1 00:00:00,850 --> 00:00:04,049 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 2 00:00:04,049 --> 00:00:09,599 The lives of the salaf between word and deed. 3 00:00:09,599 --> 00:00:13,939 Gifts and donations. 4 00:00:13,939 --> 00:00:17,719 On the authority of ‘Abdullah ibn al-Sa‘di. 5 00:00:17,719 --> 00:00:22,120 He came to ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, during his caliphate. 6 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,120 ‘Umar said to him: 7 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,620 "Have I not been informed that you manage some of the people's affairs?" 8 00:00:28,620 --> 00:00:32,020 "And that when you are given a salary, you dislike it?" 9 00:00:32,020 --> 00:00:33,719 I replied, "Yes." 10 00:00:33,920 --> 00:00:35,420 ‘Umar then said: 11 00:00:35,420 --> 00:00:37,750 "What is your intention in doing so?" 12 00:00:37,750 --> 00:00:38,950 I said: 13 00:00:38,950 --> 00:00:41,450 "I possess horses and slaves." 14 00:00:41,450 --> 00:00:43,049 "I am in a good state." 15 00:00:43,049 --> 00:00:47,710 "And I wish for my salary to be a charity for the Muslims." 16 00:00:47,710 --> 00:00:49,009 ‘Umar said: 17 00:00:49,009 --> 00:00:50,609 "Do not do that." 18 00:00:50,609 --> 00:00:53,509 "For I once intended what you now intend." 19 00:00:53,509 --> 00:00:58,509 "The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to give me a gift." 20 00:00:58,509 --> 00:00:59,909 I would say: 21 00:00:59,909 --> 00:01:02,909 "Give it to someone poorer than me." 22 00:01:02,909 --> 00:01:05,909 Until one day he gave me some wealth. 23 00:01:05,909 --> 00:01:07,109 I said: 24 00:01:07,109 --> 00:01:10,109 "Give it to someone poorer than me." 25 00:01:10,109 --> 00:01:13,510 The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: 26 00:01:13,510 --> 00:01:17,010 "If you are given something without having asked for it," 27 00:01:17,010 --> 00:01:19,879 "Then eat it and give it in charity." 28 00:01:19,879 --> 00:01:21,480 Salim said: 29 00:01:21,480 --> 00:01:25,280 "Because of that, Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him," 30 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,780 "Would never ask anyone for anything," 31 00:01:27,780 --> 00:01:31,230 "Nor would he refuse anything he was given." 32 00:01:31,329 --> 00:01:34,030 Imam Ahmad, may Allah have mercy on him, was asked: 33 00:01:34,030 --> 00:01:36,730 "Regarding a man who is given a gift," 34 00:01:36,730 --> 00:01:38,930 "Do you think he should accept it?" 35 00:01:38,930 --> 00:01:40,430 He replied: 36 00:01:40,430 --> 00:01:46,730 "The Prophet, peace be upon him, used to accept gifts and reward the giver for them." 37 00:01:46,730 --> 00:01:50,680 "I believe that if he accepts it, he should reward the giver." 38 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:52,079 It is said: 39 00:01:52,079 --> 00:01:54,079 "To appease the angry," 40 00:01:54,079 --> 00:01:56,280 "To win the favor of the ruler," 41 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:58,480 "To remove grudges," 42 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:00,680 "To ward off debts," 43 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:02,980 "To avoid what is feared," 44 00:02:02,980 --> 00:02:04,980 "And to reconcile the estranged," 45 00:02:04,980 --> 00:02:08,560 "Nothing is as effective as gifts and kindness." 46 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,389 A poet said: 47 00:02:10,389 --> 00:02:13,490 "The gifts people exchange with one another," 48 00:02:13,490 --> 00:02:16,789 "Generate connection in their hearts," 49 00:02:16,789 --> 00:02:19,990 "Plant affection and love in the conscience," 50 00:02:19,990 --> 00:02:25,960 "And clothe them in beauty when they are present." 51 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:30,740 The stance of the salaf regarding praise and commendation. 52 00:02:30,740 --> 00:02:34,539 On the authority of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 53 00:02:34,539 --> 00:02:37,080 "Praise is slaughter." 54 00:02:37,080 --> 00:02:41,379 And on the authority of a man from the Companions of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, 55 00:02:41,379 --> 00:02:43,680 From the early generation of this Ummah, 56 00:02:43,680 --> 00:02:45,780 Who possessed great merit, 57 00:02:45,780 --> 00:02:50,280 That whenever he was praised or commended and heard it, 58 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:51,479 He would say: 59 00:02:51,479 --> 00:02:55,180 "O Allah, do not hold me accountable for what they say," 60 00:02:55,180 --> 00:02:58,819 "And forgive me for what they do not know." 61 00:02:58,819 --> 00:03:01,919 Al-Hasan, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 62 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:04,919 "A man’s disparagement of himself in public," 63 00:03:04,919 --> 00:03:07,379 "Is praise for him in private." 64 00:03:07,379 --> 00:03:09,280 It used to be said: 65 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:13,669 "Whoever reveals his own faults has purified himself." 66 00:03:13,669 --> 00:03:17,699 Al-Rabi‘ ibn Khuthaym, may Allah have mercy on him, said to his son: 67 00:03:17,699 --> 00:03:21,900 "Do not let the abundance of people’s praise for you deceive you," 68 00:03:21,900 --> 00:03:25,520 "For your deeds are yours alone." 69 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,020 Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 70 00:03:29,020 --> 00:03:32,840 "Praise does not harm one who knows himself." 71 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,740 Malik ibn Dinar, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 72 00:03:36,740 --> 00:03:39,740 "When a man begins to praise himself," 73 00:03:39,740 --> 00:03:41,930 "His splendor departs." 74 00:03:41,930 --> 00:03:44,530 He also said, may Allah have mercy on him: 75 00:03:44,530 --> 00:03:48,129 "Since I have known people, I have not rejoiced at their praise," 76 00:03:48,129 --> 00:03:50,430 "Nor have I disliked their criticism," 77 00:03:50,430 --> 00:03:52,830 "Because those who praise them are excessive," 78 00:03:52,830 --> 00:03:55,590 "And those who criticize them are excessive." 79 00:03:55,590 --> 00:03:57,490 Wahb ibn Munabbih said, 80 00:03:57,490 --> 00:04:00,990 And ‘Awf ibn Abi Jamilah, may Allah have mercy on them: 81 00:04:00,990 --> 00:04:03,189 "It is among the traits of the hypocrite," 82 00:04:03,189 --> 00:04:08,800 "That he loves praise and hates criticism." 83 00:04:08,800 --> 00:04:12,439 Jealousy and chastity. 84 00:04:12,439 --> 00:04:16,939 On the authority of Abu ‘Abdullah Muhammad ibn Ahmad al-Qadi, who said: 85 00:04:16,939 --> 00:04:21,839 "I attended the session of Musa ibn Ishaq al-Qadi, may Allah have mercy on him, in Rayy," 86 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:25,170 "In the year 286." 87 00:04:25,170 --> 00:04:27,069 A woman came forward, 88 00:04:27,069 --> 00:04:31,970 And her guardian claimed 500 dinars as a dowry from her husband. 89 00:04:31,970 --> 00:04:33,269 He denied it. 90 00:04:33,269 --> 00:04:34,870 The judge said: 91 00:04:34,870 --> 00:04:36,470 "Bring your witnesses." 92 00:04:36,470 --> 00:04:37,470 He said: 93 00:04:37,470 --> 00:04:39,370 "I have brought them." 94 00:04:39,370 --> 00:04:43,069 One of the witnesses requested to look at the woman, 95 00:04:43,069 --> 00:04:46,069 So that he could point her out in his testimony. 96 00:04:46,069 --> 00:04:49,170 The witness stood up and said to the woman: 97 00:04:49,170 --> 00:04:50,470 "Stand up." 98 00:04:50,470 --> 00:04:52,069 The husband said: 99 00:04:52,069 --> 00:04:53,970 "What are you doing?" 100 00:04:53,970 --> 00:04:55,569 The agent said: 101 00:04:55,569 --> 00:04:58,569 "They are looking at your wife while she is unveiled," 102 00:04:58,569 --> 00:05:01,769 "So that her identity is confirmed for them." 103 00:05:01,769 --> 00:05:03,370 The husband said: 104 00:05:03,370 --> 00:05:05,569 "I call the judge to witness," 105 00:05:05,569 --> 00:05:09,069 "That she is entitled to this dowry she claims from me," 106 00:05:09,069 --> 00:05:11,899 "But she shall not unveil her face." 107 00:05:11,899 --> 00:05:15,500 The woman was informed of what her husband had done, 108 00:05:15,500 --> 00:05:16,899 So she said: 109 00:05:16,899 --> 00:05:19,199 "I call the judge to witness," 110 00:05:19,199 --> 00:05:22,300 "That I have gifted this dowry to him," 111 00:05:22,300 --> 00:05:26,029 "And I absolve him of it in this world and the Hereafter." 112 00:05:26,029 --> 00:05:27,930 The judge said: 113 00:05:27,930 --> 00:05:34,040 "Let this be recorded among the noble character traits." 114 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,839 Deliberation, reflection, and gentleness. 115 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:40,689 And the condemnation of haste. 116 00:05:40,689 --> 00:05:46,290 A Bedouin testified before Mu‘awiyah, may Allah be pleased with him, regarding something he disliked. 117 00:05:46,290 --> 00:05:48,389 Mu‘awiyah said to him: 118 00:05:48,389 --> 00:05:49,790 "You have lied." 119 00:05:49,790 --> 00:05:51,790 The Bedouin replied: 120 00:05:51,790 --> 00:05:55,779 "The liar, by Allah, is the one wrapped in your garments." 121 00:05:55,779 --> 00:05:58,680 Mu‘awiyah smiled and said: 122 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:01,769 "This is the reward for one who is hasty." 123 00:06:01,769 --> 00:06:05,569 ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 124 00:06:05,569 --> 00:06:07,769 "It is written in wisdom:" 125 00:06:07,769 --> 00:06:10,970 "Gentleness is the essence of wisdom." 126 00:06:10,970 --> 00:06:13,269 Among the proverbs of the Arabs: 127 00:06:13,269 --> 00:06:16,759 "Many a haste leads to delay." 128 00:06:16,759 --> 00:06:20,860 This is used as a proverb for a man who performs a task but does not perfect it, 129 00:06:20,860 --> 00:06:22,759 Because of his haste, 130 00:06:22,759 --> 00:06:28,360 So he is forced to return, undo it, and start over. 131 00:06:28,360 --> 00:06:31,759 Ibrahim al-Khawwas, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 132 00:06:31,759 --> 00:06:36,959 "Haste prevents one from attaining the truth." 133 00:06:36,959 --> 00:06:39,279 The lives of the salaf, 134 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,779 Between word and deed.