WEBVTT 00:00:00.780 --> 00:00:03.779 Riyadh al-Salihin (The Meadows of the Righteous) 00:00:03.779 --> 00:00:06.780 From the words of the Master of the Messengers, 00:00:06.780 --> 00:00:09.779 may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him. 00:00:09.779 --> 00:00:15.339 Chapter: Admonition to Treat Women Well. 00:00:15.339 --> 00:00:19.589 Allah the Exalted said: 00:00:19.589 --> 00:00:22.620 "And live with them honorably." 00:00:22.620 --> 00:00:24.620 And the Exalted said: 00:00:24.620 --> 00:00:28.620 “Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (4:129) 00:00:28.620 --> 00:00:30.620 "Even if you are keen to do so..." 00:00:30.620 --> 00:00:32.619 “Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (4:129) 00:00:32.619 --> 00:00:35.619 "...leaving her hanging [neither fully married nor divorced]." 00:00:35.619 --> 00:00:37.619 "And if you reconcile and remain mindful of Allah..." 00:00:37.619 --> 00:00:41.619 “Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.” (4:129) 00:00:41.619 --> 00:00:47.159 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:00:47.159 --> 00:00:51.159 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 00:00:51.159 --> 00:00:54.159 "Treat women well and take care of them, 00:00:54.159 --> 00:00:57.159 for woman was created from a rib, 00:00:57.159 --> 00:01:00.159 and the most crooked part of a rib is its topmost portion. 00:01:00.159 --> 00:01:03.159 If you try to straighten it, you will break it, 00:01:03.159 --> 00:01:06.159 and if you leave it alone, it remains bent. 00:01:06.159 --> 00:01:09.159 So treat women well." 00:01:09.159 --> 00:01:11.260 Agreed upon. 00:01:11.260 --> 00:01:14.450 In another narration in the two Sahihs: 00:01:14.450 --> 00:01:16.450 "A woman is like a rib: 00:01:16.450 --> 00:01:19.450 if you try to straighten her, you break her; 00:01:19.450 --> 00:01:21.450 and if you enjoy her company, 00:01:21.450 --> 00:01:24.450 you do so while she still has crookedness in her." 00:01:24.450 --> 00:01:27.609 And in a narration of Muslim: 00:01:27.609 --> 00:01:30.609 "Indeed, woman was created from a rib; 00:01:30.609 --> 00:01:33.609 she will never remain consistently on one course for you. 00:01:33.609 --> 00:01:35.609 So if you enjoy her company, 00:01:35.609 --> 00:01:38.609 you do so while she still has crookedness in her; 00:01:38.609 --> 00:01:41.609 but if you insist on straightening her, you will break her, 00:01:41.609 --> 00:01:44.609 and breaking her is divorcing her." 00:01:44.609 --> 00:01:51.980 "Crookedness" ('iwaj) refers to a bend in something that was originally upright and then tilted. 00:01:51.980 --> 00:01:56.390 Among the lessons of the hadith: 00:01:56.390 --> 00:01:58.390 Gentleness should be shown toward women 00:01:58.390 --> 00:02:01.390 due to their inherent weakness and limited recourse. 00:02:01.390 --> 00:02:04.739 A woman does not remain fixed in a single emotional state, 00:02:04.739 --> 00:02:07.739 so she must be treated with gentleness, patience, and tact 00:02:07.739 --> 00:02:09.740 so that life with her may continue smoothly. 00:02:09.740 --> 00:02:13.259 A woman will never be perfectly upright for a man, 00:02:13.259 --> 00:02:16.259 because she was created from a curved rib. 00:02:16.259 --> 00:02:19.259 Therefore, her natural crookedness should not be condemned. 00:02:19.259 --> 00:02:21.259 For if you demand to straighten her, 00:02:21.259 --> 00:02:24.259 you will break her, as she is not constituted for that, 00:02:24.259 --> 00:02:27.259 and this will lead to discord and separation. 00:02:27.259 --> 00:02:30.289 But if you bear patiently with her shortcomings, 00:02:30.289 --> 00:02:34.289 her emotional vulnerability, and similar natural imperfections, 00:02:34.289 --> 00:02:37.289 the marriage will endure and companionship will continue. 00:02:37.289 --> 00:02:42.900 An educator's understanding of the nature of the person they seek to guide and refine 00:02:42.900 --> 00:02:46.900 aids them greatly in their pedagogical and outreach mission. 00:02:46.900 --> 00:02:51.409 The exegetes and hadith commentators have agreed 00:02:51.409 --> 00:02:54.409 that Hawwa' (Eve) was created from the left rib 00:02:54.409 --> 00:02:57.409 of Adam, peace and blessings be upon him. 00:02:57.409 --> 00:03:00.409 This was the view of Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him and his father), 00:03:00.409 --> 00:03:05.409 and we know of no Companion who opposed him on this. 00:03:05.409 --> 00:03:09.469 The people of knowledge deduced this from this hadith 00:03:09.469 --> 00:03:11.469 and from the words of the Exalted: 00:03:11.469 --> 00:03:18.469 “O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men and women. Be careful of your duty toward Allah in Whom ye claim (your rights) of one another, and toward the wombs (that bare you). Lo! Allah hath been a watcher over you.” (4:1) 00:03:18.469 --> 00:03:21.469 "And created from it its mate." 00:03:21.469 --> 00:03:27.039 On the authority of Abdullah Ibn Zam'ah (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:03:27.039 --> 00:03:31.039 who heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) delivering a sermon, 00:03:31.039 --> 00:03:34.039 in which he mentioned the she-camel and the man who hamstrung it. 00:03:34.039 --> 00:03:38.039 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:03:38.039 --> 00:03:41.039 "'When the most wretched of them broke forth,' 00:03:41.039 --> 00:03:47.039 there stepped forward to kill it a man of power, wicked and deeply entrenched in the protection of his clan." 00:03:47.039 --> 00:03:50.139 Then he mentioned women and admonished the people regarding them, 00:03:50.139 --> 00:03:52.139 saying: 00:03:52.139 --> 00:03:56.139 "One of you deliberately flogs his wife as he would flog a slave, 00:03:56.139 --> 00:04:00.139 and yet he may well embrace and lie with her at the end of the day!" 00:04:00.139 --> 00:04:03.169 Then he admonished them regarding laughing at passing gas, 00:04:03.169 --> 00:04:05.169 and said: 00:04:05.169 --> 00:04:08.169 "Why does one of you laugh at something he himself does?" 00:04:08.169 --> 00:04:10.169 Agreed upon. 00:04:10.169 --> 00:04:14.229 "Al-'arim" refers to a wicked, corrupt person. 00:04:14.229 --> 00:04:18.230 His saying "broke forth" (inba'atha) means he sprang up hastily. 00:04:18.230 --> 00:04:23.000 "A man of power" ('aziz) means a person of rare standing, 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:27.000 "entrenched" (mani') means formidable and well-defended, 00:04:27.000 --> 00:04:30.029 and "rahtuh" means his clan 00:04:30.029 --> 00:04:32.060 and his people. 00:04:32.060 --> 00:04:37.220 "Flogging a slave" indicates severe, hurtful beating. 00:04:37.220 --> 00:04:42.660 "Lying with her" refers to marital intimacy. 00:04:42.660 --> 00:04:44.949 Among the lessons of the hadith: 00:04:44.949 --> 00:04:47.949 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) 00:04:47.949 --> 00:04:50.949 taught people solely through revelation, 00:04:50.949 --> 00:04:53.949 which includes narrating the stories of past nations. 00:04:53.949 --> 00:04:58.529 A scholar, when admonishing the people, 00:04:58.529 --> 00:05:01.529 ought to remind them of Allah's ways with past generations, 00:05:01.529 --> 00:05:07.199 because of the goodly admonition and reminders they contain for those who reflect. 00:05:07.199 --> 00:05:11.199 It highlights the miracle of Salih, peace and blessings be upon him, 00:05:11.199 --> 00:05:13.740 which was the she-camel. 00:05:13.740 --> 00:05:17.740 Human beings do not know what truly benefits them in this world and the Hereafter 00:05:17.740 --> 00:05:20.740 whenever they abandon the guidance of their Prophet, 00:05:20.740 --> 00:05:24.319 bringing ruin upon themselves. 00:05:24.319 --> 00:05:26.319 Those who spread corruption among the people 00:05:26.319 --> 00:05:29.319 and divert them from the path of Allah 00:05:29.319 --> 00:05:31.319 are often the affluent and wealthy, 00:05:31.319 --> 00:05:34.829 who possess influential clans and power. 00:05:34.829 --> 00:05:37.829 The common people generally follow the elite of society 00:05:37.829 --> 00:05:41.310 and their leaders in most circumstances. 00:05:41.310 --> 00:05:44.310 When the general public condones the corruption of the elite, 00:05:44.310 --> 00:05:47.860 the divine punishment encompasses them all. 00:05:47.860 --> 00:05:51.860 The permissibility of striking a wife with a light, non-injurious tap, 00:05:51.860 --> 00:05:56.500 and that is only after admonition and separation in bed have failed. 00:05:56.500 --> 00:06:00.500 Laughter is only appropriate at rare and unusual occurrences; 00:06:00.500 --> 00:06:03.500 as for something normal that every human being experiences, 00:06:03.500 --> 00:06:06.500 laughing at it contradicts proper decorum (muru'ah) 00:06:06.500 --> 00:06:10.649 and violates the sanctity of a fellow Muslim. 00:06:10.649 --> 00:06:14.649 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:06:14.649 --> 00:06:18.649 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: 00:06:18.649 --> 00:06:21.649 "A believing man must not loathe a believing woman: 00:06:21.649 --> 00:06:25.649 if he dislikes one of her traits, he will be pleased with another," 00:06:25.649 --> 00:06:28.709 or he said something similar. 00:06:28.709 --> 00:06:30.810 Reported by Muslim. 00:06:30.810 --> 00:06:33.810 His saying "yafruk" means to despise or loathe. 00:06:33.810 --> 00:06:37.810 It is said, "The woman loathed (farikat) her husband," 00:06:37.810 --> 00:06:41.810 and "Her husband loathed her (farikaha)"—meaning hated her. 00:06:41.810 --> 00:06:45.769 And Allah knows best. 00:06:45.769 --> 00:06:47.860 Among the lessons of the hadith: 00:06:47.860 --> 00:06:50.860 A man is forbidden from harboring total hatred toward his believing wife, 00:06:50.860 --> 00:06:52.860 an absolute detestation 00:06:52.860 --> 00:06:54.860 that drives him to divorce her; 00:06:54.860 --> 00:06:58.860 rather, he must balance what he dislikes in her 00:06:58.860 --> 00:07:00.860 with what pleases him about her, 00:07:00.860 --> 00:07:02.860 pardoning her faults, 00:07:02.860 --> 00:07:04.860 overlooking her shortcomings, 00:07:04.860 --> 00:07:07.860 and letting what he loves in her outweigh what he dislikes. 00:07:07.860 --> 00:07:11.019 This is how Islam teaches us 00:07:11.019 --> 00:07:13.019 moderation in both love and hate. 00:07:13.019 --> 00:07:17.019 For this reason, Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) said: 00:07:17.019 --> 00:07:21.019 "O Aslam, let not your love be an obsession, 00:07:21.019 --> 00:07:23.019 nor your hatred be destructive." 00:07:23.019 --> 00:07:26.019 Aslam asked, "How is that?" 00:07:26.019 --> 00:07:28.019 Umar replied: 00:07:28.019 --> 00:07:29.019 "When you love, 00:07:29.019 --> 00:07:33.019 do not become infatuated like a child infatuated with something he loves; 00:07:33.019 --> 00:07:35.019 and when you hate, 00:07:35.019 --> 00:07:37.019 do not hate with such bitterness 00:07:37.019 --> 00:07:41.019 that you wish ruin and destruction upon your companion." 00:07:41.019 --> 00:07:42.790 Women in general 00:07:42.790 --> 00:07:45.790 fluctuate between good and bad, 00:07:45.790 --> 00:07:49.790 and they do not remain fixed in one single state. 00:07:49.790 --> 00:07:51.399 A man ought to 00:07:51.399 --> 00:07:54.399 control his emotions and impulses 00:07:54.399 --> 00:07:55.399 by letting his reason govern 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:59.399 in any dispute that arises with his wife. 00:07:59.399 --> 00:08:05.189 On the authority of Amr ibn al-Ahwas al-Jushami (may Allah be pleased with him), 00:08:05.189 --> 00:08:09.189 who heard the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) 00:08:09.189 --> 00:08:11.189 say during the Farewell Pilgrimage, 00:08:11.189 --> 00:08:14.189 after he had praised Allah the Exalted, 00:08:14.189 --> 00:08:17.189 extolled Him, reminded the people, and admonished them; 00:08:17.189 --> 00:08:18.189 he then said: 00:08:18.189 --> 00:08:22.290 "Indeed, treat women well and take care of them, 00:08:22.290 --> 00:08:25.290 for they are like captives in your custody; 00:08:25.290 --> 00:08:29.290 you possess nothing more from them than that, 00:08:29.290 --> 00:08:33.289 unless they commit clear, open indecency. 00:08:33.289 --> 00:08:35.289 If they do so, 00:08:35.289 --> 00:08:37.289 then refuse to share their beds, 00:08:37.289 --> 00:08:41.289 and strike them with a light, non-injurious blow. 00:08:41.289 --> 00:08:45.289 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:08:45.289 --> 00:08:49.379 Behold, you have rights over your women, 00:08:49.379 --> 00:08:52.379 and your women have rights over you. 00:08:52.379 --> 00:08:54.379 As for your rights over them, 00:08:54.379 --> 00:08:58.379 it is that they do not allow anyone you dislike onto your bedding, 00:08:58.379 --> 00:09:02.379 nor permit anyone you dislike into your homes. 00:09:02.379 --> 00:09:05.419 Behold, and their right over you 00:09:05.419 --> 00:09:07.419 is that you treat them well 00:09:07.419 --> 00:09:10.419 in their clothing and their food." 00:09:10.419 --> 00:09:12.480 Reported by al-Tirmidhi. 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:15.799 His saying, peace and blessings be upon him, 00:09:15.799 --> 00:09:16.799 "'awan" 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:18.799 means female captives; 00:09:18.799 --> 00:09:20.799 it is the plural of "'aniyah", 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:22.799 which means a female captive, 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:23.799 while "al-'ani" 00:09:23.799 --> 00:09:24.799 means a male captive. 00:09:24.799 --> 00:09:27.799 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) likened 00:09:27.799 --> 00:09:31.799 a woman's entry under her husband's authority 00:09:31.799 --> 00:09:34.019 to that of a captive. 00:09:34.019 --> 00:09:36.019 "Severe beating" (al-darb al-mubarrih) 00:09:36.019 --> 00:09:38.019 refers to harsh, injurious hitting. 00:09:38.019 --> 00:09:41.090 And his saying, peace and blessings be upon him: 00:09:41.090 --> 00:09:44.090 “Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.” (4:34) 00:09:44.090 --> 00:09:46.090 meaning: do not seek an excuse or a pretext 00:09:46.090 --> 00:09:48.090 to hold against them 00:09:48.090 --> 00:09:50.090 or to harm them with. 00:09:50.090 --> 00:09:52.090 And Allah knows best. 00:09:52.090 --> 00:09:57.049 "You possess nothing more from them than that": 00:09:57.049 --> 00:09:59.049 meaning beyond lawful physical intimacy, 00:09:59.049 --> 00:10:03.049 her safeguarding her husband's honor, wealth, and children, 00:10:03.049 --> 00:10:06.049 and attending to his household affairs and service. 00:10:06.049 --> 00:10:08.179 "Clear, open indecency": 00:10:08.179 --> 00:10:13.179 meaning a major, evident act of marital misconduct and defiance. 00:10:13.179 --> 00:10:15.460 "Al-madaji'" 00:10:15.460 --> 00:10:17.460 means the marital beds. 00:10:17.460 --> 00:10:21.360 Among the lessons of the hadith: 00:10:21.360 --> 00:10:23.519 It is part of the Sunnah in giving an admonition 00:10:23.519 --> 00:10:28.519 to begin with praising and extolling Allah as He rightfully deserves. 00:10:28.519 --> 00:10:32.159 If a woman exhibits recalcitrance (nushuz), 00:10:32.159 --> 00:10:36.159 the husband should discipline her according to the following stages: 00:10:36.159 --> 00:10:38.159 First: 00:10:38.159 --> 00:10:42.159 Admonition, reminder, warning, and encouragement; 00:10:42.159 --> 00:10:44.159 Second: 00:10:44.159 --> 00:10:46.220 Forsaking them in bed; 00:10:46.220 --> 00:10:48.220 and thirdly, 00:10:48.220 --> 00:10:50.860 non-severe striking. 00:10:50.860 --> 00:10:52.860 A husband has rights, 00:10:52.860 --> 00:10:54.860 and a wife has rights. 00:10:54.860 --> 00:10:58.309 It is not permissible for a woman to allow anyone 00:10:58.309 --> 00:11:00.309 into her husband's home 00:11:00.309 --> 00:11:02.919 except with his permission. 00:11:02.919 --> 00:11:04.919 It is not permissible for a woman to dispose of 00:11:04.919 --> 00:11:06.919 her husband's wealth and property 00:11:06.919 --> 00:11:09.399 except with his permission. 00:11:09.399 --> 00:11:12.399 A man must provide for his wife 00:11:12.399 --> 00:11:15.399 and treat her honorably to the best of his ability. 