1 00:00:01,419 --> 00:00:07,419 The story of the Hajj of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 2 00:00:07,419 --> 00:00:15,880 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, began her menses at Sarif. 3 00:00:15,880 --> 00:00:25,379 She had been listening to the sermon of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, to his Companions. 4 00:00:25,379 --> 00:00:28,379 He was urging them to perform it as an ‘Umrah. 5 00:00:28,379 --> 00:00:34,380 However, she was surprised by the onset of her menses while she was at Sarif, near Makkah. 6 00:00:34,380 --> 00:00:38,420 This meant that she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 7 00:00:38,420 --> 00:00:44,420 The time remaining until the Day of ‘Arafah was short, and menses has its own duration. 8 00:00:44,420 --> 00:00:50,420 Thus, our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, realized she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 9 00:00:50,420 --> 00:00:56,420 Even as she heard the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, encouraging his Companions to perform it as an ‘Umrah. 10 00:00:56,420 --> 00:00:58,420 So she wept. 11 00:00:58,420 --> 00:01:03,420 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, entered upon her while she was weeping. 12 00:01:03,420 --> 00:01:06,420 He comforted her to learn the reason for her tears. 13 00:01:06,420 --> 00:01:10,450 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, says: 14 00:01:10,450 --> 00:01:13,450 "When we arrived at Sarif, I began my menses." 15 00:01:13,450 --> 00:01:18,670 "The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, entered upon me while I was weeping." 16 00:01:18,670 --> 00:01:22,670 He asked, "What makes you weep, ‘A’ishah?" 17 00:01:22,670 --> 00:01:27,769 I said, "I wish, by Allah, that I had not performed Hajj this year." 18 00:01:27,769 --> 00:01:31,769 He said, "What is the matter with you? Perhaps you have begun your menses?" 19 00:01:31,769 --> 00:01:33,829 I said, "Yes." 20 00:01:33,829 --> 00:01:36,829 He said, "Subhan Allah!" 21 00:01:36,829 --> 00:01:40,829 "For that is something Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam." 22 00:01:40,829 --> 00:01:43,829 "So, perform what the pilgrim performs," 23 00:01:43,829 --> 00:01:47,829 "Except that you do not circumambulate the House until you are pure." 24 00:01:47,829 --> 00:01:54,409 A woman in menses, generally speaking, experiences a change in her emotional state during that period. 25 00:01:54,409 --> 00:01:56,409 So how much more so during Hajj? 26 00:01:56,409 --> 00:01:59,409 Especially when she desires to perform the rites with the Muslims. 27 00:01:59,409 --> 00:02:03,409 And she fears falling behind them or delaying those who are with her. 28 00:02:03,409 --> 00:02:07,409 That is why our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, wept. 29 00:02:07,409 --> 00:02:12,409 And said, "I wish, by Allah, that I had not performed Hajj this year." 30 00:02:12,409 --> 00:02:17,409 This shows the intensity of her distress at the onset of her menses. 31 00:02:17,409 --> 00:02:21,629 Among the beautiful character traits of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 32 00:02:21,629 --> 00:02:23,629 And his kind treatment of his family, 33 00:02:23,629 --> 00:02:26,629 Is that when he saw her weeping, 34 00:02:26,629 --> 00:02:30,629 He inquired about the reason for her tears and comforted her. 35 00:02:30,629 --> 00:02:34,629 He said, "What makes you weep, O you?" 36 00:02:34,629 --> 00:02:37,729 I said, "I heard what you said to your Companions," 37 00:02:37,729 --> 00:02:39,729 "And I have been prevented from the ‘Umrah." 38 00:02:39,729 --> 00:02:42,860 She explained the reason for her tears: 39 00:02:42,860 --> 00:02:45,860 That she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 40 00:02:45,860 --> 00:02:49,860 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, asked her, 41 00:02:49,860 --> 00:02:52,860 A second time about the reason for that. 42 00:02:52,860 --> 00:02:55,860 He said, "What is your situation?" 43 00:02:55,860 --> 00:02:58,860 I said, "I am not praying." 44 00:02:58,860 --> 00:03:03,860 She used a euphemism for menses out of modesty. 45 00:03:03,860 --> 00:03:07,860 The effect of this has appeared in the believing women who followed her. 46 00:03:07,860 --> 00:03:10,860 For they all use euphemisms for menses, 47 00:03:10,860 --> 00:03:13,860 Such as being prevented from prayer or similar terms. 48 00:03:13,860 --> 00:03:17,050 This is among the refined forms of indirect speech. 49 00:03:17,050 --> 00:03:20,050 And in this, O noble sisters, 50 00:03:20,050 --> 00:03:24,050 Is the etiquette of using beautiful language with one’s spouse and others, 51 00:03:24,050 --> 00:03:28,050 Especially regarding matters that people find unpleasant to mention. 52 00:03:28,050 --> 00:03:31,180 One benefits from this hadith, 53 00:03:31,180 --> 00:03:33,180 That the beginning of the menstrual cycle 54 00:03:33,180 --> 00:03:36,180 For our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 55 00:03:36,180 --> 00:03:38,180 During her journey for Hajj, 56 00:03:38,180 --> 00:03:42,180 Was on Saturday, the third of Dhu al-Hijjah. 57 00:03:42,180 --> 00:03:47,159 The consolation of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 58 00:03:47,159 --> 00:03:50,159 To our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 59 00:03:50,159 --> 00:03:52,159 When she began her menses. 60 00:03:52,159 --> 00:03:56,020 Indeed, the treatment of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 61 00:03:56,020 --> 00:03:59,020 Toward his wives, the Mothers of the Believers, 62 00:03:59,020 --> 00:04:03,020 Is the most refined treatment between a husband and his wife. 63 00:04:03,020 --> 00:04:05,020 And everyone who wishes to learn 64 00:04:05,020 --> 00:04:07,020 The art of interaction between spouses, 65 00:04:07,020 --> 00:04:09,020 Must study 66 00:04:09,020 --> 00:04:12,020 The life of our noble Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 67 00:04:12,020 --> 00:04:14,020 With his wives. 68 00:04:14,020 --> 00:04:17,019 For this is the supreme example for spouses. 69 00:04:17,019 --> 00:04:19,180 Among the beautiful examples of interaction 70 00:04:19,180 --> 00:04:22,180 Between the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 71 00:04:22,180 --> 00:04:24,180 And his wife ‘A’ishah, 72 00:04:24,180 --> 00:04:27,180 Is what occurred in this story. 73 00:04:27,180 --> 00:04:30,180 For ‘A’ishah’s weeping when she began her menses 74 00:04:30,180 --> 00:04:33,180 Only occurred due to the distress she felt, 75 00:04:33,180 --> 00:04:36,279 And her sadness over missing the ‘Umrah. 76 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,279 This reason might not be quickly grasped by men, 77 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:42,279 And a man might not pay much attention to it, 78 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:45,279 Because he sees menses as a natural matter 79 00:04:45,279 --> 00:04:47,279 That happens to every woman. 80 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,279 And it is indeed so. 81 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,279 But a woman may be in an emotional state 82 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:54,279 Where she is affected by the onset of menses, 83 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,279 Like a woman waiting for pregnancy after her marriage, 84 00:04:57,279 --> 00:04:59,279 And it is delayed for her, 85 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:02,279 So she weeps when her menses begins, 86 00:05:02,279 --> 00:05:04,279 Or for any other reason. 87 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:07,439 Thus, the action of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 88 00:05:07,439 --> 00:05:09,439 With ‘A’ishah 89 00:05:09,439 --> 00:05:12,439 Served as guidance for husbands in the art of dealing 90 00:05:12,439 --> 00:05:15,439 With a woman in such a state. 91 00:05:15,439 --> 00:05:18,569 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, did not suffice 92 00:05:18,569 --> 00:05:21,569 With asking her about the reason for her weeping, 93 00:05:21,569 --> 00:05:23,569 Rather, he lightened the matter for her 94 00:05:23,569 --> 00:05:26,569 By explaining that she was not the only one 95 00:05:26,569 --> 00:05:28,569 Who is tested with this menses, 96 00:05:28,569 --> 00:05:30,569 But rather all the daughters of Adam. 97 00:05:30,569 --> 00:05:32,569 He said, 98 00:05:32,569 --> 00:05:36,569 "This is a matter Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam." 99 00:05:36,569 --> 00:05:39,569 Meaning, He has ordained it for them, 100 00:05:39,569 --> 00:05:41,569 And bound them to it. 101 00:05:41,569 --> 00:05:44,569 So they are worshippers through their patience with it. 102 00:05:44,569 --> 00:05:47,569 "You are only a woman from among the daughters of Adam," 103 00:05:47,569 --> 00:05:50,569 "Allah has decreed for you what He decreed for them." 104 00:05:50,569 --> 00:05:53,569 So the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, calmed 105 00:05:53,569 --> 00:05:55,569 Her anxiety with two things: 106 00:05:55,569 --> 00:05:59,569 First, that menses is a matter Allah has decreed 107 00:05:59,569 --> 00:06:01,569 For women in general. 108 00:06:01,569 --> 00:06:04,569 And second, that she is like them, 109 00:06:04,569 --> 00:06:07,569 Subject to what they are subject to. 110 00:06:07,569 --> 00:06:10,569 This is a source of comfort and solace for her, 111 00:06:10,569 --> 00:06:13,569 And a relief for her worry. 