1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,000 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:11,240 The types of men in the hadith of Umm Zar‘. 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:16,469 The hadith of Umm Zar‘. 4 00:00:16,469 --> 00:00:21,469 Did the woman cause the divorce of Umm Zar‘? 5 00:00:21,469 --> 00:00:26,010 When a man marries a second wife. 6 00:00:26,010 --> 00:00:29,010 We hear from people or from the first wife. 7 00:00:29,010 --> 00:00:34,009 That the second wife ruined the first wife’s life. 8 00:00:34,009 --> 00:00:37,009 Or that she destroyed the first wife’s home. 9 00:00:37,009 --> 00:00:39,009 In fact, this phrase has become— 10 00:00:39,009 --> 00:00:42,009 "I do not want to destroy the first wife's home"— 11 00:00:42,009 --> 00:00:45,009 Common on the tongues of many women. 12 00:00:45,009 --> 00:00:50,070 Whom a married man proposes to marry. 13 00:00:50,070 --> 00:00:53,140 So, what is the validity of this statement? 14 00:00:53,140 --> 00:00:57,140 First, polygyny cannot be— 15 00:00:57,140 --> 00:00:59,140 A cause for the ruin of homes. 16 00:00:59,140 --> 00:01:01,140 And no one would say such a thing— 17 00:01:01,140 --> 00:01:04,140 Except one who does not truly believe in Allah. 18 00:01:04,140 --> 00:01:07,140 And has not known their Lord as He ought to be known. 19 00:01:07,140 --> 00:01:10,140 For the legislation of polygyny— 20 00:01:10,140 --> 00:01:12,140 Is issued by Allah, the Almighty and Exalted. 21 00:01:12,140 --> 00:01:14,140 And He is the All-Knowing, the All-Wise. 22 00:01:14,140 --> 00:01:19,140 Any objection or criticism regarding the subject of polygyny— 23 00:01:19,140 --> 00:01:21,140 Is an objection against Allah. 24 00:01:21,140 --> 00:01:25,140 And a challenge to His law, which is built upon His knowledge and wisdom. 25 00:01:25,140 --> 00:01:27,359 Second. 26 00:01:27,359 --> 00:01:30,359 Allah has stipulated justice between wives— 27 00:01:30,359 --> 00:01:33,359 For anyone who wishes to marry more than one wife. 28 00:01:33,359 --> 00:01:37,359 And adding any condition that Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, did not stipulate— 29 00:01:37,359 --> 00:01:40,359 Is an accusation of deficiency against the law of Allah. 30 00:01:40,359 --> 00:01:45,650 And this is an explicit challenge to the Sharia of Allah and His judgment. 31 00:01:45,650 --> 00:01:46,650 Third. 32 00:01:46,650 --> 00:01:49,650 The incorrect application by some men— 33 00:01:49,650 --> 00:01:51,650 Of the subject of polygyny. 34 00:01:51,650 --> 00:01:53,650 And their failure to maintain justice— 35 00:01:53,650 --> 00:01:56,650 Does not permit us to challenge the law of Allah. 36 00:01:56,650 --> 00:01:58,650 For the shortcomings of men in maintaining justice— 37 00:01:58,650 --> 00:02:05,650 Are like the shortcomings of many Muslims in adhering to the law of Allah in other matters. 38 00:02:05,650 --> 00:02:08,840 A man’s marriage to a second woman— 39 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:12,840 Is not the cause of the corruption of his home, if it becomes corrupt. 40 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:18,030 So, what is the real reason for the corruption of homes in cases of polygyny? 41 00:02:18,030 --> 00:02:21,030 And who is responsible for that? 42 00:02:21,030 --> 00:02:23,030 Is it the man or the woman? 43 00:02:24,030 --> 00:02:28,259 And what is the relationship of these questions to the story of Umm Zar‘? 44 00:02:28,259 --> 00:02:31,259 Perhaps we can answer these questions— 45 00:02:31,259 --> 00:02:34,259 By reflecting on the story of Umm Zar‘. 46 00:02:34,259 --> 00:02:38,610 Regarding this woman whom Abu Zar‘ married. 47 00:02:38,610 --> 00:02:39,610 First. 48 00:02:39,610 --> 00:02:41,610 How did Abu Zar‘ know— 49 00:02:41,610 --> 00:02:44,770 The size and shape of the woman’s breasts? 50 00:02:44,770 --> 00:02:47,770 Umm Zar‘ described the shape of the woman’s breasts. 51 00:02:47,770 --> 00:02:50,770 And likened them to two pomegranates. 52 00:02:50,770 --> 00:02:53,770 And certainly, the woman was not naked— 53 00:02:53,770 --> 00:02:56,770 For Abu Zar‘ to see that from her. 54 00:02:56,770 --> 00:03:00,800 So how did Abu Zar‘ know the size of her chest? 55 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:03,830 She must have been wearing clothing— 56 00:03:03,830 --> 00:03:05,830 That outlined her body. 57 00:03:05,830 --> 00:03:08,830 Otherwise, he would not have known the size of her breasts. 58 00:03:08,830 --> 00:03:11,830 And this is something that Islam has forbidden for women. 59 00:03:11,830 --> 00:03:15,830 Because outlining a woman’s body tempts men. 60 00:03:15,830 --> 00:03:18,830 And hadiths have been narrated that indicate— 61 00:03:18,830 --> 00:03:21,830 The prohibition of clothing that outlines the body. 62 00:03:21,830 --> 00:03:23,830 Among which is— 63 00:03:23,830 --> 00:03:26,830 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 64 00:03:26,830 --> 00:03:30,830 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 65 00:03:30,830 --> 00:03:34,830 "There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: 66 00:03:34,830 --> 00:03:37,830 A people with whips like the tails of cattle, 67 00:03:37,830 --> 00:03:39,830 With which they strike the people, 68 00:03:39,830 --> 00:03:42,830 And women who are clothed yet naked, 69 00:03:42,830 --> 00:03:45,830 Seducing and seduced, 70 00:03:45,830 --> 00:03:48,830 Their heads like the swaying humps of camels. 71 00:03:48,830 --> 00:03:50,830 They will not enter Paradise, 72 00:03:50,830 --> 00:03:53,830 Nor will they smell its fragrance, 73 00:03:53,830 --> 00:03:57,830 Even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a distance." 74 00:03:57,830 --> 00:03:59,860 Narrated by Muslim. 75 00:03:59,860 --> 00:04:02,860 Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 76 00:04:02,860 --> 00:04:05,860 "It means they are clothed in name, 77 00:04:05,860 --> 00:04:07,860 But naked in reality, 78 00:04:07,860 --> 00:04:10,860 Since those clothes do not cover them." 79 00:04:10,860 --> 00:04:13,860 And al-Tayyibi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 80 00:04:13,860 --> 00:04:16,860 "He affirmed clothing for them, then negated it, 81 00:04:16,860 --> 00:04:19,860 Because the reality of clothing is to cover the ‘awrah (private parts). 82 00:04:19,860 --> 00:04:22,860 So if covering is not achieved, 83 00:04:22,860 --> 00:04:25,959 It is as if they are not clothed." 84 00:04:25,959 --> 00:04:28,959 And Ibn Battal (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 85 00:04:28,959 --> 00:04:31,959 "He means clothed in garments that describe— 86 00:04:31,959 --> 00:04:34,959 Their bodies to those other than their husbands, 87 00:04:34,959 --> 00:04:37,959 And those for whom it is forbidden to look at that from them, 88 00:04:37,959 --> 00:04:40,959 While they are naked in reality." 89 00:04:43,689 --> 00:04:46,689 So, clothing that describes a woman’s body and her charms— 90 00:04:46,689 --> 00:04:49,689 Makes her appear as if she is naked, 91 00:04:49,689 --> 00:04:52,689 So the man knows all the details of her body— 92 00:04:52,689 --> 00:04:55,819 From her clothes. 93 00:04:55,819 --> 00:04:58,819 And among the explicit hadiths forbidding a woman— 94 00:04:58,819 --> 00:05:01,819 From wearing what describes her body— 95 00:05:01,819 --> 00:05:04,819 Is the hadith of Usamah ibn Zayd. 96 00:05:04,819 --> 00:05:07,819 He said: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) clothed me— 97 00:05:07,819 --> 00:05:10,819 With a thick Qubti garment, 98 00:05:10,819 --> 00:05:13,819 When Dihyah al-Kalbi gifted it to him. 99 00:05:13,819 --> 00:05:16,819 So I gave it to my wife. 100 00:05:16,819 --> 00:05:19,819 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: 101 00:05:19,819 --> 00:05:22,819 'Why did you not wear the Qubti garment?' 