WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:09.089 The story of Yusuf, peace be upon him, with the wife of al-Aziz. 00:00:09.089 --> 00:00:16.679 Her locking of the doors is evidence of the temptation. 00:00:16.679 --> 00:00:19.679 The danger of being infatuated with a man lies 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:25.679 in the impact of this temptation on your religion, your faith, and the life of your heart, 00:00:25.679 --> 00:00:33.679 until your heart becomes blind to every piece of advice or admonition, whether from within yourself or from outside. 00:00:33.679 --> 00:00:37.130 It sees nothing but the one by whom it has been tempted. 00:00:37.130 --> 00:00:42.130 Islam has been keen to protect you from falling into this temptation, 00:00:42.130 --> 00:00:45.130 for fear that you might fall into the grave sin 00:00:45.130 --> 00:00:50.130 that ruins both your worldly life and your Hereafter: adultery. 00:00:50.130 --> 00:00:57.219 Thus, Allah forbade for you, regarding men who are not your mahrams, all the means that would lead you into adultery with them. 00:00:57.219 --> 00:01:01.219 He forbade them from entering upon you without a mahram present. 00:01:01.219 --> 00:01:03.219 He forbade being in seclusion with you. 00:01:03.219 --> 00:01:07.219 He forbade shaking your hand or touching any part of your body. 00:01:07.219 --> 00:01:11.219 He forbade looking at you, and other such means. 00:01:11.219 --> 00:01:17.290 Likewise, He forbade you from all the means by which you might tempt men. 00:01:17.290 --> 00:01:22.290 He forbade you from displaying your adornment (tabarruj) and leaving your house wearing perfume. 00:01:22.290 --> 00:01:26.290 He forbade you from being soft in speech when talking to them. 00:01:26.290 --> 00:01:29.290 He forbade you from swaying in your walk. 00:01:29.290 --> 00:01:35.290 Or stamping your feet to draw men’s attention to the adornment you are concealing. 00:01:35.290 --> 00:01:40.319 All of this is to safeguard your honor and preserve your chastity. 00:01:40.319 --> 00:01:43.420 The very beginning of your infatuation with a man 00:01:43.420 --> 00:01:46.420 starts with looking at him repeatedly, 00:01:46.420 --> 00:01:49.420 and the stirring of your heart and soul toward him. 00:01:49.420 --> 00:01:52.420 That is why Allah forbade these beginnings. 00:01:52.420 --> 00:01:54.420 He said: 00:01:54.420 --> 00:01:59.739 "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze" 00:01:59.739 --> 00:02:02.739 "and guard their private parts," 00:02:02.739 --> 00:02:05.739 "and guard their private parts," 00:02:05.739 --> 00:02:08.740 "and not expose their adornment" 00:02:08.740 --> 00:02:11.740 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (24:31) 00:02:12.740 --> 00:02:17.740 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (24:31) 00:02:17.740 --> 00:02:20.740 "and not expose their adornment" 00:02:20.740 --> 00:02:23.740 "except to their husbands," 00:02:23.740 --> 00:02:27.740 "or their fathers," 00:02:27.740 --> 00:02:30.740 "or their fathers," 00:02:30.740 --> 00:02:35.740 "or their husbands' fathers," 00:02:35.740 --> 00:02:38.740 "or their sons," 00:02:38.740 --> 00:02:43.740 "or their husbands' sons," 00:02:43.740 --> 00:02:48.740 "or their brothers," 00:02:48.740 --> 00:02:51.740 "or their brothers' sons," 00:02:51.740 --> 00:02:56.740 "or their sisters' sons," 00:02:56.740 --> 00:03:02.740 "or their women," 00:03:02.740 --> 00:03:05.740 "or those their right hands possess," 00:03:05.740 --> 00:03:10.740 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (24:31) 00:03:10.740 --> 00:03:17.740 "or those male attendants having no physical desire," 00:03:17.740 --> 00:03:21.740 "or those male attendants having no physical desire," 00:03:21.740 --> 00:03:29.740 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (24:31) 00:03:29.740 --> 00:03:32.740 "and let them not stamp their feet [to make known what they conceal of their adornment]." 00:03:32.740 --> 00:03:38.740 “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands' fathers, or their sons or their husbands' sons, or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sisters' sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women's nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah together, O believers, in order that ye may succeed.” (24:31) 00:03:38.740 --> 00:03:48.800 "And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed." 00:03:48.800 --> 00:03:52.180 Abd al-Aziz al-Tarifi said: 00:03:52.180 --> 00:03:55.250 Allah commanded the believing women to lower their gaze, 00:03:55.250 --> 00:03:59.250 and He placed the lowering of the gaze before the guarding of the private parts, 00:03:59.250 --> 00:04:04.250 because letting the gaze wander is a path that ends in the loss of chastity. 00:04:04.250 --> 00:04:08.250 Thus, Allah prioritized guarding the means in order to preserve the end. 00:04:08.250 --> 00:04:12.250 Then, Allah forbade the believing women from displaying their adornment, 00:04:12.250 --> 00:04:17.250 for there is a correlation between letting the gaze wander and displaying adornment. 00:04:17.250 --> 00:04:21.250 This is because one does not adorn herself excessively for strange men 00:04:21.250 --> 00:04:24.250 unless she has let her gaze wander toward them, 00:04:24.250 --> 00:04:27.250 becoming infatuated with them through her sight, 00:04:27.250 --> 00:04:30.250 and thus adorning her body and her attire. 00:04:30.250 --> 00:04:32.279 Had she not let her gaze wander, 00:04:32.279 --> 00:04:36.279 there would have been no urge in her heart to adorn herself for them. 00:04:36.279 --> 00:04:39.279 Whoever guards her gaze guards her chastity, 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:44.279 and no attraction to men through adornment will enter her heart, 00:04:44.279 --> 00:04:47.279 because the heart is empty of them. 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:52.279 This is why guarding the gaze was placed before guarding the private parts and the prohibition of adornment, 00:04:52.279 --> 00:04:55.279 because the gaze is a rope that pulls the hearts 00:04:55.279 --> 00:04:58.279 and stirs them toward adorning oneself to entice men, 00:04:58.279 --> 00:05:02.279 to seduce them, and to fall into the forbidden. 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:05.660 In the story of Yusuf with the wife of al-Aziz, 00:05:05.660 --> 00:05:09.660 there is that which points to this clear truth. 00:05:09.660 --> 00:05:13.660 The presence of Yusuf, peace be upon him, in the house of the wife of al-Aziz 00:05:13.660 --> 00:05:16.660 caused her to look at him frequently, 00:05:16.660 --> 00:05:20.660 contemplating his beauty, his virtues, and his appearance. 00:05:20.660 --> 00:05:23.660 This led her to be tempted by him. 00:05:24.660 --> 00:05:29.819 In this is a lesson for every girl and woman who works or studies, 00:05:29.819 --> 00:05:33.819 or lives in an environment mixed with men, 00:05:33.819 --> 00:05:37.819 and frequently sees them and interacts with them. 00:05:37.819 --> 00:05:41.819 For it is rare for a girl or woman to remain safe from temptation 00:05:41.819 --> 00:05:45.819 by the men around her in such environments. 00:05:45.819 --> 00:05:50.949 And let not the married woman think she is far from this temptation 00:05:50.949 --> 00:05:53.949 just because she has a husband, 00:05:53.949 --> 00:05:56.949 thus permitting herself to mix with men. 00:05:56.949 --> 00:05:58.949 For here is the wife of al-Aziz: 00:05:58.949 --> 00:06:02.949 she was tempted by a young man working in her house, even though she was married, 00:06:02.949 --> 00:06:07.949 and had someone who sufficed her and protected her from falling into adultery. 00:06:07.949 --> 00:06:10.949 Yet, because of the temptation, 00:06:10.949 --> 00:06:13.949 she turned away from the lawful toward the forbidden. 00:06:13.949 --> 00:06:17.949 She locked the doors to obtain what she wanted. 00:06:17.949 --> 00:06:19.949 And you, likewise, 00:06:19.949 --> 00:06:22.949 if you let your gaze wander without boundaries, 00:06:22.949 --> 00:06:25.949 you may be tempted by a man's beauty and youth, 00:06:25.949 --> 00:06:28.949 or you may be tempted by something else in him. 00:06:28.949 --> 00:06:33.949 So, close the door of temptation from the beginning and lower your gaze. 00:06:33.949 --> 00:06:38.949 This requires you to take caution against modern means 00:06:38.949 --> 00:06:44.949 that cause you to look at men in seclusion with yourself, without anyone seeing you, 00:06:44.949 --> 00:06:48.949 such as watching films on satellite channels, 00:06:48.949 --> 00:06:51.949 or modern internet programs, 00:06:51.949 --> 00:06:56.949 like YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, and others, 00:06:56.949 --> 00:07:00.949 or communicating with men via modern means of communication 00:07:00.949 --> 00:07:03.949 under the pretext of being colleagues or studying. 00:07:03.949 --> 00:07:07.240 The wife of al-Aziz’s locking of the doors 00:07:07.240 --> 00:07:10.240 is evidence of her falling into temptation 00:07:10.240 --> 00:07:15.240 and her intent to commit a forbidden act that those around her would not approve of. 00:07:15.240 --> 00:07:19.240 She locked all the doors so that no one could reach her. 00:07:19.240 --> 00:07:22.240 By locking the doors, she facilitated 00:07:22.240 --> 00:07:26.240 the occurrence of seclusion between her and Yusuf, peace be upon him. 