1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,600 The story of the Queen of Sheba 2 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:12,339 The hoopoe was absent from the military parade 3 00:00:12,339 --> 00:00:20,239 The story of the Queen of Sheba begins with the Prophet Solomon, peace be upon him, inspecting his bird soldiers 4 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:25,039 Pay attention to the disappearance of the hoopoe among the birds from the army 5 00:00:25,039 --> 00:00:30,160 The Prophet of God, Solomon, peace be upon him, became angry at the hoopoe’s absence 6 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:36,399 He threatened to punish him severely if he had no excuse for his absence 7 00:00:36,399 --> 00:00:38,750 God Almighty said 8 00:00:38,750 --> 00:00:50,109 He inspected the bird and said, “What is the matter with me that I do not see the hoopoe or was it one of those absent?” 9 00:00:50,109 --> 00:01:05,790 I will punish him with a severe torment, or I will slaughter him, or he will bring me clear authority 10 00:01:05,790 --> 00:01:11,629 Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said: This indicates the perfection of his determination and firmness 11 00:01:11,629 --> 00:01:18,349 He organized his soldiers well and managed matters personally, both small and large 12 00:01:18,510 --> 00:01:28,590 He did not even neglect this matter of inspecting the birds and seeing if they were all there or if anything was missing 13 00:01:28,590 --> 00:01:38,609 This is the case with a man who is firm with his subjects, so do not be distressed by my honorable sister if she is blessed with a firm husband 14 00:01:38,609 --> 00:01:45,969 He checks on you and your offspring, because if he does not do that, the family will be lost 15 00:01:46,459 --> 00:01:52,459 This is what is obligatory for him, because the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 16 00:01:52,459 --> 00:01:57,540 You are all a shepherd and you are all responsible for your flock 17 00:01:57,540 --> 00:02:01,299 The imam is a shepherd and responsible for his flock 18 00:02:01,299 --> 00:02:06,340 A man is a shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock 19 00:02:06,340 --> 00:02:12,740 The woman is a shepherd in her husband’s house and responsible for her flock 20 00:02:12,740 --> 00:02:14,990 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 21 00:02:14,990 --> 00:02:18,189 And in another narration by Al-Bukhari 22 00:02:18,189 --> 00:02:25,150 The woman is the caretaker of her husband’s house and his children, and she is responsible for them 23 00:02:25,150 --> 00:02:31,069 The flock loses a praiseworthy quality that indicates the shepherd’s interest in the flock 24 00:02:31,069 --> 00:02:37,389 Follow up on their conditions, take care of their affairs, and solve their problems 25 00:02:37,389 --> 00:02:40,590 Al-Tahir bin Asoun, may God have mercy on him, said 26 00:02:40,669 --> 00:02:44,990 The soldiers inspected the emblem of the king and princes 27 00:02:44,990 --> 00:02:48,909 It is one of the purposes of gathering and marching soldiers 28 00:02:48,909 --> 00:02:54,030 The meaning is that you lose the bird as a whole 29 00:02:54,030 --> 00:02:59,870 He said to those who were concerned about the birds, “Why do I not see the hoopoe?” 30 00:02:59,870 --> 00:03:04,430 One of the duties of governors is to inspect the conditions of his subjects 31 00:03:04,430 --> 00:03:07,629 He inspected the workers and others himself 32 00:03:07,629 --> 00:03:13,229 What did Omar do when he left for the Levant in the year seventeen AH? 33 00:03:13,229 --> 00:03:15,870 Or to whomever is entrusted with that 34 00:03:15,870 --> 00:03:23,340 Omar made Muhammad bin Maslamah Al-Ansariyya inspect the workers 35 00:03:23,340 --> 00:03:27,659 And the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, in the previous hadith 36 00:03:27,659 --> 00:03:31,900 He distributed the responsibility of the family to the husband and wife 37 00:03:31,900 --> 00:03:37,259 He described each of them as a shepherd and having flocks 38 00:03:37,259 --> 00:03:41,969 It is not appropriate for a shepherd to neglect checking on his flock 39 00:03:41,969 --> 00:03:45,250 The entire family is the man’s subject 40 00:03:45,250 --> 00:03:49,409 It is his responsibility to check on his wife's condition 41 00:03:49,409 --> 00:03:54,530 Who do you associate with, who do you hang out with, and where do you go? 42 00:03:54,530 --> 00:03:58,289 What does she keep busy during her day and night? 