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In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.

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The story of Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran.

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Peace be upon her.

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The pristine history of Maryam.

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Before judging individuals upon hearing shocking news about them,

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we need to know their history,

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and compare it with the shocking report we have heard.

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This methodology

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has been explained to us by our Lord, glory be to Him, in detail in Surah al-Nur,

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in the verses regarding the exoneration of ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.

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However, in the story of Maryam, the matter is quite different.

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Maryam, peace be upon her, came to them carrying a child on her shoulder,

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while she was unmarried.

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This was not a report they heard from others;

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rather, it was an event they witnessed with their own eyes.

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Therefore, her people denounced this action, which appeared in such a light,

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and of which one could only think ill.

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So they said to her:

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“Then she brought him to her own folk, carrying him. They said: O Mary! Thou hast come with an amazing thing.” (19:27)

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“O sister of Aaron! Thy father was not a wicked man nor was thy mother a harlot.” (19:28)

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The history of Maryam, peace be upon her,

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testifies to a virtuous path in life,

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which did not align with what they saw before them.

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For this reason, they denounced this action of hers with the utmost severity,

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and reminded her of the righteous path of her family in this life.

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Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Regarding His saying:

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“O sister of Aaron! Thy father was not a wicked man nor was thy mother a harlot.” (19:28)

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He says:

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"Your father was not a man of evil who committed indecencies,"

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“O sister of Aaron! Thy father was not a wicked man nor was thy mother a harlot.” (19:28)

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He says:

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"And your mother was not an unchaste woman."

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Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Meaning, you are from a good, pure household,

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known for righteousness, worship, and asceticism.

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So how could this have come from you?

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Al-Sa‘di, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Your parents were nothing but righteous and safe from evil,

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especially this evil to which they are referring.

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Their intent was:

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How could you be contrary to their description,

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and bring forth that which they did not?

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For offspring, in most cases, follow one another,

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in righteousness or its opposite.

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Thus, they were astonished, according to what was in their hearts,

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as to how this occurred from her.

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Al-Tahir Ibn ‘Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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They intended to condemn her,

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yet they spoke words that were explicitly a praise of her parents,

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implying that her nature should have been like theirs.

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Thus, the people of Maryam, peace be upon her,

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were pointing out several meanings to her with these words.

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First:

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That you are from a righteous house;

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your father was not known for evil,

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nor your mother for unchastity.

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So from where did you acquire this heinous act?

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This is a merit for the houses of the righteous and a praise for them,

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in that they are a righteous incubator where only righteousness grows.

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Just as it is a warning that the corruption of offspring raised in the homes of the righteous

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only comes from an external cause,

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or from an external environment,

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such as bad companions and the like.

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Second:

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They are saying to her:

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You are from a righteous house,

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so it does not befit you to contradict their good conduct,

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because in contradicting it, there is harm to them,

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and this is not part of being dutiful to them.

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Third:

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The people of Maryam, peace be upon her, used

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this method of severe denunciation and explicit rebuke

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with the goal of censuring her,

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so that she would not continue on the path they suspected her of.

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Maryam, peace be upon her—and far be it from her—was not the evil they suspected.

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But they did not know, even at that moment,

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any other interpretation for what they saw from her.

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In this is a warning to every young woman:

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that a person’s actions have implications,

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many of which are agreed upon by the general public in society.

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So do not demand that society interpret your actions differently from what people have agreed upon.

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Rather, it is your duty to be cautious in your actions,

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for people only see the outward appearance of your deeds.

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As for the inner states, none knows them except Allah, exalted be He in His majesty.

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It has come in a hadith of Ibn ‘Abbas, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said:

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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

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"If I were to stone anyone without clear proof, I would have stoned so-and-so,"

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for suspicion had appeared in her speech and her demeanor,

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and in those who visited her.

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Narrated by Ibn Majah.

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The hadith indicates, firstly:

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That a young woman’s speech indicates her moral level.

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If it contains what indicates poor character,

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people will think evil of her.

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Included in her "speech"

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is everything she writes or speaks on social media today.

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Secondly:

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That a young woman’s demeanor, likewise,

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indicates the level of her modesty and shyness.

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So a young woman should not blame people if they attack her modesty

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when she goes out displaying her beauty (tabarruj),

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and wears what violates modesty.

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Included in this

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is what a young woman publishes of her own photos,

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or photos of others that she approves of,

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and places on her profile on social media.

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For all these actions signal what is circulating in her soul and what she desires,

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even if she does not act upon it.

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Thirdly:

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That whoever visits a young woman who is not her mahram (unmarriageable kin),

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and she mixes with him or is in seclusion with him,

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indicates the level of her chastity.

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Her seclusion with a young man who is a stranger to her in the field of study or work,

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her mixing with him, riding in a car with him,

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or sitting with him in private places like a café and others,

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all of this drives people to think ill of her,

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as they have no interpretation for such actions

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other than evil suspicion.

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The outward appearance of your action might be different from its inner reality,

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and here you are required to clarify so that people do not think ill of you.

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You have a good example in the action of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,

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in the incident with Safiyyah, Mother of the Believers, may Allah be pleased with her, with him at night.

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For ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn reported

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that Safiyyah bint Huyayy, the wife of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, informed him

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that she came to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, to visit him

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while he was in i‘tikaf (seclusion) in the mosque

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during the last ten nights of Ramadan.

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She spoke with him for a while after the night prayer,

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then she stood up to return.

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The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, stood up with her to escort her back.

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When they reached the door of the mosque,

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which was by the dwelling of Umm Salamah, the wife of the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,

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two men from the Ansar passed by them.

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They greeted the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and then hurried on.

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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said to them:

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"Slow down,

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it is only Safiyyah bint Huyayy."

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They said:

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"Subhan Allah, O Messenger of Allah!"

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And it was heavy upon them that he said that.

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He said:

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"Indeed, the devil flows through the son of Adam like blood,

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and I feared that he might cast evil into your hearts."

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Narrated by al-Bukhari.

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This incident indicates that the time was in the darkness of the night,

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and the scene indicates that the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,

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was standing with a woman.

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So the situation was suspicious.

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And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, explained to us

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that such suspicious situations are exploited by the devil

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to cast evil into the heart of the one looking at the situation.

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This is the habit of the devil.

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The remedy for this is to remove suspicion with a clear explanation.

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This great principle

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was mentioned in the hadith of Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqas, may Allah be pleased with him,

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from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, who said:

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"And beware of that for which one must apologize."

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Narrated by al-Tabarani.

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Meaning, do not commit an act for which you need to apologize.

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Some of the wise said:

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"Beware of that for which one must apologize,

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and that which one is ashamed to mention,

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for one only apologizes for a sin,

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and one is only ashamed of what is indecent."

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The life of Maryam, peace be upon her, before this situation

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all points to her righteousness and the honor Allah bestowed upon her.

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So the occurrence of this situation, contrary to her pristine history,

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was the cause of the severe denunciation from her people.

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So how did Maryam, peace be upon her, face that?

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We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills.

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And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.