1 00:00:00,780 --> 00:00:09,779 Riyad al-Salihin from the words of the Master of the Messengers, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. 2 00:00:09,779 --> 00:00:16,539 Chapter: The Prohibition of Being Alone with a Non-Mahram Woman. 3 00:00:16,539 --> 00:00:19,660 Allah the Exalted said: 4 00:00:19,660 --> 00:00:27,850 “O Ye who believe! Enter not the dwellings of the Prophet for a meal without waiting for the proper time, unless permission be granted you. But if ye are invited, enter, and, when your meal is ended, then disperse. Linger not for conversation. Lo! that would cause annoyance to the Prophet, and he would be shy of (asking) you (to go); but Allah is not shy of the truth. And when ye ask of them (the wives of the Prophet) anything, ask it of them from behind a curtain. That is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not for you to cause annoyance to the messenger of Allah, nor that ye should ever marry his wives after him. Lo! that in Allah's sight would be an enormity.” (33:53) 5 00:00:27,850 --> 00:00:33,100 On the authority of 'Uqbah Ibn 'Amir, may Allah be pleased with him: 6 00:00:33,100 --> 00:00:37,100 That the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 7 00:00:37,100 --> 00:00:41,350 "Beware of entering upon women." 8 00:00:41,350 --> 00:00:44,350 A man from the Ansar asked: 9 00:00:44,350 --> 00:00:46,350 "What about the in-law (al-hamu)?" 10 00:00:46,350 --> 00:00:48,350 He replied: 11 00:00:48,350 --> 00:00:50,350 "The in-law is death." 12 00:00:50,350 --> 00:00:52,350 Agreed upon. 13 00:00:52,350 --> 00:00:56,310 The in-law is the husband's relative, 14 00:00:56,310 --> 00:01:00,759 Such as his brother, his brother's son, or his paternal cousin. 15 00:01:00,759 --> 00:01:03,979 "Beware of," meaning: be cautious of. 16 00:01:03,979 --> 00:01:05,980 "Entering upon women." 17 00:01:05,980 --> 00:01:10,980 Meaning: entering upon non-mahram women in a state of seclusion with them. 18 00:01:10,980 --> 00:01:15,170 From the benefits of the hadith: 19 00:01:15,170 --> 00:01:20,170 It is evidence that the husband's relative remains a non-mahram to the wife. 20 00:01:20,170 --> 00:01:26,680 It contains a refutation of anyone who is lax about sitting or being alone with the husband's relative. 21 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:33,129 It clarifies that temptation may come from the husband's relative more than from others. 22 00:01:33,129 --> 00:01:39,129 Because he sits with her, speaks to her, and speaks to her in an alluring manner. 23 00:01:39,129 --> 00:01:44,280 On the authority of Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them both: 24 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:48,280 That the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 25 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:54,439 "No man should be alone with a woman unless a mahram is present." 26 00:01:54,439 --> 00:01:56,439 Agreed upon. 27 00:01:56,439 --> 00:02:00,560 From the benefits of the hadith: 28 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:04,560 It clarifies that the presence of a mahram ends the state of seclusion. 29 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:12,039 It clarifies that it is not forbidden for women to remain with men for a necessity, provided a mahram is present. 30 00:02:12,039 --> 00:02:15,039 On the condition of observing hijab and not being unveiled. 31 00:02:15,039 --> 00:02:19,460 The prohibition of a man being alone with a non-mahram woman. 32 00:02:19,460 --> 00:02:25,460 Because that is one of the causes of corruption and the occurrence of temptation and immorality. 33 00:02:25,460 --> 00:02:30,830 On the authority of Buraydah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 34 00:02:30,830 --> 00:02:34,830 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 35 00:02:34,830 --> 00:02:38,900 "The sanctity of the wives of the mujahidin for those who stay behind 36 00:02:38,900 --> 00:02:41,900 Is like the sanctity of their own mothers." 37 00:02:41,900 --> 00:02:47,990 "There is no man among those who stay behind who takes charge of the family of a mujahid in his absence, 38 00:02:47,990 --> 00:02:49,990 And looks after them, 39 00:02:49,990 --> 00:02:52,990 But he will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection, 40 00:02:52,990 --> 00:02:56,990 And he will take from his good deeds as much as he wishes, 41 00:02:56,990 --> 00:02:58,990 Until he is satisfied." 