43 00:03:58,289 --> 00:04:00,930 He checks her health conditions 44 00:04:00,930 --> 00:04:04,849 What medication or treatment you need 45 00:04:04,849 --> 00:04:07,090 And he checks her psychology 46 00:04:07,090 --> 00:04:11,810 What annoys her about his behavior and what does she like? 47 00:04:11,810 --> 00:04:14,930 So that he can make her happy 48 00:04:14,930 --> 00:04:18,579 And on himself in the marital home 49 00:04:18,579 --> 00:04:23,779 The husband needs to be firm in his decisions to take care of the house 50 00:04:23,779 --> 00:04:28,819 This is what the wife needs and looks for from her husband 51 00:04:28,819 --> 00:04:31,779 In fact, it makes her happy 52 00:04:31,779 --> 00:04:37,459 A sensible woman becomes upset if her husband is not decisive in matters of the home and family 53 00:04:37,459 --> 00:04:40,339 He did not follow up on her condition 54 00:04:40,339 --> 00:04:42,660 Firmness does not mean severity 55 00:04:42,660 --> 00:04:48,660 Rather, it means not being lenient and retreating from positions if they are correct 56 00:04:48,660 --> 00:04:52,420 The most beautiful packages were in Lynn 57 00:04:52,420 --> 00:04:57,459 You have a good example in the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace 58 00:04:57,459 --> 00:05:01,250 And among his women, the mothers of the believers, are role models 59 00:05:01,329 --> 00:05:06,050 May God bless him and grant him peace, he used to check on the conditions of his wives 60 00:05:06,050 --> 00:05:09,170 And they don't get bored about it 61 00:05:09,170 --> 00:05:13,970 On the authority of Aisha, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, she said 62 00:05:13,970 --> 00:05:20,290 I stayed at the time of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, one night after dinner 63 00:05:20,290 --> 00:05:23,970 Then I came and he said where were you? 64 00:05:23,970 --> 00:05:28,529 I said I was listening to the reading of one of your companions 65 00:05:28,529 --> 00:05:32,769 I have never heard his reading and voice from anyone 66 00:05:32,769 --> 00:05:38,129 She said, so he got up and I stayed with him so I could listen to him 67 00:05:38,129 --> 00:05:40,850 Then he turned to me and said 68 00:05:40,850 --> 00:05:44,779 This is Salem, the client of Abu Hudhayfah 69 00:05:44,779 --> 00:05:49,699 Praise be to God who made my nation like this 70 00:05:49,699 --> 00:05:52,209 Narrated by Ibn Majah 71 00:05:52,209 --> 00:05:56,129 So what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to Aisha 72 00:05:56,209 --> 00:05:57,730 Where were you? 73 00:05:57,730 --> 00:06:02,689 It is a kind of holding the wife accountable for her late return home 74 00:06:02,689 --> 00:06:04,930 The reason for this delay 75 00:06:04,930 --> 00:06:06,610 That means 76 00:06:06,610 --> 00:06:12,930 The husband has the right to ask such questions when checking on his wife’s condition 77 00:06:12,930 --> 00:06:17,540 Especially if he is suspicious of one of her actions 78 00:06:17,540 --> 00:06:24,660 Then look at the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, standing with her to hear this man’s reading 79 00:06:24,740 --> 00:06:28,579 And his knowledge and interaction with what I mentioned 80 00:06:28,579 --> 00:06:32,500 It is not a denial or doubt about what she said 81 00:06:32,500 --> 00:06:38,500 There is nothing in her words or actions that would cause suspicion or doubt about her 82 00:06:38,500 --> 00:06:42,480 Far be it from that, may God be pleased with her 83 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:49,040 But a man may doubt his wife’s words or one of her actions 84 