WEBVTT 00:00:00.780 --> 00:00:03.779 Riyad al-Salihin (The Meadows of the Righteous) 00:00:03.779 --> 00:00:06.780 from the words of the Master of the Messengers, 00:00:06.780 --> 00:00:09.779 peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 00:00:09.779 --> 00:00:15.279 Chapter: The Husband's Rights over the Wife. 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:20.100 Allah the Exalted said: 00:00:20.100 --> 00:00:23.100 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:00:23.100 --> 00:00:26.100 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:00:26.100 --> 00:00:30.100 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:00:30.100 --> 00:00:32.100 "So righteous women are devoutly obedient..." 00:00:32.100 --> 00:00:36.100 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:00:36.100 --> 00:00:41.320 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:00:41.320 --> 00:00:45.320 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 00:00:45.320 --> 00:00:48.320 "If a man invites his wife to his bed 00:00:48.320 --> 00:00:50.320 and she refuses to come, 00:00:50.320 --> 00:00:53.320 and he spends the night angry with her, 00:00:53.320 --> 00:00:56.320 the angels curse her until morning." 00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:59.539 Agreed upon. 00:00:59.539 --> 00:01:01.539 In another narration by them both: 00:01:01.539 --> 00:01:05.540 "If a woman spends the night deserting her husband's bed, 00:01:05.540 --> 00:01:09.540 the angels curse her until morning." 00:01:09.540 --> 00:01:11.700 And in another narration: 00:01:11.700 --> 00:01:14.700 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:01:14.700 --> 00:01:17.700 "By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, 00:01:17.700 --> 00:01:20.700 there is no man who calls his wife to his bed, 00:01:20.700 --> 00:01:22.700 and she refuses him, 00:01:22.700 --> 00:01:26.700 except that the One in the heaven is displeased with her 00:01:26.700 --> 00:01:29.700 until he becomes pleased with her." 00:01:29.700 --> 00:01:34.400 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:01:34.400 --> 00:01:37.400 The obligation of the wife to obey her husband 00:01:37.400 --> 00:01:39.400 when he calls her to his bed, 00:01:39.400 --> 00:01:41.400 provided she has no valid excuse, 00:01:41.400 --> 00:01:45.400 because the strongest matter that preoccupies a man 00:01:45.400 --> 00:01:47.430 is the desire for intimacy. 00:01:47.430 --> 00:01:50.430 Therefore, the Wise Lawgiver urged women 00:01:50.430 --> 00:01:53.430 to assist the husband in this regard, 00:01:53.430 --> 00:01:57.069 so that he may lower his gaze and guard his chastity. 00:01:57.069 --> 00:01:59.069 It is incumbent upon the woman 00:02:00.069 --> 00:02:05.069 to seek his pleasure in all that does not involve disobedience to Allah. 00:02:05.069 --> 00:02:10.620 A man's patience in abstaining from intercourse is weaker than a woman's; 00:02:10.620 --> 00:02:15.620 hence, a woman's refusal to come to her husband's bed is a major sin 00:02:15.620 --> 00:02:18.620 that incurs the wrath of Allah. 00:02:18.620 --> 00:02:24.099 The angels supplicate against people of sin as long as they persist in it, 00:02:24.099 --> 00:02:28.099 and the supplication of the angels is answered, whether for good or bad, 00:02:28.099 --> 00:02:34.099 because the Prophet (peace be upon him) warned against this and struck fear of it. 00:02:34.099 --> 00:02:37.479 His saying (peace be upon him): 00:02:37.479 --> 00:02:41.479 "except that the One in the heaven is displeased with her" 00:02:41.479 --> 00:02:45.479 refers to Allah, Who is above the heaven, 00:02:45.479 --> 00:02:47.479 as in the saying of the Exalted: 00:02:47.479 --> 00:02:54.479 “Have ye taken security from Him Who is in the heaven that He will not cause the earth to swallow you when lo! it is convulsed?” (67:16) 00:02:55.479 --> 00:03:02.479 “Or have ye taken security from Him Who is in the heaven that He will not let loose on you a hurricane? But ye shall know the manner of My warning.” (67:17) 00:03:02.479 --> 00:03:07.139 "...then you will know how [terrible] was My warning." 00:03:07.139 --> 00:03:10.139 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:03:10.139 --> 00:03:14.139 that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:03:14.139 --> 00:03:20.139 "It is not lawful for a woman to fast while her husband is present except with his permission, 00:03:20.139 --> 00:03:24.139 nor may she admit anyone into his home except with his permission." 