WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.759 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 00:00:03.759 --> 00:00:07.860 The story of Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran. 00:00:07.860 --> 00:00:10.419 Peace be upon her. 00:00:10.419 --> 00:00:19.980 Maryam, the chaste and pure. 00:00:19.980 --> 00:00:23.699 Allah, the Almighty, praised Maryam in His Book. 00:00:23.699 --> 00:00:26.539 And described her with chastity and purity. 00:00:26.539 --> 00:00:28.539 For He, the Exalted, said: 00:00:28.539 --> 00:00:33.729 “And she who was chaste, therefor We breathed into her (something) of Our Spirit and made her and her son a token for (all) peoples.” (21:91) 00:00:33.929 --> 00:00:38.549 "And We made her and her son a sign for the worlds." 00:00:38.549 --> 00:00:40.710 And the Almighty said: 00:00:40.710 --> 00:00:44.789 "And Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran, who guarded her chastity." 00:00:44.789 --> 00:00:47.590 “And Mary, daughter of 'Imran, whose body was chaste, therefor We breathed therein something of Our Spirit. And she put faith in the words of her Lord and His scriptures, and was of the obedient.” (66:12) 00:00:47.590 --> 00:00:53.630 “And Mary, daughter of 'Imran, whose body was chaste, therefor We breathed therein something of Our Spirit. And she put faith in the words of her Lord and His scriptures, and was of the obedient.” (66:12) 00:00:53.630 --> 00:00:55.759 And the Exalted said: 00:00:55.759 --> 00:01:00.439 “And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42) 00:01:00.439 --> 00:01:04.040 “And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42) 00:01:04.040 --> 00:01:10.870 “And when the angels said: O Mary! Lo! Allah hath chosen thee and made thee pure, and hath preferred thee above (all) the women of creation.” (3:42) 00:01:10.870 --> 00:01:14.150 Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:01:14.150 --> 00:01:18.269 By His words "guarded her chastity," He means she protected it. 00:01:18.269 --> 00:01:23.670 She withheld her private parts from what Allah had forbidden her to permit. 00:01:23.670 --> 00:01:29.030 Meaning, she guarded it from suspicion and prevented it from immorality. 00:01:29.189 --> 00:01:31.829 Al-Sa‘di, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:01:31.829 --> 00:01:35.109 Meaning, she protected and guarded it from indecency. 00:01:35.109 --> 00:01:39.469 Due to the perfection of her religious commitment, chastity, and integrity. 00:01:39.469 --> 00:01:42.790 Al-Tahir ibn ‘Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:01:42.790 --> 00:01:46.590 "Ihsan" (guarding) means to make something a fortress. 00:01:46.590 --> 00:01:48.750 Meaning, it cannot be accessed. 00:01:48.750 --> 00:01:53.310 And the meaning of "she guarded her chastity" is that she withheld herself from men. 00:01:53.310 --> 00:01:56.709 Indeed, chastity is one of the greatest virtues of a young woman. 00:01:56.750 --> 00:01:58.950 It is the preservation of one’s honor. 00:01:58.950 --> 00:02:03.019 From being tarnished in any way, shape, or form. 00:02:03.019 --> 00:02:05.739 And in the story of Maryam, peace be upon her, 00:02:05.739 --> 00:02:08.340 There are indications of practical means 00:02:08.340 --> 00:02:13.280 That help every young woman to preserve her chastity. 00:02:13.280 --> 00:02:15.719 The first of these means 00:02:15.719 --> 00:02:19.560 Is occupying oneself with worship during youth. 00:02:19.560 --> 00:02:23.150 For whoever grows up doing something will grow old doing it. 00:02:23.150 --> 00:02:25.229 And Maryam, peace be upon her, 00:02:25.270 --> 00:02:28.110 Occupied herself from the beginning of her youth 00:02:28.110 --> 00:02:30.229 With worship and obedience. 00:02:30.229 --> 00:02:33.270 Which created within her a sense of intimacy with Allah. 00:02:33.270 --> 00:02:36.099 And a heart preoccupied with His remembrance. 00:02:36.099 --> 00:02:38.659 And whoever has a heart preoccupied with Allah, 00:02:38.659 --> 00:02:41.180 Rises above base morals 00:02:41.180 --> 00:02:44.699 And behaviors that tarnish her honor. 00:02:44.699 --> 00:02:49.419 And she distances herself from places that incite desires and instincts. 00:02:49.419 --> 00:02:52.219 And whoever has tasted the sweetness of intimacy with Allah 00:02:52.219 --> 00:02:54.419 Does not seek intimacy with others 00:02:54.419 --> 00:02:58.389 Through social media platforms. 00:02:58.389 --> 00:03:00.550 The second means: 00:03:00.550 --> 00:03:04.430 Distancing oneself from excessive mixing with people. 00:03:04.430 --> 00:03:08.909 The Almighty says, praising the action of Maryam, peace be upon her: 00:03:08.909 --> 00:03:15.860 “And make mention of Mary in the Scripture, when she had withdrawn from her people to a chamber looking East,” (19:16) 00:03:15.860 --> 00:03:19.219 Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:03:19.219 --> 00:03:25.129 The Almighty says, addressing His Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him: 00:03:25.129 --> 00:03:30.370 "And mention, O Muhammad, in the Book of Allah which He revealed to you with the truth," 00:03:30.370 --> 00:03:32.449 "Maryam, daughter of ‘Imran," 00:03:32.449 --> 00:03:36.449 "When she withdrew from her family and isolated herself from them." 00:03:36.449 --> 00:03:39.330 And Abu Zahra, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:03:39.330 --> 00:03:43.370 The meaning is that she withdrew from people and cast them aside. 00:03:43.370 --> 00:03:46.370 And isolated herself for the worship of Allah alone. 00:03:46.370 --> 00:03:48.409 Finding intimacy with none but Him. 00:03:48.449 --> 00:03:52.360 And letting nothing fill her heart but His remembrance. 00:03:52.360 --> 00:03:57.800 And Maryam’s withdrawal from people granted her life in her heart. 00:03:57.800 --> 00:04:00.439 And devotion to the worship of Allah. 00:04:00.439 --> 00:04:05.360 And distancing from excessive idle talk and speech that is of no benefit. 00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:11.319 That is why the Arabs of old used to designate a place for a young woman when she reached maturity, 00:04:11.319 --> 00:04:13.400 Where she would withdraw from people. 00:04:13.400 --> 00:04:15.800 And her mixing with them would decrease. 00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:19.079 So that her modesty would grow and increase. 00:04:19.079 --> 00:04:22.279 Until she became the standard for modesty. 00:04:22.279 --> 00:04:26.000 And her modesty was made a benchmark among people. 00:04:26.000 --> 00:04:31.759 To the point that the Companions said, describing the modesty of the Prophet, peace be upon him: 00:04:31.759 --> 00:04:38.800 "The Prophet, peace be upon him, was more modest than a virgin in her private quarters." 00:04:38.800 --> 00:04:41.180 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 00:04:41.180 --> 00:04:43.180 Thus, the chaste young woman 00:04:43.180 --> 00:04:48.660 Preserves her chastity by maintaining the great wall surrounding it, 00:04:48.660 --> 00:04:50.180 Which is modesty. 00:04:50.180 --> 00:04:52.740 If a part of it is demolished, 00:04:52.740 --> 00:04:57.860 Chastity is affected to the extent of what has fallen from the wall of modesty. 00:04:57.860 --> 00:05:00.740 The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: 00:05:00.740 --> 00:05:05.500 "Indeed, among the words of the early prophecy that people have grasped is:" 00:05:05.500 --> 00:05:08.899 "If you have no shame, then do as you wish." 00:05:08.899 --> 00:05:11.089 Narrated by al-Bukhari. 00:05:11.129 --> 00:05:15.649 And a girl’s modesty today in mixed study environments, 00:05:15.649 --> 00:05:17.810 And mixed workplaces, 00:05:17.810 --> 00:05:21.009 And her boldness in jostling with men, 00:05:21.009 --> 00:05:25.519 Weakens the wall of modesty surrounding her chastity. 00:05:25.519 --> 00:05:28.120 So whoever fears for her modesty 00:05:28.120 --> 00:05:31.920 Should do as the two righteous young women did. 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:33.720 The Almighty said: 00:05:33.720 --> 00:05:38.319 "And when he arrived at the well of Madyan," 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:46.120 “And when he came unto the water of Midian he found there a whole tribe of men, watering. And he found apart from them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What aileth you? The two said: We cannot give (our flocks) to drink till the shepherds return from the water; and our father is a very old man.” (28:23) 00:05:46.120 --> 00:05:51.839 "He found there a crowd of people watering, and he found aside from them two women driving back their flocks." 00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:54.639 "He said, 'What is your situation?'" 00:05:54.639 --> 00:06:01.959 "They said, 'We do not water until the shepherds drive back their flocks.'" 00:06:01.959 --> 00:06:07.139 "'And our father is an old man.'" 00:06:07.180 --> 00:06:10.579 The first distinguishing sign of the two young women 00:06:10.579 --> 00:06:14.829 Is that they did not jostle with men while watering. 00:06:14.829 --> 00:06:17.629 Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:06:17.629 --> 00:06:21.870 Meaning, when he reached Madyan and arrived at its water, 00:06:21.870 --> 00:06:25.750 There was a well that the shepherds of the people frequented. 00:06:25.750 --> 00:06:30.269 “And when he came unto the water of Midian he found there a whole tribe of men, watering. And he found apart from them two women keeping back (their flocks). He said: What aileth you? The two said: We cannot give (our flocks) to drink till the shepherds return from the water; and our father is a very old man.” (28:23) 00:06:30.269 --> 00:06:32.750 Meaning, a group watering their flocks. 00:06:32.750 --> 00:06:36.829 "And he found aside from them two women driving back their flocks." 00:06:36.870 --> 00:06:41.910 Meaning, they were holding back their sheep from approaching with the sheep of those shepherds. 00:06:41.910 --> 00:06:44.220 So that they would not be harmed. 00:06:44.220 --> 00:06:47.339 When Musa, peace be upon him, saw them, 00:06:47.339 --> 00:06:50.139 He felt compassion for them and had mercy on them. 00:06:50.139 --> 00:06:52.339 "He said, 'What is your situation?'" 00:06:52.339 --> 00:06:56.769 Meaning, what is your story that you do not water with these people? 00:06:56.769 --> 00:07:00.930 "They said, 'We do not water until the shepherds drive back their flocks.'" 00:07:00.930 --> 00:07:06.009 Meaning, we cannot water until these people have finished. 00:07:06.009 --> 00:07:09.009 "And our father is an old man." 00:07:09.009 --> 00:07:14.550 Meaning, this is the situation that forces us to do what you see. 00:07:14.550 --> 00:07:19.149 And a girl’s involvement today in mixed social media groups, 00:07:19.149 --> 00:07:23.550 And following famous men on social media, 00:07:23.550 --> 00:07:28.139 Leaves its mark on her heart and her modesty. 00:07:28.139 --> 00:07:30.220 The third means: 00:07:30.220 --> 00:07:31.810 Concealment (Hijab/Veiling). 00:07:31.810 --> 00:07:36.290 Maryam, peace be upon her, was keen on concealment in her life. 00:07:36.290 --> 00:07:40.610 She designated a special place for her worship. 00:07:40.610 --> 00:07:44.649 And she screened it with a veil that hid her from people. 00:07:44.649 --> 00:07:46.490 The Almighty said: 00:07:46.490 --> 00:07:53.490 “And make mention of Mary in the Scripture, when she had withdrawn from her people to a chamber looking East,” (19:16) 00:07:53.490 --> 00:07:57.339 “And had chosen seclusion from them. Then We sent unto her Our Spirit and it assumed for her the likeness of a perfect man.” (19:17) 00:07:57.339 --> 00:08:00.620 Ibn Jarir al-Tabari, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:08:00.620 --> 00:08:02.019 He says: 00:08:02.019 --> 00:08:07.819 "She took, apart from her family, a screen to conceal herself from them and from the people." 00:08:07.819 --> 00:08:10.620 And Ibn ‘Atiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:08:10.620 --> 00:08:15.850 She took it to conceal herself from people for her worship. 00:08:15.850 --> 00:08:18.850 And Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:08:18.850 --> 00:08:22.079 Meaning, she veiled herself from them and withdrew. 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:23.480 Concealment 00:08:23.480 --> 00:08:27.879 Is the greatest wall surrounding the wall of modesty and chastity. 00:08:27.879 --> 00:08:29.680 Which, if it is breached, 00:08:29.680 --> 00:08:32.879 Modesty is breached along with it immediately. 00:08:32.879 --> 00:08:38.669 And it weakens to the extent that the wall of concealment in a girl’s life is affected. 00:08:38.669 --> 00:08:44.669 And if Maryam, peace be upon her, veiled herself from the eyes of people in general 00:08:44.669 --> 00:08:48.070 In order to protect her heart from showing off, 00:08:48.070 --> 00:08:51.070 And seeking people’s attention in her worship, 00:08:51.070 --> 00:08:57.940 Then she likewise veiled herself from every man for whom it is not lawful to look at her. 00:08:57.940 --> 00:09:02.940 And she who veils herself with a hijab that prevents her family from seeing her 00:09:02.940 --> 00:09:08.139 While she is in her place praying, remembering Allah, and worshipping Him, 00:09:08.139 --> 00:09:15.700 Is more entitled to cover her body if she leaves her sanctuary for any reason whatsoever. 00:09:15.700 --> 00:09:17.700 Indeed, the chaste young woman 00:09:17.700 --> 00:09:24.100 Knows the first steps of her chastity from her clothing, which indicates the level of her modesty. 00:09:24.100 --> 00:09:29.100 And from the way she walks and behaves in public roads. 00:09:29.100 --> 00:09:30.899 The Almighty said: 00:09:30.899 --> 00:09:35.220 “Then there came unto him one of the two women, walking shyly. She said: Lo! my father biddeth thee, that he may reward thee with a payment for that thou didst water (the flock) for us. Then, when he came unto him and told him the (whole) story, he said: Fear not! Thou hast escaped from the wrongdoing folk.” (28:25) 00:09:35.220 --> 00:09:38.419 Al-Tahir ibn ‘Ashur, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:09:38.419 --> 00:09:43.220 The meaning is that she was modest in her walk. 00:09:43.220 --> 00:09:49.750 Meaning, she walks without strutting, swaying, or displaying adornment. 00:09:49.750 --> 00:09:53.549 And a girl will not succeed in achieving this means 00:09:53.549 --> 00:09:57.549 Except by complying with two great hadiths. 00:09:57.549 --> 00:09:59.649 The first: 00:09:59.649 --> 00:10:02.649 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:10:02.649 --> 00:10:06.649 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said: 00:10:06.649 --> 00:10:10.649 "There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen:" 00:10:10.649 --> 00:10:16.649 "People with whips like the tails of cattle, with which they strike the people," 00:10:16.649 --> 00:10:19.649 "And women who are clothed yet naked," 00:10:19.649 --> 00:10:21.649 "Seduced and seducing," 00:10:21.649 --> 00:10:25.649 "Their heads like the tilted humps of camels," 00:10:25.649 --> 00:10:27.649 "They will not enter Paradise," 00:10:27.649 --> 00:10:29.649 "Nor will they find its fragrance," 00:10:29.649 --> 00:10:34.649 "Even though its fragrance can be found from such and such a distance." 00:10:34.649 --> 00:10:36.870 Narrated by Muslim. 00:10:36.870 --> 00:10:37.870 And the second: 00:10:37.870 --> 00:10:42.870 On the authority of Usamah ibn Zayd, may Allah be pleased with him, who said: 00:10:42.870 --> 00:10:45.870 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, clothed me 00:10:45.870 --> 00:10:47.870 In a thick Coptic garment. 00:10:47.870 --> 00:10:51.870 It was among what Dihyah al-Kalbi had gifted him. 00:10:51.870 --> 00:10:53.870 So I clothed my wife with it. 00:10:53.870 --> 00:10:57.870 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said to me: 00:10:57.870 --> 00:11:00.870 "Why did you not wear the Coptic garment?" 00:11:00.870 --> 00:11:02.870 I said, "O Messenger of Allah," 00:11:02.870 --> 00:11:04.870 "I clothed my wife with it." 00:11:04.870 --> 00:11:08.870 Then the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said to me: 00:11:08.870 --> 00:11:12.870 "Tell her to wear an undergarment beneath it," 00:11:12.870 --> 00:11:16.870 "For I fear that it might describe the shape of her bones." 00:11:16.870 --> 00:11:18.970 Narrated by Ahmad. 00:11:18.970 --> 00:11:24.970 And I hope that every young woman who hopes for what is with Allah and the Hereafter 00:11:24.970 --> 00:11:27.970 Will reflect upon these two hadiths. 00:11:27.970 --> 00:11:30.970 And understand their meaning clearly. 00:11:30.970 --> 00:11:33.970 Then look at her clothing and herself. 00:11:33.970 --> 00:11:37.970 And the extent of her distance from what is mentioned in the two hadiths. 00:11:37.970 --> 00:11:40.320 The fourth means: 00:11:40.320 --> 00:11:44.450 Being sensitive to the approach of men toward her. 00:11:44.450 --> 00:11:49.610 Maryam, peace be upon her, was in her sanctuary worshipping, 00:11:49.610 --> 00:11:52.610 When the angel entered upon her in the form of a man. 00:11:52.610 --> 00:11:54.610 So she was alarmed. 00:11:54.610 --> 00:11:59.669 And her reaction was evidence of the perfection of her chastity. 00:11:59.669 --> 00:12:01.740 The Almighty said: 00:12:01.740 --> 00:12:05.740 "Then We sent to her Our Spirit," 00:12:05.740 --> 00:12:10.740 “And had chosen seclusion from them. Then We sent unto her Our Spirit and it assumed for her the likeness of a perfect man.” (19:17) 00:12:10.740 --> 00:12:20.740 “She said: Lo! I seek refuge in the Beneficent One from thee, if thou art Allah-fearing.” (19:18) 00:12:20.740 --> 00:12:24.279 Ibn Jarir, may Allah have mercy on him, said: 00:12:24.279 --> 00:12:26.279 The Almighty says: 00:12:26.279 --> 00:12:29.279 Maryam feared our messenger, 00:12:29.279 --> 00:12:32.279 When he appeared to her as a well-proportioned man. 00:12:32.279 --> 00:12:36.279 And she thought he was a man who wanted her for himself. 00:12:36.279 --> 00:12:41.539 Indeed, the chaste woman does not get physically close to men. 00:12:41.539 --> 00:12:44.539 And if a man were to approach her physically, 00:12:44.539 --> 00:12:49.539 She would become alert and gather herself so that he would not touch her. 00:12:49.539 --> 00:12:51.600 Indeed, this feeling, 00:12:51.600 --> 00:12:55.600 And this sensitivity to the approach of men toward a woman, 00:12:55.600 --> 00:12:57.600 Is evidence of her chastity. 00:12:57.600 --> 00:13:02.730 And this sensitivity to the physical approach of men 00:13:02.730 --> 00:13:05.730 Transfers to their emotional approach. 00:13:05.730 --> 00:13:13.730 For when a chaste woman feels that a man who is not a mahram is communicating with her via social media, 00:13:13.730 --> 00:13:16.730 Without necessity or need, 00:13:16.730 --> 00:13:19.730 She must be sensitive to that. 00:13:19.730 --> 00:13:22.730 As for opening the door for young women 00:13:22.730 --> 00:13:28.730 to sit with men at the same table in public and private spheres, 00:13:28.730 --> 00:13:33.730 for any of the reasons that people use as excuses today, 00:13:33.730 --> 00:13:39.730 it is the beginning of deviation and the breaking down of the barriers that preserve chastity. 00:13:39.730 --> 00:13:41.730 For modesty is demolished, 00:13:41.730 --> 00:13:43.730 and shame is extinguished, 00:13:43.730 --> 00:13:45.730 and purity is compromised, 00:13:45.730 --> 00:13:47.730 and the heart becomes corrupted, 00:13:47.730 --> 00:13:51.889 and worship becomes a mere form without a soul. 00:13:51.889 --> 00:13:54.889 So whoever takes Maryam, peace be upon her, as a role model, 00:13:54.889 --> 00:14:00.049 let her review these means of chastity in her life. 00:14:00.049 --> 00:14:03.049 We shall continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills. 00:14:03.049 --> 00:14:06.049 And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.