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:22.100 On the authority of Mu'awiyah ibn Haydah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:11:22.100 --> 00:11:24.100 I asked, "O Messenger of Allah, 00:11:24.100 --> 00:11:27.100 what is the right of the wife of one of us upon him?" 00:11:27.100 --> 00:11:29.100 He replied: 00:11:29.100 --> 00:11:31.100 "That you feed her when you eat, 00:11:31.100 --> 00:11:34.100 clothe her when you clothe yourself, 00:11:34.100 --> 00:11:37.100 do not strike the face, do not revile her, 00:11:37.100 --> 00:11:40.100 and do not forsake her except within the house." 00:11:40.100 --> 00:11:43.100 Related by Abu Dawud. 00:11:43.100 --> 00:11:44.100 And he said: 00:11:44.100 --> 00:11:46.100 The meaning of "do not revile her" 00:11:46.100 --> 00:11:49.100 is: do not say, "May Allah make you ugly." 00:11:49.100 --> 00:11:52.379 Among the benefits derived from this hadith: 00:11:52.379 --> 00:11:55.600 The prohibition of striking the face, due to its sacred dignity. 00:11:55.600 --> 00:11:59.179 It is not permissible to taunt a wife 00:11:59.179 --> 00:12:01.179 about ugliness of appearance, 00:12:01.179 --> 00:12:03.179 for all of Allah's creation is beautiful. 00:12:03.179 --> 00:12:07.429 A man ought to know his wife's rights 00:12:07.429 --> 00:12:09.429 in order to fulfill them toward her. 00:12:09.429 --> 00:12:11.850 Forsaking in bed 00:12:11.850 --> 00:12:13.850 is a means of disciplining a woman. 00:12:13.850 --> 00:12:17.850 Indeed, it is established that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) withdrew 00:12:17.850 --> 00:12:19.850 from his wives to an upper chamber 00:12:19.850 --> 00:12:21.850 outside the home. 00:12:21.850 --> 00:12:25.169 The wife's right is to be fed, clothed, 00:12:25.169 --> 00:12:27.169 and provided for; 00:12:27.169 --> 00:12:30.169 it is forbidden to withhold any of that from her, 00:12:30.169 --> 00:12:34.169 or to give her mere scraps out of contempt for her. 00:12:34.169 --> 00:12:39.480 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:12:39.480 --> 00:12:43.480 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:12:43.480 --> 00:12:46.580 "The most complete of believers in faith 00:12:46.580 --> 00:12:48.580 are those best in character, 00:12:48.580 --> 00:12:52.580 and the best of you are the best of you to their women." 00:12:52.580 --> 00:12:54.639 Related by al-Tirmidhi. 00:12:54.639 --> 00:12:58.210 Among the benefits derived from this hadith: 00:12:58.210 --> 00:13:04.559 Ahl al-Sunnah are the followers of the righteous salaf (early generations) in their creed concerning faith, 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.559 which is that it consists of belief, speech, and action; 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:10.559 it increases through obedience and decreases through disobedience. 00:13:10.559 --> 00:13:15.980 The hadith indicates that faith has both an essential foundation and a state of perfection. 00:13:15.980 --> 00:13:19.419 Whoever has no good in him for his family 00:13:19.419 --> 00:13:21.419 has no good in him for people in general. 00:13:22.419 --> 00:13:27.970 It indicates that one's nearest kin are the most deserving of kindness. 00:13:27.970 --> 00:13:33.669 It urges treating one's wife with a cheerful countenance and refraining from harming her, 00:13:33.669 --> 00:13:37.669 showing excellence toward her, and being patient with her. 00:13:37.669 --> 00:13:42.059 Good character is among the qualities of those complete in faith 00:13:42.059 --> 00:13:45.059 and the truly sincere and God-fearing. 00:13:45.059 --> 00:13:51.269 On the authority of Iyas ibn 'Abdullah ibn Abi Dhubab (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: 00:13:51.269 --> 00:13:55.269 The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:13:55.269 --> 00:13:58.269 "Do not strike the female servants of Allah." 00:13:58.269 --> 00:14:04.370 Then 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) 00:14:04.370 --> 00:14:05.370 and said, 00:14:05.370 --> 00:14:09.370 "The women have become emboldened against their husbands." 00:14:09.370 --> 00:14:11.370 So he granted a dispensation to strike them. 00:14:11.370 --> 00:14:17.370 Thereupon, many women came surrounding the household of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), 00:14:17.370 --> 00:14:19.370 complaining about their husbands. 