00:03:24.139 --> 00:03:26.270 Agreed upon. 00:03:26.270 --> 00:03:32.169 "While her husband is present" means he is residing and not traveling. 00:03:32.169 --> 00:03:36.000 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:41.159 A wife's voluntary fasting while her husband is present requires his permission, 00:03:41.159 --> 00:03:45.159 to safeguard his right over her and ensure it is not neglected. 00:03:45.159 --> 00:03:52.539 It is not permissible for a woman to admit anyone into her husband's home except with his consent and approval. 00:03:52.539 --> 00:03:56.860 On the authority of Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), 00:03:56.860 --> 00:04:00.860 from the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: 00:04:00.860 --> 00:04:05.860 "All of you are shepherds and all of you are responsible for your flock: 00:04:05.860 --> 00:04:11.949 the ruler is a shepherd, and the man is a shepherd over the members of his household, 00:04:11.949 --> 00:04:15.949 and the woman is a shepherdess over her husband's home and his children. 00:04:15.949 --> 00:04:22.019 So all of you are shepherds, and all of you are responsible for your flock." 00:04:22.019 --> 00:04:24.240 Agreed upon. 00:04:25.240 --> 00:04:31.100 "Shepherd" means one entrusted with the care of a responsibility and custodian over it, 00:04:31.100 --> 00:04:35.100 commanded to manage it with justice. 00:04:35.100 --> 00:04:39.170 "His flock" means those under his care. 00:04:39.170 --> 00:04:43.379 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:04:43.379 --> 00:04:46.379 Responsibility within the Muslim community is collective, 00:04:46.379 --> 00:04:49.379 and each person bears it according to their capacity and ability; 00:04:49.379 --> 00:04:53.379 for every Muslim stands upon one of the breach-points of Islam, 00:04:53.379 --> 00:04:56.379 so let no breach occur from his direction. 00:05:21.569 --> 00:05:23.569 The man is a shepherd over the members of his household: 00:05:23.569 --> 00:05:28.569 he feeds them, clothes them, nurtures them, and teaches them. 00:05:28.569 --> 00:05:32.980 The woman's role in Muslim society is immense, 00:05:32.980 --> 00:05:34.980 and her influence is profound; 00:05:34.980 --> 00:05:37.980 thus she ought to fulfill her husband's right 00:05:37.980 --> 00:05:40.980 and discharge her duty toward her children, 00:05:40.980 --> 00:05:42.980 in terms of nurturing and preparation, 00:05:42.980 --> 00:05:46.980 so that they may uphold their religion with strength and pride. 00:05:46.980 --> 00:05:53.459 On the authority of Abu 'Ali Talq Ibn 'Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:05:53.459 --> 00:05:57.459 that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:05:57.459 --> 00:06:01.620 "If a man calls his wife for his need, 00:06:01.620 --> 00:06:05.620 let her come to him even if she is at the oven." 00:06:05.620 --> 00:06:08.779 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and al-Nasa'i. 00:06:08.779 --> 00:06:13.639 "His need" means what he requires of her 00:06:13.639 --> 00:06:16.639 from among the duties incumbent upon her, 00:06:16.639 --> 00:06:19.639 and it refers to sexual intimacy. 00:06:19.639 --> 00:06:22.769 "The oven" refers to that in which bread is baked. 00:06:22.769 --> 00:06:26.500 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:06:26.500 --> 00:06:29.790 The husband's right over his wife is immense, 00:06:29.790 --> 00:06:32.790 so she ought to prepare herself for it. 00:06:32.790 --> 00:06:36.300 It is the duty of the wife to strive 00:06:36.300 --> 00:06:39.300 to please her husband and make him happy 00:06:39.300 --> 00:06:41.300 in everything that he loves, 00:06:41.300 --> 00:06:43.300 owing to the favor he holds over her 00:06:43.300 --> 00:06:45.300 in providing protection and care. 00:06:45.300 --> 00:06:48.689 Matters vary in degrees of importance, 00:06:48.689 --> 00:06:50.689 with some taking precedence over others. 00:06:50.689 --> 00:06:55.100 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:06:55.100 --> 00:06:59.100 from the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: 00:06:59.100 --> 00:07:03.189 "Were I to command anyone to prostrate before another, 00:07:03.189 --> 00:07:07.189 I would have commanded the wife to prostrate before her husband." 00:07:07.189 --> 00:07:10.189 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. 