A summary of the concepts held by the Ahl al-Sunnah.
Security of the home and the family.
Islam directs its focus toward spreading peace within the home.
At the same time that it addresses the individual conscience.
And to the human society.
All of these are interconnected links in a chain.
And there is a connection and continuity between them.
And to spread this peace
Islam has guaranteed a number of matters.
And he encouraged their presence within the Muslim home.
Among these examples is the following.
Firstly,
A bond between the spouses is essential.
It must be based on mutual consent between them.
And neither of them should be coerced into it.
Specifically regarding women
And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
A virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is sought.
Nor may a previously married woman be given in marriage until she has been consulted.
It was said, "O Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him."
How, then, is her permission granted?
He said
When you remain silent
It was recorded by al-Bukhari.
And for this contentment to be genuine
It is essential that both parties see one another before the marriage takes place.
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
For al-Mughirah ibn Shu'bah
When he intended to marry
Look at it.
For that is more likely to foster harmony between you.
It was recorded by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nasa'i, and Ahmad.
Al-Albani classified it as authentic.
Secondly,
Marriage also necessitates public announcement and the presence of witnesses.
It is not done in secret, as if it were a crime.
And this is just as it occurs in the case of temporary marriage (mut'ah).
It necessarily requires explicit offer and acceptance.
The witnesses shall testify against them.
So that any doubt regarding the reality of this connection is dispelled.
Thirdly,
Likewise, in marriage, there must be an intention of permanence, not a temporary arrangement.
So that it does not become a temporary marriage (mut'ah).
The purpose of this is not, if Allah wills, merely a Muslim family or a Muslim household.
Fourthly
Islam emphasizes the concept of tranquility, affection, and mercy between spouses.
Fifthly,
Allah has specifically endowed the man with the right of guardianship so that he may be capable of managing this partnership.
Sixthly
He established the primary role of a woman as the care of her husband’s home.
Seventhly
Islam has prohibited the display of adornment and the intermingling of genders.
So that no discord may arise between any of the men and women.
And among these are the married women or the married men.
When they meet with those they call their work colleagues.
From the opposite gender for each of them.
A man might find that a female colleague of his is dressed up, displaying her beauty, and adorned.
He does not see her in her true, natural state within her home as he sees his wife.
And Allah the Exalted has said regarding women
“And stay in your houses. Bedizen not yourselves with the bedizenment of the Time of Ignorance. Be regular in prayer, and pay the poor-due, and obey Allah and His messenger. Allah's wish is but to remove uncleanness far from you, O Folk of the Household, and cleanse you with a thorough cleansing.” (33:33)
And he commanded them to observe the hijab.
He commanded both men and women to lower their gaze.
In order to prevent discord between them.
Conversely,
It is appropriate for a woman to adorn herself within her home for her husband.
Nor should she neglect her own soul.
In order to protect her husband.
This is so that he does not become averse to it and look elsewhere.
outside the scope of the family that is permitted for him
Eighthly,
The Sacred Law has established sanctity for the home.
And he made seeking permission mandatory before entering them.
Allah the Almighty says:
“O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27)
“O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27)
“O ye who believe! Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. That is better for you, that ye may be heedful.” (24:27)
Ninthly,
He forbade spying on the privacy of homes.
And to gain insight into the hidden flaws contained within them.
Allah the Almighty says:
And do not spy on one another.
And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
Whoever looks into the home of a people without their permission
So they gouged out his eye.
For his eye has been rendered forfeit.
It was recorded by Abu Dawud.
And it was authenticated by al-Albani.
Tenthly,
He commanded the preservation of modesty.
Even among the members of a single family.
Even if they were children.
And he did not make any exception to that.
Except for the spouses in their relationship with one another.
Allah the Almighty says:
O you who have believed
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
There are three times of privacy for you.
There is no blame upon you, nor upon them, after that.
“O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:58)
Thus does Allah make His signs clear to you.
And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.
“And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask leave even as those before them used to ask it. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:59)
“And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask leave even as those before them used to ask it. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.” (24:59)
Thus does Allah make His signs clear to you.
And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.
The eleventh point.
He commanded justice to be upheld between wives.
So that the wife may live secure from injustice.
Likewise, justice must be maintained between children regarding gifts and other matters.
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
So fear Allah and act justly among your children.
Agreed upon by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
The twelfth.
Even divorce, which on the surface appears to be a disruption of peace within the family, [is governed by divine wisdom].
In its true essence, it is security and peace.
When it becomes impossible for spouses to continue living together.
And the children are negatively affected by this strained companionship.
However, a condition for this divorce to be a source of peace and security is that
that he adheres in its execution to the legal rulings.
that it should be the final recourse after attempts at reconciliation between the two parties.
and sending an arbitrator from each side to attempt reconciliation between them.
If he does not find that, then finally
Then divorce becomes unavoidable.
Taking into account what is established between the two parties and their respective families.
The thirteenth
And more important than all of the above for achieving security and safety in the Muslim home
Preserving the security of creed and good morals for family members.
And He commanded them to obey Allah and to guard themselves against the causes of punishment in this world and the Hereafter.
Allah, the Exalted, said:
“O ye who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire whereof the fuel is men and stones, over which are set angels strong, severe, who resist not Allah in that which He commandeth them, but do that which they are commanded.” (66:6)