Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her
Oh Aisha, why did you tempt me?
Jealousy is a beautiful trait of a woman
It indicates the depth of her love for her husband
Al-Humaidi knew jealousy, may God have mercy on him
It is a tightness between a woman and her husband
Whatever happens to his heart
Or her heart towards him in marital matters in particular
From his inclination to others or her inclination to others
It is derived from a change of heart and a surge of anger
Because of participation in what is specialized
Jealousy is praiseworthy if it is used in the right way
In accordance with legal controls
If it exceeds the legal limits
It is reprehensible and women sin against it
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
The origin of jealousy is not acquired for women
But if you do it too much, you will be blamed
Jealousy is expected from virtuous women and others
The best women of this nation
The wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, are mothers of the believers
They were jealous
The most jealous person was Aisha, may God be pleased with her
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, invested
Aisha's jealousy, may God be pleased with her
In raising her to control her jealousy according to legal controls
To learn what jealousy is permissible for her and what is not permissible
One of these beautiful incidents
What happened to her one night with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
When I woke up at night, I didn't find him
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said
I lost the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
He was with me on my bed
I found him prostrating with his heels straight
Facing the Qiblah with his fingertips
So I heard him say
I seek refuge in Your satisfaction from Your anger
By pardoning you from your punishment
And from you
I commend you
I don't know everything about you
When he was victorious, he said:
Oh Aisha
Your demon took you
And she said
Do you have a devil?
He said
There is no human being who does not have a devil
So I said
And you, O Messenger of God
He said
And I
But I prayed to God for him and he became Muslim
Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her
That the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
He left there one night
She said
I gaped at him
She said
So he came
He saw what I was doing
And he said
What's wrong with you, Aisha?
I was tempted
She said
So I said
Why should someone like me not be jealous of someone like you?
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Then your devil took you
She said, O Messenger of God
Oh my demon
He said yes
I said
And with every human being
He said yes
I said
And with you, O Messenger of God
He said yes
But my Lord Almighty helped me to convert to Islam
Narrated by Ahmed
This is one of the situations of jealousy that Aisha, may God be pleased with her, went through
The conclusion of this position
Aisha, may God be pleased with her, was asleep
And it was her night
It is assumed that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, was sleeping next to her
But she did not wake up in the night and did not see him next to her
So I searched for him in the darkness of the night
So she felt around her
Her hand fell on him while he was praying and praying
So she went back to her bed
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not finish his prayer
He told her
What's wrong with you, Aisha?
I was tempted
She said and I said
Why should someone like me not be jealous of someone like you?
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Did your devil take you?
So, may God bless him and grant him peace, he considered her jealousy in this place to be the incitement of Satan
So what is the reason?
The reason for this
It is the thought that occurred to her
It is that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, left her and went to one of his wives
This is a bad opinion of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
And he would not be fair to her on her night
This is a bad idea
It only comes to the soul from the whispers of Satan
Al-Tibi, may God have mercy on him, said
And in his saying
Your demon has come to you
A reference to what was mentioned in the hadith of Jabir bin Atik
From his saying
As for those whom God hates
Jealousy is without suspicion
I mean, how can you be jealous of me?
You see that I am being unfair to you
That is, this is not suspicious
Jealousy comes from a woman
Based on bad thoughts about the husband
It is the reprehensible jealousy that women are blamed for
And he expected her to sin
It ruins her life with her husband
Jealousy is an innate moral in all women
However, it is adjustable
And steerable
Its severity can be reduced
And adjust it to a certain limit
This also happened with Umm Salamah with the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
When the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, prayed for her
May God remove her jealousy
As directed by the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
For his women
By standing at the legal limit in jealousy
For everyone who violated the legal controls on jealousy
There are three legal controls on jealousy
And it is
The first
To be suspicious
The second
Not to commit what is forbidden to her in words or actions
These are examples of taboos
Jealousy does not permit backbiting
Jealousy does not permit the diversion of other people's possessions
Jealousy does not permit a woman to demand from her husband what she is not entitled to
Jealousy does not permit injustice
Jealousy does not permit a woman to insult her friend
Jealousy does not allow the husband to be satisfied with what he did not give
Jealousy does not permit bad thoughts about the husband
Jealousy does not permit spying on the husband
Jealousy does not permit harming one's husband
Third
That jealousy does not lead to corruption of good deeds
These are the controls of jealousy
If one of these controls is violated, then
She is to blame for her jealousy
As for the jealousy that makes her work to win the husband’s heart
This is praiseworthy jealousy
The woman rents it
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds
Our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her