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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

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The types of men

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In the hadith of Umm Zar'

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Did Umm Zar' ask her husband for a divorce?

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Umm Zar's brief summary of her divorce story

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This prompted some people to look for the real underlying cause of the divorce.

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Why was anyone who reflected upon the hadith left unconvinced?

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In short, the sole reason for the divorce was simply what Umm Zar' described.

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He married another woman alongside her and divorced her for a number of reasons.

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Among these reasons is that the pre-Islamic Arabs were known for practicing polygyny.

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Thus, it is no surprise that Abu Zar' would marry more than one wife.

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Among them is that a man lacks neither wealth nor the means to marry.

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What, then, makes him resort directly to divorce?

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Furthermore, we learn from this that it is in the very nature of a woman.

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To conceal certain facts when it seeks to defend itself

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By altering certain facts, or at the very least, concealing them.

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We have already seen examples of this in a previous episode.

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What, then, was the real reason for her divorce?

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First of all, Umm Zar' is no different from any other woman in the world.

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On the dislikeability of a husband taking an additional wife over his current spouse

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This aversion is innate in women.

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A woman naturally loves to have her husband all to herself.

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And the fire of jealousy was boiling in her heart.

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when she learns that he has taken another wife.

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This natural, innate aversion

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is different from hating Allah's ruling on the permissibility of polygyny.

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Thus, she incurs no sin for it.

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unlike those who despise the ruling of Allah.

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This is something that could indeed end up happening.

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until her good deeds are rendered null and void, and she enters the Fire.

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Allah the Almighty said:

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“That is because they are averse to that which Allah hath revealed, therefor maketh He their actions fruitless.” (47:9)

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So He rendered their deeds worthless.

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Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Meaning, they do not want him, nor do they like him.

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so He nullified their deeds.

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So it is no surprise that Umm Zar' would dislike

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that her husband would marry another woman in addition to her.

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Secondly, what is expected of a woman

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if her husband marries another woman,

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to react negatively to his marriage.

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This reaction,

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varies from one woman to another.

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according to a woman's faith and her attachment

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and the intensity of her love for her husband.

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This reaction, then,

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It has several forms.

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This includes a complete rejection of the topic.

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This may lead her to...

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either to demand

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by divorcing this wife.

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or by her divorce.

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Among them is intense grief.

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and the husband's unwillingness to accept it.

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and described him as treacherous.

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Among them are sadness and pain.

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with contentment with Allah's decree and destiny.

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Then, striving to calm the soul.

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in a way that pleases Allah.

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and other such actions.

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The first scenario is contrary to Islamic law.

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forbidden.

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On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him,

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from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.

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He said, "It is not permissible for a woman..."

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seeks the divorce of her sister.

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to empty her page.

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For she will only receive what has been decreed for her.

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Narrated by Al-Bukhari.

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Ibn Battal, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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It contains a prohibition for women

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and the severe warning against it.

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Should she not ask for the divorce of her sister?

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and to be content with what Allah has allotted her.

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Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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His statement, "It is not permissible..."

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apparent in prohibiting that.

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So it is not permissible for her

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that she stipulates to her husband

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to divorce his second wife.

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if he wants it returned to him.

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or remain with him.

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Similarly, a prohibition has been reported.

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about seeking divorce.

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without a valid legal reason.

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On the authority of Thawban, may Allah be pleased with him,

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He said,

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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

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Any woman

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She asked her husband for a divorce.

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without any harm.

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so it is forbidden for her.

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the fragrance of Paradise

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Narrated by Abu Dawud.

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Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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And in it is that

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The reports that have been transmitted warning against

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A woman who seeks divorce

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her husband, Hamula.

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on what would happen if it were not

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This is based on the hadith.

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Thawban

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and a man marrying another woman while already married,

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does not permit her to seek a divorce.

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And it is not considered among

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The legitimate reasons that permit

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for divorce.

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Ibn 'Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy on him, said:

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Even if the first one were to rise up against him.

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فلا يلزمه أن يطلقها

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لأن الأصل

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أن الزوجة الأولى لا تملك

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منعه التزوج

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فلا تجبره على ذلك

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ولا حق لها أيضا

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أن تطلب الطلاق إن لم يطلق

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الزوجة الجديدة

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وقال عبد العزيز الراجحي

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وليس من حق

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المرأة أن تطلب الطلاق من

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زوجها إذا تزوج عليها

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وأما الصورة الثانية

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وهي عدم تقبل

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الزوج ووصفه بالخيانة

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فهذا وصف غير

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صحيح فالرجل

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لم يرتكب حراما حتى

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يقال خان الأمانة

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وإنما أقدم على أمر

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أباحه الله له

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ولكن هذه العبارات

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أخذناها من الغرب العلماني

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وروجناها

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في الأفلام والمسلسلات

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حتى تشربتها بعض

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القلوب المريضة

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فما ردة الفعل التي نتوقعها

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من أم زرع وأدت إلى

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طلاقها

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أما الصورة الثانية والثالثة

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لردة الفعل

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فلا نتوقعها

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حتى فيهما طلاق

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تبقى الصورة الأولى

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لردة الفعل

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فهل طلبت أم زرع

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من أبي زرع أن يطلقها

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فطلقها بعد إلحاحها

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عليه جاء في

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معجم شيوخ بن العربي

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ومعجم شيوخ بن عساكر

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رواية للحديث

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مختصرة فيها

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سبب طلاقها

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عن عائشة رضي الله عنها

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قالت قال رسول الله

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الله عليه وسلم

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أما ترضينا أن أكون

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لك كأبي زرع لأم

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زرع قالت

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وكان رجلا يكنى

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أبا زرع وامرأته

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أم زرع فكان يحسن

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إليها فتقول

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أحسن إلي أبو

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زرع وكساني أبو

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زرع وأطعمني أبو

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زرع وأكرمني أبو

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زرع ونحو هذا

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من الكلام فلم

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قال به أم زرع

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حتى طلقها

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فتزوجت أم زرع

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رجلا فأكرمها أيضا

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فكانت تقول

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أكرمني وأعطاني

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ونحو هذا من الكلام

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وتقول في آخر ذلك

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ولو جمع ذلك

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كل ما ملأ

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أصغر بعاء لأبي

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زرع فهذه الرواية

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وإن كان فيها ضعف

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في إسنادها

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يمكن أن يستأنس بها

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في معرفة سبب طلاق أبي

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زرع لها

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وهو الحاحها عليه بالطلاق

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وهذا الذي

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تميل إليه النفس

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والله أعلم

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نكمل في لقاء قادم إن شاء الله

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والحمد لله

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رب العالمين