In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Men's items
In the hadith of Umm Zara’
My husband is every creditor to this
The seventh woman to speak at the Women's Council
She described her husband by saying:
My husband is jealous or weak
Apply
Every creditor to this
Shajak, Falak, or plural of both for you
That can be said about it
She's poor
She collected all the descriptions of slander against her husband
There is no good left for him that women can benefit from
He is an ignorant fool
Bad ten
Incapable of intercourse
He hits the woman severely and violently
He even collected all people's faults in him
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
She called him stupid
And the finitude of all shortcomings and defects
Bad treatment with family
And his inability to meet her needs
He hit her and hurt her
And if she spoke to him, he would curse her
And if she jokes with him, he makes her angry
And if he gets angry
Either he stabbed her in the head
Or break one of its members
It means astronomy
And it was said to the defeated
Phil
Or cut her skin or stab her
It is the meaning of Shajak
Or collect it all for her
From beatings, wounds, and broken organs
Or being broken down by quarrels and painful speech
And he took her money
This type of men
You cannot live with him in peace
It is not possible to imagine that these morals are bad deeds
In this category
I found it suddenly after marriage
But what is expected is that she is in it before marriage
The question arises
Why did this woman accept him?
And whoever makes the mistake of marrying her to him
Firstly
This incident occurred in pre-Islamic times
But unfortunately it is repeated in Islam
Where did the error come from?
Secondly
Given the teachings of Islam
And his high morals
We find that he established a precise system
To prevent such a picture
To fall into reality
Why is it repeated?
Which appears to me
That's why such a picture is repeated in reality
It stems from two things
Their address is the same
It is a lack of commitment to the teachings of Islam
And his etiquette in marrying girls
The first thing
Parents abdicate responsibility for the girl’s marriage
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
It is forbidden for a woman to marry herself
He ordered her guardians to marry her
So that men bear the responsibility of marrying women
Who is worthy of it
Many hadiths have been mentioned about this
From her
On the authority of Abu Musa, may God be pleased with him
That the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
There is no marriage except with a poly
Narrated by Abu Dawood
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Any woman who has had intercourse without the permission of her master
Her marriage is invalid
Three times
If he enters it
The dowry is hers for whatever happened to her
If he quarrels
The Sultan is the guardian of those who have no guardian
Narrated by Abu Dawood
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
A woman does not marry another woman
The woman does not marry herself
The adulteress is the one who marries herself
Narrated by Ibn Majah
These are the hadiths
Places the responsibility in marriage on the guardians
Women are prohibited from marrying themselves
This is a great ruling
From her
Men are better able to know the qualities and morals of a suitor
And asking about it among men
Unlike women
She can't do that
And from her
That men rule the mind in matters
Unlike women
It governs emotion
If her heart is attached to a man
She turned a blind eye to all his bad qualities
This is the danger of relationships that form between boys and girls before the marriage contract
The girl is attached to him
It is difficult for her to stay away from him
Especially when it comes to young men in their relationships with girls
They show their best qualities to win him over
If the girl is attached
I was blinded to the true vision
Therefore, Islam forbids women
To mingle with foreign men
So that such relationships do not occur
Between boys and girls
Then life becomes ruined
The second thing
Losing the criterion for choosing men
And the way people look today when choosing a husband
It differed because of their distance
About adhering to the commands of Sharia
It became the criterion for choosing men
Physical standard
Connected to the world only
This is completely the opposite
According to the commandment of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
Where he said
If someone you please comes to you
If he has good character and religion, then marry him
Unless you do
There will be strife on earth and widespread corruption
Narrated by Ibn Majah
Al-Mazhari, may God have mercy on him, said
I mean, if someone asks you
That you marry him to a woman from your children
Or your relatives
So look
If he is a good Muslim
Good manners
So they married him
Because if you didn't get married
The women of your relatives
Except for a well-known person with money and prestige
And other qualities that he tends to
Children of the world
Most of your women remain without a husband
Most men remain without a wife
Then men tend towards women
And women to men
Adultery abounds
The saints are disgraced
The percentage of adultery with their wives
Perhaps they feel jealousy over their relatives
Because they heard that adultery was attributed to them
And they kill them
And they kill those who intend to commit immoral acts
This is all widespread corruption
And a great temptation
But
Why would a woman stay with such an idiot?
When did you discover these morals?
There is blame for women as well
We also blamed the saints
In her standard for approval of a man
Applicant to marry her
Whatever that standard is
Except that it will not be religion and creation
If its criteria were religion and morals
When I found such pictures with us
In our communities
Because this is the foolish type of men
His foolishness must be exposed
With whom he lives
If you ask a woman about his religion and morals
She asked her guardians to confirm
Who describes him as both
I would have known his truth
And if the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
A woman who stays up at night has been disparaged
But she has a bad attitude towards her neighbors
So what about someone who behaves like this with his family?
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, he said
A man said
O Messenger of God
So-and-so
He is remembered for her frequent prayers, fasting, and charity
However, she hurts her neighbors with her tongue
He said
She is on fire
He said
O Messenger of God
So-and-so
He mentions her lack of fasting, charity, and prayers
And she believes in the revolutionaries of Al-Aqt
She does not harm her neighbors with her tongue
He said
She is in heaven
Narrated by Ahmed
This hadith
He is very frank in that he does not accept the separation of religion and morality in dealing with people
How can a woman be willing to marry a man without good morals?
Then let us consider what she said
Every disease has a disease
Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
That is, everything from people's medicines
It is in it and one of its medicines
Al-Khalil Al-Farahidi, may God have mercy on him, said
She wanted every flaw in men to be in him
This is a phrase that sums up all the evil in this type of men
He is one of the worst people
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood over people sitting
And he said
Shall I not inform you of your goodness and your evil?
He said
So they remained silent
He said that three times
A man said
Yes, O Messenger of God
Tell us our good from our evil
He said
The best of you is the one who hopes for its good and is safe from its evil
And your polytheism is one whose goodness is not hoped for and whose evil is not safe
Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi
And if all people's faults are in this pair
She never hopes for good
And you are not safe from its evil
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds