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Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.

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"O ‘A’ishah, what makes you weep?"

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The way the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, treated his wives, the Mothers of the Believers,

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is the most refined example of conduct between a husband and his wife.

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Anyone who wishes to learn the art of interaction between spouses

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must study how our Prophet, peace be upon him, treated his wives.

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For this is the supreme ideal for all married couples.

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Among the beautiful examples of the interaction between the Prophet, peace be upon him, and his wife ‘A’ishah

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is what she experienced while with him during the Farewell Pilgrimage.

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‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, says:

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"We set out with the intention of Hajj."

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"When we reached Sarif, I began to menstruate."

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"The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, came to me while I was weeping."

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"He asked, 'What makes you weep, O ‘A’ishah?'"

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"I replied, 'I wish I had not performed Hajj this year.'"

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"He said, 'Subhan Allah!'"

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"'This is something that Allah, the Almighty, has decreed for the daughters of Adam.'"

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"'Perform all the rites of the pilgrimage, except that you should not circumambulate the House (the Ka‘bah).'"

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"She said, 'When we entered Makkah,'"

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"the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said:"

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"'Whoever wishes to change their intention to ‘Umrah, let them do so,'"

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"'unless they have the sacrificial animal with them.'"

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"She said, 'The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, sacrificed cows on behalf of his wives on the Day of Sacrifice.'"

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"When we reached the night at al-Batha’, I had become pure (my period had ended)."

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"I said, 'O Messenger of Allah,'"

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"'will my companions return with both Hajj and ‘Umrah,'"

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"'while I return with only Hajj?'"

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"He then commanded ‘Abd al-Rahman Ibn Abi Bakr,"

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"and he took me to al-Tan‘im, where I entered into the state of ihram for ‘Umrah."

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Narrated by Ahmad.

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Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her,

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was listening to the sermon of the Prophet, peace be upon him, to his Companions,

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in which he encouraged them to convert their Hajj into an ‘Umrah.

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However, she was surprised by the onset of her menstruation

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while she was at Sarif, near Makkah.

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This meant she would be unable to perform ‘Umrah,

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as the time remaining until the Day of ‘Arafah was short,

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and menstruation has its own duration.

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Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, realized

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that she would not be able to perform ‘Umrah.

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As she heard the Prophet, peace be upon him, encouraging his Companions

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to convert their pilgrimage into an ‘Umrah,

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she wept.

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The Prophet, peace be upon him, came to her

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while she was weeping,

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and he comforted her to understand the reason for her tears.

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He asked,

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"What makes you weep, O ‘A’ishah?"

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The weeping of ‘A’ishah when she began her period

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occurred because of the distress and sadness she felt at missing the ‘Umrah.

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This is a reason that men might not quickly grasp,

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and a man might not pay much attention to it,

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because he views menstruation as a natural occurrence for every woman.

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And it is indeed so.

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However, a woman may be in a psychological state

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where she is deeply affected by the onset of her period,

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such as a woman who has been waiting to conceive and is disappointed when it does not happen,

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so she weeps when her period arrives,

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or for any other reason.

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Thus, the action of the Prophet, peace be upon him, with ‘A’ishah

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serves as guidance for husbands on the art of dealing with a woman in such a state.

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The Prophet, peace be upon him, did not stop

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at merely asking her the reason for her weeping;

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rather, he eased the matter for her

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by explaining that she was not the only one afflicted with this menstruation,

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but that it is the case for all daughters of Adam.

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He said,

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"This is a matter that Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam."

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Al-Qurtubi said: "Meaning menstruation."

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"And He decreed it upon them,"

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meaning He created them with this nature,

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and established it for them.

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This was a way of comforting and consoling her,

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and it is evidence of his inclination toward her and his tenderness for her.

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Ibn Rajab, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"He ordained it for them and bound them to it."

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"Thus, they are rewarded for their patience with it."

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The Prophet, peace be upon him, calmed her distress with two points:

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First, that menstruation is a matter Allah has decreed for women in general;

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and second, that she is like them,

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experiencing what they experience.

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After the Prophet, peace be upon him, calmed our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her,

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he moved to another dimension of psychological comfort for her.

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He explained to her that the onset of menstruation for a woman in the state of ihram does not harm her,

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nor does it affect her ihram.

