WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.799 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 00:00:04.780 --> 00:00:17.969 The story of Prophet Yusuf (Joseph), peace be upon him. 00:00:18.390 --> 00:00:23.550 A woman possesses the ability to manipulate words and alter facts. 00:00:23.690 --> 00:00:26.429 This behavior is found in both men and women. 00:00:26.929 --> 00:00:30.469 However, women are more adept than men at this action. 00:00:30.469 --> 00:00:41.469 What is remarkable is that a woman will undertake this action without fear or apprehension of her manipulation of words and alteration of facts being discovered. 00:00:41.469 --> 00:00:51.469 Perhaps this stems from her knowledge of men's nature, their tendency to believe women more than they believe men when they speak. 00:00:51.469 --> 00:01:00.500 The wife of Al-Aziz utilized this ability to manipulate words and alter facts in a remarkable way. 00:01:00.500 --> 00:01:06.500 To absolve herself of blame and place it upon the Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him. 00:01:06.500 --> 00:01:12.540 When she was surprised by Al-Aziz and those with him behind the door, Allah the Almighty said: 00:01:12.540 --> 00:01:22.819 "And they both raced to the door, and she tore his shirt from behind, and they met her husband at the door." 00:01:22.819 --> 00:01:37.819 She said, "What is the penalty for one who intended evil toward your family, other than imprisonment or a painful punishment?" 00:01:37.819 --> 00:01:46.659 Upon contemplating the scene that this verse recounts for us, it can be summarized as follows: 00:01:46.659 --> 00:01:50.659 The wife of Al-Aziz was in her full adornment and beauty. 00:01:50.659 --> 00:01:57.659 Yusuf was opening the door to escape from inside the enclosed space, with the wife of Al-Aziz behind him. 00:01:57.659 --> 00:02:04.659 Al-Aziz and the palace guards with him were behind the door, surprised by this sight. 00:02:04.659 --> 00:02:13.780 Here, the wife of Al-Aziz initiated the conversation to create a mental image of the event in the minds of Al-Aziz and those with him. 00:02:13.780 --> 00:02:18.780 To cut off their path of thinking and deduction regarding the circumstances of the scene. 00:02:18.780 --> 00:02:23.780 And to cast the blame onto Yusuf and exonerate herself. 00:02:23.780 --> 00:02:28.780 And to shape the decision she desired in Al-Aziz's mind. 00:02:28.780 --> 00:02:35.780 So that he would not act in a way that would make her lose hope of trying again with Yusuf in the future. 00:02:35.780 --> 00:02:43.849 And to send a message to Yusuf that she was the one in charge in the palace and that her command was obeyed. 00:02:43.849 --> 00:02:48.849 So she said in a single sentence, through which she achieved all of the above. 00:02:48.849 --> 00:02:55.849 “And they raced with one another to the door, and she tore his shirt from behind, and they met her lord and master at the door. She said: What shall be his reward, who wisheth evil to thy folk, save prison or a painful doom?” (12:25) 00:02:55.849 --> 00:03:04.979 This is an ability that a man does not possess, because it is based on the great capability within a woman, which is cunning. 00:03:04.979 --> 00:03:09.099 Tahir Ibn Ashour, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:03:09.099 --> 00:03:15.099 "And she rushed to speak to him, to an extreme degree of slander, such that she did not falter." 00:03:15.099 --> 00:03:23.139 She made it seem to him as if she were in the right, and she cast her words into a general mold to take the form of a law. 00:03:23.139 --> 00:03:27.139 And to be a principle whose intended meaning is unknown. 00:03:27.139 --> 00:03:31.139 So the addressed person has no choice but to acknowledge her. 00:03:31.139 --> 00:03:37.169 And perhaps she feared that Al-Aziz's love for Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him, 00:03:37.169 --> 00:03:39.169 might prevent him from punishing him. 00:03:39.169 --> 00:03:42.169 So she cast her words into a general mold. 00:03:42.169 --> 00:03:49.169 And she intended by this that her husband should not feel that she desired someone other than him. 00:03:49.169 --> 00:03:56.169 And to frighten Prophet Yusuf, peace be upon him, with her cunning, so that he would not refuse her again. 00:03:56.169 --> 00:04:00.419 And Muhammad Rashid Rida, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:04:00.419 --> 00:04:05.419 "And this statement was a stratagem and deception to her husband in several ways." 00:04:05.419 --> 00:04:13.580 The first is to make her husband imagine that Yusuf had assaulted her in a way that would displease him and her. 00:04:13.580 --> 00:04:23.579 The second is that she did not explicitly state his sin, lest his anger intensify and he punish him in a way she did not desire, such as selling him, for example. 00:04:23.579 --> 00:04:33.709 The third is a threat and warning to Yusuf, making him aware that his affair was in her hands, so that he would submit to her and obey her. 00:04:33.939 --> 00:04:36.939 And this is not the only incident. 00:04:36.939 --> 00:04:42.939 Indicating a woman's ability to manipulate words and alter facts. 00:04:42.939 --> 00:04:46.939 Rather, it has been exhibited by other women. 00:04:46.939 --> 00:04:48.939 And these are some examples. 00:04:48.939 --> 00:04:52.060 Abu Sa'id, may Allah be pleased with him, said: 00:04:52.060 --> 00:04:58.060 A woman came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, while we were with him. 00:04:58.060 --> 00:05:00.060 And she said, "O Messenger of Allah, 00:05:00.060 --> 00:05:06.060 my husband, Safwan Ibn Al-Mu'attal, beats me when I pray, 00:05:06.060 --> 00:05:08.060 and breaks my fast when I fast. 00:05:08.060 --> 00:05:13.060 And he does not pray the dawn prayer until the sun rises." 00:05:13.060 --> 00:05:16.160 Safwan was present. 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.160 He said, so he asked him about what she said. 00:05:19.160 --> 00:05:22.189 He said, "O Messenger of Allah, 00:05:22.189 --> 00:05:25.189 as for her saying that he beats me when I pray, 00:05:25.189 --> 00:05:29.189 it is because she recites two chapters, and I have forbidden her." 00:05:29.189 --> 00:05:31.189 He said, so he said: 00:05:31.189 --> 00:05:35.189 "If one chapter were sufficient for people." 00:05:35.189 --> 00:05:38.189 "And as for her saying that he breaks my fast," 00:05:38.189 --> 00:05:40.189 "it is because she goes and fasts," 00:05:40.189 --> 00:05:44.290 "and I am a young man, so I cannot be patient." 00:05:44.290 --> 00:05:48.290 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said on that day: 00:05:48.290 --> 00:05:52.290 "A woman should not fast except with her husband's permission." 00:05:52.290 --> 00:05:54.290 "And as for her saying," 00:05:54.290 --> 00:05:57.290 "that I do not pray until the sun rises," 00:05:57.290 --> 00:06:00.290 "we are a household known for that." 00:06:00.290 --> 00:06:04.290 "We can hardly wake up until the sun rises." 00:06:04.290 --> 00:06:08.290 He said, "Then when you wake up, pray." 00:06:08.290 --> 00:06:11.290 Narrated by Abu Dawud. 00:06:11.290 --> 00:06:13.579 So reflect, my sister, 00:06:13.579 --> 00:06:17.579 how the wife of Safwan Ibn Al-Mu'attal twisted the facts, 00:06:17.579 --> 00:06:20.579 in the presence of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:06:20.579 --> 00:06:24.579 and in the presence of her husband and a group of the Companions. 00:06:24.579 --> 00:06:27.579 And she did not fear that her matter would be exposed. 00:06:27.579 --> 00:06:30.579 Even though this noble female Companion 00:06:30.579 --> 00:06:33.740 fasts by day and prays by night. 00:06:33.740 --> 00:06:35.740 And another example: 00:06:35.740 --> 00:06:39.740 From Ikrimah, that Rifaa' divorced his wife. 00:06:39.740 --> 00:06:43.740 So Abdur-Rahman Ibn Az-Zubayr Al-Qurashi married her. 00:06:43.740 --> 00:06:45.740 Aisha said: 00:06:45.740 --> 00:06:47.740 And she had a green veil. 00:06:47.740 --> 00:06:51.740 So she complained to her and showed her the greenness of her skin. 00:06:51.740 --> 00:06:55.769 When the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, came, 00:06:55.769 --> 00:06:58.769 and women support each other, 00:06:58.769 --> 00:07:00.769 Aisha said: 00:07:00.769 --> 00:07:03.769 "I have never seen anything like what the believing women endure." 00:07:03.769 --> 00:07:07.769 "Her skin is greener than her garment." 00:07:07.769 --> 00:07:08.769 He said: 00:07:08.769 --> 00:07:13.769 "And he heard that she had come to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him." 00:07:13.769 --> 00:07:17.769 So he came, and he had two sons with him from another woman. 00:07:17.769 --> 00:07:18.800 She said: 00:07:18.800 --> 00:07:21.800 "By Allah, I have no fault with him." 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:26.800 "Except that what he has with him is no more beneficial to me than this." 00:07:26.800 --> 00:07:29.800 And she took a fringe from her garment. 00:07:29.800 --> 00:07:30.829 So he said: 00:07:30.829 --> 00:07:33.829 "By Allah, she is lying, O Messenger of Allah." 00:07:33.829 --> 00:07:36.829 "I have intercourse with her vigorously like tanning leather." 00:07:36.829 --> 00:07:40.829 "But she is rebellious and wants Rifaa'." 00:07:40.829 --> 00:07:43.990 So the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 00:07:43.990 --> 00:07:46.990 "Then if that is the case, she is not lawful for him," 00:07:47.990 --> 00:07:49.990 "or she has not made herself right for him," 00:07:49.990 --> 00:07:53.120 "until he tastes her sweetness." 00:07:53.120 --> 00:07:54.120 He said: 00:07:54.120 --> 00:07:56.120 "And he saw two sons with him." 00:07:56.120 --> 00:07:57.120 So he said: 00:07:57.120 --> 00:07:59.120 "Are these your sons?" 00:07:59.120 --> 00:08:01.120 He said, "Yes." 00:08:01.120 --> 00:08:02.120 He said: 00:08:02.120 --> 00:08:05.120 "This is what you claim, what you claim." 00:08:05.120 --> 00:08:10.120 "By Allah, they resemble him more than a crow resembles a crow." 00:08:10.120 --> 00:08:12.120 Narrated by Bukhari. 00:08:12.120 --> 00:08:15.120 So this one also alters facts, 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.120 in the presence of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:21.120 regarding a matter that might not be easily discovered. 00:08:21.120 --> 00:08:25.120 Yet, she does not fear that her matter will be exposed. 00:08:25.120 --> 00:08:29.180 And this trait offers a lesson to anyone who takes on 00:08:29.180 --> 00:08:32.179 the task of resolving marital problems: 00:08:32.179 --> 00:08:35.179 that they should be wary of the way a woman speaks 00:08:35.179 --> 00:08:38.179 about her husband and about the problem. 00:08:38.179 --> 00:08:41.179 And nothing should prevent a woman from using this method 00:08:41.179 --> 00:08:43.179 in presenting her problem, 00:08:43.179 --> 00:08:46.179 except piety and fear of Allah. 00:08:46.179 --> 00:08:51.179 So be cautious, my sister, of falling into injustice and slander 00:08:51.179 --> 00:08:54.179 by your manipulation of words. 00:08:54.179 --> 00:08:56.440 To be continued. 00:08:56.440 --> 00:09:00.440 We will continue in a future meeting, Allah willing. 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:05.529 The story of Yusuf with the wife of Al-Aziz.