1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,469 In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful. 2 00:00:05,469 --> 00:00:07,469 Summary of the book: 3 00:00:07,469 --> 00:00:09,470 "Ramadan: 4 00:00:09,470 --> 00:00:11,470 Events and Lessons." 5 00:00:11,470 --> 00:00:15,980 The passing of the Mother of the Believers, 6 00:00:15,980 --> 00:00:18,980 Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, 7 00:00:18,980 --> 00:00:20,980 may Allah be pleased with her. 8 00:00:20,980 --> 00:00:23,739 The Date: 9 00:00:23,739 --> 00:00:26,739 On the tenth of Ramadan, 10 00:00:26,739 --> 00:00:29,739 in the tenth year of the Prophetic mission. 11 00:00:29,739 --> 00:00:35,270 A wife is her husband's life partner 12 00:00:35,270 --> 00:00:38,270 and his companion through all circumstances: 13 00:00:38,270 --> 00:00:41,270 in ease and hardship, 14 00:00:41,270 --> 00:00:43,270 in joy and sorrow, 15 00:00:43,270 --> 00:00:45,270 in wealth and poverty, 16 00:00:45,270 --> 00:00:48,270 and in hopes and pain. 17 00:00:48,270 --> 00:00:52,500 Whenever a righteous man is blessed with a righteous wife, 18 00:00:52,500 --> 00:00:55,500 how excellent a companion he has acquired, 19 00:00:55,500 --> 00:00:58,500 and how wonderful a partner he has gained! 20 00:00:58,500 --> 00:01:02,719 Our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 21 00:01:02,719 --> 00:01:05,719 was among those for whom Allah chose 22 00:01:05,719 --> 00:01:08,719 the very best and purest of women, 23 00:01:08,719 --> 00:01:10,719 selecting for him from among them 24 00:01:10,719 --> 00:01:13,719 the most pious and upright. 25 00:01:13,719 --> 00:01:16,719 They were the finest wives for the finest of husbands, 26 00:01:16,719 --> 00:01:19,719 and the best of women for the best husband. 27 00:01:19,719 --> 00:01:22,819 Foremost among his pure wives was 28 00:01:22,819 --> 00:01:25,819 Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, 29 00:01:25,819 --> 00:01:27,819 may Allah be pleased with her. 30 00:01:27,819 --> 00:01:31,099 Indeed, Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, 31 00:01:31,099 --> 00:01:33,099 is a role model for every Muslim woman, 32 00:01:33,099 --> 00:01:36,099 from whom one should draw 33 00:01:36,099 --> 00:01:39,099 lessons in purity and chastity, 34 00:01:39,099 --> 00:01:41,099 in choosing a husband wisely, 35 00:01:41,099 --> 00:01:43,099 in mastering the art of being a devoted wife, 36 00:01:43,099 --> 00:01:46,099 in skillfully resolving a husband's troubles, 37 00:01:46,099 --> 00:01:49,099 in knowing how to ease 38 00:01:49,099 --> 00:01:51,099 his grief and worries, 39 00:01:51,099 --> 00:01:53,099 and in understanding his background 40 00:01:53,099 --> 00:01:56,099 to help him build his present 41 00:01:56,099 --> 00:01:58,230 and his future. 42 00:01:58,230 --> 00:02:01,230 She is an unmatched model of sacrifice 43 00:02:01,230 --> 00:02:03,299 in championing the truth, 44 00:02:03,299 --> 00:02:06,299 offering material and moral support 45 00:02:06,299 --> 00:02:08,300 to the Islamic message, 46 00:02:08,300 --> 00:02:10,300 and answering its call 47 00:02:10,300 --> 00:02:13,520 without hesitation or dispute. 48 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:17,520 The life of our mother Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, 49 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:19,520 is a rich source 50 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:22,520 of righteousness for the believing woman. 51 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:24,520 It is an academy 52 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,520 from which one can graduate with distinction, 53 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,520 mastering how to be a righteous wife, 54 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:32,520 an inspiring caller to the faith, 55 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,520 an ascetic worshipper, 56 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:36,520 and a woman who dedicated her wealth 57 00:02:36,520 --> 00:02:40,219 to championing the truth and its people. 58 00:02:40,219 --> 00:02:43,219 The Merits of Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her: 59 00:02:43,219 --> 00:02:45,349 First: 60 00:02:45,349 --> 00:02:47,349 Noble lineage and ancestry, 61 00:02:47,349 --> 00:02:50,349 wealth, honor, and beauty. 62 00:02:50,419 --> 00:02:52,419 Second: 63 00:02:52,419 --> 00:02:55,509 Sound judgment and manifest wisdom. 64 00:02:55,509 --> 00:02:57,509 Third: 65 00:02:57,509 --> 00:03:01,860 Sacrificing her wealth to champion the truth. 66 00:03:01,860 --> 00:03:02,860 Fourth: 67 00:03:02,860 --> 00:03:07,860 Her immense love for the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, 68 00:03:07,860 --> 00:03:10,020 and prioritizing his pleasure. 69 00:03:10,020 --> 00:03:12,020 Fifth: 70 00:03:12,020 --> 00:03:14,020 Chastity and purity; 71 00:03:14,020 --> 00:03:18,020 even in the pre-Islamic era, she was known as "the Pure One." 72 00:03:18,020 --> 00:03:22,020 Many of the chieftains of Quraysh sought her hand in marriage, 73 00:03:22,020 --> 00:03:24,020 yet she declined them all, 74 00:03:24,020 --> 00:03:27,020 as if searching for a long-sought ideal 75 00:03:27,020 --> 00:03:29,020 she could not find among them, 76 00:03:29,020 --> 00:03:33,020 until she found it in Muhammad ibn 'Abdillah. 77 00:03:33,020 --> 00:03:35,020 For Allah had reserved her for him, 78 00:03:35,020 --> 00:03:37,020 and reserved him for her. 79 00:03:37,020 --> 00:03:39,180 Her Virtues: 80 00:03:39,180 --> 00:03:41,280 First: 81 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:43,280 She was the very first responsible person 82 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:48,280 to believe in the prophethood of our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, without exception. 83 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,599 Second: 84 00:03:50,599 --> 00:03:52,599 She was given the glad tidings of Paradise 85 00:03:52,599 --> 00:03:55,599 while she was still walking on the earth. 86 00:03:55,599 --> 00:03:59,860 Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that he said: 87 00:03:59,860 --> 00:04:04,860 Gabriel came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and said: 88 00:04:04,860 --> 00:04:06,860 "O Messenger of Allah, 89 00:04:06,860 --> 00:04:09,860 here is Khadijah coming to you, 90 00:04:09,860 --> 00:04:14,889 carrying a vessel of seasoning, food, or drink. 91 00:04:14,889 --> 00:04:16,889 When she reaches you, 92 00:04:16,889 --> 00:04:20,889 convey to her greetings of peace from her Lord and from me, 93 00:04:20,889 --> 00:04:24,889 and give her the glad tidings of a palace in Paradise made of hollow pearls, 94 00:04:24,889 --> 00:04:27,889 wherein there is neither noise nor fatigue." 95 00:04:27,889 --> 00:04:30,300 Third: 96 00:04:30,300 --> 00:04:33,300 She received greetings of peace from Allah and from Gabriel, 97 00:04:33,300 --> 00:04:38,430 as attested by the preceding hadith of Abu Hurayrah. 98 00:04:38,430 --> 00:04:39,430 Fourth: 99 00:04:39,430 --> 00:04:43,589 She is among the best women of the worlds. 100 00:04:43,589 --> 00:04:47,589 On the authority of 'Ali ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him, 101 00:04:47,589 --> 00:04:51,589 the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 102 00:04:51,589 --> 00:04:53,589 "The best of its women is Mary, 103 00:04:53,589 --> 00:04:56,589 and the best of its women is Khadijah." 104 00:04:56,589 --> 00:05:02,850 Indeed, some narrations state that she is the best woman of this Ummah. 105 00:05:02,850 --> 00:05:07,879 'Ammar ibn Yasir, may Allah be pleased with him and his father, said: 106 00:05:07,879 --> 00:05:11,879 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: 107 00:05:11,879 --> 00:05:15,879 "Khadijah has been favored over the women of my Ummah 108 00:05:15,879 --> 00:05:19,879 just as Mary was favored over the women of the worlds." 109 00:05:19,879 --> 00:05:22,300 Fifth: 110 00:05:22,300 --> 00:05:27,329 All the children of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, were from her, 111 00:05:27,329 --> 00:05:30,550 except for Ibrahim. 112 00:05:30,550 --> 00:05:32,550 The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said: 113 00:05:32,550 --> 00:05:35,550 "She was such and such, 114 00:05:35,550 --> 00:05:38,550 and she bore my children." 115 00:05:38,550 --> 00:05:43,610 The Noble Prophet's Reciprocation of Gratitude: 116 00:05:43,610 --> 00:05:48,740 First, he did not take another wife until she died. 117 00:05:48,740 --> 00:05:52,800 Second, his immense love for her 118 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,800 and never forgetting her excellence; 119 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:59,800 he, peace and blessings be upon him, said regarding her: 120 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:02,959 "I was indeed blessed with her love." 121 00:06:02,959 --> 00:06:05,959 'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: 122 00:06:05,959 --> 00:06:10,959 Whenever the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, mentioned Khadijah, 123 00:06:10,959 --> 00:06:13,959 he would praise her in the most magnificent manner. 124 00:06:13,959 --> 00:06:16,990 She said: "One day, I became jealous 125 00:06:16,990 --> 00:06:21,990 and said: 'How often you remember that toothless old woman, 126 00:06:21,990 --> 00:06:26,990 when Allah has replaced her for you with someone better than her!' 127 00:06:26,990 --> 00:06:32,019 He said: 'Allah has not replaced her with anyone better than her. 128 00:06:32,019 --> 00:06:36,060 She believed in me when the people disbelieved, 129 00:06:36,060 --> 00:06:39,060 she verified my truthfulness when the people accused me of lying, 130 00:06:39,060 --> 00:06:43,060 she supported me with her wealth when the people deprived me, 131 00:06:43,060 --> 00:06:47,060 and Allah blessed me with her children 132 00:06:47,060 --> 00:06:50,060 while denying me the children of other women.'" 133 00:06:50,060 --> 00:06:56,279 Third, his profound grief over her passing, as will be discussed. 134 00:06:56,279 --> 00:07:02,310 Fourth, her memory was never erased from his heart or mind. 135 00:07:02,310 --> 00:07:06,410 'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: 136 00:07:06,410 --> 00:07:10,410 Halah bint Khuwaylid, Khadijah's sister, sought permission to enter 137 00:07:10,410 --> 00:07:14,410 upon the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 138 00:07:14,410 --> 00:07:17,410 and he recognized Khadijah's manner of asking permission, 139 00:07:17,410 --> 00:07:20,410 which moved him deeply, and he exclaimed: 140 00:07:20,410 --> 00:07:23,410 "O Allah, let it be Halah bint Khuwaylid!" 141 00:07:23,410 --> 00:07:26,410 I became jealous and said: 142 00:07:26,410 --> 00:07:30,410 "Why do you remember an old woman from among the elders of Quraysh, 143 00:07:30,410 --> 00:07:34,410 toothless and long deceased, 144 00:07:34,410 --> 00:07:37,410 when Allah has replaced her for you with someone better?" 145 00:07:37,410 --> 00:07:43,819 Fifth, his kind treatment of her friends out of loyalty to her. 146 00:07:43,819 --> 00:07:48,050 'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: 147 00:07:48,050 --> 00:07:53,050 "I was never as jealous of any of the Prophet's wives 148 00:07:53,050 --> 00:07:58,050 as I was of Khadijah, though I never saw her. 149 00:07:58,050 --> 00:08:03,050 But the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to mention her often, 150 00:08:03,050 --> 00:08:08,050 and he would sometimes slaughter a sheep, cut it into pieces, 151 00:08:08,050 --> 00:08:12,050 and send them to Khadijah's friends. 152 00:08:12,050 --> 00:08:16,209 I would sometimes say to him: 'It is as if there were no other woman in the world 153 00:08:16,209 --> 00:08:19,209 except Khadijah!' 154 00:08:19,209 --> 00:08:23,209 and he would reply: 'She was such and such, 155 00:08:23,209 --> 00:08:26,209 and she bore my children.'" 156 00:08:26,209 --> 00:08:30,560 The Sorrowful Event and Its Date: 157 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:34,779 The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 158 00:08:34,779 --> 00:08:39,779 enjoyed immense blessings in the embrace of Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, 159 00:08:39,779 --> 00:08:43,779 finding in her company solace and serenity, 160 00:08:43,779 --> 00:08:47,779 soothing comfort against the flames of sorrow, 161 00:08:47,779 --> 00:08:51,779 and noble support through life's hardships; 162 00:08:51,779 --> 00:08:56,779 she was the delight of his eyes and a sanctuary of happiness and peace. 163 00:08:56,779 --> 00:09:02,850 Yet death is an inevitable truth and an unalterable decree; 164 00:09:02,850 --> 00:09:07,850 thus, death visited Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, 165 00:09:07,850 --> 00:09:11,850 in the month of Ramadan, after ten days had passed, 166 00:09:11,850 --> 00:09:15,850 in the tenth year of the Prophetic mission, 167 00:09:15,850 --> 00:09:17,850 though some say earlier. 168 00:09:17,850 --> 00:09:25,909 This event had a painful impact on the soul of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, 169 00:09:25,909 --> 00:09:31,009 for he lost a strong arm that supported and empowered him, 170 00:09:31,009 --> 00:09:35,009 an embrace that had comforted and sheltered him, 171 00:09:35,009 --> 00:09:40,009 and a beloved companion who had stood by him in ease and hardship 172 00:09:40,009 --> 00:09:43,009 for twenty-five years. 173 00:09:43,009 --> 00:09:46,230 What intensified this sorrow 174 00:09:46,230 --> 00:09:50,230 was its proximity to the passing of his uncle, Abu Talib, 175 00:09:50,230 --> 00:09:54,230 who had been his external protector among the people, 176 00:09:54,230 --> 00:09:59,230 while the mother of his children, Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, 177 00:09:59,230 --> 00:10:02,230 was his internal pillar of support. 178 00:10:02,230 --> 00:10:05,779 Among the lessons of this event: 179 00:10:05,779 --> 00:10:10,779 First, no matter how strong and enduring the bonds of love may be, 180 00:10:10,779 --> 00:10:14,779 death must inevitably sever them; 181 00:10:14,779 --> 00:10:18,899 love whomever you will, for you will surely part with them. 182 00:10:18,899 --> 00:10:24,899 Yet for the believer, this is a station of immense reward through patience and acceptance. 183 00:10:24,899 --> 00:10:27,190 Second: 184 00:10:27,190 --> 00:10:32,190 Grief that is free from words and deeds contrary to patience 185 00:10:32,190 --> 00:10:34,190 carries no sin, 186 00:10:34,190 --> 00:10:37,190 for the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, 187 00:10:37,190 --> 00:10:41,190 showed profound sorrow at the loss of Khadijah. 188 00:10:41,190 --> 00:10:43,320 Third: 189 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:47,320 Grief is greatest over the loss of one whose life was an abundant spring 190 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,320 overflowing with goodness and generosity 191 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:53,580 bestowed upon others. 192 00:10:53,580 --> 00:10:55,610 Fourth: 193 00:10:55,610 --> 00:10:57,610 The death of a righteous wife 194 00:10:57,610 --> 00:11:01,610 remains a deep wound in a husband's soul, 195 00:11:01,610 --> 00:11:03,610 rekindled by memories 196 00:11:03,610 --> 00:11:07,610 and revived by familiar sights and sounds. 197 00:11:07,610 --> 00:11:09,799 Fifth: 198 00:11:09,799 --> 00:11:13,799 All that our mother Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, offered 199 00:11:13,799 --> 00:11:18,799 in supporting and aiding the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, 200 00:11:18,799 --> 00:11:21,799 and her profound righteousness and goodness, 201 00:11:21,799 --> 00:11:27,799 compel us to hold her in ever greater esteem, love, and praise— 202 00:11:27,799 --> 00:11:32,559 may Allah be pleased with her. 203 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:36,559 Ramadan: Events and Lessons.