let not those of virtue among you and ample means pledge..." 00:12:14.379 --> 00:12:20.860 “And let not those who possess dignity and ease among you swear not to give to the near of kin and to the needy, and to fugitives for the cause of Allah. Let them forgive and show indulgence. Yearn ye not that Allah may forgive you? Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (24:22) 00:12:20.860 --> 00:12:23.419 "...and let them pardon and overlook..." 00:12:23.419 --> 00:12:27.419 “And let not those who possess dignity and ease among you swear not to give to the near of kin and to the needy, and to fugitives for the cause of Allah. Let them forgive and show indulgence. Yearn ye not that Allah may forgive you? Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (24:22) 00:12:27.419 --> 00:12:32.320 "...and Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." 00:12:32.320 --> 00:12:34.879 On the authority of Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, 00:12:34.879 --> 00:12:39.440 that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:42.879 "Whoever would love to have his provision expanded 00:12:42.960 --> 00:12:45.519 and his lifespan prolonged, 00:12:45.519 --> 00:12:47.789 let him maintain the ties of kinship." 00:12:47.789 --> 00:12:50.000 It is agreed upon. 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:53.200 And the meaning of "his lifespan be extended" 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:57.950 is that his appointed time and life are prolonged for him. 00:12:57.950 --> 00:13:00.500 Among the benefits derived from the hadith: 00:13:00.500 --> 00:13:04.500 maintaining family ties is a means of expanding and multiplying one's provision, 00:13:04.500 --> 00:13:07.360 and bringing blessing into one's life. 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:10.559 What is meant by the expansion of provision in the hadith 00:13:10.559 --> 00:13:14.320 is either an increase in the decreed quantity of one's provision, 00:13:14.320 --> 00:13:17.279 or an increase of blessing within it. 00:13:17.279 --> 00:13:20.639 Likewise, what is meant by the lengthening of one's life 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:23.200 is either a literal, actual extension, 00:13:23.200 --> 00:13:28.639 or the attainment of blessing throughout that lifespan. 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:32.110 On the authority of Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:13:32.110 --> 00:13:37.789 Abu Talhah was the wealthiest among the Ansar in Medina in date palms, 00:13:37.789 --> 00:13:41.789 and the dearest of his wealth to him was Bayruha', 00:13:41.789 --> 00:13:44.669 which stood directly facing the Mosque. 00:13:44.750 --> 00:13:49.389 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to enter it 00:13:49.389 --> 00:13:52.990 and drink from its wholesome, sweet water. 00:13:52.990 --> 00:13:55.710 So when this verse was revealed: 00:13:55.710 --> 00:14:01.629 "Never will you attain righteousness until you spend from that which you love," 00:14:01.629 --> 00:14:06.110 Abu Talhah stood up and went to the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, 00:14:06.110 --> 00:14:07.549 and said: 00:14:07.549 --> 00:14:09.389 "O Messenger of Allah, 00:14:09.389 --> 00:14:13.070 indeed Allah, Blessed and Exalted, says: 00:14:13.149 --> 00:14:18.990 'Never will you attain righteousness until you spend from that which you love,' 00:14:18.990 --> 00:14:22.669 and indeed the dearest of my property to me is Bayruha', 00:14:22.669 --> 00:14:26.429 and it is now a charity for the sake of Allah Exalted. 00:14:26.429 --> 00:14:30.990 I hope for its righteousness and its reward stored with Allah Exalted, 00:14:30.990 --> 00:14:35.519 so dispose of it, O Messenger of Allah, as Allah directs you." 00:14:35.519 --> 00:14:39.600 Thereupon the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: 00:14:39.600 --> 00:14:43.039 "Bakhin! Well done! That is indeed a profitable wealth! 00:14:43.279 --> 00:14:45.600 I have heard what you said, 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:49.440 and I think you should distribute it among your close relatives." 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:51.440 Abu Talhah replied: 00:14:51.539 --> 00:14:54.019 "I shall do so, O Messenger of Allah." 00:14:54.019 --> 00:14:59.090 So Abu Talhah divided it among his relatives and cousins. 00:14:59.090 --> 00:15:01.090 It is agreed upon. 00:15:01.090 --> 00:15:06.559 And on the authority of 'Abdullah Ibn 'Amr Ibn al-'As, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: 00:15:06.559 --> 00:15:11.679 A man came to the Prophet of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:16.399 and said, "I pledge allegiance to you to emigrate and fight in jihad, 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:19.759 seeking reward from Allah Exalted." 00:15:19.759 --> 00:15:24.830 He asked, "Are either of your parents alive?" 00:15:24.830 --> 00:15:28.830 He replied, "Yes, in fact, both of them." 00:15:28.830 --> 00:15:33.230 He asked, "Do you truly seek reward from Allah Exalted?" 00:15:33.230 --> 00:15:35.230 He said, "Yes." 00:15:35.230 --> 00:15:39.710 He said, "Then return to your parents and treat them with excellent companionship." 00:15:39.710 --> 00:15:41.710 It is agreed upon, 00:15:41.710 --> 00:15:43.710 and this wording is Muslim's. 00:15:43.710 --> 00:15:45.710 In a narration by both of them: 00:15:45.710 --> 00:15:49.899 A man came seeking his permission to participate in jihad, 00:15:49.899 --> 00:15:53.899 so he asked, "Are your parents alive?" 00:15:53.899 --> 00:15:55.899 He replied, "Yes." 00:15:55.899 --> 00:15:59.899 He said, "Then strive in their service." 00:15:59.899 --> 00:16:01.899 Among the benefits derived from the hadith: 00:16:01.899 --> 00:16:07.470 a Muslim seeks in all that he undertakes and leaves aside 00:16:07.470 --> 00:16:09.470 reward solely from Allah. 00:16:09.470 --> 00:16:13.950 Filial piety towards parents is among the most imperative of obligations. 00:16:13.950 --> 00:16:20.210 If a Muslim is able to safeguard his religious practice and piety alongside honoring his parents, 00:16:20.210 --> 00:16:22.210 then this is excellent; 00:16:22.210 --> 00:16:26.210 but whoever cannot do so except by fleeing with his religion, 00:16:26.210 --> 00:16:28.210 he must give precedence to his religion, 00:16:28.210 --> 00:16:32.210 just as the foremost pioneers of the Emigrants did. 00:16:32.210 --> 00:16:38.779 Filial piety takes precedence over communal obligations and voluntary deeds. 00:16:38.779 --> 00:16:42.259 His saying, "Then strive in their service," 00:16:42.259 --> 00:16:47.259 means applying that same degree of exertion required in jihad, 00:16:47.259 --> 00:16:51.259 which entails physical weariness and spending money upon them. 00:16:51.259 --> 00:16:55.970 Whatever proves arduous for the soul is termed a form of striving. 00:16:55.970 --> 00:16:57.970 The counselor is held in trust, 00:16:57.970 --> 00:17:02.610 so he must offer sincere, unadulterated advice. 00:17:02.610 --> 00:17:09.089 It is permissible for the morally accountable person to inquire about the best acts of obedience 00:17:09.089 --> 00:17:11.089 in order to put them into practice. 00:17:11.089 --> 00:17:15.630 Riyad al-Salihin.