112 00:06:13,569 --> 00:06:17,879 How a woman in a state of ihram should act 113 00:06:17,879 --> 00:06:19,879 During Hajj if she begins her menses. 114 00:06:19,879 --> 00:06:23,389 After the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, calmed 115 00:06:23,389 --> 00:06:27,389 The anxiety of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 116 00:06:27,389 --> 00:06:29,389 He moved to another dimension 117 00:06:29,389 --> 00:06:32,389 In providing her with psychological comfort. 118 00:06:32,389 --> 00:06:34,389 He explained to her that the onset of menses 119 00:06:34,389 --> 00:06:37,389 For a woman in ihram does not harm her, 120 00:06:37,389 --> 00:06:40,389 And does not affect her ihram. 121 00:06:40,389 --> 00:06:41,389 He said, 122 00:06:41,389 --> 00:06:43,389 "It does not harm you." 123 00:06:43,389 --> 00:06:46,389 "You are only a woman from among the daughters of Adam," 124 00:06:46,389 --> 00:06:49,389 "Allah has decreed for you what He decreed for them." 125 00:06:49,389 --> 00:06:51,389 "So continue in your Hajj," 126 00:06:51,389 --> 00:06:54,389 "Perhaps Allah will grant it to you." 127 00:06:54,389 --> 00:06:57,519 Then the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, instructed her 128 00:06:57,519 --> 00:07:00,519 On what she should do in this state of hers. 129 00:07:00,519 --> 00:07:01,519 He said, 130 00:07:01,519 --> 00:07:04,519 "Perform what the pilgrim performs," 131 00:07:04,519 --> 00:07:07,519 "Except that you do not circumambulate the House," 132 00:07:07,519 --> 00:07:09,519 "Until you have performed ghusl." 133 00:07:09,519 --> 00:07:12,550 The guidance of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 134 00:07:12,550 --> 00:07:15,550 To our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, indicated 135 00:07:15,550 --> 00:07:17,550 That menses and postpartum bleeding 136 00:07:17,550 --> 00:07:20,550 Do not invalidate the entire Hajj, 137 00:07:20,550 --> 00:07:23,550 Except for what relates to entering the mosque, 138 00:07:23,550 --> 00:07:26,550 Such as circumambulation and the prayer following it. 139 00:07:26,550 --> 00:07:29,649 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said: 140 00:07:29,649 --> 00:07:30,649 "I performed Hajj," 141 00:07:30,649 --> 00:07:33,649 "And the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, commanded me" 142 00:07:33,649 --> 00:07:36,649 "To perform all the rites," 143 00:07:36,649 --> 00:07:39,649 "Except for circumambulating the House." 144 00:07:39,649 --> 00:07:42,379 So, O noble sisters, 145 00:07:42,379 --> 00:07:45,379 A woman in ihram for Hajj or ‘Umrah, if she begins her menses, 146 00:07:45,379 --> 00:07:47,379 Is only prevented 147 00:07:47,379 --> 00:07:49,379 From circumambulating the House. 148 00:07:49,379 --> 00:07:52,379 She is not prevented from dhikr, supplication, 149 00:07:52,379 --> 00:07:54,379 Or reciting the Qur'an. 150 00:07:54,379 --> 00:07:57,379 So do not make narrow for yourselves what is broad. 151 00:07:57,379 --> 00:08:02,860 Instilling hope in a woman's spirit. 152 00:08:02,860 --> 00:08:06,459 Among the arts of dealing with a wife 153 00:08:06,459 --> 00:08:08,459 In such embarrassing situations, 154 00:08:08,459 --> 00:08:10,459 Which are painful for a woman, 155 00:08:10,459 --> 00:08:13,459 Is to instill hope in her spirit. 156 00:08:13,459 --> 00:08:17,459 This is taken from the action of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 157 00:08:17,459 --> 00:08:20,459 With our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 158 00:08:20,459 --> 00:08:22,459 When she began her menses, 159 00:08:22,459 --> 00:08:24,459 As he said to her: 160 00:08:24,459 --> 00:08:26,459 "Continue in your Hajj," 161 00:08:26,459 --> 00:08:29,459 "Perhaps Allah will grant it to you." 162 00:08:29,459 --> 00:08:32,460 Meaning, grant you the ‘Umrah so you may perform it, 163 00:08:32,460 --> 00:08:35,460 Or grant you the reward of the ‘Umrah, 164 00:08:35,460 --> 00:08:37,460 Even if you do not perform it, 165 00:08:37,460 --> 00:08:39,460 Because actions are by intentions, 166 00:08:39,460 --> 00:08:43,460 And you were only prevented due to a legal excuse. 167 00:08:43,460 --> 00:08:46,529 And it happened that our Mother ‘A’ishah, 168 00:08:46,529 --> 00:08:49,620 May Allah be pleased with her, performed ‘Umrah after the Hajj. 169 00:08:49,620 --> 00:08:51,620 This is a magnificent method, 170 00:08:51,620 --> 00:08:54,620 Through which the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, teaches us 171 00:08:54,620 --> 00:08:57,620 How to deal with one’s wife 172 00:08:57,620 --> 00:08:59,620 When her emotional state changes, 173 00:08:59,620 --> 00:09:01,620 Especially during travel, 174 00:09:01,620 --> 00:09:04,620 As it combines the hardship of travel 175 00:09:04,620 --> 00:09:08,620 With the hardship of the event that has occurred to the woman.