1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:10,939 Our mother ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 2 00:00:10,939 --> 00:00:12,830 “O ‘Aishah, 3 00:00:12,830 --> 00:00:15,109 pray in the Hijr, 4 00:00:15,109 --> 00:00:20,620 for it is a part of the House [the Ka‘bah].” 5 00:00:20,620 --> 00:00:25,179 When we speak of the beauty of human interaction, 6 00:00:25,179 --> 00:00:32,060 we are unable to fully describe the beauty of the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) treatment of his wives, 7 00:00:32,060 --> 00:00:35,659 especially ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 8 00:00:35,859 --> 00:00:39,579 Jabir ibn ‘Abdullah, may Allah be pleased with him, describes 9 00:00:39,579 --> 00:00:42,859 the character of the Prophet (peace be upon him) 10 00:00:42,859 --> 00:00:46,219 and his way of interacting with ‘Aishah, 11 00:00:46,219 --> 00:00:47,579 saying: 12 00:00:47,579 --> 00:00:52,659 “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was an easygoing man; 13 00:00:52,659 --> 00:00:56,179 if his family desired something, he would follow their lead.” 14 00:00:56,179 --> 00:00:58,189 Narrated by Muslim. 15 00:00:58,189 --> 00:01:03,189 This is how a man should be with the women of his household— 16 00:01:03,189 --> 00:01:06,469 his wives, daughters, and sisters: 17 00:01:06,469 --> 00:01:09,709 easygoing, accommodating his family in their desires, 18 00:01:09,709 --> 00:01:11,750 provided it does not involve sin. 19 00:01:11,750 --> 00:01:15,379 This is part of good companionship with women. 20 00:01:15,379 --> 00:01:20,260 This character is required at all times when dealing with women, 21 00:01:20,260 --> 00:01:23,500 but it is even more necessary during travel, 22 00:01:23,500 --> 00:01:28,939 so that the hardship of travel is not compounded by the harshness of the man. 23 00:01:28,980 --> 00:01:32,859 Among the examples of the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) treatment 24 00:01:32,859 --> 00:01:35,659 of ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 25 00:01:35,659 --> 00:01:38,019 is what occurred for her while she was in Makkah 26 00:01:38,019 --> 00:01:41,060 with the Prophet (peace be upon him), 27 00:01:41,060 --> 00:01:44,620 regarding her desire to pray inside the Ka‘bah. 28 00:01:44,620 --> 00:01:47,900 How did the Prophet (peace be upon him) deal 29 00:01:47,900 --> 00:01:50,500 with this desire? 30 00:01:50,500 --> 00:01:53,519 ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, says: 31 00:01:53,519 --> 00:01:57,420 “I loved to enter the House and pray therein.” 32 00:01:57,420 --> 00:02:01,340 So the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) took me by the hand, 33 00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:03,060 brought me into the Hijr, 34 00:02:03,459 --> 00:02:04,180 and said: 35 00:02:04,659 --> 00:02:05,780 “O ‘Aishah, 36 00:02:06,420 --> 00:02:08,780 when your people built the Ka‘bah, 37 00:02:09,180 --> 00:02:10,139 they fell short of funds, 38 00:02:10,659 --> 00:02:12,419 so they left the Hijr out of the House. 39 00:02:13,229 --> 00:02:16,990 If you wish to pray in the House, pray in the Hijr, 40 00:02:17,590 --> 00:02:19,949 for it is a part of the House.” 41 00:02:20,750 --> 00:02:22,189 Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah. 42 00:02:22,909 --> 00:02:26,189 ‘Aishah’s desire was to pray inside the Ka‘bah, 43 00:02:26,669 --> 00:02:30,949 as the Prophet (peace be upon him) and some of the Companions had done. 44 00:02:31,710 --> 00:02:35,750 She expressed this desire to the Prophet (peace be upon him), 45 00:02:36,389 --> 00:02:39,509 and he did not object to her wish nor forbid her; 46 00:02:40,030 --> 00:02:42,189 rather, he strove to fulfill it for her, 47 00:02:42,750 --> 00:02:45,789 even if not in the exact manner she had requested. 48 00:02:46,580 --> 00:02:53,219 The Prophet (peace be upon him) explained to ‘Aishah why he would do what he did to fulfill her wish, 49 00:02:53,699 --> 00:02:57,180 so that she would understand why he did not provide the exact form she wanted. 50 00:02:57,819 --> 00:02:58,780 He said to her: 51 00:02:59,419 --> 00:03:00,419 “O ‘Aishah, 52 00:03:01,060 --> 00:03:03,219 when your people built the Ka‘bah, 53 00:03:03,620 --> 00:03:04,580 they fell short of funds, 54 00:03:05,060 --> 00:03:06,780 so they left the Hijr out of the House.” 55 00:03:07,539 --> 00:03:11,939 This justification and clarification is very important in dealing with one’s wife, 56 00:03:12,460 --> 00:03:16,219 so that she does not interpret the husband’s actions in the worst possible light, 57 00:03:16,860 --> 00:03:20,860 and so that it does not open a door for the devil to whisper evil to her. 58 00:03:21,860 --> 00:03:27,699 Then, the Prophet (peace be upon him) guided her on how to pray inside the Ka‘bah, 59 00:03:28,379 --> 00:03:29,379 saying to her: 60 00:03:30,219 --> 00:03:32,500 “If you wish to pray in the House, 61 00:03:32,979 --> 00:03:34,300 pray in the Hijr, 62 00:03:34,860 --> 00:03:37,139 for it is a part of the House.” 63 00:03:38,219 --> 00:03:42,740 In this, there is a great opening for the Ummah, which is deprived of entering the Ka‘bah, 64 00:03:43,379 --> 00:03:47,379 to pray inside it by way of praying in the Hijr, 65 00:03:47,900 --> 00:03:49,620 at any time they wish. 66 00:03:50,580 --> 00:03:53,099 The Prophet (peace be upon him) 67 00:03:53,580 --> 00:03:56,500 did not prevent ‘Aishah from fulfilling her desire 68 00:03:56,979 --> 00:03:59,500 by excusing himself that the House was closed, 69 00:04:00,060 --> 00:04:04,979 or that she could not enter it, especially at the time she requested. 70 00:04:05,740 --> 00:04:10,699 Instead, he sought to find a legitimate solution that would fulfill her desire. 71 00:04:11,569 --> 00:04:12,610 This event 72 00:04:13,169 --> 00:04:19,050 was utilized by ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, to engage the Prophet (peace be upon him) in dialogue 73 00:04:19,649 --> 00:04:24,009 to learn more details about the story of the building of the Sacred House. 74 00:04:24,569 --> 00:04:25,329 She said: 75 00:04:25,889 --> 00:04:29,569 “I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) about the wall [the Hijr]: 76 00:04:29,930 --> 00:04:31,290 Is it part of the House?” 77 00:04:31,769 --> 00:04:32,649 He said, “Yes.” 78 00:04:33,329 --> 00:04:33,810 I said, 79 00:04:34,250 --> 00:04:36,569 “Why then did they not include it in the House?” 80 00:04:37,250 --> 00:04:37,810 He said, 81 00:04:38,290 --> 00:04:41,009 “Your people ran short of funds.” 82 00:04:41,730 --> 00:04:42,250 I said, 83 00:04:42,769 --> 00:04:45,089 “And what is the matter with its door being raised?” 84 00:04:45,769 --> 00:04:46,329 He said, 85 00:04:46,970 --> 00:04:51,730 “Your people did that so they could let in whom they wished and keep out whom they wished. 86 00:04:52,370 --> 00:04:55,889 Were it not that your people are newly removed from the Age of Ignorance, 87 00:04:56,490 --> 00:05:00,370 I would have feared that their hearts might reject my including the wall in the House, 88 00:05:01,009 --> 00:05:03,170 and my lowering its door to the ground.” 89 00:05:03,930 --> 00:05:05,329 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 90 00:05:06,379 --> 00:05:10,420 This style of dialogue used by ‘Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 91 00:05:10,980 --> 00:05:14,860 is what enabled her to acquire knowledge and excel in it. 92 00:05:15,579 --> 00:05:21,899 The Prophet (peace be upon him) told her about the details of the building of the House during the days of Quraysh, 93 00:05:22,420 --> 00:05:25,019 and the reason they built it in that manner. 94 00:05:25,819 --> 00:05:31,060 He explained, first, that the House was not built entirely upon the foundations of Ibrahim, 95 00:05:31,779 --> 00:05:34,379 but that it was shortened on the side of the Hijr. 96 00:05:35,209 --> 00:05:36,569 The reason for this reduction 97 00:05:37,170 --> 00:05:41,250 was that Quraysh at that time did not possess enough lawful wealth— 98 00:05:41,689 --> 00:05:44,449 wealth not mixed with usury or gambling— 99 00:05:44,930 --> 00:05:48,610 to build the House upon the foundations of Ibrahim. 100 00:05:49,370 --> 00:05:52,329 This means that, despite their associating partners with Allah, 101 00:05:52,810 --> 00:05:57,290 they held the Sacred House in such high regard that they would not serve it with unlawful wealth 102 00:05:57,810 --> 00:06:00,050 gained from usury or otherwise. 103 00:06:00,730 --> 00:06:05,370 And because Quraysh was in control of the Sacred House at that time, 104 00:06:06,089 --> 00:06:09,850 they changed the structure of the Ka‘bah and reduced its size. 105 00:06:10,449 --> 00:06:15,449 The Arabs as a whole could not object to Quraysh at that time. 106 00:06:16,230 --> 00:06:20,389 Then, when ‘Aishah asked about the secret of the House being raised above the ground, 107 00:06:21,170 --> 00:06:24,649 the Prophet (peace be upon him) explained the reason to her: 108 00:06:25,370 --> 00:06:29,529 it was that Quraysh wanted to control who entered the House, 109 00:06:30,209 --> 00:06:33,930 so that people could not enter it except with their permission. 110 00:06:34,569 --> 00:06:41,810 This control was not intended to protect the House from tyrants and the arrogant, 111 00:06:42,529 --> 00:06:47,610 but rather it was intended merely for control and oppression of the general public. 112 00:06:48,370 --> 00:06:52,730 They would open it for whom they wished, even if they were the most wicked of people, 113 00:06:53,329 --> 00:06:57,490 and they would bar whom they wished, even if they were the most pious of people. 114 00:06:58,129 --> 00:07:00,009 They continued this practice 115 00:07:00,490 --> 00:07:03,730 until it became established among the people that this was the right way, 116 00:07:04,290 --> 00:07:06,490 and that anything else was wrong. 117 00:07:07,310 --> 00:07:14,430 Therefore, the Prophet (peace be upon him) refrained from rebuilding the House on the foundations of Ibrahim, 118 00:07:14,949 --> 00:07:17,230 from lowering the door of the House to the ground, 119 00:07:17,750 --> 00:07:19,910 and from giving the House two doors— 120 00:07:20,389 --> 00:07:23,389 an eastern door and a western door— 121 00:07:23,990 --> 00:07:27,870 so that people could enter through one and exit through the other, 122 00:07:28,589 --> 00:07:32,149 because the people’s hearts were imbued with the incorrect image 123 00:07:32,589 --> 00:07:38,310 that Quraysh had created by their distortion of the structure of the Sacred House. 124 00:07:39,110 --> 00:07:42,990 Allah made the Sacred House a standing place for all people, 125 00:07:43,269 --> 00:07:44,550 not for Quraysh, 126 00:07:45,069 --> 00:07:48,069 but Quraysh was dominant over the Arabs, 127 00:07:48,629 --> 00:07:52,310 imposing upon them whatever legislation they desired according to their whims, 128 00:07:52,790 --> 00:07:56,269 in order to allow them to visit the Sacred Mosque. 129 00:07:57,029 --> 00:08:01,709 This wish that the Prophet (peace be upon him) had 130 00:08:02,189 --> 00:08:09,470 we would not have known about had Allah not inspired ‘Aishah to dialogue with the Prophet (peace be upon him), 131 00:08:09,910 --> 00:08:11,189 causing him to express it, 132 00:08:11,670 --> 00:08:14,149 upon which many rulings are built, 133 00:08:14,670 --> 00:08:19,389 which you will find mentioned extensively in the scholars’ commentaries on the hadith. 134 00:08:20,399 --> 00:08:22,920 May Allah be pleased with our mother ‘Aishah, 135 00:08:23,399 --> 00:08:27,040 who, through her desire to pray inside the House, 136 00:08:27,639 --> 00:08:30,720 caused a door to be opened for Muslims throughout the ages, 137 00:08:31,279 --> 00:08:34,639 through which they are able to pray inside the Ka‘bah, 138 00:08:35,279 --> 00:08:38,960 even if the laws of Quraysh had remained until the Day of Resurrection. 139 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:43,840 This is part of the blessing of ‘Aishah and the family of Abu Bakr upon the Ummah. 140 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:48,600 We ask Allah to grant us love for her and love for the family of Abu Bakr, 141 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:53,919 and to grant us a visit to the Sacred House, safe and secure. 142 00:08:54,860 --> 00:08:57,940 We shall continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 143 00:08:57,940 --> 00:09:01,100 And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.