WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.000 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 00:00:03.000 --> 00:00:11.240 The types of men in the hadith of Umm Zar‘. 00:00:11.240 --> 00:00:16.469 The hadith of Umm Zar‘. 00:00:16.469 --> 00:00:21.469 Did the woman cause the divorce of Umm Zar‘? 00:00:21.469 --> 00:00:26.010 When a man marries a second wife. 00:00:26.010 --> 00:00:29.010 We hear from people or from the first wife. 00:00:29.010 --> 00:00:34.009 That the second wife ruined the first wife’s life. 00:00:34.009 --> 00:00:37.009 Or that she destroyed the first wife’s home. 00:00:37.009 --> 00:00:39.009 In fact, this phrase has become— 00:00:39.009 --> 00:00:42.009 "I do not want to destroy the first wife's home"— 00:00:42.009 --> 00:00:45.009 Common on the tongues of many women. 00:00:45.009 --> 00:00:50.070 Whom a married man proposes to marry. 00:00:50.070 --> 00:00:53.140 So, what is the validity of this statement? 00:00:53.140 --> 00:00:57.140 First, polygyny cannot be— 00:00:57.140 --> 00:00:59.140 A cause for the ruin of homes. 00:00:59.140 --> 00:01:01.140 And no one would say such a thing— 00:01:01.140 --> 00:01:04.140 Except one who does not truly believe in Allah. 00:01:04.140 --> 00:01:07.140 And has not known their Lord as He ought to be known. 00:01:07.140 --> 00:01:10.140 For the legislation of polygyny— 00:01:10.140 --> 00:01:12.140 Is issued by Allah, the Almighty and Exalted. 00:01:12.140 --> 00:01:14.140 And He is the All-Knowing, the All-Wise. 00:01:14.140 --> 00:01:19.140 Any objection or criticism regarding the subject of polygyny— 00:01:19.140 --> 00:01:21.140 Is an objection against Allah. 00:01:21.140 --> 00:01:25.140 And a challenge to His law, which is built upon His knowledge and wisdom. 00:01:25.140 --> 00:01:27.359 Second. 00:01:27.359 --> 00:01:30.359 Allah has stipulated justice between wives— 00:01:30.359 --> 00:01:33.359 For anyone who wishes to marry more than one wife. 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:37.359 And adding any condition that Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, did not stipulate— 00:01:37.359 --> 00:01:40.359 Is an accusation of deficiency against the law of Allah. 00:01:40.359 --> 00:01:45.650 And this is an explicit challenge to the Sharia of Allah and His judgment. 00:01:45.650 --> 00:01:46.650 Third. 00:01:46.650 --> 00:01:49.650 The incorrect application by some men— 00:01:49.650 --> 00:01:51.650 Of the subject of polygyny. 00:01:51.650 --> 00:01:53.650 And their failure to maintain justice— 00:01:53.650 --> 00:01:56.650 Does not permit us to challenge the law of Allah. 00:01:56.650 --> 00:01:58.650 For the shortcomings of men in maintaining justice— 00:01:58.650 --> 00:02:05.650 Are like the shortcomings of many Muslims in adhering to the law of Allah in other matters. 00:02:05.650 --> 00:02:08.840 A man’s marriage to a second woman— 00:02:08.840 --> 00:02:12.840 Is not the cause of the corruption of his home, if it becomes corrupt. 00:02:12.840 --> 00:02:18.030 So, what is the real reason for the corruption of homes in cases of polygyny? 00:02:18.030 --> 00:02:21.030 And who is responsible for that? 00:02:21.030 --> 00:02:23.030 Is it the man or the woman? 00:02:24.030 --> 00:02:28.259 And what is the relationship of these questions to the story of Umm Zar‘? 00:02:28.259 --> 00:02:31.259 Perhaps we can answer these questions— 00:02:31.259 --> 00:02:34.259 By reflecting on the story of Umm Zar‘. 00:02:34.259 --> 00:02:38.610 Regarding this woman whom Abu Zar‘ married. 00:02:38.610 --> 00:02:39.610 First. 00:02:39.610 --> 00:02:41.610 How did Abu Zar‘ know— 00:02:41.610 --> 00:02:44.770 The size and shape of the woman’s breasts? 00:02:44.770 --> 00:02:47.770 Umm Zar‘ described the shape of the woman’s breasts. 00:02:47.770 --> 00:02:50.770 And likened them to two pomegranates. 00:02:50.770 --> 00:02:53.770 And certainly, the woman was not naked— 00:02:53.770 --> 00:02:56.770 For Abu Zar‘ to see that from her. 00:02:56.770 --> 00:03:00.800 So how did Abu Zar‘ know the size of her chest? 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:03.830 She must have been wearing clothing— 00:03:03.830 --> 00:03:05.830 That outlined her body. 00:03:05.830 --> 00:03:08.830 Otherwise, he would not have known the size of her breasts. 00:03:08.830 --> 00:03:11.830 And this is something that Islam has forbidden for women. 00:03:11.830 --> 00:03:15.830 Because outlining a woman’s body tempts men. 00:03:15.830 --> 00:03:18.830 And hadiths have been narrated that indicate— 00:03:18.830 --> 00:03:21.830 The prohibition of clothing that outlines the body. 00:03:21.830 --> 00:03:23.830 Among which is— 00:03:23.830 --> 00:03:26.830 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:03:26.830 --> 00:03:30.830 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 00:03:30.830 --> 00:03:34.830 "There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen: 00:03:34.830 --> 00:03:37.830 A people with whips like the tails of cattle, 00:03:37.830 --> 00:03:39.830 With which they strike the people, 00:03:39.830 --> 00:03:42.830 And women who are clothed yet naked, 00:03:42.830 --> 00:03:45.830 Seducing and seduced, 00:03:45.830 --> 00:03:48.830 Their heads like the swaying humps of camels. 00:03:48.830 --> 00:03:50.830 They will not enter Paradise, 00:03:50.830 --> 00:03:53.830 Nor will they smell its fragrance, 00:03:53.830 --> 00:03:57.830 Even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a distance." 00:03:57.830 --> 00:03:59.860 Narrated by Muslim. 00:03:59.860 --> 00:04:02.860 Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:04:02.860 --> 00:04:05.860 "It means they are clothed in name, 00:04:05.860 --> 00:04:07.860 But naked in reality, 00:04:07.860 --> 00:04:10.860 Since those clothes do not cover them." 00:04:10.860 --> 00:04:13.860 And al-Tayyibi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:04:13.860 --> 00:04:16.860 "He affirmed clothing for them, then negated it, 00:04:16.860 --> 00:04:19.860 Because the reality of clothing is to cover the ‘awrah (private parts). 00:04:19.860 --> 00:04:22.860 So if covering is not achieved, 00:04:22.860 --> 00:04:25.959 It is as if they are not clothed." 00:04:25.959 --> 00:04:28.959 And Ibn Battal (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:04:28.959 --> 00:04:31.959 "He means clothed in garments that describe— 00:04:31.959 --> 00:04:34.959 Their bodies to those other than their husbands, 00:04:34.959 --> 00:04:37.959 And those for whom it is forbidden to look at that from them, 00:04:37.959 --> 00:04:40.959 While they are naked in reality." 00:04:43.689 --> 00:04:46.689 So, clothing that describes a woman’s body and her charms— 00:04:46.689 --> 00:04:49.689 Makes her appear as if she is naked, 00:04:49.689 --> 00:04:52.689 So the man knows all the details of her body— 00:04:52.689 --> 00:04:55.819 From her clothes. 00:04:55.819 --> 00:04:58.819 And among the explicit hadiths forbidding a woman— 00:04:58.819 --> 00:05:01.819 From wearing what describes her body— 00:05:01.819 --> 00:05:04.819 Is the hadith of Usamah ibn Zayd. 00:05:04.819 --> 00:05:07.819 He said: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) clothed me— 00:05:07.819 --> 00:05:10.819 With a thick Qubti garment, 00:05:10.819 --> 00:05:13.819 When Dihyah al-Kalbi gifted it to him. 00:05:13.819 --> 00:05:16.819 So I gave it to my wife. 00:05:16.819 --> 00:05:19.819 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: 00:05:19.819 --> 00:05:22.819 'Why did you not wear the Qubti garment?' 00:05:22.819 --> 00:05:25.819 I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, 00:05:25.819 --> 00:05:28.819 I gave it to my wife.' 00:05:28.819 --> 00:05:31.819 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me: 00:05:31.819 --> 00:05:34.819 'Order her to place an undergarment beneath it, 00:05:34.819 --> 00:05:37.819 For I fear it will describe the size of her bones.'" 00:05:38.819 --> 00:05:41.879 Narrated by Ahmad. 00:05:41.879 --> 00:05:44.879 Al-Rafi‘i (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:05:44.879 --> 00:05:47.879 "The meaning is that the Qubti garment, due to its thinness, clings to the body, 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:50.879 Revealing the size of the breasts and the buttocks, 00:05:50.879 --> 00:05:53.879 And the firmness of the flesh of the upper arms and thighs, 00:05:53.879 --> 00:05:56.879 So the onlooker knows— 00:05:56.879 --> 00:05:59.879 The dimensions of these parts, 00:05:59.879 --> 00:06:02.879 As if they were visible to his sight, 00:06:02.879 --> 00:06:05.879 And accessible to his touch." 00:06:05.879 --> 00:06:08.879 (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) 00:06:08.879 --> 00:06:11.879 "These areas are like those describing what is behind them, 00:06:11.879 --> 00:06:14.879 And informing of what is hidden by them." 00:06:14.879 --> 00:06:17.879 This is one of the best expressions for this meaning. 00:06:17.879 --> 00:06:20.879 And for this purpose, ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) warned— 00:06:20.879 --> 00:06:23.879 In his saying: 00:06:23.879 --> 00:06:26.879 "Beware of wearing Qubti garments, 00:06:26.879 --> 00:06:30.040 For even if they do not show the skin, they describe the shape." 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:33.040 And Ahmad al-Sa‘ati (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:06:33.040 --> 00:06:36.040 "A woman’s garment is either thick— 00:06:36.040 --> 00:06:39.040 Meaning heavy and tight— 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:42.040 Describing the contours of the woman’s body, 00:06:42.040 --> 00:06:45.040 Or it is thin, describing the color of her skin, 00:06:45.040 --> 00:06:48.040 And both are not permissible. 00:06:48.040 --> 00:06:51.040 The requirement is that a woman’s outer garment— 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:54.040 In front of people should be loose and thick, 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:58.930 Not describing body or skin." 00:06:58.930 --> 00:07:01.930 So this woman was not naked in reality, 00:07:02.930 --> 00:07:05.930 But she wore clothes that covered her skin, 00:07:05.930 --> 00:07:08.930 Yet did not hide the size of her body— 00:07:08.930 --> 00:07:11.930 And her charms. 00:07:11.930 --> 00:07:14.930 And that is why, when Abu Zar‘ saw some of these charms, 00:07:14.930 --> 00:07:18.120 He was tempted by her and married her. 00:07:18.120 --> 00:07:21.120 So, will women accept this bitter truth? 00:07:21.120 --> 00:07:24.120 Which is that the corruption of homes— 00:07:24.120 --> 00:07:27.120 Is caused by immodest women, 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:30.120 The clothed yet naked, the seducing and the seduced, 00:07:31.120 --> 00:07:34.120 And not by what Allah has legislated regarding the permissibility of polygyny. 00:07:34.120 --> 00:07:37.149 Why do women remain silent— 00:07:37.149 --> 00:07:40.149 About immodesty and do not denounce the immodest, 00:07:40.149 --> 00:07:43.149 And do not show them the same hostility— 00:07:43.149 --> 00:07:46.149 As they show to one who accepts being a second wife? 00:07:46.149 --> 00:07:49.279 And can a woman, after knowing— 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:52.279 This legal ruling— 00:07:52.279 --> 00:07:55.279 Which is the prohibition of wearing what outlines her body— 00:07:55.279 --> 00:07:58.279 Make this blessed month— 00:07:58.279 --> 00:08:01.279 A starting point to change her clothing in obedience to Allah? 