WEBVTT 00:00:01.419 --> 00:00:07.419 The story of the Hajj of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her. 00:00:07.419 --> 00:00:18.620 The difference between the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) treatment of Safiyyah when she menstruated and his treatment of ‘A’ishah. 00:00:18.620 --> 00:00:30.679 A sister performing Hajj might wonder about the difference between the Prophet’s stance toward our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, when she menstruated at Sarif, 00:00:30.679 --> 00:00:38.679 and his stance toward our Mother Safiyyah, may Allah be pleased with her, when she menstruated at Mina. 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:46.869 Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, answers this by saying that the discourse differs according to the context. 00:00:46.869 --> 00:00:54.869 As for ‘A’ishah, he entered upon her while she was weeping out of regret for the rites she had missed, so he consoled her. 00:00:54.869 --> 00:01:05.870 As for Safiyyah, he desired from her what a man desires from his wife, but she indicated the obstacle; thus, his address to each of them was appropriate to her specific situation. 00:01:05.870 --> 00:01:14.129 Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said this in response to those who claimed that the reason for the difference in treatment 00:01:14.129 --> 00:01:21.129 was his inclination toward our Mother ‘A’ishah more than toward our Mother Safiyyah. 00:01:21.129 --> 00:01:27.129 This claim is incorrect, for the noble character of the Prophet (peace be upon him) rejects such a notion. 00:01:27.129 --> 00:01:34.260 It may also be added that the onset of menstruation for our Mother ‘A’ishah 00:01:34.260 --> 00:01:38.260 did not affect the movement of the people in performing the rites or otherwise. 00:01:38.260 --> 00:01:43.260 This is in contrast to the onset of menstruation for our Mother Safiyyah, 00:01:43.260 --> 00:01:48.260 as it would have affected the movement of the people and their departure from Makkah. 00:01:48.260 --> 00:01:56.019 If she had not performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah—for there is no farewell circumambulation (Tawaf al-Wada‘) for a menstruating woman— 00:01:56.019 --> 00:02:04.900 once the Prophet (peace be upon him) was certain that our Mother Safiyyah 00:02:04.900 --> 00:02:12.900 had performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah before she menstruated, he ordered her to depart with the people and waived the farewell circumambulation. 00:02:12.900 --> 00:02:18.900 He (peace be upon him) said to her, "There is no harm; depart." 00:02:19.900 --> 00:02:24.969 In the Prophet’s command for her to depart, 00:02:24.969 --> 00:02:30.969 there is evidence that the farewell circumambulation is not required of a menstruating woman, nor must she wait until she is pure. 00:02:30.969 --> 00:02:33.969 This is the position of all the jurists (fuqaha’). 00:02:33.969 --> 00:02:36.129 Therefore, my sister performing Hajj, 00:02:36.129 --> 00:02:42.129 if your period begins during the days of Mina and you have already performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah before it, 00:02:42.129 --> 00:02:46.129 you are exempt from the farewell circumambulation. 00:02:46.129 --> 00:02:51.129 For this reason, you must be diligent in performing the Tawaf al-Ifadah on the Day of Sacrifice (Yawm al-Nahr). 00:02:51.129 --> 00:02:58.129 Do not delay it, lest you encounter difficulties that burden you and your guardian during the journey. 00:02:58.129 --> 00:03:07.180 Our Mother ‘A’ishah’s distress over her rites differing from those of the Mothers of the Believers. 00:03:07.180 --> 00:03:12.860 When the Prophet (peace be upon him) departed from Mina after stoning the pillars (Jamarat), 00:03:13.860 --> 00:03:18.860 he stopped at al-Muhassab, a place between Mina and the Sacred Mosque. 00:03:18.860 --> 00:03:25.860 There, the Prophet (peace be upon him) prayed Dhuhr, ‘Asr, Maghrib, and ‘Isha’. 00:03:25.860 --> 00:03:34.949 In the evening, our Mother ‘A’ishah discussed the matter of her rites with the Prophet (peace be upon him). 00:03:34.949 --> 00:03:37.949 Our Mother ‘A’ishah says: 00:03:37.949 --> 00:03:43.949 When it was the night of al-Hasbah, she said, "O Messenger of Allah, 00:03:43.949 --> 00:03:48.949 your wives are returning with an ‘Umrah and a Hajj, while I am returning only with a Hajj." 00:03:48.949 --> 00:03:53.080 The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her: 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:59.080 "Your circumambulation of the House and between al-Safa and al-Marwah suffices for both your Hajj and your ‘Umrah." 00:03:59.080 --> 00:04:05.080 She refused and said, "O Messenger of Allah, you have performed ‘Umrah, but I have not." 00:04:05.080 --> 00:04:11.080 "O Messenger of Allah, the people are returning with two rewards, while I return with one." 00:04:11.080 --> 00:04:17.110 "O Messenger of Allah, the people are departing with two rites, while I depart with only one." 00:04:17.110 --> 00:04:25.110 "O Messenger of Allah, your companions are returning with the reward of both Hajj and ‘Umrah, and I have not exceeded the Hajj." 00:04:25.110 --> 00:04:32.110 "Are your wives returning with a Hajj and an ‘Umrah, while I return with a Hajj that has no ‘Umrah with it?" 00:04:32.110 --> 00:04:37.269 When she persisted, he allowed her to perform ‘Umrah to soothe her spirit. 00:04:37.269 --> 00:04:44.430 She felt distressed that her companions would return with a separate Hajj and ‘Umrah, 00:04:44.430 --> 00:04:49.430 for they were performing Tamattu‘ and had not menstruated, nor had they performed Qiran. 00:04:49.430 --> 00:04:53.430 And she was returning with an ‘Umrah included within her Hajj. 00:04:53.430 --> 00:04:59.430 So he ordered her brother to take her to perform ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im to comfort her heart. 00:04:59.430 --> 00:05:04.069 This action of our Mother ‘A’ishah 00:05:04.069 --> 00:05:08.069 illustrates the nature of women from several aspects. 00:05:08.069 --> 00:05:16.069 A woman may persist in a request and repeat it until she obtains approval from her guardian or husband. 00:05:16.069 --> 00:05:22.069 Men should not be annoyed by this, nor should they demand that she act against her nature. 00:05:22.069 --> 00:05:27.170 A woman is affected by the superiority of her peers over her, 00:05:27.170 --> 00:05:31.170 so how much more so if they are her co-wives? 00:05:31.170 --> 00:05:37.170 She does not want others among the wives to surpass her or be distinguished from her. 00:05:37.170 --> 00:05:46.899 The Prophet’s (peace be upon him) soothing of our Mother ‘A’ishah’s heart. 00:05:46.899 --> 00:05:51.899 The Prophet (peace be upon him) was of excellent conduct toward his family. 00:05:51.899 --> 00:05:57.899 When our Mother ‘A’ishah said to him what she said regarding the ‘Umrah, 00:05:57.899 --> 00:05:59.899 he agreed to her desire. 00:05:59.899 --> 00:06:02.959 Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, said: 00:06:02.959 --> 00:06:07.959 "The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was an easy-going man; 00:06:07.959 --> 00:06:11.959 if she desired something, he would follow her in it." 00:06:11.959 --> 00:06:20.220 This is how a man should be with the women of his household—his wives, daughters, and sisters. 00:06:20.220 --> 00:06:25.220 Easy-going, following his family in their desires, provided it is not a sin. 00:06:25.220 --> 00:06:29.279 This is part of good conduct toward women. 00:06:29.279 --> 00:06:34.279 This character is required at all times when dealing with women, 00:06:34.279 --> 00:06:37.279 but it is even more necessary during travel, 00:06:37.279 --> 00:06:44.750 so that the hardship of travel does not combine with the harshness of the man. 00:06:44.750 --> 00:06:46.750 The ‘Umrah of al-Tan‘im. 00:06:46.750 --> 00:06:53.290 Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) called ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr 00:06:53.290 --> 00:06:57.290 and said to him, "Take your sister out of the Sacred Precinct (Haram), 00:06:57.290 --> 00:06:59.290 let her enter into the state of Ihram for an ‘Umrah, 00:06:59.290 --> 00:07:02.290 then let her finish, and then meet me here." 00:07:02.290 --> 00:07:06.290 "For I will wait for you both until you return." 00:07:06.290 --> 00:07:12.540 The Prophet (peace be upon him) only ordered ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, 00:07:12.540 --> 00:07:14.540 to go out of the Sacred Precinct 00:07:14.540 --> 00:07:19.540 because a Makkan resident performing ‘Umrah must go out to the Hill (the area outside the Haram), 00:07:19.540 --> 00:07:21.540 and then enter into Ihram from there. 00:07:21.540 --> 00:07:23.579 Furthermore, ‘Umrah is a visit, 00:07:23.579 --> 00:07:26.579 and one visits the Sacred Precinct from outside it, 00:07:26.579 --> 00:07:30.579 just as one visits a person in their home from outside that home. 00:07:30.579 --> 00:07:34.579 That is the Sunnah of Allah for His servants performing ‘Umrah. 00:07:34.579 --> 00:07:42.149 Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her: 00:07:42.149 --> 00:07:44.149 "Go," 00:07:44.149 --> 00:07:47.149 "and let ‘Abd al-Rahman ride behind you to al-Tan‘im," 00:07:47.149 --> 00:07:49.149 "then enter into Ihram for an ‘Umrah." 00:07:49.149 --> 00:07:52.149 Al-Tan‘im is the closest part of the Hill to Makkah. 00:07:52.149 --> 00:07:55.149 It is the nearest point of the Hill to Makkah. 00:07:55.149 --> 00:07:58.149 One performing ‘Umrah from Makkah goes out to the Hill 00:07:58.149 --> 00:08:01.149 to combine the Hill and the Haram. 00:08:01.149 --> 00:08:08.339 This command from the Prophet (peace be upon him) to our Mother ‘A’ishah 00:08:08.339 --> 00:08:10.339 had a reason, 00:08:10.339 --> 00:08:13.339 which is that she had arrived in Makkah intending ‘Umrah, 00:08:13.339 --> 00:08:17.339 but she menstruated and did not become pure until the days of Mina. 00:08:17.339 --> 00:08:20.339 Thus, she did not perform a separate ‘Umrah. 00:08:20.339 --> 00:08:24.339 She requested this from the Prophet (peace be upon him), 00:08:24.339 --> 00:08:27.339 and he permitted her to perform the ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im. 00:08:27.339 --> 00:08:29.439 And this, my sister performing Hajj, 00:08:29.439 --> 00:08:32.440 applies to every woman who arrives in Makkah, 00:08:32.440 --> 00:08:35.440 then menstruates before performing the rites of ‘Umrah, 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:38.440 and then Hajj overtakes her while she is in the state of Ihram. 00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:43.440 She should stop the acts of ‘Umrah and declare the intention (talbiyah) for Hajj. 00:08:43.440 --> 00:08:45.440 Then, once she has completed her Hajj, 00:08:45.440 --> 00:08:47.440 she performs ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im. 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:50.440 As for what pilgrims do today— 00:08:51.440 --> 00:08:56.440 repeating the ‘Umrah after Hajj, both men and women— 00:08:56.440 --> 00:08:59.440 this was not known during the time of the salaf. 00:08:59.440 --> 00:09:03.440 No one has reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him), 00:09:03.440 --> 00:09:06.440 nor from any of those who performed Hajj with him, 00:09:06.440 --> 00:09:08.440 that they did this. 00:09:08.440 --> 00:09:11.440 Except for ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, 00:09:11.440 --> 00:09:14.440 because she had arrived intending Tamattu‘, 00:09:14.440 --> 00:09:15.440 then she menstruated, 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:18.440 so the Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered her 00:09:18.440 --> 00:09:21.440 to enter into Ihram for Hajj and waive the ‘Umrah. 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:25.440 That is why our Mother ‘A’ishah used to refer 00:09:25.440 --> 00:09:27.440 to this ‘Umrah 00:09:27.440 --> 00:09:32.440 with phrases indicating that it was in place of the ‘Umrah she did not complete. 00:09:32.440 --> 00:09:36.539 Our Mother ‘A’ishah says: 00:09:36.539 --> 00:09:38.539 "When I completed the Hajj, 00:09:38.539 --> 00:09:41.539 he ordered ‘Abd al-Rahman on the night of al-Hasbah, 00:09:41.539 --> 00:09:46.539 and he helped me perform ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im in place of the ‘Umrah I had intended." 00:09:46.539 --> 00:09:48.539 She also said: 00:09:48.539 --> 00:09:52.539 "He sent ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr al-Siddiq with me, 00:09:52.539 --> 00:09:57.539 and he ordered me to perform ‘Umrah in place of the ‘Umrah for which the Hajj overtook me, 00:09:57.539 --> 00:10:00.539 and from which I had not exited the state of Ihram, from al-Tan‘im." 00:10:00.539 --> 00:10:02.539 She also said: 00:10:02.539 --> 00:10:04.539 "So I went out to al-Tan‘im, 00:10:04.539 --> 00:10:07.539 and I entered into Ihram for an ‘Umrah in place of my ‘Umrah." 00:10:07.539 --> 00:10:12.570 Indeed, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her explicitly: 00:10:12.570 --> 00:10:15.570 "This is in place of your ‘Umrah."