WEBVTT 00:00:00.850 --> 00:00:04.759 In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 00:00:04.759 --> 00:00:11.910 The life of the predecessors between words and deeds 00:00:11.910 --> 00:00:15.410 The condition of the predecessors in dealing with their wives 00:00:15.410 --> 00:00:19.410 He advised and guided the husband and wife 00:00:20.429 --> 00:00:26.429 Omar bin Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him, said to a man who was about to divorce his wife 00:00:26.429 --> 00:00:28.429 Didn't divorce her 00:00:28.429 --> 00:00:31.460 He said I don't like her 00:00:31.460 --> 00:00:38.460 He said, “All homes are built on love, where is the care and blame?” 00:00:38.460 --> 00:00:42.689 And he, may God be pleased with him, said: Women are private parts 00:00:42.689 --> 00:00:47.689 So they covered them with homes and treated their weakness with silence 00:00:47.689 --> 00:00:54.780 He said, may God be pleased with him, that a believing servant is not given anything after believing in God 00:00:54.780 --> 00:00:59.780 Better than a woman who is friendly, friendly, and well-mannered 00:00:59.780 --> 00:01:03.909 Nothing happens to a servant after disbelief in God 00:01:03.909 --> 00:01:06.909 It is worse for him than a woman who boiled him 00:01:06.909 --> 00:01:10.909 She has an iron tongue and bad manners 00:01:10.909 --> 00:01:18.200 He, may God be pleased with him, said: No man spends so much on himself and his family 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:20.200 Except for him his reward 00:01:20.200 --> 00:01:25.230 Let the man start with those he supports, then the closest, then the closest 00:01:25.230 --> 00:01:28.230 If he prefers, let him start with it 00:01:28.230 --> 00:01:32.650 Ali, may God be pleased with him, had two women 00:01:32.650 --> 00:01:37.650 If it was this day, he would buy meat for half a dirham 00:01:37.650 --> 00:01:42.650 If it was this day, he would buy meat for half a dirham 00:01:42.650 --> 00:01:47.099 On the authority of Hudhayfah, may God be pleased with him, he said: 00:01:47.099 --> 00:01:52.099 I acknowledge that I am an eye when people in need complain to me 00:01:52.099 --> 00:01:57.379 Moaz bin Jabal, may God be pleased with him, had two women 00:01:57.379 --> 00:02:03.379 If he was with one of them, he would not perform ablution from the other’s house 00:02:03.379 --> 00:02:06.609 A woman came to him and said: 00:02:06.609 --> 00:02:10.610 You are truly the messenger of the Messenger of God 00:02:10.610 --> 00:02:13.610 What is the wife's right over her husband? 00:02:13.610 --> 00:02:16.740 He said it was her right 00:02:16.740 --> 00:02:19.740 He should not hit her face or make her look ugly 00:02:19.740 --> 00:02:21.900 And her right is on him 00:02:21.900 --> 00:02:24.900 To feed her from what she eats 00:02:24.900 --> 00:02:26.900 And he covers her with whatever he wears 00:02:26.900 --> 00:02:28.900 And her right is on him 00:02:28.900 --> 00:02:31.900 Not to leave her in her home 00:02:31.900 --> 00:02:37.090 She died from a plague that struck them in one day 00:02:37.090 --> 00:02:40.090 He brought them to the pit 00:02:40.090 --> 00:02:42.090 Then I knock between them 00:02:42.090 --> 00:02:45.090 Whichever one enters the hole before the other 00:02:45.090 --> 00:02:49.379 Al-Zabarqan bin Badr, may God be pleased with him, was 00:02:49.379 --> 00:02:53.379 If he marries his daughter, he approaches her room 00:02:53.379 --> 00:02:55.379 He said, "Are you listening?" 00:02:55.379 --> 00:02:59.379 Be his slave and he will appoint you as a slave 00:02:59.379 --> 00:03:02.659 Sufyan Al-Thawri, may God have mercy on him, said 00:03:02.659 --> 00:03:07.659 If you want to get married, give gifts to your mother 00:03:07.659 --> 00:03:12.110 Abu Al-Aswad Al-Dawali, may God have mercy on him, said to his daughter 00:03:12.110 --> 00:03:17.110 Beware of jealousy, for it is the key to divorce 00:03:17.110 --> 00:03:19.110 And you have to decorate 00:03:19.110 --> 00:03:21.110 I adorn the adornments with kohl 00:03:21.110 --> 00:03:23.110 And you have to be kind 00:03:24.110 --> 00:03:27.110 The best good thing is to enlighten the topic 00:03:27.110 --> 00:03:31.180 And be like you told your mother sometimes 00:03:31.180 --> 00:03:35.240 Take my pardon, you will always receive my affection 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:39.240 And do not say my surah when they get angry 00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:43.240 I found love in the chest and hurt 00:03:43.240 --> 00:03:47.240 If they meet, love will soon go away 00:03:47.240 --> 00:03:49.590 Abu Sinan said 00:03:49.590 --> 00:03:52.590 Dirar Ibn Murrah, may God have mercy on him 00:03:52.590 --> 00:03:56.590 You have given water to the people of today and fodder for the Shah 00:03:56.590 --> 00:03:58.590 And he was saying 00:03:58.590 --> 00:04:01.590 The best of you is the one who benefits his family 00:04:01.590 --> 00:04:06.009 Imam Ahmed, may God have mercy on him, was asked about women fasting 00:04:06.009 --> 00:04:08.009 Her husband prevents her 00:04:08.009 --> 00:04:11.009 She thinks she should fast 00:04:11.009 --> 00:04:14.009 He said: Do not fast 00:04:14.009 --> 00:04:18.009 She does not think of herself as praying or fasting 00:04:18.009 --> 00:04:20.009 Unless he gives her permission 00:04:20.009 --> 00:04:23.009 Except what is obligatory 00:04:23.009 --> 00:04:27.009 Otherwise, do not fast except with His permission 00:04:27.009 --> 00:04:31.009 She obeys him in everything he commands her to do 00:04:31.009 --> 00:04:35.550 It belonged to Abu Bakr bin Al-Labbad, may God have mercy on him 00:04:35.550 --> 00:04:37.550 bastard 00:04:37.550 --> 00:04:39.550 She hurts him with her tongue 00:04:39.550 --> 00:04:41.550 His companions told him 00:04:41.550 --> 00:04:43.550 He divorced her 00:04:43.550 --> 00:04:45.550 We do her justice 00:04:45.550 --> 00:04:47.550 And he said 00:04:47.550 --> 00:04:51.550 I fear that if I divorce her, a Muslim will be afflicted with her 00:04:51.550 --> 00:04:57.620 Perhaps God has protected me from a great calamity due to its severity 00:04:57.620 --> 00:04:59.620 And he was saying 00:04:59.620 --> 00:05:01.620 Every believer has a trial 00:05:01.620 --> 00:05:04.800 It is my ordeal 00:05:04.800 --> 00:05:07.120 A life of peace 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:10.120 Between words and action