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:04.410 Has the woman realized that a man— 00:08:04.410 --> 00:08:07.410 Is tempted by her body just from its shape, 00:08:07.410 --> 00:08:10.410 Even if he does not see it naked? 00:08:10.410 --> 00:08:13.410 In fact, more than that, 00:08:13.410 --> 00:08:16.410 A man might be tempted by imagining the woman’s form— 00:08:16.410 --> 00:08:19.569 If it is described to him. 00:08:19.569 --> 00:08:22.569 For on the authority of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (may Allah be pleased with him), he said: 00:08:22.569 --> 00:08:25.569 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 00:08:25.569 --> 00:08:28.569 "No woman should associate with another woman, 00:08:28.569 --> 00:08:31.569 Then describe her to her husband as if he were looking at her." 00:08:31.569 --> 00:08:34.570 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 00:08:34.570 --> 00:08:37.700 Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: 00:08:37.700 --> 00:08:40.700 "The wisdom behind this prohibition— 00:08:40.700 --> 00:08:43.700 Is the fear that the husband might be pleased with the description mentioned, 00:08:43.700 --> 00:08:46.700 Which might lead to the divorcing of the one describing, 00:08:46.700 --> 00:08:49.700 Or being tempted by the one described." 00:08:49.700 --> 00:08:54.460 If this is the case with a description, 00:08:55.460 --> 00:08:58.460 Then what will be the state of the man if he sees with his own eyes? 00:08:58.460 --> 00:09:01.679 Second. 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:04.679 Did Abu Zar‘ err in his marriage to this woman— 00:09:04.679 --> 00:09:07.899 Whose charms he saw? 00:09:07.899 --> 00:09:10.899 This story and incident occurred before Islam, 00:09:10.899 --> 00:09:13.899 So it is no wonder that the man’s concern— 00:09:13.899 --> 00:09:16.899 Was the woman’s shape, her beauty, and her attractiveness. 00:09:16.899 --> 00:09:19.899 Even though Abu Zar‘— 00:09:19.899 --> 00:09:22.899 Had other reasons besides the shape, 00:09:22.899 --> 00:09:25.899 Such as the nobility of the children, 00:09:25.899 --> 00:09:28.899 And the woman’s energy and her performance of the tasks assigned to her. 00:09:28.899 --> 00:09:31.970 But the blame lies with the Muslim man— 00:09:31.970 --> 00:09:34.970 Who thinks only of the woman’s shape, 00:09:34.970 --> 00:09:37.970 And her beauty at the expense of her religion— 00:09:37.970 --> 00:09:40.970 And her character. 00:09:40.970 --> 00:09:43.970 Nevertheless, for a man to proceed to marry— 00:09:43.970 --> 00:09:46.970 A woman who has caught his eye— 00:09:46.970 --> 00:09:49.970 Is better than falling into adultery. 00:09:49.970 --> 00:09:52.970 He did not fall into sin when he married this woman, 00:09:52.970 --> 00:09:55.970 Rather, he did himself a favor by preventing himself— 00:09:55.970 --> 00:09:59.100 From falling into adultery. 00:09:59.100 --> 00:10:02.100 The woman caused, in an indirect way, 00:10:02.100 --> 00:10:05.100 His marriage to her. 00:10:05.100 --> 00:10:08.350 But was she the cause of the divorce of Umm Zar‘? 00:10:08.350 --> 00:10:11.350 And the question is for Muslim women today: 00:10:11.350 --> 00:10:14.350 Would a woman be content with her husband— 00:10:14.350 --> 00:10:17.350 Marrying a woman who has caught his eye? 00:10:18.350 --> 00:10:21.350 We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 00:10:21.350 --> 00:10:25.500 And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.