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:52,639 He wants to verify the veracity of what she said 85 00:06:52,639 --> 00:06:57,379 This is his right if it has a legal justification 86 00:06:57,379 --> 00:07:01,060 On the authority of Ibn Abbas, may God be pleased with them both, he said: 87 00:07:01,060 --> 00:07:04,740 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 88 00:07:04,740 --> 00:07:10,180 If I were to stone someone without proof, I would stone so-and-so 89 00:07:10,180 --> 00:07:16,660 There was suspicion about its logic, its appearance, and who would enter it 90 00:07:16,660 --> 00:07:18,829 Narrated by Ibn Majah 91 00:07:18,829 --> 00:07:24,269 This woman is evident from her words, her dress, and her appearance 92 00:07:24,269 --> 00:07:29,790 Any man who enters upon her will suspect that she is an adulteress 93 00:07:29,790 --> 00:07:36,670 But there is no proof that God has prescribed to prove this from the four witnesses 94 00:07:36,670 --> 00:07:42,379 Therefore, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did not impose punishment on her 95 00:07:42,379 --> 00:07:45,329 Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said 96 00:07:45,329 --> 00:07:51,649 That is, if you were transgressing God’s right to it, to what was established to indicate it 97 00:07:51,649 --> 00:07:57,019 This woman would have been stoned to show evidence of her immorality 98 00:07:57,019 --> 00:08:02,459 Likewise, if a wife cares for her husband, she loses his condition 99 00:08:02,459 --> 00:08:06,220 The husband may change from one situation to another 100 00:08:06,220 --> 00:08:12,620 The wife sees some signs indicating his change in any matter 101 00:08:12,699 --> 00:08:18,540 Either in his relationship with her, his relationship with his Lord, or otherwise 102 00:08:18,540 --> 00:08:26,699 It is necessary to know this change, its cause, and quickly treat it before it gets worse 103 00:08:26,699 --> 00:08:34,460 This is Aisha, may God be pleased with her, who notices the change in the supplication of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 104 00:08:34,460 --> 00:08:40,940 And he repeated a certain supplication, so she inquired from him to find out the reason 105 00:08:41,019 --> 00:08:43,899 Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said 106 00:08:43,899 --> 00:08:51,330 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, often sought refuge from debtors and sinners 107 00:08:51,330 --> 00:08:56,960 I said, O Messenger of God, how often do you seek refuge from falling in love? 108 00:08:56,960 --> 00:09:03,759 He said that if someone is in debt, he tells lies and makes a promise and breaks it 109 00:09:03,759 --> 00:09:06,139 Narrated by Al-Bukhari 110 00:09:06,220 --> 00:09:12,860 This auspicious woman notices a change in the face of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace 111 00:09:12,860 --> 00:09:18,059 She asks him and makes him feel that she has noticed a change in his condition 112 00:09:18,059 --> 00:09:22,529 This is from the acumen of Maimuna, may God be pleased with her 113 00:09:22,529 --> 00:09:27,009 On the authority of Abdullah bin Abbas, may God be pleased with them both, he said 114 00:09:27,009 --> 00:09:30,370 Maimuna, may God be pleased with her, told me 115 00:09:30,370 --> 00:09:36,049 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, became one day 116 00:09:36,049 --> 00:09:43,309 Maimuna said, O Messenger of God, I have disapproved of your appearance since today 117 00:09:43,309 --> 00:09:46,990 The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said 118 00:09:46,990 --> 00:09:52,909 Gabriel promised to meet me tonight, but he did not meet me 119 00:09:52,909 --> 00:09:56,129 By God, I will not leave behind 120 00:09:56,129 --> 00:10:03,409 He said, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued that day 121 00:10:03,490 --> 00:10:08,210 Then he found himself being dragged by a dog under our tent 122 00:10:08,210 --> 00:10:10,610 So he ordered him to come out 123 00:10:10,610 --> 00:10:14,610 Then he took water in his hand and sprinkled his place 124 00:10:14,610 --> 00:10:18,210 When evening came, Gabriel met him 125 00:10:18,210 --> 00:10:23,409 He said to him: You promised me that you would meet me yesterday 126 00:10:23,409 --> 00:10:25,409 He said yes 127 00:10:25,409 --> 00:10:30,740 But we should not enter a house in which there is a dog or a picture 128 00:10:30,740 --> 00:10:35,139 So the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, rose on that day 129 00:10:35,139 --> 00:10:37,539 So he ordered the dogs to be killed 130 00:10:37,539 --> 00:10:41,940 He even orders the little wall dog to be killed 131 00:10:41,940 --> 00:10:45,169 And he leaves the big wall dog 132 00:10:45,169 --> 00:10:47,299 Narrated by Muslim 133 00:10:47,299 --> 00:10:53,950 So check on your husband before he changes on you and you don't realize it 134 00:10:53,950 --> 00:10:57,950 Losing children is the responsibility of both spouses 135 00:10:57,950 --> 00:11:01,950 Even if the mother is closer to her children than the father 136 00:11:01,950 --> 00:11:04,350 This is normal 137 00:11:04,350 --> 00:11:07,950 Especially if she is a resident of her home 138 00:11:07,950 --> 00:11:11,149 Dedicated to taking care of her family 139 00:11:11,149 --> 00:11:16,350 Therefore, she was explicitly assigned responsibility for the children 140 00:11:16,350 --> 00:11:19,149 As in Al-Bukhari’s narration 141 00:11:19,149 --> 00:11:23,149 The woman is a shepherd over her husband’s house and his children 142 00:11:23,149 --> 00:11:26,019 She is responsible for them 143 00:11:26,019 --> 00:11:28,419 You are responsible for your children 144 00:11:28,419 --> 00:11:32,419 And about checking their conditions and knowing who they are with 145 00:11:32,419 --> 00:11:34,419 And where do they go? 146 00:11:34,419 --> 00:11:37,220 And if they are late in returning home 147 00:11:37,220 --> 00:11:41,009 I asked about them and why they were late 148 00:11:41,009 --> 00:11:45,409 If the mother feels some imbalance in her children’s lives 149 00:11:45,409 --> 00:11:49,009 Our advice is for her to make her husband feel that way 150 00:11:49,009 --> 00:11:54,610 She should avoid dealing with the matter alone without consulting her husband 151 00:11:54,610 --> 00:11:56,610 This action is one of them 152 00:11:56,610 --> 00:12:01,870 He might say that the matter will get worse and get out of her control 153 00:12:01,870 --> 00:12:05,070 The father's intervention in treating the problem was delayed 154 00:12:05,070 --> 00:12:09,470 It may create a new problem between the father and his children 155 00:12:09,470 --> 00:12:12,669 You are the reason for it 156 00:12:12,669 --> 00:12:16,500 You are also responsible for your home 157 00:12:16,500 --> 00:12:22,100 Checking on the conditions of the home is an important issue in your married life 158 00:12:22,100 --> 00:12:24,100 This inspection 159 00:12:24,100 --> 00:12:27,299 It helps you know the shortcomings in the home 160 00:12:27,299 --> 00:12:30,500 What needs to be repaired or cleaned? 161 00:12:30,500 --> 00:12:32,899 Or add beauty to it 162 00:12:32,899 --> 00:12:36,350 Which makes your husband and children happy 163 00:12:36,350 --> 00:12:38,350 Think about it, my dear sister 164 00:12:38,350 --> 00:12:42,750 This great lesson from the Prophet of God Solomon, peace be upon him 165 00:12:42,750 --> 00:12:45,149 In inspecting the bird 166 00:12:45,149 --> 00:12:48,750 And benefit from it in performing your responsibilities 167 00:12:48,750 --> 00:12:52,299 And those who are under your hand 168 00:12:52,299 --> 00:12:59,500 But what did God’s Prophet Solomon, peace be upon him, do with the hoopoe after that? 169 00:12:59,500 --> 00:13:06,740 How did the Prophet of God, Solomon, peace be upon him, control his king and his soldiers? 170 00:13:06,740 --> 00:13:10,740 We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing 171 00:13:10,740 --> 00:13:14,740 Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds 172 00:13:14,740 --> 00:13:18,179 The story of the Queen of Sheba 173 00:13:18,179 --> 00:13:22,179 With the Prophet of God Solomon, peace be upon him