00:14:19.370 --> 00:14:23.399 So the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:14:23.399 --> 00:14:28.399 "Many women have surrounded the household of Muhammad, 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:30.399 complaining about their husbands; 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:33.399 those men are not the best among you." 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:36.460 Related by Abu Dawud. 00:14:36.460 --> 00:14:38.779 His saying, "dha'irna" 00:14:38.779 --> 00:14:40.909 means: they became emboldened. 00:14:40.909 --> 00:14:42.909 His saying, "atafa" 00:14:42.909 --> 00:14:43.909 means: they surrounded. 00:14:43.909 --> 00:14:47.610 Among the benefits derived from this hadith: 00:14:48.990 --> 00:14:52.990 Striking is a disciplinary measure for a recalcitrant wife, 00:14:52.990 --> 00:14:54.990 and it is permissible in principle, 00:14:54.990 --> 00:14:56.990 but on the condition 00:14:56.990 --> 00:14:58.990 that it be non-severe, 00:14:58.990 --> 00:15:00.990 that the face be avoided, 00:15:00.990 --> 00:15:02.990 that she not be reviled, 00:15:02.990 --> 00:15:05.990 that it comes after admonition and forsaking, 00:15:05.990 --> 00:15:08.990 and that it be intended for discipline, not to cause harm. 00:15:08.990 --> 00:15:12.500 A man is a shepherd in his home, 00:15:12.500 --> 00:15:16.500 so he ought to lead his family with gentle care, 00:15:16.500 --> 00:15:18.500 cultivating and raising them 00:15:18.500 --> 00:15:22.049 with wisdom and goodly admonition. 00:15:22.049 --> 00:15:25.049 The permissibility of questioning a scholar regarding a ruling 00:15:25.049 --> 00:15:29.500 to understand its consequences and ramifications. 00:15:29.500 --> 00:15:32.500 The permissibility of complaining to a ruler or a scholar 00:15:32.500 --> 00:15:35.500 if harm has befallen the complainant from someone else 00:15:35.500 --> 00:15:37.500 because of a ruling, 00:15:37.500 --> 00:15:40.980 or because an injustice was done to them by another. 00:15:40.980 --> 00:15:42.980 In this hadith is an indication of the wisdom behind 00:15:42.980 --> 00:15:46.980 the Prophet's multiple marriages: 00:15:46.980 --> 00:15:48.980 namely, the legislative dimension, 00:15:48.980 --> 00:15:51.980 as his wives served as an intermediary between him 00:15:51.980 --> 00:15:53.980 and the Muslim women 00:15:53.980 --> 00:15:55.980 in asking questions and conveying answers. 00:15:55.980 --> 00:16:02.929 On the authority of 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'As (may Allah be pleased with them both), 00:16:02.929 --> 00:16:06.929 that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: 00:16:06.929 --> 00:16:09.929 "The world is an ephemeral provision, 00:16:09.929 --> 00:16:12.929 and the best provision of this world is a righteous woman." 00:16:12.929 --> 00:16:15.120 Related by Muslim. 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:17.889 "Mata'" (provision) 00:16:17.889 --> 00:16:21.889 means something enjoyed for a temporary period, 00:16:21.889 --> 00:16:23.889 which then fades away. 00:16:23.889 --> 00:16:26.659 Among the benefits derived from this hadith: 00:16:26.659 --> 00:16:32.820 It is permissible to enjoy the good things of this world that Allah has made lawful for His servants, 00:16:32.820 --> 00:16:34.820 without extravagance or vanity. 00:16:34.820 --> 00:16:39.169 Encouragement to choose a righteous woman, 00:16:39.169 --> 00:16:42.169 for she is a cornerstone of happiness 00:16:42.169 --> 00:16:46.779 and a help to her husband in obeying his Lord. 00:16:46.779 --> 00:16:50.779 The greatest provision of this world is that which is spent in obedience to Allah 00:16:50.779 --> 00:16:52.779 or assists toward it, 00:16:52.779 --> 00:16:55.779 for all ephemeral enjoyment will perish 00:16:55.779 --> 00:16:57.779 except that which was done in obedience, 00:16:57.779 --> 00:17:00.779 for that is enduring and everlasting, 00:17:00.779 --> 00:17:04.779 with the One who does not allow the reward of those who do good to be lost. 00:17:05.869 --> 00:17:08.869 Riyadh al-Salihin.