102 00:05:22,819 --> 00:05:25,819 I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, 103 00:05:25,819 --> 00:05:28,819 I gave it to my wife.' 104 00:05:28,819 --> 00:05:31,819 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: 105 00:05:31,819 --> 00:05:34,819 'Order her to place an undergarment beneath it, 106 00:05:34,819 --> 00:05:37,819 For I fear it will describe the size of her bones.'" 107 00:05:38,819 --> 00:05:41,879 Narrated by Ahmad. 108 00:05:41,879 --> 00:05:44,879 Al-Rafi‘i (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 109 00:05:44,879 --> 00:05:47,879 "The meaning is that the Qubti garment, due to its thinness, clings to the body, 110 00:05:47,879 --> 00:05:50,879 Revealing the size of the breasts and the buttocks, 111 00:05:50,879 --> 00:05:53,879 And the firmness of the flesh of the upper arms and thighs, 112 00:05:53,879 --> 00:05:56,879 So the onlooker knows— 113 00:05:56,879 --> 00:05:59,879 The dimensions of these parts, 114 00:05:59,879 --> 00:06:02,879 As if they were visible to his sight, 115 00:06:02,879 --> 00:06:05,879 And accessible to his touch." 116 00:06:05,879 --> 00:06:08,879 (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) 117 00:06:08,879 --> 00:06:11,879 "These areas are like those describing what is behind them, 118 00:06:11,879 --> 00:06:14,879 And informing of what is hidden by them." 119 00:06:14,879 --> 00:06:17,879 This is one of the best expressions for this meaning. 120 00:06:17,879 --> 00:06:20,879 And for this purpose, ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) warned— 121 00:06:20,879 --> 00:06:23,879 In his saying: 122 00:06:23,879 --> 00:06:26,879 "Beware of wearing Qubti garments, 123 00:06:26,879 --> 00:06:30,040 For even if they do not show the skin, they describe the shape." 124 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:33,040 And Ahmad al-Sa‘ati (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 125 00:06:33,040 --> 00:06:36,040 "A woman’s garment is either thick— 126 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:39,040 Meaning heavy and tight— 127 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:42,040 Describing the contours of the woman’s body, 128 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:45,040 Or it is thin, describing the color of her skin, 129 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:48,040 And both are not permissible. 130 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:51,040 The requirement is that a woman’s outer garment— 131 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,040 In front of people should be loose and thick, 132 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:58,930 Not describing body or skin." 133 00:06:58,930 --> 00:07:01,930 So this woman was not naked in reality, 134 00:07:02,930 --> 00:07:05,930 But she wore clothes that covered her skin, 135 00:07:05,930 --> 00:07:08,930 Yet did not hide the size of her body— 136 00:07:08,930 --> 00:07:11,930 And her charms. 137 00:07:11,930 --> 00:07:14,930 And that is why, when Abu Zar‘ saw some of these charms, 138 00:07:14,930 --> 00:07:18,120 He was tempted by her and married her. 139 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:21,120 So, will women accept this bitter truth? 140 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:24,120 Which is that the corruption of homes— 141 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:27,120 Is caused by immodest women, 142 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:30,120 The clothed yet naked, the seducing and the seduced, 143 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,120 And not by what Allah has legislated regarding the permissibility of polygyny. 144 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:37,149 Why do women remain silent— 145 00:07:37,149 --> 00:07:40,149 About immodesty and do not denounce the immodest, 146 00:07:40,149 --> 00:07:43,149 And do not show them the same hostility— 147 00:07:43,149 --> 00:07:46,149 As they show to one who accepts being a second wife? 148 00:07:46,149 --> 00:07:49,279 And can a woman, after knowing— 149 00:07:49,279 --> 00:07:52,279 This legal ruling— 150 00:07:52,279 --> 00:07:55,279 Which is the prohibition of wearing what outlines her body— 151 00:07:55,279 --> 00:07:58,279 Make this blessed month— 152 00:07:58,279 --> 00:08:01,279 A starting point to change her clothing in obedience to Allah? 153 00:08:01,279 --> 00:08:04,410 Has the woman realized that a man— 154 00:08:04,410 --> 00:08:07,410 Is tempted by her body just from its shape, 155 00:08:07,410 --> 00:08:10,410 Even if he does not see it naked? 156 00:08:10,410 --> 00:08:13,410 In fact, more than that, 157 00:08:13,410 --> 00:08:16,410 A man might be tempted by imagining the woman’s form— 158 00:08:16,410 --> 00:08:19,569 If it is described to him. 159 00:08:19,569 --> 00:08:22,569 For on the authority of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (may Allah be pleased with him), he said: 160 00:08:22,569 --> 00:08:25,569 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 161 00:08:25,569 --> 00:08:28,569 "No woman should associate with another woman, 162 00:08:28,569 --> 00:08:31,569 Then describe her to her husband as if he were looking at her." 163 00:08:31,569 --> 00:08:34,570 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 164 00:08:34,570 --> 00:08:37,700 Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 165 00:08:37,700 --> 00:08:40,700 "The wisdom behind this prohibition— 166 00:08:40,700 --> 00:08:43,700 Is the fear that the husband might be pleased with the description mentioned, 167 00:08:43,700 --> 00:08:46,700 Which might lead to the divorcing of the one describing, 168 00:08:46,700 --> 00:08:49,700 Or being tempted by the one described." 169 00:08:49,700 --> 00:08:54,460 If this is the case with a description, 170 00:08:55,460 --> 00:08:58,460 Then what will be the state of the man if he sees with his own eyes? 171 00:08:58,460 --> 00:09:01,679 Second. 172 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:04,679 Did Abu Zar‘ err in his marriage to this woman— 173 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,899 Whose charms he saw? 174 00:09:07,899 --> 00:09:10,899 This story and incident occurred before Islam, 175 00:09:10,899 --> 00:09:13,899 So it is no wonder that the man’s concern— 176 00:09:13,899 --> 00:09:16,899 Was the woman’s shape, her beauty, and her attractiveness. 177 00:09:16,899 --> 00:09:19,899 Even though Abu Zar‘— 178 00:09:19,899 --> 00:09:22,899 Had other reasons besides the shape, 179 00:09:22,899 --> 00:09:25,899 Such as the nobility of the children, 180 00:09:25,899 --> 00:09:28,899 And the woman’s energy and her performance of the tasks assigned to her. 181 00:09:28,899 --> 00:09:31,970 But the blame lies with the Muslim man— 182 00:09:31,970 --> 00:09:34,970 Who thinks only of the woman’s shape, 183 00:09:34,970 --> 00:09:37,970 And her beauty at the expense of her religion— 184 00:09:37,970 --> 00:09:40,970 And her character. 185 00:09:40,970 --> 00:09:43,970 Nevertheless, for a man to proceed to marry— 186 00:09:43,970 --> 00:09:46,970 A woman who has caught his eye— 187 00:09:46,970 --> 00:09:49,970 Is better than falling into adultery. 188 00:09:49,970 --> 00:09:52,970 He did not fall into sin when he married this woman, 189 00:09:52,970 --> 00:09:55,970 Rather, he did himself a favor by preventing himself— 190 00:09:55,970 --> 00:09:59,100 From falling into adultery. 191 00:09:59,100 --> 00:10:02,100 The woman caused, in an indirect way, 192 00:10:02,100 --> 00:10:05,100 His marriage to her. 193 00:10:05,100 --> 00:10:08,350 But was she the cause of the divorce of Umm Zar‘? 194 00:10:08,350 --> 00:10:11,350 And the question is for Muslim women today: 195 00:10:11,350 --> 00:10:14,350 Would a woman be content with her husband— 196 00:10:14,350 --> 00:10:17,350 Marrying a woman who has caught his eye? 197 00:10:18,350 --> 00:10:21,350 We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 198 00:10:21,350 --> 00:10:25,500 And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.