WEBVTT 00:00:01.419 --> 00:00:07.419 The story of the Hajj of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 00:00:07.419 --> 00:00:15.880 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, began her menses at Sarif. 00:00:15.880 --> 00:00:25.379 She had been listening to the sermon of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, to his Companions. 00:00:25.379 --> 00:00:28.379 He was urging them to perform it as an ‘Umrah. 00:00:28.379 --> 00:00:34.380 However, she was surprised by the onset of her menses while she was at Sarif, near Makkah. 00:00:34.380 --> 00:00:38.420 This meant that she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 00:00:38.420 --> 00:00:44.420 The time remaining until the Day of ‘Arafah was short, and menses has its own duration. 00:00:44.420 --> 00:00:50.420 Thus, our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, realized she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 00:00:50.420 --> 00:00:56.420 Even as she heard the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, encouraging his Companions to perform it as an ‘Umrah. 00:00:56.420 --> 00:00:58.420 So she wept. 00:00:58.420 --> 00:01:03.420 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, entered upon her while she was weeping. 00:01:03.420 --> 00:01:06.420 He comforted her to learn the reason for her tears. 00:01:06.420 --> 00:01:10.450 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, says: 00:01:10.450 --> 00:01:13.450 "When we arrived at Sarif, I began my menses." 00:01:13.450 --> 00:01:18.670 "The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, entered upon me while I was weeping." 00:01:18.670 --> 00:01:22.670 He asked, "What makes you weep, ‘A’ishah?" 00:01:22.670 --> 00:01:27.769 I said, "I wish, by Allah, that I had not performed Hajj this year." 00:01:27.769 --> 00:01:31.769 He said, "What is the matter with you? Perhaps you have begun your menses?" 00:01:31.769 --> 00:01:33.829 I said, "Yes." 00:01:33.829 --> 00:01:36.829 He said, "Subhan Allah!" 00:01:36.829 --> 00:01:40.829 "For that is something Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam." 00:01:40.829 --> 00:01:43.829 "So, perform what the pilgrim performs," 00:01:43.829 --> 00:01:47.829 "Except that you do not circumambulate the House until you are pure." 00:01:47.829 --> 00:01:54.409 A woman in menses, generally speaking, experiences a change in her emotional state during that period. 00:01:54.409 --> 00:01:56.409 So how much more so during Hajj? 00:01:56.409 --> 00:01:59.409 Especially when she desires to perform the rites with the Muslims. 00:01:59.409 --> 00:02:03.409 And she fears falling behind them or delaying those who are with her. 00:02:03.409 --> 00:02:07.409 That is why our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, wept. 00:02:07.409 --> 00:02:12.409 And said, "I wish, by Allah, that I had not performed Hajj this year." 00:02:12.409 --> 00:02:17.409 This shows the intensity of her distress at the onset of her menses. 00:02:17.409 --> 00:02:21.629 Among the beautiful character traits of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:02:21.629 --> 00:02:23.629 And his kind treatment of his family, 00:02:23.629 --> 00:02:26.629 Is that when he saw her weeping, 00:02:26.629 --> 00:02:30.629 He inquired about the reason for her tears and comforted her. 00:02:30.629 --> 00:02:34.629 He said, "What makes you weep, O you?" 00:02:34.629 --> 00:02:37.729 I said, "I heard what you said to your Companions," 00:02:37.729 --> 00:02:39.729 "And I have been prevented from the ‘Umrah." 00:02:39.729 --> 00:02:42.860 She explained the reason for her tears: 00:02:42.860 --> 00:02:45.860 That she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah. 00:02:45.860 --> 00:02:49.860 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, asked her, 00:02:49.860 --> 00:02:52.860 A second time about the reason for that. 00:02:52.860 --> 00:02:55.860 He said, "What is your situation?" 00:02:55.860 --> 00:02:58.860 I said, "I am not praying." 00:02:58.860 --> 00:03:03.860 She used a euphemism for menses out of modesty. 00:03:03.860 --> 00:03:07.860 The effect of this has appeared in the believing women who followed her. 00:03:07.860 --> 00:03:10.860 For they all use euphemisms for menses, 00:03:10.860 --> 00:03:13.860 Such as being prevented from prayer or similar terms. 00:03:13.860 --> 00:03:17.050 This is among the refined forms of indirect speech. 00:03:17.050 --> 00:03:20.050 And in this, O noble sisters, 00:03:20.050 --> 00:03:24.050 Is the etiquette of using beautiful language with one’s spouse and others, 00:03:24.050 --> 00:03:28.050 Especially regarding matters that people find unpleasant to mention. 00:03:28.050 --> 00:03:31.180 One benefits from this hadith, 00:03:31.180 --> 00:03:33.180 That the beginning of the menstrual cycle 00:03:33.180 --> 00:03:36.180 For our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:03:36.180 --> 00:03:38.180 During her journey for Hajj, 00:03:38.180 --> 00:03:42.180 Was on Saturday, the third of Dhu al-Hijjah. 00:03:42.180 --> 00:03:47.159 The consolation of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:03:47.159 --> 00:03:50.159 To our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:03:50.159 --> 00:03:52.159 When she began her menses. 00:03:52.159 --> 00:03:56.020 Indeed, the treatment of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:03:56.020 --> 00:03:59.020 Toward his wives, the Mothers of the Believers, 00:03:59.020 --> 00:04:03.020 Is the most refined treatment between a husband and his wife. 00:04:03.020 --> 00:04:05.020 And everyone who wishes to learn 00:04:05.020 --> 00:04:07.020 The art of interaction between spouses, 00:04:07.020 --> 00:04:09.020 Must study 00:04:09.020 --> 00:04:12.020 The life of our noble Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:04:12.020 --> 00:04:14.020 With his wives. 00:04:14.020 --> 00:04:17.019 For this is the supreme example for spouses. 00:04:17.019 --> 00:04:19.180 Among the beautiful examples of interaction 00:04:19.180 --> 00:04:22.180 Between the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:04:22.180 --> 00:04:24.180 And his wife ‘A’ishah, 00:04:24.180 --> 00:04:27.180 Is what occurred in this story. 00:04:27.180 --> 00:04:30.180 For ‘A’ishah’s weeping when she began her menses 00:04:30.180 --> 00:04:33.180 Only occurred due to the distress she felt, 00:04:33.180 --> 00:04:36.279 And her sadness over missing the ‘Umrah. 00:04:36.279 --> 00:04:39.279 This reason might not be quickly grasped by men, 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:42.279 And a man might not pay much attention to it, 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:45.279 Because he sees menses as a natural matter 00:04:45.279 --> 00:04:47.279 That happens to every woman. 00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:49.279 And it is indeed so. 00:04:49.279 --> 00:04:52.279 But a woman may be in an emotional state 00:04:52.279 --> 00:04:54.279 Where she is affected by the onset of menses, 00:04:54.279 --> 00:04:57.279 Like a woman waiting for pregnancy after her marriage, 00:04:57.279 --> 00:04:59.279 And it is delayed for her, 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:02.279 So she weeps when her menses begins, 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:04.279 Or for any other reason. 00:05:04.279 --> 00:05:07.439 Thus, the action of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:05:07.439 --> 00:05:09.439 With ‘A’ishah 00:05:09.439 --> 00:05:12.439 Served as guidance for husbands in the art of dealing 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:15.439 With a woman in such a state. 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:18.569 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, did not suffice 00:05:18.569 --> 00:05:21.569 With asking her about the reason for her weeping, 00:05:21.569 --> 00:05:23.569 Rather, he lightened the matter for her 00:05:23.569 --> 00:05:26.569 By explaining that she was not the only one 00:05:26.569 --> 00:05:28.569 Who is tested with this menses, 00:05:28.569 --> 00:05:30.569 But rather all the daughters of Adam. 00:05:30.569 --> 00:05:32.569 He said, 00:05:32.569 --> 00:05:36.569 "This is a matter Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam." 00:05:36.569 --> 00:05:39.569 Meaning, He has ordained it for them, 00:05:39.569 --> 00:05:41.569 And bound them to it. 00:05:41.569 --> 00:05:44.569 So they are worshippers through their patience with it. 00:05:44.569 --> 00:05:47.569 "You are only a woman from among the daughters of Adam," 00:05:47.569 --> 00:05:50.569 "Allah has decreed for you what He decreed for them." 00:05:50.569 --> 00:05:53.569 So the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, calmed 00:05:53.569 --> 00:05:55.569 Her anxiety with two things: 00:05:55.569 --> 00:05:59.569 First, that menses is a matter Allah has decreed 00:05:59.569 --> 00:06:01.569 For women in general. 00:06:01.569 --> 00:06:04.569 And second, that she is like them, 00:06:04.569 --> 00:06:07.569 Subject to what they are subject to. 00:06:07.569 --> 00:06:10.569 This is a source of comfort and solace for her, 00:06:10.569 --> 00:06:13.569 And a relief for her worry. 00:06:13.569 --> 00:06:17.879 How a woman in a state of ihram should act 00:06:17.879 --> 00:06:19.879 During Hajj if she begins her menses. 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:23.389 After the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, calmed 00:06:23.389 --> 00:06:27.389 The anxiety of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:06:27.389 --> 00:06:29.389 He moved to another dimension 00:06:29.389 --> 00:06:32.389 In providing her with psychological comfort. 00:06:32.389 --> 00:06:34.389 He explained to her that the onset of menses 00:06:34.389 --> 00:06:37.389 For a woman in ihram does not harm her, 00:06:37.389 --> 00:06:40.389 And does not affect her ihram. 00:06:40.389 --> 00:06:41.389 He said, 00:06:41.389 --> 00:06:43.389 "It does not harm you." 00:06:43.389 --> 00:06:46.389 "You are only a woman from among the daughters of Adam," 00:06:46.389 --> 00:06:49.389 "Allah has decreed for you what He decreed for them." 00:06:49.389 --> 00:06:51.389 "So continue in your Hajj," 00:06:51.389 --> 00:06:54.389 "Perhaps Allah will grant it to you." 00:06:54.389 --> 00:06:57.519 Then the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, instructed her 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:00.519 On what she should do in this state of hers. 00:07:00.519 --> 00:07:01.519 He said, 00:07:01.519 --> 00:07:04.519 "Perform what the pilgrim performs," 00:07:04.519 --> 00:07:07.519 "Except that you do not circumambulate the House," 00:07:07.519 --> 00:07:09.519 "Until you have performed ghusl." 00:07:09.519 --> 00:07:12.550 The guidance of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:07:12.550 --> 00:07:15.550 To our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, indicated 00:07:15.550 --> 00:07:17.550 That menses and postpartum bleeding 00:07:17.550 --> 00:07:20.550 Do not invalidate the entire Hajj, 00:07:20.550 --> 00:07:23.550 Except for what relates to entering the mosque, 00:07:23.550 --> 00:07:26.550 Such as circumambulation and the prayer following it. 00:07:26.550 --> 00:07:29.649 Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, said: 00:07:29.649 --> 00:07:30.649 "I performed Hajj," 00:07:30.649 --> 00:07:33.649 "And the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, commanded me" 00:07:33.649 --> 00:07:36.649 "To perform all the rites," 00:07:36.649 --> 00:07:39.649 "Except for circumambulating the House." 00:07:39.649 --> 00:07:42.379 So, O noble sisters, 00:07:42.379 --> 00:07:45.379 A woman in ihram for Hajj or ‘Umrah, if she begins her menses, 00:07:45.379 --> 00:07:47.379 Is only prevented 00:07:47.379 --> 00:07:49.379 From circumambulating the House. 00:07:49.379 --> 00:07:52.379 She is not prevented from dhikr, supplication, 00:07:52.379 --> 00:07:54.379 Or reciting the Qur'an. 00:07:54.379 --> 00:07:57.379 So do not make narrow for yourselves what is broad. 00:07:57.379 --> 00:08:02.860 Instilling hope in a woman's spirit. 00:08:02.860 --> 00:08:06.459 Among the arts of dealing with a wife 00:08:06.459 --> 00:08:08.459 In such embarrassing situations, 00:08:08.459 --> 00:08:10.459 Which are painful for a woman, 00:08:10.459 --> 00:08:13.459 Is to instill hope in her spirit. 00:08:13.459 --> 00:08:17.459 This is taken from the action of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:08:17.459 --> 00:08:20.459 With our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:08:20.459 --> 00:08:22.459 When she began her menses, 00:08:22.459 --> 00:08:24.459 As he said to her: 00:08:24.459 --> 00:08:26.459 "Continue in your Hajj," 00:08:26.459 --> 00:08:29.459 "Perhaps Allah will grant it to you." 00:08:29.459 --> 00:08:32.460 Meaning, grant you the ‘Umrah so you may perform it, 00:08:32.460 --> 00:08:35.460 Or grant you the reward of the ‘Umrah, 00:08:35.460 --> 00:08:37.460 Even if you do not perform it, 00:08:37.460 --> 00:08:39.460 Because actions are by intentions, 00:08:39.460 --> 00:08:43.460 And you were only prevented due to a legal excuse. 00:08:43.460 --> 00:08:46.529 And it happened that our Mother ‘A’ishah, 00:08:46.529 --> 00:08:49.620 May Allah be pleased with her, performed ‘Umrah after the Hajj. 00:08:49.620 --> 00:08:51.620 This is a magnificent method, 00:08:51.620 --> 00:08:54.620 Through which the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, teaches us 00:08:54.620 --> 00:08:57.620 How to deal with one’s wife 00:08:57.620 --> 00:08:59.620 When her emotional state changes, 00:08:59.620 --> 00:09:01.620 Especially during travel, 00:09:01.620 --> 00:09:04.620 As it combines the hardship of travel 00:09:04.620 --> 00:09:08.620 With the hardship of the event that has occurred to the woman.