In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Men's items
In the hadith of Umm Zara’
The lover's husband
There is no time without a woman suffering from her husband
There is no suffering for the man from his wife
The nature of this life is that it is not devoid of hardship
But suffering differs from suffering
There is temporary suffering
There is constant suffering
The most difficult and longest
Suffering related to the character of a man or a woman
The difficulty stems from a person's unwillingness to change his character
And adapting to those around him
Otherwise
Every reprehensible creation is subject to change
Whoever changes himself, God changes his conditions
Some people may deny the possibility of changing morals
Under the pretext that he was born with that
And they say
Imprinting prevails over imprinting
He responds to this invitation
Imam Al-Ghazali, may God have mercy on him
And he says
If morals do not accept change
Commandments, sermons, and chastisements would have become invalid
Al-Ghazali protests this statement with something else, saying:
How can this be denied against humans?
Changing the character of the animal is possible
It transfers the goshawk from the Istihaash to the Anas
The dog is a voracious eater
To be polite, abstain, and let go
And the horse is from the reins
To smoothness and obedience
All of this is a change in morals
If this applies to animals
In the human being whom God has honored with reason, first of all
It is not valid to excuse the statement of the man or the woman
This is my nature
The good nature remains with him
And bad temper changes
What happened to us was the suffering of the first and second wives
It's all due to bad temperaments in the man that he did not change
This is the third suffering
Narrated by the third woman
So she says
The lover's husband
If I speak, I will release
If I remain silent, I will comment
Suffering indicates that a woman is not safe, neither in silence nor in conversation
So what do you do?
Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
The long embrace
Al-Asmai said
She says
He doesn't have more than his length without use
If I mention his faults, he will divorce me
If he was silent, he would leave me hanging
Neither any nor the same as Baal
This woman describes her husband as tall
Is she praising him or disparaging him?
The context of the speech indicates slander
What do you mean by this word?
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
Al-Asmai said
She wanted him not to have more than his height without benefit
And someone else said
It is a must-have length
And it was said
I described him at length
Because length is mostly a guide to stupidity
He also said, may God have mercy on him
Abu Saeed Al-Dareer said
The correct one
That love
The long and noble one
He who owns his own affairs
Women do not control it
Rather, he rules over them as he wishes
His wife is afraid to speak in his presence
She is reluctantly silent
Al-Zamakhshari said
It is a serious complaint
It's over
This is supported by what happened in the narration of Yaqoub bin Al-Sakit
From the increase at the end
It is as disgusting as the tooth
By opening the dictionary and tightening the lam
That is, the abstract with its weight and meaning
She indicates that she is wary of him
It is possible that she wanted this
He is reckless and cannot settle
Like sharp teeth
As for describing him as a fool, it is foolish
This is clearly reprehensible
The Arabs say that he has a view without an informant
He sees boys as palm trees
And you don't know what income is
As for describing it as not being controlled by women
This is one of the meanings of manhood
It is not considered reprehensible
And the context of her speech
It indicates that she disparages him by describing him as being long
The correct meaning
That these kind of men have looks
They have no informant
Unfortunately
Today, there are many young people who take care of their appearance
To go out among the people in an elegant way
If he speaks and speaks
He showed you his little mind
And until the man gets rid of this scourge
He should have knowledge and culture that develop his mind
Not just to develop his muscles
And the biggest disaster
If the husband and wife are busy
What is called triviality today
Marital life will collapse quickly
And who looked at the lives of celebrities closely
He found the misery and destruction that these people lived through
Who deceive people with flashy appearances
They sleep on the thorns of problems and differences
Because his minds are preoccupied with trivial matters
Most of his concern was the false portrayal of Al-Baraqa
And publish it on social media
To gain followers and gain fame
This is not the only suffering
Which she lived this time
But there is other suffering
She expressed it by saying:
If I speak, I will release
If I remain silent, I will comment
Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
Which also appears to me
She wanted to describe her bad condition to him
She pointed out his bad character
The potential promise of her words
If she complains to him about her condition
And she knew that when she mentioned it to him
Nothing like that
He took the initiative to divorce her
It does not affect his divorce
For her love in him
Then I crossed the second sentence
An indication that it is
If she remains patient in this situation
It was like a spoon to him
Which does not have a husband or any
She does not live with him in peace
Rather, she lives in constant anxiety
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
It fulfills everything I described
Bad manners and bad behavior
And she is not safe from harm or harm
Moreover, it is reprehensible for women and people
And she is wary of his company
Not confident in myself
And there is no stability for him
Expecting his harm or separation
She is with him as if he were on the same page
Of fear and caution
Lack of reassurance and stability
The Arabs say who it is
Cautious and unstable
It's like the point of a spear
Like the edge of a sword
Like the horn of a gazelle
An important issue for women
In her married life
To feel safe and stable with her husband
This woman does not know security
Nor stability
Because the husband does not accept her words
He threatens her with divorce if she speaks
If she remained silent, she would live with him in suspense
And God Almighty
He forbade men from harming women
By suspending it in married life
She is neither a wife nor divorced
And he said
And you will not be able to treat women justly, even if you strive.
So do not incline completely, lest you leave it hanging
Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said
If the wife leaves her husband
What she should
She became like a hanging woman who has no husband
She rests and prepares for marriage
She does not have a husband who can fulfill her rights
The woman's comment is very supportive of her
Because marital life is based on the legal relationship between the spouses
If the husband fails to keep the woman chaste
It exposes her to temptation
Especially in a time like this
In which women interact with men in many jobs
The words of the third woman indicate
However, she loves her husband and does not want anyone else
Because if she hates it
I would have spoken and pointed out his faults so he would divorce her
But she preferred to remain silent rather than speak
Although silence is also permitted
Because it will remain suspended
She does not get from married life what other women get
Except rarely
However, she chose to stay with him because of her love for him
Can a man appreciate this love that a woman has for him?
With the severity of his abuse of her
Will he reconsider his lifestyle with his wife?
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds