In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
My husband had sloppy camel meat
After the women sat down, we pledged to be honest when talking about his wives
And not to hide anything
She said the first
My husband had the meat of a sickly camel on top of a mountain
It is not easy to rise
Not fat, so it moves
This wife slanders her husband with several ugly qualities
She likens it to rotten camel meat
And he is corrupt
Placed on top of the mountain
The mountain is rugged
Who would covet lean, rotten meat?
Hard to reach
Moving it from its place is not worth the effort that goes into it
Because he is weak and corrupt
Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few
Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain
It can only be achieved through hardship
Lack of goodness means stinginess
It is a reprehensible trait in men especially
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
This woman described her husband as stingy and lacking in goodness
And he is far from achieving his goodness even though he is few
Such as lean or spoiled meat
He who abstains from it will not seek it
So what if it is at the top of a difficult and rugged mountain?
Or run over by sand
It is not possible to walk in it
It is only achieved through hardship
Stinginess is a very reprehensible trait among people
The miserly person withholds his money from those who deserve it or are obligated to them
The one who is most harmed by miserliness is the wife
Because the miserly person deprives her of her right to maintenance
It is a continuing harm as long as it remains his responsibility
Therefore, Bishr bin Al-Harith Al-Hafi, may God have mercy on him, said
Do not marry a miser or deal with someone
This is valuable advice from a great scholar
For every woman about to get married
Do not agree to the miser
The miserly person has no friend except money
A miser is not fit to be a wife
Nor is he to lead people
It was mentioned in the hadith of Jabir bin Abdullah, may God be pleased with them both, that he said:
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Who is your master, Banu Salamah?
We told Jad bin Qays that we would be stingy with him
He said: What disease is more painful than miserliness?
Rather, your master Omar bin Al-Jamouh
Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He did not accept that a stingy man should lead people
He described stinginess as the most fatal disease to human morals
Al-Mawardi, may God have mercy on him, said
It may be caused by miserliness and reprehensible morals
Even if it is an excuse for every blame
Four morals
Not to mention slander
It is greed and greed
And bad suspicion
And denying rights
Then he said, may God have mercy on him
As for denying rights
The miser's soul does not allow separation from its beloved
Do not be led to abandon what you want
Do not submit to the truth
And do not answer fairly
If the stingy person turns to what we have described of these reprehensible morals
And mean things
There was nothing good left for him to hope for
No good is expected
The miser is of little intelligence
Bad management
Deprived of the good of the world
Shortness of breath
He hates guests
He hates sitting with people
Weak in faith
He has a bad opinion of his Lord
He combined reprehensible qualities
Born from miserliness
This is one of the characteristics that the first woman referred to in her words
My husband had sloppy camel meat
On top of a mountain
It is not easy to rise
Not fat, so it moves
Some scholars have understood other characteristics that this woman refers to in this eloquent description
Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said
It describes his lack of goodness and his distance with the few
Like something in the distance of a difficult mountain
It can only be achieved through hardship
I said
The meaning of distance in this
That you described him as having bad character
And to raise himself up and go with it as a wanderer and arrogant
You want him despite his lack of goodness and nobility
He is arrogant towards the clan
Where are you next to him?
It is combined to prevent expulsion
Harm and bad behavior
He is fine and arrogant towards people
This is a very big scourge
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said about it
Whoever has it in his heart will not enter Paradise
An atom's weight of arrogance
A man said
A man likes his clothes to be nice and his shoes to be nice
He said
God is beautiful and loves beauty
Old age
Slandering the truth and turning a blind eye to people
Narrated by Muslim
It is strange about this hadith
The man asked the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
From a description that is never stingy
It is taking care of their clothes, their appearance and their smell
Goodness is the one who combines miserliness and arrogance
One of the worst people
No benefit from his money
Nor by accompanying people
Because he despises and despises them
This is arrogance
He deprived himself of the bliss of this world and the bliss of the afterlife
He tortured himself in this world
By despising people, he tortures her in the afterlife
It is beautiful to say how to describe the psychology of this benevolent and arrogant husband
What Al-Suyuti, may God have mercy on him, reported on the authority of Al-Shadhri in his reflection on this hadith
Where he said
The first
It is the arrogant soul
Denied expense
Whose delusion overcame the will of a people
So they came unjustly and falsely
And they were arrogant in themselves
They were very cruel
These are the most difficult souls to lead
And the farthest presence
The greatest of them is stubbornness
And the most repulsive
The uprising of the people of the state and the feathers
She indulges in vices and indulges in bed
She says in the language of supplications
I am the sun and the moon
If it appears that she has no equal
The clouds settled and became dark
There is a difference between a bad informer and a good one
She resembles Zakhar in his statements about the conditions of the people of the scenes
And peacock feathers
Not confused with the thorns of hedgehogs
And the owner of this soul
If it is observed with the eye of supply
He was attracted by the interest in the payment crisis
Her nose is thinner than what used to be fat
What was precious was more despicable than her pride
I prefer it to exercise in a mountain with difficult paths
Far from peaks and horizons
There is no way for the lovers of leadership
And worldly concerns have no reliance on him
If his soul is humiliated for something other than the truth and deviates
It was as she told and she said
My husband had sloppy camel meat
On top of a mountain and moth
The burden of humility has been weakened by the fat of his pride
The trap of his greatness melted with the light of his remembrance
And relief from the mountain of exercise and inactivity
At a peak that is difficult to reach
No mountain is easy to climb
The meat is not fat and is picked
The question that arises here
What should a wife do if she is afflicted with such a husband?
This issue occurred during the time of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
And they issued fatwas in it that would heal the hearts
And he handles matters
It relieves the woman of embarrassment in her dealings with this stingy miser
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said
Hind bint Utbah entered
Abu Sufyan's wife
On the Messenger of God
And she said
O Messenger of God
Abu Sufyan is a stingy man
He does not give me enough maintenance to suffice me or my son
Except for what you took from his money without his knowledge
Is there any blame on me for that?
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Take from his money on a reasonable basis what is sufficient for you and your children
Narrated by Muslim
Ibn Abdul-Barr, may God have mercy on him, said
He ordered her to punish him by taking her money from his right
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, permitted her to take from his money
Without his knowledge, it was not enough for her and her child
This is restricted by virtue
Do not go to extremes in taking from his money
She does not take more than her basic needs
Stinginess is a reprehensible characteristic that can be changed
Advice is for the stingy husband
To strive to change this characteristic
You make generosity
And spending a lot on public friendships and other things
With the insistence on God to remove this characteristic from the soul
And have good morals
On the authority of Abu Darda, may God be pleased with him, he said
The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Knowledge comes from learning
And dreaming about dreaming
And whoever seeks goodness, it will be given to him
Whoever fears evil will be protected from it
Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat
On the authority of Saad bin Abi Waqqas, may God be pleased with him
That the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
He used to seek refuge in concluding the prayers with these words
Oh God, I seek refuge in You from cowardice and stinginess
Narrated by Al-Bukhari
Stinginess is not one of the characteristics of the prophets or the righteous
The believer is generous and generous
And cowardice and stinginess
Among the bad qualities that do not befit a believer
He should often seek refuge in God from it
Brother-in-law, practice generosity until you become generous
And you seek goodness and you obtain it
If you stay away from evil, God will keep you away from it
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds