In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Men's types
In the hadith of Umm Zara’
A woman loves talking to her husband
This is a long talk
Hadith or planting?
Narrated by the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, may God be pleased with her
On the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
He listens to her
Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said
This is correct in this hadith
It is all from the words of Aisha, may God be pleased with her
Except what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her
I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother
This is what is agreed upon by the scholars of correction
So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened to Aisha
She talks this long
From his good treatment of his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace
This incident is not the only one of the incidents
Evidence of his good character, may God bless him and grant him peace
He listens well to his wives
Rather, the Sunnah is full of examples of this
Including his story with Safiya while listening to her
He is in seclusion in the mosque
On the authority of Safiyya, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
She came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
She visits him during his seclusion in the mosque
In the last ten days of Ramadan
So I talked to him for an hour
Then she turned over
So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood with her and turned her over
Even when you reach the door of the mosque
At Umm Salamah's door
Two Ansar men passed by
He greeted the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to them
On your messengers
She is Safiyya bint Huyay
He said, Glory be to God, O Messenger of God
And he grew up with them
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
Satan reaches the level of blood from a person
And I feared that he might throw something into your hearts
Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim
Ibn Khuzaymah, may God have mercy on him, said
As for the news of Safiyya Thabet, it is true
In both of them, it indicates that the wife’s conversation is with her husband
It is permissible for him to seclude himself at night
He is the brown one himself
This incident occurred during the last ten days of Ramadan
He is in seclusion to his Lord in the mosque
However, itikaf did not prevent him from sitting with his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace
And he listens to them
He talks to them every night of his seclusion
When the Mother of the Believers, Safiyya, asked to speak to him alone
He didn't stop her
Rather, he listened to her for a full hour while she spoke
And he wasn't bored with it
It was not impossible for her that this was the month of worship
He is in seclusion and needs to devote himself to worship
He did not hurt her with a word that would make her hide what was in herself and live with her pain
As some of them say
Be brief and do not waste your time of worship
He says leave this topic until after Ramadan
Never
He, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened carefully to his wives
Even if we kept talking
As in the hadith of Umm Zar’a and the story of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her
If a woman forgets to talk to her husband, it does not end
The hadith of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her, continued
Even after she got up from her seat and wanted to leave
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued to talk to her and listen to her
He was standing on his feet at the door of the mosque
He was not bored, and that was a blessing to herself
It is a woman's nature to love talking to her husband
The happy man is the one who invests this love in making himself and his wife happy
There are different types of conversations between a woman and her husband
One of them relates to children's problems
Some of them relate to household matters
Some of them relate to the conditions of the women around her and their relationships with their husbands
Hadith or implantation is of the last type
And when a woman talks to her husband
She wants him to listen to her talk
They interacted with her by looking into her eyes and face as she spoke
This purpose is spoiled if the husband is busy playing with his phone
Or focus on looking at the channels and flipping them
When a woman raises the problem
Or tell the long story
A short comment from the husband on the topic is sufficient for her
He makes her happy and makes her feel interested in what she proposed
As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did
When he told her after she finished
I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother
Women must choose time well
When she tries to talk to her husband
She also improved in choosing the appropriate topic for the time she chose
It is not appropriate to receive the husband when he is coming from work
Or from travel or when sitting down to eat
Or before going to sleep, he mentions the children’s problems or requests at home
These are times that do not suit men
The man must guide the woman to a better time
If she made a mistake in choosing the right time
A man must also make time to listen to his family
And he doesn't get bored about it
Someone better than him listened to them
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
These are examples of what scholars say
Commenting on the hadith of Umm Zara’
Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said
It includes knowledge of good relations with one’s family
It is desirable to talk to them about something that does not involve sin
Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
A man's good treatment with his family
And make them feel comfortable and like to talk to them about something that is not sinful
As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did here
In his conversation with Aisha and those of his wives who were with her
Tell the news about these women
And so Al-Bukhari translated it
Chapter on good relations with the family
The correct authenticated narrations have been reported
With his good treatment, may God bless him and grant him peace to his family
And he spread it to them
And also on the authority of the righteous predecessors
Malik, may God have mercy on him, used to say:
In that are pleasing to your Lord
And love for your family
And things about Malik
And a woman for your sake
He said
This was reported to me on the authority of some of the companions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
He was Malik, may God have mercy on him
He is one of the people who has the best behavior with his family and children
And he was saying
A person must love his people
So that he is the most beloved to the people
How good was the humiliation of Omar bin Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him
When Thumama bin Hazn denounced him
Listening to a woman
Even though she made it difficult to say that
By God listening to a woman
She complained to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
How could he not listen to her?
Thumama bin Hazn said
While Omar bin Al-Khattab was walking on a donkey
I found him a woman
And she said
Stop, Omar
So he stood up
A man said
O Commander of the Faithful!
I did not see you today as a woman as harsh as a man
A man does not listen to a woman
He said
Woe to you!
What prevents me from listening to it?
She is the one whom God listened to
What was revealed in it
God has heard the words of the woman who argues with you about her husband
I have no right to listen to someone whom God listened to
This is the action of the men we emulate
So are you, honorable man?
Who do you listen to your wife and listen to her when she speaks?
We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds