WEBVTT

00:00:00.850 --> 00:00:04.049
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

00:00:04.049 --> 00:00:09.599
The lives of the salaf between word and deed.

00:00:09.599 --> 00:00:13.939
Gifts and donations.

00:00:13.939 --> 00:00:17.719
On the authority of ‘Abdullah ibn al-Sa‘di.

00:00:17.719 --> 00:00:22.120
He came to ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, during his caliphate.

00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:24.120
‘Umar said to him:

00:00:24.120 --> 00:00:28.620
"Have I not been informed that you manage some of the people's affairs?"

00:00:28.620 --> 00:00:32.020
"And that when you are given a salary, you dislike it?"

00:00:32.020 --> 00:00:33.719
I replied, "Yes."

00:00:33.920 --> 00:00:35.420
‘Umar then said:

00:00:35.420 --> 00:00:37.750
"What is your intention in doing so?"

00:00:37.750 --> 00:00:38.950
I said:

00:00:38.950 --> 00:00:41.450
"I possess horses and slaves."

00:00:41.450 --> 00:00:43.049
"I am in a good state."

00:00:43.049 --> 00:00:47.710
"And I wish for my salary to be a charity for the Muslims."

00:00:47.710 --> 00:00:49.009
‘Umar said:

00:00:49.009 --> 00:00:50.609
"Do not do that."

00:00:50.609 --> 00:00:53.509
"For I once intended what you now intend."

00:00:53.509 --> 00:00:58.509
"The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to give me a gift."

00:00:58.509 --> 00:00:59.909
I would say:

00:00:59.909 --> 00:01:02.909
"Give it to someone poorer than me."

00:01:02.909 --> 00:01:05.909
Until one day he gave me some wealth.

00:01:05.909 --> 00:01:07.109
I said:

00:01:07.109 --> 00:01:10.109
"Give it to someone poorer than me."

00:01:10.109 --> 00:01:13.510
The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

00:01:13.510 --> 00:01:17.010
"If you are given something without having asked for it,"

00:01:17.010 --> 00:01:19.879
"Then eat it and give it in charity."

00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:21.480
Salim said:

00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:25.280
"Because of that, Ibn ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him,"

00:01:25.280 --> 00:01:27.780
"Would never ask anyone for anything,"

00:01:27.780 --> 00:01:31.230
"Nor would he refuse anything he was given."

00:01:31.329 --> 00:01:34.030
Imam Ahmad, may Allah have mercy on him, was asked:

00:01:34.030 --> 00:01:36.730
"Regarding a man who is given a gift,"

00:01:36.730 --> 00:01:38.930
"Do you think he should accept it?"

00:01:38.930 --> 00:01:40.430
He replied:

00:01:40.430 --> 00:01:46.730
"The Prophet, peace be upon him, used to accept gifts and reward the giver for them."

00:01:46.730 --> 00:01:50.680
"I believe that if he accepts it, he should reward the giver."

00:01:50.680 --> 00:01:52.079
It is said:

00:01:52.079 --> 00:01:54.079
"To appease the angry,"

00:01:54.079 --> 00:01:56.280
"To win the favor of the ruler,"

00:01:56.280 --> 00:01:58.480
"To remove grudges,"

00:01:58.480 --> 00:02:00.680
"To ward off debts,"

00:02:00.680 --> 00:02:02.980
"To avoid what is feared,"

00:02:02.980 --> 00:02:04.980
"And to reconcile the estranged,"

00:02:04.980 --> 00:02:08.560
"Nothing is as effective as gifts and kindness."

00:02:08.560 --> 00:02:10.389
A poet said:

00:02:10.389 --> 00:02:13.490
"The gifts people exchange with one another,"

00:02:13.490 --> 00:02:16.789
"Generate connection in their hearts,"

00:02:16.789 --> 00:02:19.990
"Plant affection and love in the conscience,"

00:02:19.990 --> 00:02:25.960
"And clothe them in beauty when they are present."

00:02:25.960 --> 00:02:30.740
The stance of the salaf regarding praise and commendation.

00:02:30.740 --> 00:02:34.539
On the authority of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

00:02:34.539 --> 00:02:37.080
"Praise is slaughter."

00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:41.379
And on the authority of a man from the Companions of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,

00:02:41.379 --> 00:02:43.680
From the early generation of this Ummah,

00:02:43.680 --> 00:02:45.780
Who possessed great merit,

00:02:45.780 --> 00:02:50.280
That whenever he was praised or commended and heard it,

00:02:50.280 --> 00:02:51.479
He would say:

00:02:51.479 --> 00:02:55.180
"O Allah, do not hold me accountable for what they say,"

00:02:55.180 --> 00:02:58.819
"And forgive me for what they do not know."

00:02:58.819 --> 00:03:01.919
Al-Hasan, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

00:03:01.919 --> 00:03:04.919
"A man’s disparagement of himself in public,"

00:03:04.919 --> 00:03:07.379
"Is praise for him in private."

00:03:07.379 --> 00:03:09.280
It used to be said:

00:03:09.280 --> 00:03:13.669
"Whoever reveals his own faults has purified himself."

00:03:13.669 --> 00:03:17.699
Al-Rabi‘ ibn Khuthaym, may Allah have mercy on him, said to his son:

00:03:17.699 --> 00:03:21.900
"Do not let the abundance of people’s praise for you deceive you,"

00:03:21.900 --> 00:03:25.520
"For your deeds are yours alone."

00:03:25.520 --> 00:03:29.020
Sufyan ibn ‘Uyaynah, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

00:03:29.020 --> 00:03:32.840
"Praise does not harm one who knows himself."

00:03:32.840 --> 00:03:36.740
Malik ibn Dinar, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

00:03:36.740 --> 00:03:39.740
"When a man begins to praise himself,"

00:03:39.740 --> 00:03:41.930
"His splendor departs."

00:03:41.930 --> 00:03:44.530
He also said, may Allah have mercy on him:

00:03:44.530 --> 00:03:48.129
"Since I have known people, I have not rejoiced at their praise,"

00:03:48.129 --> 00:03:50.430
"Nor have I disliked their criticism,"

00:03:50.430 --> 00:03:52.830
"Because those who praise them are excessive,"

00:03:52.830 --> 00:03:55.590
"And those who criticize them are excessive."

00:03:55.590 --> 00:03:57.490
Wahb ibn Munabbih said,

00:03:57.490 --> 00:04:00.990
And ‘Awf ibn Abi Jamilah, may Allah have mercy on them:

00:04:00.990 --> 00:04:03.189
"It is among the traits of the hypocrite,"

00:04:03.189 --> 00:04:08.800
"That he loves praise and hates criticism."

00:04:08.800 --> 00:04:12.439
Jealousy and chastity.

00:04:12.439 --> 00:04:16.939
On the authority of Abu ‘Abdullah Muhammad ibn Ahmad al-Qadi, who said:

00:04:16.939 --> 00:04:21.839
"I attended the session of Musa ibn Ishaq al-Qadi, may Allah have mercy on him, in Rayy,"

00:04:21.839 --> 00:04:25.170
"In the year 286."

00:04:25.170 --> 00:04:27.069
A woman came forward,

00:04:27.069 --> 00:04:31.970
And her guardian claimed 500 dinars as a dowry from her husband.

00:04:31.970 --> 00:04:33.269
He denied it.

00:04:33.269 --> 00:04:34.870
The judge said:

00:04:34.870 --> 00:04:36.470
"Bring your witnesses."

00:04:36.470 --> 00:04:37.470
He said:

00:04:37.470 --> 00:04:39.370
"I have brought them."

00:04:39.370 --> 00:04:43.069
One of the witnesses requested to look at the woman,

00:04:43.069 --> 00:04:46.069
So that he could point her out in his testimony.

00:04:46.069 --> 00:04:49.170
The witness stood up and said to the woman:

00:04:49.170 --> 00:04:50.470
"Stand up."

00:04:50.470 --> 00:04:52.069
The husband said:

00:04:52.069 --> 00:04:53.970
"What are you doing?"

00:04:53.970 --> 00:04:55.569
The agent said:

00:04:55.569 --> 00:04:58.569
"They are looking at your wife while she is unveiled,"

00:04:58.569 --> 00:05:01.769
"So that her identity is confirmed for them."

00:05:01.769 --> 00:05:03.370
The husband said:

00:05:03.370 --> 00:05:05.569
"I call the judge to witness,"

00:05:05.569 --> 00:05:09.069
"That she is entitled to this dowry she claims from me,"

00:05:09.069 --> 00:05:11.899
"But she shall not unveil her face."

00:05:11.899 --> 00:05:15.500
The woman was informed of what her husband had done,

00:05:15.500 --> 00:05:16.899
So she said:

00:05:16.899 --> 00:05:19.199
"I call the judge to witness,"

00:05:19.199 --> 00:05:22.300
"That I have gifted this dowry to him,"

00:05:22.300 --> 00:05:26.029
"And I absolve him of it in this world and the Hereafter."

00:05:26.029 --> 00:05:27.930
The judge said:

00:05:27.930 --> 00:05:34.040
"Let this be recorded among the noble character traits."

00:05:34.040 --> 00:05:36.839
Deliberation, reflection, and gentleness.

00:05:36.839 --> 00:05:40.689
And the condemnation of haste.

00:05:40.689 --> 00:05:46.290
A Bedouin testified before Mu‘awiyah, may Allah be pleased with him, regarding something he disliked.

00:05:46.290 --> 00:05:48.389
Mu‘awiyah said to him:

00:05:48.389 --> 00:05:49.790
"You have lied."

00:05:49.790 --> 00:05:51.790
The Bedouin replied:

00:05:51.790 --> 00:05:55.779
"The liar, by Allah, is the one wrapped in your garments."

00:05:55.779 --> 00:05:58.680
Mu‘awiyah smiled and said:

00:05:58.680 --> 00:06:01.769
"This is the reward for one who is hasty."

00:06:01.769 --> 00:06:05.569
‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

00:06:05.569 --> 00:06:07.769
"It is written in wisdom:"

00:06:07.769 --> 00:06:10.970
"Gentleness is the essence of wisdom."

00:06:10.970 --> 00:06:13.269
Among the proverbs of the Arabs:

00:06:13.269 --> 00:06:16.759
"Many a haste leads to delay."

00:06:16.759 --> 00:06:20.860
This is used as a proverb for a man who performs a task but does not perfect it,

00:06:20.860 --> 00:06:22.759
Because of his haste,

00:06:22.759 --> 00:06:28.360
So he is forced to return, undo it, and start over.

00:06:28.360 --> 00:06:31.759
Ibrahim al-Khawwas, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

00:06:31.759 --> 00:06:36.959
"Haste prevents one from attaining the truth."

00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:39.279
The lives of the salaf,

00:06:39.279 --> 00:06:41.779
Between word and deed.