Da sunan Allah, Mai rahama, Mai jin kai
Nau'in maza a cikin hadisin Ummu Zara'
Mijina Kalil Tihama ne
Idan nau'ikan maza uku da suka gabata sun kasance marasa kyau
Wannan nau'in mutum ne mai kyau
Haka rayuwa take da kyau da mara kyau
Ba daidai ba ne a haɗa nau'i ɗaya ga duk mutane
Ba akan maza ko akan mata ba
Maimakon haka, yin gabaɗaya wajen hukunta mutane wani nau'in rashin adalci ne
Ko an yi wa al’ummar wata kasa, ko kabila, ko wasunsu gaba daya
Ba daidai ba ne a ce duka maza daidai suke
Ba a ce duk mata daidai suke ba
Amma a cikin dukkan abubuwa masu kyau
Wannan nau'in mutum ne mai kyau, dabam da waɗanda suka gabace shi
Kamar yadda mace ta hudu ta siffanta shi da cewa:
Mijina Kalil Tihama ne
Babu zafi, ba haushi, ba tsoro, babu guba
Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce
Tace bashi da izini ko cutarwa
Amma wannan kamar
Domin zafi da sanyi duka suna da kunne idan ya yi tsanani
Babu tsoro
Tace babu wani hadari gareshi kuma babu wani mugun tsoro
Kuma ba gajiyawa
Tace baya gajiya da company dina
Al-Asbahani Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce
Ana tunawa da daren Tihama don alheri
Wato ba shi da izini kuma ba shi da wata adawa
Alkali Iyad, Allah ya yi masa rahama, ya ce
Wato mijinta ba ya da nauyi kuma ba shi da lalaci
Maimakon haka, yana da dadi kuma mai dadi
Sauƙi akan abokin
Mastlan gefe
Ibn Hajar Allah ya yi masa rahama yana cewa
Ta bayyana mijinta a matsayin kyakkyawa
Daidaita halin da ake ciki da aminci na ciki
Kamar yadda ta fada
Babu cutarwa ko cutarwa gare shi
Na tsira daga gare shi
Bana tsoron sharrinsa
Ba ya gajiya kuma ya gaji da kamfani na
Ko kuma ba munanan halaye ba
Na gaji da zama da shi
Ina farin cikin zama da shi
Mutanen Tihama suna jin daɗin darensu mai laushi
Wannan mata ta siffanta mijinta da kyau
Halayensa masu kyau sun bayyana a cikinsa
Abin da kowace mace ke so a wurin mijinta
Kowace mace tana farin cikin samun kwanciyar hankali da mijinta
Wannan jin yana zuwa ne saboda ayyukan miji
Kuma duba shi ma
Saboda ayyukan miji
Wani mutum ya yi wa matarsa barazanar saki shi ne dalili mafi ban dariya
Ko kuma ya yawaita ambaton saki a gabanta
Ya rasa tsaron tunanin ta
Yana rayuwa da shi cikin tsoro kullum
Domin bata tsira daga wannan bangaren ba
Bai dace mai hankali ya yiwa matarsa barazana ba
A 'yar karamar matsalar da ke faruwa a tsakaninsu
Maimakon haka, mai hankali ba ya maganar saki a gaban matarsa
Ana iya sake shi ne kawai bayan duk hanyoyin sun ƙare
Don magance matsalarsa da ita
Bayan istikharah, shawara da shawara
Mace tana jin aminci da mijinta
Yana daya daga cikin muhimman abubuwan da ke kawo farin cikinta
Wannan dalili ne na yawan bayarwa da sadaukarwa gare ku
Ya kai mutum
Don haka kiyaye shi kuma za ku yi farin ciki
Wannan jin na tsaro
Wannan mace ta hudu ta bayyana shi
Bayani mai mahimmanci guda uku a cikin rayuwar aure
Na farko
Maza wajen mu'amala da mata a rayuwar aure
Matar ta kamanta shi da daren Tihama
Babu zafi ko jin dadi
Yana nufin kyawawan matsakaici
Haka ya kamata namiji ya kasance a rayuwarsa ta aure
Ba ya cutar da matarsa ta kowace hanya
Domin ita abokiyar zamansa ce a rayuwar duniya
Wanda ya zaba da yardarsa
Kuma yayi yaki don samun yardarta
Ya ba ta kuɗi, zinariya, da kyaututtuka don ta karɓa
Hakan ya kara mata ciwo
Da sauri yana buƙatarta kuma ba zai iya yi ba tare da shi ba
Don me zai bata mata hankali ya dagula mata ranta?
Manzon Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallama ya hana mutum
Game da cutar da mata da wuri
Sannan kayi jima'i da ita a karshe
An kar~o daga Abdullahi bn Zamaa Allah Ya yarda da shi
An kar~o daga Manzon Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallama ya ce
Kada ɗayanku ya yi wa matarsa bulala kamar bawa
Sannan ya sadu da ita a karshen yini
Bukhari ne ya ruwaito shi
Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, Allah ya yi masa rahama ya ce
Wannan musun wanda ya yi wa matarsa bulala ne
Kuma fiye da haka har sai ya dauke ta kamar al'umma
Sannan yana da sauki bayan haka
Ya koma ya bata mata
Da kuma biyan bukatarsa gareta
Kada ku yi masa biyayya ko ku kyautata masa
Kuna iya ƙi shi
Wataƙila yana son ta
Yanayinsa ya tabarbare kuma lamarinsu ya tsananta
Rahama da soyayyar da Allah Ta’ala ya kafa tsakanin ma’aurata za su gushe
Kuma akasin haka ya faru
Da ita Allah ya jikansa da rahama
Da wannan gajeriyar kalmar
Amma sharrin da ke tasowa daga hakan
Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani Allah ya yi masa rahama yana cewa
Da jima'i ko jima'i
Maimakon haka, ya fi kyau a yi wa kanmu da sha’awar a yi musu alheri
Wanda aka yi masa bulala yakan kori wanda aka yi masa bulala
An nuna cewa an yi Allah wadai da hakan
Ya girmama Annabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallama
Matar ta yi mamakin tunani a hankali don ta sami kwanciyar hankali da kwanciyar hankali tare da mijinta
Ya fadakar da maigida akan ladubban mu'amala da mata
Kuma baya kyautatawa mata
Jiki ne marar rai ko ji
Mace mai lafiya tana ba da jikinta ga waɗanda take so
Kuma a cikin cikakken tabbaci na tunani
Na biyu
Tsaro na ciki
Kada ku yi tsammanin kowace irin yaudara daga gare shi a rayuwar aure
Kuma kada ku ji tsoron hakan
Wannan shi ne kololuwar amincin tunani a rayuwar mace
Don jin kwarin gwiwa ga mijinta
Cikinsa kamar na waje yana da tsafta kuma babu yaudara a ciki
Na uku
Kyakkyawan kamfani da kamfani mai kyau ba sa gajiya da su
Wannan yana nuna wa mace cewa mijinta yana son ta
Kyakkyawar kamfani da kyakkyawan kamfani suna zuwa ne kawai daga wanda yake da kyawawan halaye
Zama da matar na tsawon lokaci shaida ne na son da yake mata
Wannan yana buƙatar sauraro da kyau
Domin idan ya zauna da ita
Naji dadin magana dashi kuma naji dadi dashi
Haka Manzon Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallama ya yi
A cikin hadisin Ummu Zara’
Ya zauna da Aisha
Kuma hira da ita
Kuma ka saurare ta da kyau
Mata suna da rawar gani wajen kawar da gajiya daga rayuwar aure tare da kyakkyawar kulawa
Zaɓi batun tattaunawa
Da sabuntawa a rayuwarta, suturarta, da gidanta
Don haka sai Umar bin Al-Aas ya faxi kyawawan kalmominsa
Ba na gajiya da dabbata muddin ƙafata ta ɗauke ta
Haka kuma matata ba ta kyautata min ba
Haka kuma abokina bai rufa min asiri ba
Rashin gajiya yana daya daga cikin dabi'un karya
Ya kai mai daraja da matar ka?
Kuna jin lafiya tare da ku?
Kuna marmarin zama da ita?
Kuna da ikon sauraronta ba tare da katse ba?
Ko da ta dade tana magana
Zamu cigaba a nan gaba insha Allah
Godiya ta tabbata ga Allah Ubangijin talikai