In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband?
The answer to this question may be shocking to men
But it is known to women in general
Even if we hide it from men
It is the nature of women
Hiding some of her characteristics from men
Even if this trait is innate to her
And hope, honorable man
Saying Aisha, may God be pleased with her
In the hadith of Anas bin Malik
When he said
Umm Salim came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
She said to him
And Aisha is with him
O Messenger of God
A woman sees what a man sees in a dream
She sees from herself what a man sees from himself
Aisha said
O mother of Salim
Women exposed your right hand
He said to Aisha
Rather, you raised your right hand
Yes
Take a bath for Umm Salim
If she saw that
Narrated by Muslim
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
Aisha’s statement to Umm Salim
Women were exposed
That is, some of their secrets were revealed
And what he hides from his need for men
And seeing a wet dream
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
This indicates that it is their habit to conceal such things
Mother of believers
I hate for men to know that women desire men
And it happens to a man in sleep
Because this is something women are usually ashamed of
Therefore, it is not appropriate for a man to demand from his wife
Declaring her desire for it
As he declares his desire for her
Because this request is against a woman’s nature and modesty
Insinuation and temptation are enough for her
And quick response to her husband
The question again
Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband?
Before answering this question
We need to know the nature of a woman’s view of her husband
Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said
Women greatly admire men's heroism
Because her ability is less than what men are capable of
Because it sees the heroism of the husband and kinship
What reassures her mind about the evil of attacks and raids
This is what a woman loves in her husband in the past
Has there been any change in this nature over time?
Yes, this instinct has changed for some women
Due to the change in the culture of society and the culture of women
And her view of men changed
That is, whether this man was a son or a brother
Or a husband or guardian
What ideas are instilled in women today?
Like she must be financially independent from the man
And to work in any job to collect money
And the concept of freedom requires that it be rejected
The man controls her in any way
She has complete freedom in all her actions
Without referring to the man
And she must rebel against the guardianship of men
To become a guardian herself
All of this and other ideas are spread among women
It changed women's perception of men
I wonder after this culture
What does a woman like in a man?
And what you will be proud of among women
It gave us birth to Internet culture
And social media
A new style that women love in a husband
It is a style of fame
And the celebrities who appear in these media
Ideally
Contrary to truth and reality
It is worn on women
If a woman marries such celebrities
I discovered the bitter truth
Here the question will come again
Do you believe a woman when she talks about her husband?
Evidence of hadith or sowing
But women don't believe us
When we talk about their husbands
Therefore, we pledged and contracted
That they should not conceal anything from their husbands
For their complete knowledge
A woman does not believe in talking about her husband
And you try to show it
In his best image in front of women
To be proud of them
Although she may live with him in extreme injustice and cruelty
But it is in front of women
Show otherwise
Especially if the woman has a co-wife
She may become satisfied with her husband
To spite her
On the authority of Asmaa, may God be pleased with her
A woman said, O Messenger of God
I have a wife
Is it wrong for me if I get satisfied with my husband?
Other than the one who gives me
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Satisfied with what is not given
My clothes are false
The satiated is the one who shows satiety
And not full
What it means here is that it appears
He got her virtue
And it doesn't happen
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, counted doing it
Of forbidden false speech
But he hates that for women
Because it comes between the other woman
Like magic that separates a person
And his wife
But even this is true
The culture of society influenced it
Women today are not praised
With the strength and courage of a man
And his strength in wars
Rather, she brags about the extent of her control
On men and other things
May God have mercy on the righteous women
There are other influences
In a woman's description of her husband
Like the environment you are in
If it is a good environment
She showed her husband to be a righteous ascetic
Even if it was in a luxurious environment
She showed her husband that he was generous
Who does not respond to her request
Its women tend to control its men
She showed how strong she was
In control of it
The same applies to contentment and anger
If she was satisfied, she would raise him to heaven
Even if she was angry, she made him
At the bottom of two bastards
And do not escape this scourge
Except the righteous and faithful woman
And I made her worse at that
Mother of the Believers Aisha, may God be pleased with her
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her
She said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, told me
I know
If you are satisfied with me
And if you are angry with me
She said so I said how do you know that?
He said, “If you are.”
If you are satisfied with me
You say, “No, by the Lord of Muhammad.”
And if you are angry with me
I said, “No, by the Lord of Abraham.”
She said I said
Yes, by God, O Messenger of God
I only leave your name behind
Narrated by Al-Bukhari
The woman of faith
It comes in the hadith of Alsi bin Malik
On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, that
He said three fatalities
Scarcity is obedient
And his passion is followed
And one's admiration for oneself is good
And three salvations
Justice in contentment and anger
The intention is in wealth and poverty
Narrated by Al-Tabarani in Al-Awsat
She is committed to justice
Speaking of her husband
And don't underestimate it, really
Nor does it elevate him above his status
And do not claim that he has any honor
What he doesn't have
And do not make any defects in it
In case of discontent, what is not in it
What do you like about your husband?
And what do you like about it?
We will continue in the next meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds