1 00:00:00,180 --> 00:00:08,929 A summary of the concepts held by the Ahl al-Sunnah. 2 00:00:08,929 --> 00:00:10,929 Security of the home and the family. 3 00:00:10,929 --> 00:00:15,919 Islam directs its focus toward spreading peace within the home. 4 00:00:15,919 --> 00:00:19,920 At the same time that it addresses the individual conscience. 5 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:22,920 And to the human society. 6 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:24,920 All of these are interconnected links in a chain. 7 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:27,920 And there is a connection and continuity between them. 8 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,920 And to spread this peace 9 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:32,920 Islam has guaranteed a number of matters. 10 00:00:32,920 --> 00:00:35,920 And he encouraged their presence within the Muslim home. 11 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:37,920 Among these examples is the following. 12 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:38,920 Firstly, 13 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,920 A bond between the spouses is essential. 14 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:43,920 It must be based on mutual consent between them. 15 00:00:43,920 --> 00:00:46,920 And neither of them should be coerced into it. 16 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:48,920 Specifically regarding women 17 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:51,920 And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 18 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,920 A virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is sought. 19 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,920 Nor may a previously married woman be given in marriage until she has been consulted. 20 00:00:57,920 --> 00:00:59,920 It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him." 21 00:00:59,920 --> 00:01:01,920 How, then, is her permission granted? 22 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:02,920 He said 23 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:04,920 When you remain silent 24 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:06,920 It was recorded by al-Bukhari. 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:10,180 And for this contentment to be genuine 26 00:01:10,180 --> 00:01:15,180 It is essential that both parties see one another before the marriage takes place. 27 00:01:15,180 --> 00:01:17,180 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 28 00:01:17,180 --> 00:01:19,180 For al-Mughirah ibn Shu'bah 29 00:01:19,180 --> 00:01:21,180 When he intended to marry 30 00:01:21,180 --> 00:01:23,180 Look at it. 31 00:01:23,180 --> 00:01:26,180 For that is more likely to foster harmony between you. 32 00:01:26,180 --> 00:01:30,180 It was recorded by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nasa'i, and Ahmad. 33 00:01:30,180 --> 00:01:32,180 Al-Albani classified it as authentic. 34 00:01:32,180 --> 00:01:34,400 Secondly, 35 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:38,400 Marriage also necessitates public announcement and the presence of witnesses. 36 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:41,400 It is not done in secret, as if it were a crime. 37 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:44,400 And this is just as it occurs in the case of temporary marriage (mut'ah). 38 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:48,400 It necessarily requires explicit offer and acceptance. 39 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,400 The witnesses shall testify against them. 40 00:01:50,400 --> 00:01:55,400 So that any doubt regarding the reality of this connection is dispelled. 41 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:56,590 Thirdly, 42 00:01:56,590 --> 00:02:01,590 Likewise, in marriage, there must be an intention of permanence, not a temporary arrangement. 43 00:02:01,590 --> 00:02:04,590 So that it does not become a temporary marriage (mut'ah). 44 00:02:04,590 --> 00:02:09,590 The purpose of this is not, if Allah wills, merely a Muslim family or a Muslim household. 45 00:02:09,590 --> 00:02:10,849 Fourthly 46 00:02:10,849 --> 00:02:16,849 Islam emphasizes the concept of tranquility, affection, and mercy between spouses. 47 00:02:16,849 --> 00:02:18,939 Fifthly, 48 00:02:18,939 --> 00:02:23,939 Allah has specifically endowed the man with the right of guardianship so that he may be capable of managing this partnership. 49 00:02:23,939 --> 00:02:26,099 Sixthly 50 00:02:26,099 --> 00:02:31,099 He established the primary role of a woman as the care of her husband’s home. 51 00:02:31,099 --> 00:02:33,139 Seventhly 52 00:02:33,139 --> 00:02:36,139 Islam has prohibited the display of adornment and the intermingling of genders. 53 00:02:36,139 --> 00:02:41,139 So that no discord may arise between any of the men and women. 54 00:02:41,139 --> 00:02:46,139 And among these are the married women or the married men. 55 00:02:46,139 --> 00:02:50,139 When they meet with those they call their work colleagues. 56 00:02:50,139 --> 00:02:53,139 From the opposite gender for each of them. 57 00:02:53,139 --> 00:02:59,139 A man might find that a female colleague of his is dressed up, displaying her beauty, and adorned. 58 00:02:59,139 --> 00:03:05,139 He does not see her in her true, natural state within her home as he sees his wife. 59 00:03:05,139 --> 00:03:08,139 And Allah the Exalted has said regarding women 60 00:03:08,139 --> 00:03:12,139 “And stay in your houses. Bedizen not yourselves with the bedizenment of the Time of Ignorance. Be regular in prayer, and pay the poor-due, and obey Allah and His messenger. Allah's wish is but to remove uncleanness far from you, O Folk of the Household, and cleanse you with a thorough cleansing.” (33:33) 61 00:03:12,139 --> 00:03:14,139 And he commanded them to observe the hijab. 62 00:03:14,139 --> 00:03:18,139 He commanded both men and women to lower their gaze. 63 00:03:18,139 --> 00:03:21,139 In order to prevent discord between them. 64 00:03:21,139 --> 00:03:23,139 Conversely, 65 00:03:23,139 --> 00:03:27,139 It is appropriate for a woman to adorn herself within her home for her husband. 66 00:03:27,139 --> 00:03:29,139 Nor should she neglect her own soul. 67 00:03:29,139 --> 00:03:31,139 In order to protect her husband. 68 00:03:31,139 --> 00:03:34,139 This is so that he does not become averse to it and look elsewhere. 69 00:03:34,139 --> 00:03:37,139 outside the scope of the family that is permitted for him 70 00:03:37,139 --> 00:03:39,550 Eighthly, 71 00:03:39,550 --> 00:03:41,550 The Sacred Law has established sanctity for the home. 72 00:03:41,550 --> 00:03:44,550 And he made seeking permission mandatory before entering them. 73 00:03:44,550 --> 00:03:46,550 Allah the Almighty says: 74 00:03:46,550 --> 00:03:51,550 “O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27) 75 00:03:51,550 --> 00:03:55,550 “O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27) 76 00:03:55,550 --> 00:03:59,550 “O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27) 77 00:03:59,550 --> 00:04:01,740 Ninthly, 78 00:04:01,740 --> 00:04:03,740 He forbade spying on the privacy of homes. 79 00:04:03,740 --> 00:04:07,740 And to gain insight into the hidden flaws contained within them. 80 00:04:07,740 --> 00:04:08,740 Allah the Almighty says: 81 00:04:08,740 --> 00:04:10,740 And do not spy on one another. 82 00:04:10,740 --> 00:04:13,740 And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 83 00:04:13,740 --> 00:04:16,740 Whoever looks into the home of a people without their permission 84 00:04:16,740 --> 00:04:18,740 So they gouged out his eye. 85 00:04:18,740 --> 00:04:20,740 For his eye has been rendered forfeit. 86 00:04:20,740 --> 00:04:22,740 It was recorded by Abu Dawud. 87 00:04:22,740 --> 00:04:24,740 And it was authenticated by al-Albani. 88 00:04:24,740 --> 00:04:26,939 Tenthly, 89 00:04:26,939 --> 00:04:28,939 He commanded the preservation of modesty. 90 00:04:28,939 --> 00:04:30,939 Even among the members of a single family. 91 00:04:30,939 --> 00:04:32,939 Even if they were children. 92 00:04:32,939 --> 00:04:34,939 And he did not make any exception to that. 93 00:04:34,939 --> 00:04:37,939 Except for the spouses in their relationship with one another. 94 00:04:37,939 --> 00:04:40,029 Allah the Almighty says: 95 00:04:40,029 --> 00:04:42,029 O you who have believed 96 00:04:42,029 --> 00:04:45,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 97 00:04:45,029 --> 00:04:50,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 98 00:04:50,029 --> 00:04:52,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 99 00:04:52,029 --> 00:04:56,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 100 00:04:56,029 --> 00:04:59,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 101 00:04:59,029 --> 00:05:01,029 There are three times of privacy for you. 102 00:05:01,029 --> 00:05:06,029 There is no blame upon you, nor upon them, after that. 103 00:05:06,029 --> 00:05:10,029 “O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58) 104 00:05:10,029 --> 00:05:13,029 Thus does Allah make His signs clear to you. 105 00:05:13,029 --> 00:05:16,029 And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise. 106 00:05:16,029 --> 00:05:19,029 “And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask leave even as those before them used to ask it. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:59) 107 00:05:19,029 --> 00:05:24,029 “And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask leave even as those before them used to ask it. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:59) 108 00:05:24,029 --> 00:05:27,029 Thus does Allah make His signs clear to you. 109 00:05:27,029 --> 00:05:30,029 And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise. 110 00:05:30,029 --> 00:05:32,189 The eleventh point. 111 00:05:32,189 --> 00:05:34,189 He commanded justice to be upheld between wives. 112 00:05:34,189 --> 00:05:38,189 So that the wife may live secure from injustice. 113 00:05:38,189 --> 00:05:43,189 Likewise, justice must be maintained between children regarding gifts and other matters. 114 00:05:43,189 --> 00:05:46,189 The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 115 00:05:46,189 --> 00:05:49,189 So fear Allah and act justly among your children. 116 00:05:49,189 --> 00:05:51,189 Agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim. 117 00:05:51,189 --> 00:05:53,290 The twelfth. 118 00:05:53,290 --> 00:05:58,290 Even divorce, which on the surface appears to be a disruption of peace within the family, [is governed by divine wisdom]. 119 00:05:58,290 --> 00:06:01,290 In its true essence, it is security and peace. 120 00:06:01,290 --> 00:06:04,290 When it becomes impossible for spouses to continue living together. 121 00:06:04,290 --> 00:06:09,290 And the children are negatively affected by this strained companionship. 122 00:06:09,290 --> 00:06:14,290 However, a condition for this divorce to be a source of peace and security is that 123 00:06:14,290 --> 00:06:18,290 that he adheres in its execution to the legal rulings. 124 00:06:18,290 --> 00:06:23,290 that it should be the final recourse after attempts at reconciliation between the two parties. 125 00:06:23,290 --> 00:06:29,290 and sending an arbitrator from each side to attempt reconciliation between them. 126 00:06:29,290 --> 00:06:31,290 If he does not find that, then finally 127 00:06:31,290 --> 00:06:33,290 Then divorce becomes unavoidable. 128 00:06:33,290 --> 00:06:37,290 Taking into account what is established between the two parties and their respective families. 129 00:06:37,290 --> 00:06:39,319 The thirteenth 130 00:06:39,319 --> 00:06:45,319 And more important than all of the above for achieving security and safety in the Muslim home 131 00:06:45,319 --> 00:06:50,319 Preserving the security of creed and good morals for family members. 132 00:06:50,319 --> 00:06:56,319 And He commanded them to obey Allah and to guard themselves against the causes of punishment in this world and the Hereafter. 133 00:06:56,319 --> 00:06:58,379 Allah, the Exalted, said: 134 00:06:58,379 --> 00:07:07,379 “O ye who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded.” (66:6)