42 00:02:59,180 --> 00:03:03,180 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, turned to us 43 00:03:03,180 --> 00:03:05,180 And said: 44 00:03:05,180 --> 00:03:07,180 "What do you think?" 45 00:03:07,469 --> 00:03:09,469 Narrated by Muslim. 46 00:03:09,469 --> 00:03:14,300 "Takes charge of the family of a mujahid in his absence," 47 00:03:14,300 --> 00:03:18,300 Meaning: to attend to their needs and look after their affairs. 48 00:03:18,300 --> 00:03:22,069 From the benefits of the hadith: 49 00:03:22,069 --> 00:03:26,300 The prohibition of approaching the wives of the mujahidin with suspicion, 50 00:03:26,300 --> 00:03:30,300 Whether by looking, being alone, or forbidden speech, 51 00:03:30,300 --> 00:03:32,780 Or other than that. 52 00:03:32,780 --> 00:03:36,780 The severity of the prohibition of betraying the mujahidin regarding their wives. 53 00:03:36,780 --> 00:03:42,419 Encouraging the Muslims to practice mutual support, cooperation, and seeking goodness. 54 00:03:42,419 --> 00:03:46,419 And the concern of each of them for the safety of others. 55 00:03:46,419 --> 00:03:52,960 The aggressor against the wives of the mujahidin will be stripped of his good deeds on the Day of Resurrection, 56 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,960 So that he may be among the losers and the destroyed. 57 00:03:56,960 --> 00:04:01,469 The comparison of the sanctity of the wives of the mujahidin for those who stay behind 58 00:04:01,469 --> 00:04:03,469 To the sanctity of their own mothers 59 00:04:03,469 --> 00:04:06,469 Provides many indications. 60 00:04:06,469 --> 00:04:11,469 Among them is that approaching a mahram with suspicion or committing adultery with them 61 00:04:11,469 --> 00:04:14,469 Is a multiplied crime. 62 00:04:14,469 --> 00:04:18,470 And it is known that the prescribed punishment for adultery with mahrams is death. 63 00:04:18,470 --> 00:04:20,790 It is the custom of the wise 64 00:04:20,790 --> 00:04:26,790 That they do not think of their mothers except with kindness and dutifulness. 65 00:04:26,790 --> 00:04:31,790 And that is what is required of the one who stays behind regarding the wives of the mujahidin. 66 00:04:31,790 --> 00:04:37,399 The crime of adultery varies according to the woman with whom it is committed. 67 00:04:37,399 --> 00:04:41,399 Adultery with the wife of a neighbor is more severe than with others, 68 00:04:41,399 --> 00:04:46,399 And adultery with the wives of the mujahidin is more grievous than adultery with others, 69 00:04:46,399 --> 00:04:50,399 To the point that it is likened to adultery with mahrams. 70 00:04:50,399 --> 00:04:55,399 We seek refuge in Allah from temptations and evil deeds and morals. 71 00:04:55,399 --> 00:05:02,629 Chapter: The Prohibition of Men Imitating Women, 72 00:05:02,629 --> 00:05:09,629 And women imitating men in dress, movement, and other things. 73 00:05:09,629 --> 00:05:15,040 On the authority of Ibn 'Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: 74 00:05:25,199 --> 00:05:26,199 And in another narration: 75 00:05:35,230 --> 00:05:39,420 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 76 00:05:40,420 --> 00:05:45,509 "Al-mukhannathin" (the effeminate men) is the plural of "mukhannath," 77 00:05:45,509 --> 00:05:51,509 And he is the one who imitates the nature of women in his movements, dress, and words. 78 00:05:51,509 --> 00:05:55,860 "Al-mutarajjilat" (the masculine women) is the plural of "mutarajjilah," 79 00:05:55,860 --> 00:06:01,860 And she is the woman who imitates men in their movements and dress. 80 00:06:01,860 --> 00:06:06,889 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 81 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:19,050 "And the woman who wears the clothing of a man." Narrated by Abu Dawud. 82 00:06:19,050 --> 00:06:23,199 From the benefits of the hadith: 83 00:06:23,199 --> 00:06:29,649 The permissibility of cursing men who imitate women and vice versa. 84 00:06:29,649 --> 00:06:33,060 The mukhannath or the mutarajjilah 85 00:06:33,060 --> 00:06:37,060 Objects to the nature upon which Allah created him/her, 86 00:06:37,060 --> 00:06:41,060 And attempts to depart from it, and this is forbidden. 87 00:06:41,060 --> 00:06:46,509 The prohibition of men imitating women and vice versa. 88 00:06:46,509 --> 00:06:51,699 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 89 00:06:51,699 --> 00:06:55,699 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 90 00:06:55,699 --> 00:06:59,699 "Two types of the people of Hellfire I have not yet seen: 91 00:06:59,699 --> 00:07:03,889 A people with whips like the tails of cattle, 92 00:07:03,889 --> 00:07:06,889 With which they strike the people, 93 00:07:06,889 --> 00:07:09,889 And women who are clothed yet naked, 94 00:07:09,889 --> 00:07:12,889 Seducing and seduced, 95 00:07:12,889 --> 00:07:15,889 Their heads like the swaying humps of camels. 96 00:07:15,889 --> 00:07:19,889 They will not enter Paradise, nor will they smell its fragrance, 97 00:07:19,889 --> 00:07:24,920 Even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a distance." 98 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:27,050 Narrated by Muslim. 99 00:07:27,050 --> 00:07:31,459 "Clothed" means: with the blessings of Allah, 100 00:07:31,459 --> 00:07:34,459 "Naked" means: devoid of gratitude for them. 101 00:07:34,459 --> 00:07:36,589 And it is said it means: 102 00:07:36,589 --> 00:07:39,589 She covers part of her body and exposes part, 103 00:07:39,589 --> 00:07:42,589 To display her beauty and the like. 104 00:07:42,589 --> 00:07:44,720 And it is said: 105 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:48,720 She wears a thin garment that describes the color of her body. 106 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:50,910 And "ma'ilat" (seduced/inclined) means: 107 00:07:50,910 --> 00:07:53,910 It is said: inclined away from the obedience of Allah the Exalted, 108 00:07:53,910 --> 00:07:56,910 And what they are required to preserve. 109 00:07:56,910 --> 00:07:57,980 "Mumilat" (seducing) means: 110 00:07:57,980 --> 00:08:01,980 They teach others their blameworthy actions. 111 00:08:01,980 --> 00:08:03,980 And it is said: 112 00:08:03,980 --> 00:08:06,980 "Ma'ilat" (inclined) means they walk with a strut, 113 00:08:06,980 --> 00:08:09,980 Swaying their shoulders. 114 00:08:09,980 --> 00:08:11,009 And it is said: 115 00:08:11,009 --> 00:08:15,009 "Ma'ilat" means they style their hair in the 'ma'ilah' style, 116 00:08:15,009 --> 00:08:18,009 Which is the hairstyle of prostitutes. 117 00:08:18,009 --> 00:08:20,009 And "mumilat" means: 118 00:08:20,009 --> 00:08:23,009 They style the hair of others in that manner. 119 00:08:23,009 --> 00:08:26,199 "Their heads like the humps of camels" 120 00:08:26,199 --> 00:08:29,199 Means they make them large and prominent 121 00:08:29,199 --> 00:08:33,200 By wrapping a turban, a headband, or the like. 122 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:37,350 From the benefits of the hadith: 123 00:08:37,350 --> 00:08:42,350 This hadith is one of the proofs of his prophethood, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 124 00:08:42,350 --> 00:08:45,350 And that he does not speak out of desire. 125 00:08:45,350 --> 00:08:50,350 For what the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, foretold has come to pass, 126 00:08:50,350 --> 00:08:53,350 And it was not present in his time, 127 00:08:53,350 --> 00:08:56,350 But we have seen it with our own eyes. 128 00:08:56,350 --> 00:08:59,990 The prohibition of tight and transparent clothing 129 00:08:59,990 --> 00:09:04,470 That describes or outlines the 'awrah. 130 00:09:04,470 --> 00:09:08,950 The prohibition of helping oppressors in their oppression. 131 00:09:08,950 --> 00:09:11,950 The mention of these two types together 132 00:09:11,950 --> 00:09:14,950 Is evidence of their correlation in reality. 133 00:09:14,950 --> 00:09:17,950 For the women who are clothed yet naked, 134 00:09:17,950 --> 00:09:20,950 The seducing and the seduced, 135 00:09:20,950 --> 00:09:23,950 Are the snares for the men who hold whips in their hands, 136 00:09:23,950 --> 00:09:27,370 Striking the people. 137 00:09:27,370 --> 00:09:31,370 A warning that these two types are among the people of Hellfire, 138 00:09:31,370 --> 00:09:37,600 May Allah protect us. 139 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:41,600 Chapter: The Prohibition of Imitating the Devil and the Disbelievers. 140 00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:45,779 On the authority of Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 141 00:09:45,779 --> 00:09:49,779 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 142 00:09:49,779 --> 00:09:51,779 "Do not eat with your left hand, 143 00:09:51,779 --> 00:09:55,779 For the devil eats and drinks with his left hand." 144 00:09:55,779 --> 00:09:59,009 Narrated by Muslim. 145 00:09:59,009 --> 00:10:01,840 From the benefits of the hadith: 146 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:04,100 The recommendation of eating with the right hand, 147 00:10:04,100 --> 00:10:06,100 And likewise drinking. 148 00:10:06,100 --> 00:10:09,100 And the dislike of doing both with the left hand. 149 00:10:09,100 --> 00:10:11,580 That the devil has hands, 150 00:10:11,580 --> 00:10:14,580 And that he eats and drinks. 151 00:10:14,580 --> 00:10:16,929 The recommendation of starting with the right side, 152 00:10:16,929 --> 00:10:19,929 In opposition to the devil. 153 00:10:19,929 --> 00:10:23,950 On the authority of Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both: 154 00:10:23,950 --> 00:10:27,950 That the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 155 00:10:27,950 --> 00:10:30,980 "None of you should eat with his left hand, 156 00:10:30,980 --> 00:10:33,980 Nor drink with it, 157 00:10:33,980 --> 00:10:36,980 For the devil eats with his left hand, 158 00:10:36,980 --> 00:10:38,980 And drinks with it." 159 00:10:38,980 --> 00:10:41,139 Narrated by Muslim. 160 00:10:41,139 --> 00:10:44,690 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him: 161 00:10:44,690 --> 00:10:48,690 That the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 162 00:10:48,690 --> 00:10:52,690 "Indeed, the Jews and the Christians do not dye their hair, 163 00:10:52,690 --> 00:10:54,690 So oppose them." 164 00:10:54,690 --> 00:10:56,820 Agreed upon. 165 00:10:56,820 --> 00:10:59,070 The intent is: 166 00:10:59,070 --> 00:11:03,070 Dyeing the white hair of the beard and head with yellow or red. 167 00:11:03,070 --> 00:11:06,070 As for black, it is forbidden, 168 00:11:06,070 --> 00:11:11,070 As we will mention in the chapter following this, if Allah the Exalted wills. 169 00:11:11,070 --> 00:11:13,779 From the benefits of the hadith: 170 00:11:15,100 --> 00:11:20,100 The encouragement to oppose the People of the Book in their customs and actions, 171 00:11:20,100 --> 00:11:24,580 And this is one of the objectives of the Prophetic mission. 172 00:11:24,580 --> 00:11:27,580 The recommendation of dyeing hair. 173 00:11:27,580 --> 00:11:35,649 Chapter: The Prohibition for Men and Women to Dye Their Hair Black. 174 00:11:35,649 --> 00:11:40,830 On the authority of Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 175 00:11:40,830 --> 00:11:42,899 Abu Quhafah was brought, 176 00:11:42,899 --> 00:11:46,899 The father of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq, may Allah be pleased with them both, 177 00:11:46,899 --> 00:11:48,899 On the day of the conquest of Makkah, 178 00:11:48,899 --> 00:11:52,899 And his head and beard were as white as the thughamah plant. 179 00:11:52,899 --> 00:11:56,960 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 180 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:58,960 "Change this, 181 00:11:58,960 --> 00:12:00,960 And avoid black." 182 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,090 Narrated by Muslim. 183 00:12:03,090 --> 00:12:06,049 "Al-thughamah" is: 184 00:12:06,049 --> 00:12:09,049 A plant with white flowers and fruit. 185 00:12:09,049 --> 00:12:12,049 It is likened to the whiteness of gray hair. 186 00:12:12,049 --> 00:12:14,980 From the benefits of the hadith: 187 00:12:16,100 --> 00:12:20,549 The recommendation of dyeing, even for the elderly. 188 00:12:20,549 --> 00:12:24,029 The prohibition of dyeing with the color black. 189 00:12:24,029 --> 00:12:32,009 Dyeing with black is permitted in war to intimidate the enemy. 190 00:12:32,009 --> 00:12:34,009 Chapter: The Prohibition of al-Qaza'. 