00:07:10.189 --> 00:07:14.120 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:07:14.120 --> 00:07:17.379 Prostration is an act of worship that is not fitting 00:07:17.379 --> 00:07:19.379 except for Allah alone. 00:07:19.379 --> 00:07:22.759 The husband's right over his wife is immense, 00:07:22.759 --> 00:07:25.759 second only to Allah's right over her. 00:07:25.759 --> 00:07:30.139 It is not permissible for any human being to prostrate before another human being; 00:07:30.139 --> 00:07:34.139 thus whoever prostrates before a human or an idol by choice 00:07:34.139 --> 00:07:38.139 has cast off the bond of Islam from his neck. 00:07:38.139 --> 00:07:43.259 On the authority of Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: 00:07:43.259 --> 00:07:47.259 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:07:47.259 --> 00:07:52.329 "Any woman who dies while her husband is pleased with her 00:07:52.329 --> 00:07:54.579 will enter Paradise." 00:07:54.579 --> 00:07:56.579 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. 00:07:56.579 --> 00:08:00.930 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:08:00.930 --> 00:08:02.930 If a Muslim woman passes away 00:08:02.930 --> 00:08:06.930 while believing in Allah alone without any partner, 00:08:06.930 --> 00:08:09.930 and having fulfilled her husband's rights, 00:08:09.930 --> 00:08:13.930 she will enter Paradise through the mercy and favor of Allah. 00:08:13.930 --> 00:08:18.699 This is an elucidation of the magnitude of the husband's right over his wife. 00:08:18.699 --> 00:08:20.699 Corroborating this hadith is 00:08:20.699 --> 00:08:23.699 the saying of the Prophet (peace be upon him): 00:08:23.699 --> 00:08:26.699 "When a woman prays her five daily prayers, 00:08:26.699 --> 00:08:28.699 fasts her month, 00:08:28.699 --> 00:08:30.699 guards her chastity, 00:08:30.699 --> 00:08:32.700 and obeys her husband, 00:08:32.700 --> 00:08:37.700 she may enter through whichever gate of Paradise she pleases." 00:08:37.700 --> 00:08:42.039 On the authority of Mu'adh Ibn Jabal (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:08:42.039 --> 00:08:46.039 from the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: 00:08:46.039 --> 00:08:50.100 "No woman causes harm to her husband in this world 00:08:50.100 --> 00:08:54.100 except that his wife among the wide-eyed maidens of Paradise says: 00:08:54.100 --> 00:08:57.100 'Do not harm him, may Allah fight you! 00:08:57.100 --> 00:09:00.100 For he is merely a passing guest with you; 00:09:00.100 --> 00:09:03.100 he will soon depart from you to join us.'" 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:05.259 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi. 00:09:05.259 --> 00:09:10.220 "A passing guest" means a temporary lodger and visitor. 00:09:10.220 --> 00:09:14.090 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:09:14.090 --> 00:09:20.379 A warning to the woman against harming her husband, whether tangibly or intangibly. 00:09:20.379 --> 00:09:25.980 Allah has prepared purified spouses for the believers in Paradise, 00:09:25.980 --> 00:09:28.980 who await the believers with yearning and eagerness, 00:09:28.980 --> 00:09:32.980 so much so that they cannot bear for the believer to be mistreated, 00:09:32.980 --> 00:09:35.980 even by his wife in this worldly life. 00:09:35.980 --> 00:09:40.460 Paradise and its bliss exist right now. 00:09:40.460 --> 00:09:43.820 This world is an abode of trial and testing, 00:09:43.820 --> 00:09:47.820 while the Hereafter is the abode of recompense and permanence. 00:09:47.820 --> 00:09:52.870 On the authority of Usamah Ibn Zayd (may Allah be pleased with them both), 00:09:52.870 --> 00:09:56.870 from the Prophet (peace be upon him), who said: 00:09:56.870 --> 00:09:58.899 "I have not left behind me any trial 00:09:58.899 --> 00:10:02.899 more harmful to men than women." 00:10:02.899 --> 00:10:05.129 Agreed upon. 00:10:05.129 --> 00:10:09.019 Among the points of benefit from the hadith: 00:10:09.019 --> 00:10:13.250 The temptation of women is more perilous to men than any other; 00:10:13.250 --> 00:10:18.250 therefore, women ought to abide peacefully in their homes 00:10:18.250 --> 00:10:23.250 and not display their charms as was the practice in the former times of ignorance. 00:10:23.250 --> 00:10:27.279 Riyad al-Salihin, O Riyad al-Salihin... 00:10:27.279 --> 00:10:29.279 Riyad al-Salihin.