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:30.269 And seclusion never brings anything good. 00:07:30.269 --> 00:07:33.269 Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:07:33.269 --> 00:07:38.370 "The woman locked the doors of the house upon herself and Yusuf," 00:07:38.370 --> 00:07:43.370 "when she desired him and solicited him, door after door." 00:07:43.370 --> 00:07:46.560 And al-Tahir Ibn Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:07:46.560 --> 00:07:53.560 "The locking of the doors made every door a barrier to the opening it was in." 00:07:53.560 --> 00:07:58.560 And the intensification of the verb 'ghallaqat' (locked) indicates the severity and strength of the action, 00:07:58.560 --> 00:08:01.560 meaning she locked them securely. 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:04.819 This image of locking the doors 00:08:04.819 --> 00:08:10.939 is evidence of the wife of al-Aziz’s intention to commit evil and her desire for adultery. 00:08:10.939 --> 00:08:14.939 We see a similar image today of locking doors 00:08:14.939 --> 00:08:17.939 in modern means of communication, 00:08:17.939 --> 00:08:20.939 such as the phone and internet programs. 00:08:20.939 --> 00:08:23.939 We see it in a girl putting a password on her phone 00:08:23.939 --> 00:08:28.939 so that no one can see her correspondence with the one she is tempted by. 00:08:28.939 --> 00:08:31.939 We see it in whispering during calls 00:08:31.939 --> 00:08:34.940 so that those around her do not hear her, 00:08:34.940 --> 00:08:39.940 so they do not know what she is saying or who she is talking to. 00:08:39.940 --> 00:08:42.940 We see it in turning the phone face down 00:08:42.940 --> 00:08:46.940 so that no one sees who is calling her. 00:08:46.940 --> 00:08:49.940 We see it in her distancing herself from people 00:08:49.940 --> 00:08:53.940 and isolating herself in locked rooms for long hours, 00:08:53.940 --> 00:09:00.070 so that her feelings are not seen through her facial expressions while she talks. 00:09:00.070 --> 00:09:04.070 A girl's fear of her family seeing her or knowing what she is doing 00:09:04.070 --> 00:09:07.070 is proof of the wrongness of her actions, 00:09:07.070 --> 00:09:10.070 according to the saying of the Prophet, peace be upon him: 00:09:10.070 --> 00:09:13.070 "Righteousness is good character," 00:09:13.070 --> 00:09:15.070 "and sin is that which wavers in your heart," 00:09:15.070 --> 00:09:18.070 "and you dislike that people should discover it." 00:09:18.070 --> 00:09:21.100 Narrated by Muslim. 00:09:21.100 --> 00:09:24.100 The wife of al-Aziz’s locking of the doors 00:09:24.100 --> 00:09:28.100 is evidence that if a woman is tempted by a man, 00:09:28.100 --> 00:09:32.100 she will strive to be alone with him in any way possible, 00:09:32.100 --> 00:09:35.100 whether it is complete physical seclusion, 00:09:35.100 --> 00:09:39.100 or seclusion via modern means of communication 00:09:39.100 --> 00:09:43.100 that make people live as if they are in a locked room. 00:09:43.100 --> 00:09:47.230 And this seclusion is attended by no one but a third party, 00:09:47.230 --> 00:09:51.230 the one who paved the way for her: the Shaytan. 00:09:51.230 --> 00:09:54.230 According to the saying of the Prophet, peace be upon him: 00:09:54.230 --> 00:09:57.230 "Let no man be in seclusion with a woman," 00:09:57.230 --> 00:10:00.230 "but that the third of them is the Shaytan." 00:10:00.230 --> 00:10:02.230 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. 00:10:02.230 --> 00:10:05.419 And know with certainty, without a shadow of a doubt, 00:10:05.419 --> 00:10:09.419 that every woman who strives to be in seclusion with a man 00:10:09.419 --> 00:10:13.419 must prepare herself to entice and seduce him 00:10:13.419 --> 00:10:16.419 with her charms, beauty, and adornment, 00:10:16.419 --> 00:10:20.419 so that she becomes desired and sought after by him. 00:10:20.419 --> 00:10:22.419 If he understands the message, [well and good], 00:10:22.419 --> 00:10:25.419 otherwise, she says to him, "Come here." 00:10:25.419 --> 00:10:28.710 So, have you realized the danger of the beginnings that the Shaytan 00:10:28.710 --> 00:10:32.710 suggests to you to lure you into his traps? 00:10:32.710 --> 00:10:34.940 The hadith has a continuation. 00:10:34.940 --> 00:10:38.940 We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 00:10:38.940 --> 00:10:45.019 The story of Yusuf with the wife of al-Aziz.