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Then the Prophet, peace be upon him, instructed her on what to do in her situation,

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saying:

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"Perform all the rites of the pilgrimage, except that you should not circumambulate the House."

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Al-Bukhari titled this hadith in his Sahih by saying:

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"The menstruating woman performs all the rites except circumambulation of the House."

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Ibn Rajab, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"The intention of al-Bukhari in this chapter"

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"is that menstruation does not prevent any of the rites of Hajj,"

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"except for circumambulation of the House and the prayer following it."

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"As for everything else, such as standing (at ‘Arafah), dhikr, and supplication,"

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"menstruation does not prevent any of it."

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"The menstruating woman performs all of that."

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"This includes standing at ‘Arafah and Muzdalifah,"

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"stoning the pillars, and remembering Allah, the Almighty,"

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"and supplicating to Him in these places."

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"All of this is unanimously agreed to be permissible."

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Ibn al-Mulaqqin, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"Regarding the menstruating woman witnessing all the rites,"

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"and her saying the takbir during the two ‘Eids,"

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"is evidence for the permissibility of her reciting the Qur'an,"

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"because it is from the Sunnah to remember Allah during the rites."

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A woman in Ramadan

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may be anxious about the arrival of her monthly cycle,

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especially in the last ten nights,

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due to her intense desire for worship, reading the Qur'an,

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and seizing the season of goodness.

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She might resort to using certain medications

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that delay the onset of menstruation,

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which are rarely free from harm

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to her health and psychological state.

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These medications may even cause

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a disruption in the woman's cycle,

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resulting in discharge of various colors,

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which leaves her in a state of confusion,

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not knowing whether she is menstruating or pure.

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If only the woman would remember

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the words of the Prophet, peace be upon him,

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to ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her:

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"That is something Allah has decreed for the daughters of Adam."

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"So do what the pilgrim does,"

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"except do not circumambulate the House until you are pure."

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If she were to be content with what Allah has decreed for her regarding menstruation

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at the time Allah has ordained for her,

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and then perform what the fasting person does

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of righteousness and good deeds during this month,

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except that she does not fast or pray,

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it would be better for her than these medications

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that may harm her without her realizing it.

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Among the ways the Prophet, peace be upon him, pleased

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the heart of ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her,

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was that he, peace be upon him,

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when he departed from Mina after stoning the pillars,

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stopped at al-Muhassab,

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which is a place between Mina and the Sacred Mosque,

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and prayed there the Dhuhr, ‘Asr,

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Maghrib, and ‘Isha’ prayers.

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When evening came,

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‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, spoke with him

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regarding the matter of her rites.

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She said, "O Messenger of Allah,"

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"will my companions return with both Hajj and ‘Umrah,"

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"while I return with only Hajj?"

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The Prophet, peace be upon him, tried

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to convince her that it had been written for her.

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He said to her,

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"Your circumambulation of the House and between al-Safa and al-Marwah"

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"suffices for both your Hajj and your ‘Umrah."

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Narrated by Abu Dawud.

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But she refused and said, "O Messenger of Allah,"

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"you have performed ‘Umrah, but I have not."

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"O Messenger of Allah,"

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"the people return with two rewards,"

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"while I return with one."

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"O Messenger of Allah,"

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"the people depart with two rites,"

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"while I depart with only one."

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"O Messenger of Allah,"

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"your Companions return with the reward of Hajj and ‘Umrah,"

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"while I have not added anything to the Hajj."

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"Will your wives return with Hajj and ‘Umrah,"

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"while I return with Hajj that has no ‘Umrah with it?"

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Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"When she persisted,"

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"he allowed her to perform ‘Umrah to comfort her heart."

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And Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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"She felt in herself"

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"that her companions would return"

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"with a separate Hajj and ‘Umrah,"

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"as they were performing Tamattu‘,"

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"and they did not menstruate nor were they performing Qiran,"

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"while she would return with an ‘Umrah included within her Hajj."

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"So he commanded her brother to take her to perform ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im"

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"to soothe her heart."

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This is an example from the fragrant Seerah

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of the Prophet, peace be upon him,

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expressing the beauty of his conduct, peace be upon him,

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with ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.

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And his entire Seerah is beautiful.

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We shall continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills.

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And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

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Our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.