1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,799 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 2 00:00:04,780 --> 00:00:17,969 The story of Prophet Yusuf (Joseph), peace be upon him. 3 00:00:18,390 --> 00:00:23,550 A woman possesses the ability to manipulate words and alter facts. 4 00:00:23,690 --> 00:00:26,429 This behavior is found in both men and women. 5 00:00:26,929 --> 00:00:30,469 However, women are more adept than men at this action. 6 00:00:30,469 --> 00:00:41,469 What is remarkable is that a woman will undertake this action without fear or apprehension of her manipulation of words and alteration of facts being discovered. 7 00:00:41,469 --> 00:00:51,469 Perhaps this stems from her knowledge of men's nature, their tendency to believe women more than they believe men when they speak. 8 00:00:51,469 --> 00:01:00,500 The wife of Al-Aziz utilized this ability to manipulate words and alter facts in a remarkable way. 9 00:01:00,500 --> 00:01:06,500 To absolve herself of blame and place it upon the Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him. 10 00:01:06,500 --> 00:01:12,540 When she was surprised by Al-Aziz and those with him behind the door, Allah the Almighty said: 11 00:01:12,540 --> 00:01:22,819 "And they both raced to the door, and she tore his shirt from behind, and they met her husband at the door." 12 00:01:22,819 --> 00:01:37,819 She said, "What is the penalty for one who intended evil toward your family, other than imprisonment or a painful punishment?" 13 00:01:37,819 --> 00:01:46,659 Upon contemplating the scene that this verse recounts for us, it can be summarized as follows: 14 00:01:46,659 --> 00:01:50,659 The wife of Al-Aziz was in her full adornment and beauty. 15 00:01:50,659 --> 00:01:57,659 Yusuf was opening the door to escape from inside the enclosed space, with the wife of Al-Aziz behind him. 16 00:01:57,659 --> 00:02:04,659 Al-Aziz and the palace guards with him were behind the door, surprised by this sight. 17 00:02:04,659 --> 00:02:13,780 Here, the wife of Al-Aziz initiated the conversation to create a mental image of the event in the minds of Al-Aziz and those with him. 18 00:02:13,780 --> 00:02:18,780 To cut off their path of thinking and deduction regarding the circumstances of the scene. 19 00:02:18,780 --> 00:02:23,780 And to cast the blame onto Yusuf and exonerate herself. 20 00:02:23,780 --> 00:02:28,780 And to shape the decision she desired in Al-Aziz's mind. 21 00:02:28,780 --> 00:02:35,780 So that he would not act in a way that would make her lose hope of trying again with Yusuf in the future. 22 00:02:35,780 --> 00:02:43,849 And to send a message to Yusuf that she was the one in charge in the palace and that her command was obeyed. 23 00:02:43,849 --> 00:02:48,849 So she said in a single sentence, through which she achieved all of the above. 24 00:02:48,849 --> 00:02:55,849 “And they raced with one another to the door, and she tore his shirt from behind, and they met her lord and master at the door. She said: What shall be his reward, who wisheth evil to thy folk, save prison or a painful doom?” (12:25) 25 00:02:55,849 --> 00:03:04,979 This is an ability that a man does not possess, because it is based on the great capability within a woman, which is cunning. 26 00:03:04,979 --> 00:03:09,099 Tahir Ibn Ashour, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 27 00:03:09,099 --> 00:03:15,099 "And she rushed to speak to him, to an extreme degree of slander, such that she did not falter." 28 00:03:15,099 --> 00:03:23,139 She made it seem to him as if she were in the right, and she cast her words into a general mold to take the form of a law. 29 00:03:23,139 --> 00:03:27,139 And to be a principle whose intended meaning is unknown. 30 00:03:27,139 --> 00:03:31,139 So the addressed person has no choice but to acknowledge her. 31 00:03:31,139 --> 00:03:37,169 And perhaps she feared that Al-Aziz's love for Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him, 32 00:03:37,169 --> 00:03:39,169 might prevent him from punishing him. 33 00:03:39,169 --> 00:03:42,169 So she cast her words into a general mold. 34 00:03:42,169 --> 00:03:49,169 And she intended by this that her husband should not feel that she desired someone other than him. 35 00:03:49,169 --> 00:03:56,169 And to frighten Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him, with her cunning, so that he would not refuse her again. 36 00:03:56,169 --> 00:04:00,419 And Muhammad Rashid Rida, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 37 00:04:00,419 --> 00:04:05,419 "And this statement was a stratagem and deception to her husband in several ways." 38 00:04:05,419 --> 00:04:13,580 The first is to make her husband imagine that Yusuf had assaulted her in a way that would displease him and her. 39 00:04:13,580 --> 00:04:23,579 The second is that she did not explicitly state his sin, lest his anger intensify and he punish him in a way she did not desire, such as selling him, for example. 40 00:04:23,579 --> 00:04:33,709 The third is a threat and warning to Yusuf, making him aware that his affair was in her hands, so that he would submit to her and obey her. 41 00:04:33,939 --> 00:04:36,939 And this is not the only incident. 42 00:04:36,939 --> 00:04:42,939 Indicating a woman's ability to manipulate words and alter facts. 43 00:04:42,939 --> 00:04:46,939 Rather, it has been exhibited by other women. 44 00:04:46,939 --> 00:04:48,939 And these are some examples. 45 00:04:48,939 --> 00:04:52,060 Abu Sa'id, may Allah be pleased with him, said: 46 00:04:52,060 --> 00:04:58,060 A woman came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, while we were with him. 47 00:04:58,060 --> 00:05:00,060 And she said, "O Messenger of Allah, 48 00:05:00,060 --> 00:05:06,060 my husband, Safwan Ibn Al-Mu'attal, beats me when I pray, 49 00:05:06,060 --> 00:05:08,060 and breaks my fast when I fast. 50 00:05:08,060 --> 00:05:13,060 And he does not pray the dawn prayer until the sun rises." 51 00:05:13,060 --> 00:05:16,160 Safwan was present. 52 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:19,160 He said, so he asked him about what she said. 53 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,189 He said, "O Messenger of Allah, 54 00:05:22,189 --> 00:05:25,189 as for her saying that he beats me when I pray, 55 00:05:25,189 --> 00:05:29,189 it is because she recites two chapters, and I have forbidden her." 56 00:05:29,189 --> 00:05:31,189 He said, so he said: 57 00:05:31,189 --> 00:05:35,189 "If one chapter were sufficient for people." 58 00:05:35,189 --> 00:05:38,189 "And as for her saying that he breaks my fast," 59 00:05:38,189 --> 00:05:40,189 "it is because she goes and fasts," 60 00:05:40,189 --> 00:05:44,290 "and I am a young man, so I cannot be patient." 61 00:05:44,290 --> 00:05:48,290 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said on that day: 62 00:05:48,290 --> 00:05:52,290 "A woman should not fast except with her husband's permission." 63 00:05:52,290 --> 00:05:54,290 "And as for her saying," 64 00:05:54,290 --> 00:05:57,290 "that I do not pray until the sun rises," 65 00:05:57,290 --> 00:06:00,290 "we are a household known for that." 66 00:06:00,290 --> 00:06:04,290 "We can hardly wake up until the sun rises." 67 00:06:04,290 --> 00:06:08,290 He said, "Then when you wake up, pray." 68 00:06:08,290 --> 00:06:11,290 Narrated by Abu Dawud. 69 00:06:11,290 --> 00:06:13,579 So reflect, my sister, 70 00:06:13,579 --> 00:06:17,579 how the wife of Safwan Ibn Al-Mu'attal twisted the facts, 71 00:06:17,579 --> 00:06:20,579 in the presence of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 72 00:06:20,579 --> 00:06:24,579 and in the presence of her husband and a group of the Companions. 73 00:06:24,579 --> 00:06:27,579 And she did not fear that her matter would be exposed. 74 00:06:27,579 --> 00:06:30,579 Even though this noble female Companion 75 00:06:30,579 --> 00:06:33,740 fasts by day and prays by night. 76 00:06:33,740 --> 00:06:35,740 And another example: 77 00:06:35,740 --> 00:06:39,740 From Ikrimah, that Rifaa' divorced his wife. 78 00:06:39,740 --> 00:06:43,740 So Abdur-Rahman Ibn Az-Zubayr Al-Qurashi married her. 79 00:06:43,740 --> 00:06:45,740 Aisha said: 80 00:06:45,740 --> 00:06:47,740 And she had a green veil. 81 00:06:47,740 --> 00:06:51,740 So she complained to her and showed her the greenness of her skin. 82 00:06:51,740 --> 00:06:55,769 When the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, came, 83 00:06:55,769 --> 00:06:58,769 and women support each other, 84 00:06:58,769 --> 00:07:00,769 Aisha said: 85 00:07:00,769 --> 00:07:03,769 "I have never seen anything like what the believing women endure." 86 00:07:03,769 --> 00:07:07,769 "Her skin is greener than her garment." 87 00:07:07,769 --> 00:07:08,769 He said: 88 00:07:08,769 --> 00:07:13,769 "And he heard that she had come to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him." 89 00:07:13,769 --> 00:07:17,769 So he came, and he had two sons with him from another woman. 90 00:07:17,769 --> 00:07:18,800 She said: 91 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,800 "By Allah, I have no fault with him." 92 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:26,800 "Except that what he has with him is no more beneficial to me than this." 93 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:29,800 And she took a fringe from her garment. 94 00:07:29,800 --> 00:07:30,829 So he said: 95 00:07:30,829 --> 00:07:33,829 "By Allah, she is lying, O Messenger of Allah." 96 00:07:33,829 --> 00:07:36,829 "I have intercourse with her vigorously like tanning leather." 97 00:07:36,829 --> 00:07:40,829 "But she is rebellious and wants Rifaa'." 98 00:07:40,829 --> 00:07:43,990 So the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 99 00:07:43,990 --> 00:07:46,990 "Then if that is the case, she is not lawful for him," 100 00:07:47,990 --> 00:07:49,990 "or she has not made herself right for him," 101 00:07:49,990 --> 00:07:53,120 "until he tastes her sweetness." 102 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:54,120 He said: 103 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,120 "And he saw two sons with him." 104 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:57,120 So he said: 105 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:59,120 "Are these your sons?" 106 00:07:59,120 --> 00:08:01,120 He said, "Yes." 107 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:02,120 He said: 108 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:05,120 "This is what you claim, what you claim." 109 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:10,120 "By Allah, they resemble him more than a crow resembles a crow." 110 00:08:10,120 --> 00:08:12,120 Narrated by Bukhari. 111 00:08:12,120 --> 00:08:15,120 So this one also alters facts, 112 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,120 in the presence of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 113 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:21,120 regarding a matter that might not be easily discovered. 114 00:08:21,120 --> 00:08:25,120 Yet, she does not fear that her matter will be exposed. 115 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:29,180 And this trait offers a lesson to anyone who takes on 116 00:08:29,180 --> 00:08:32,179 the task of resolving marital problems: 117 00:08:32,179 --> 00:08:35,179 that they should be wary of the way a woman speaks 118 00:08:35,179 --> 00:08:38,179 about her husband and about the problem. 119 00:08:38,179 --> 00:08:41,179 And nothing should prevent a woman from using this method 120 00:08:41,179 --> 00:08:43,179 in presenting her problem, 121 00:08:43,179 --> 00:08:46,179 except piety and fear of Allah. 122 00:08:46,179 --> 00:08:51,179 So be cautious, my sister, of falling into injustice and slander 123 00:08:51,179 --> 00:08:54,179 by your manipulation of words. 124 00:08:54,179 --> 00:08:56,440 To be continued. 125 00:08:56,440 --> 00:09:00,440 We will continue in a future meeting, Allah willing. 126 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:05,529 The story of Yusuf with the wife of Al-Aziz.