191 00:12:34,009 --> 00:12:37,009 Which is shaving part of the head and leaving part. 192 00:12:37,009 --> 00:12:42,009 And the permissibility of shaving the whole head for men, but not for women. 193 00:12:42,009 --> 00:12:47,320 On the authority of Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: 194 00:12:47,320 --> 00:12:52,320 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, forbade al-qaza'. 195 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,480 Agreed upon. 196 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,600 From the benefits of the hadith: 197 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:01,600 The prohibition of shaving a section of the head, 198 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:03,600 And leaving a section. 199 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:08,720 On the authority of Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said: 200 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:12,720 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, saw a young boy 201 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:15,720 who had shaved part of his head 202 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:17,779 and left another part unshaved. 203 00:13:17,779 --> 00:13:20,779 He forbade them from doing that and said, 204 00:13:20,779 --> 00:13:22,779 "Shave it all, 205 00:13:22,779 --> 00:13:24,779 or leave it all." 206 00:13:24,779 --> 00:13:28,100 Narrated by Abu Dawud. 207 00:13:28,100 --> 00:13:32,100 On the authority of ‘Abdullah Ibn Ja‘far, may Allah be pleased with them both, 208 00:13:32,100 --> 00:13:35,100 that the Prophet, peace be upon him, 209 00:13:35,100 --> 00:13:39,100 granted the family of Ja‘far, may Allah be pleased with him, a period of three days [to mourn]. 210 00:13:39,100 --> 00:13:42,100 Then he came to them and said, 211 00:13:42,100 --> 00:13:46,139 "Do not weep for my brother after today." 212 00:13:46,139 --> 00:13:48,139 Then he said, 213 00:13:48,139 --> 00:13:50,139 "Bring my brother’s sons to me." 214 00:13:50,139 --> 00:13:53,139 So they were brought to him, looking like young birds. 215 00:13:53,139 --> 00:13:55,139 He then said, 216 00:13:55,139 --> 00:13:57,139 "Call the barber for me." 217 00:13:57,139 --> 00:13:59,139 He commanded him, 218 00:13:59,139 --> 00:14:01,419 and he shaved our heads. 219 00:14:01,419 --> 00:14:05,509 Narrated by Abu Dawud. 220 00:14:05,509 --> 00:14:08,509 "Afrukh" is the plural of "farkh," 221 00:14:08,509 --> 00:14:10,509 which refers to a young bird. 222 00:14:10,509 --> 00:14:14,820 Among the benefits of the hadith: 223 00:14:14,820 --> 00:14:17,820 Weeping for the deceased during the time of the Messenger, 224 00:14:17,820 --> 00:14:19,820 peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 225 00:14:19,820 --> 00:14:22,299 without wailing, is permissible. 226 00:14:22,299 --> 00:14:25,299 It is not permitted to exceed the period of weeping 227 00:14:25,299 --> 00:14:27,850 beyond three nights. 228 00:14:27,850 --> 00:14:29,850 Shaving the head 229 00:14:29,850 --> 00:14:32,850 signifies the removal of grief and an expression of optimism. 230 00:14:33,259 --> 00:14:36,259 The encouragement to provide for the orphan 231 00:14:36,259 --> 00:14:39,419 and to be kind to him. 232 00:14:39,419 --> 00:14:42,419 On the authority of ‘Ali, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 233 00:14:42,419 --> 00:14:46,419 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, forbade 234 00:14:46,419 --> 00:14:49,539 a woman from shaving her head. 235 00:14:49,539 --> 00:14:51,539 Narrated by Al-Nasa'i. 236 00:14:51,539 --> 00:14:55,730 Among the benefits of the hadith: 237 00:14:55,730 --> 00:14:57,730 The practice among the people of knowledge 238 00:14:57,730 --> 00:15:00,730 is that they do not consider it permissible for a woman to shave her head; 239 00:15:00,730 --> 00:15:05,269 rather, they hold that she should only trim it during Hajj and ‘Umrah. 240 00:15:05,269 --> 00:15:10,269 A woman shaving her head as an act of wailing or mourning for the dead 241 00:15:10,269 --> 00:15:12,269 is an additional act of disobedience, 242 00:15:12,269 --> 00:15:15,399 and the prohibition against that has been authentically established. 243 00:15:15,399 --> 00:15:19,399 Riyad al-Salihin.