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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

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The story of Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran.

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Peace be upon her.

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Maryam, the chaste and pure.

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Allah, the Almighty, praised Maryam in His Book.

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And described her with chastity and purity.

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For He, the Exalted, said:

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“And she who was chaste, therefor We breathed into her (something) of Our Spirit and made her and her son a token for (all) peoples.” (21:91)

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"And We made her and her son a sign for the worlds."

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And the Almighty said:

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"And Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran, who guarded her chastity."

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“And Mary, daughter of 'Imran, whose body was chaste, therefor We breathed therein something of Our Spirit. And she put faith in the words of her Lord and His scriptures, and was of the obedient.” (66:12)

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“And Mary, daughter of 'Imran, whose body was chaste, therefor We breathed therein something of Our Spirit. And she put faith in the words of her Lord and His scriptures, and was of the obedient.” (66:12)

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And the Exalted said:

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“And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42)

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“And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42)

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“And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42)

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Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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By His words "guarded her chastity," He means she protected it.

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She withheld her private parts from what Allah had forbidden her to permit.

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Meaning, she guarded it from suspicion and prevented it from immorality.

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Al-Sa‘di, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Meaning, she protected and guarded it from indecency.

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Due to the perfection of her religious commitment, chastity, and integrity.

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Al-Tahir ibn ‘Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"Ihsan" (guarding) means to make something a fortress.

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Meaning, it cannot be accessed.

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And the meaning of "she guarded her chastity" is that she withheld herself from men.

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Indeed, chastity is one of the greatest virtues of a young woman.

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It is the preservation of one’s honor.

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From being tarnished in any way, shape, or form.

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And in the story of Maryam, peace be upon her,

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There are indications of practical means

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That help every young woman to preserve her chastity.

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The first of these means

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Is occupying oneself with worship during youth.

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For whoever grows up doing something will grow old doing it.

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And Maryam, peace be upon her,

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Occupied herself from the beginning of her youth

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With worship and obedience.

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Which created within her a sense of intimacy with Allah.

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And a heart preoccupied with His remembrance.

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And whoever has a heart preoccupied with Allah,

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Rises above base morals

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And behaviors that tarnish her honor.

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And she distances herself from places that incite desires and instincts.

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And whoever has tasted the sweetness of intimacy with Allah

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Does not seek intimacy with others

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Through social media platforms.

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The second means:

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Distancing oneself from excessive mixing with people.

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The Almighty says, praising the action of Maryam, peace be upon her:

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“And make mention of Mary in the Scripture, when she had withdrawn from her people to a chamber looking East,” (19:16)

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Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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The Almighty says, addressing His Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him:

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"And mention, O Muhammad, in the Book of Allah which He revealed to you with the truth,"

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"Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran,"

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"When she withdrew from her family and isolated herself from them."

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And Abu Zahra, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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The meaning is that she withdrew from people and cast them aside.

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And isolated herself for the worship of Allah alone.

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Finding intimacy with none but Him.

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And letting nothing fill her heart but His remembrance.

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And Maryam’s withdrawal from people granted her life in her heart.

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And devotion to the worship of Allah.

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And distancing from excessive idle talk and speech that is of no benefit.

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That is why the Arabs of old used to designate a place for a young woman when she reached maturity,

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Where she would withdraw from people.

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And her mixing with them would decrease.

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So that her modesty would grow and increase.

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Until she became the standard for modesty.

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And her modesty was made a benchmark among people.

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To the point that the Companions said, describing the modesty of the Prophet, peace be upon him:

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"The Prophet, peace be upon him, was more modest than a virgin in her private quarters."

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Narrated by al-Bukhari.

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Thus, the chaste young woman

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Preserves her chastity by maintaining the great wall surrounding it,

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Which is modesty.

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If a part of it is demolished,

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Chastity is affected to the extent of what has fallen from the wall of modesty.

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The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

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"Indeed, among the words of the early prophecy that people have grasped is:"

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"If you have no shame, then do as you wish."

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Narrated by al-Bukhari.

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And a girl’s modesty today in mixed study environments,

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And mixed workplaces,

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And her boldness in jostling with men,

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Weakens the wall of modesty surrounding her chastity.

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So whoever fears for her modesty

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Should do as the two righteous young women did.

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The Almighty said:

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"And when he arrived at the well of Madyan,"

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“And when he came unto the water of Midian he found there a whole tribe of men, watering. And he found apart from them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What aileth you? The two said: We cannot give (our flocks) to drink till the shepherds return from the water; and our father is a very old man.” (28:23)

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"He found there a crowd of people watering, and he found aside from them two women driving back their flocks."

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"He said, 'What is your situation?'"

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"They said, 'We do not water until the shepherds drive back their flocks.'"

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"'And our father is an old man.'"

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The first distinguishing sign of the two young women

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Is that they did not jostle with men while watering.

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Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Meaning, when he reached Madyan and arrived at its water,

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There was a well that the shepherds of the people frequented.

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“And when he came unto the water of Midian he found there a whole tribe of men, watering. And he found apart from them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What aileth you? The two said: We cannot give (our flocks) to drink till the shepherds return from the water; and our father is a very old man.” (28:23)

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Meaning, a group watering their flocks.

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"And he found aside from them two women driving back their flocks."

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Meaning, they were holding back their sheep from approaching with the sheep of those shepherds.

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So that they would not be harmed.

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When Musa, peace be upon him, saw them,

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He felt compassion for them and had mercy on them.

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"He said, 'What is your situation?'"

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Meaning, what is your story that you do not water with these people?

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"They said, 'We do not water until the shepherds drive back their flocks.'"

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Meaning, we cannot water until these people have finished.

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"And our father is an old man."

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Meaning, this is the situation that forces us to do what you see.

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And a girl’s involvement today in mixed social media groups,

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And following famous men on social media,

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Leaves its mark on her heart and her modesty.

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The third means:

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Concealment (Hijab/Veiling).

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Maryam, peace be upon her, was keen on concealment in her life.

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She designated a special place for her worship.

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And she screened it with a veil that hid her from people.

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The Almighty said:

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“And make mention of Mary in the Scripture, when she had withdrawn from her people to a chamber looking East,” (19:16)

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“And had chosen seclusion from them. Then We sent unto her Our Spirit and it assumed for her the likeness of a perfect man.” (19:17)

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Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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He says:

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"She took, apart from her family, a screen to conceal herself from them and from the people."

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And Ibn ‘Atiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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She took it to conceal herself from people for her worship.

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And Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Meaning, she veiled herself from them and withdrew.

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Concealment

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Is the greatest wall surrounding the wall of modesty and chastity.

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Which, if it is breached,

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Modesty is breached along with it immediately.

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And it weakens to the extent that the wall of concealment in a girl’s life is affected.

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And if Maryam, peace be upon her, veiled herself from the eyes of people in general

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In order to protect her heart from showing off,

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And seeking people’s attention in her worship,

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Then she likewise veiled herself from every man for whom it is not lawful to look at her.

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And she who veils herself with a hijab that prevents her family from seeing her

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While she is in her place praying, remembering Allah, and worshipping Him,

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Is more entitled to cover her body if she leaves her sanctuary for any reason whatsoever.

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Indeed, the chaste young woman

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Knows the first steps of her chastity from her clothing, which indicates the level of her modesty.

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And from the way she walks and behaves in public roads.

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The Almighty said:

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“Then there came unto him one of the two women, walking shyly. She said: Lo! my father biddeth thee, that he may reward thee with a payment for that thou didst water (the flock) for us. Then, when he came unto him and told him the (whole) story, he said: Fear not! Thou hast escaped from the wrongdoing folk.” (28:25)

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Al-Tahir ibn ‘Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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The meaning is that she was modest in her walk.

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Meaning, she walks without strutting, swaying, or displaying adornment.

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And a girl will not succeed in achieving this means

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Except by complying with two great hadiths.

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The first:

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On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

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The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said:

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"There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen:"

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"People with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people,"

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"And women who are clothed yet naked,"

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"Seduced and seducing,"

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"Their heads like the tilted humps of camels,"

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"They will not enter Paradise,"

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"Nor will they find its fragrance,"

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"Even though its fragrance can be found from such and such a distance."

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Narrated by Muslim.

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And the second:

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On the authority of Usamah ibn Zayd, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

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The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, clothed me

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In a thick Coptic garment.

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It was among what Dihyah al-Kalbi had gifted him.

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So I clothed my wife with it.

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Then the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said to me:

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"Why did you not wear the Coptic garment?"

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I said, "O Messenger of Allah,"

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"I clothed my wife with it."

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Then the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said to me:

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"Tell her to wear an undergarment beneath it,"

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"For I fear that it might describe the shape of her bones."

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Narrated by Ahmad.

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And I hope that every young woman who hopes for what is with Allah and the Hereafter

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Will reflect upon these two hadiths.

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And understand their meaning clearly.

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Then look at her clothing and herself.

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And the extent of her distance from what is mentioned in the two hadiths.

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The fourth means:

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Being sensitive to the approach of men toward her.

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Maryam, peace be upon her, was in her sanctuary worshipping,

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When the angel entered upon her in the form of a man.

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So she was alarmed.

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And her reaction was evidence of the perfection of her chastity.

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The Almighty said:

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"Then We sent to her Our Spirit,"

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“And had chosen seclusion from them. Then We sent unto her Our Spirit and it assumed for her the likeness of a perfect man.” (19:17)

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“She said: Lo! I seek refuge in the Beneficent One from thee, if thou art Allah-fearing.” (19:18)

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Ibn Jarir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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The Almighty says:

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Maryam feared our messenger,

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When he appeared to her as a well-proportioned man.

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And she thought he was a man who wanted her for himself.

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Indeed, the chaste woman does not get physically close to men.

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And if a man were to approach her physically,

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She would become alert and gather herself so that he would not touch her.

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Indeed, this feeling,

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And this sensitivity to the approach of men toward a woman,

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Is evidence of her chastity.

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And this sensitivity to the physical approach of men

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Transfers to their emotional approach.

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For when a chaste woman feels that a man who is not a mahram is communicating with her via social media,

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Without necessity or need,

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She must be sensitive to that.

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As for opening the door for young women

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to sit with men at the same table in public and private spheres,

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for any of the reasons that people use as excuses today,

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it is the beginning of deviation and the breaking down of the barriers that preserve chastity.

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For modesty is demolished,

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and shame is extinguished,

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and purity is compromised,

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and the heart becomes corrupted,

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and worship becomes a mere form without a soul.

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So whoever takes Maryam, peace be upon her, as a role model,

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let her review these means of chastity in her life.

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We shall continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills.

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And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.