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Ramadan events and lessons | Episode (3) | The death of the Mother of the Believers, Khadija bint Khuwaylid, may God be pleased with her
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In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
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Summary of the book:
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"Ramadan:
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Events and Lessons."
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The passing of the Mother of the Believers,
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Khadijah bint Khuwaylid,
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may Allah be pleased with her.
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The Date:
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On the tenth of Ramadan,
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in the tenth year of the Prophetic mission.
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A wife is her husband's life partner
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and his companion through all circumstances:
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in ease and hardship,
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in joy and sorrow,
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in wealth and poverty,
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and in hopes and pain.
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Whenever a righteous man is blessed with a righteous wife,
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how excellent a companion he has acquired,
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and how wonderful a partner he has gained!
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Our Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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was among those for whom Allah chose
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the very best and purest of women,
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selecting for him from among them
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the most pious and upright.
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They were the finest wives for the finest of husbands,
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and the best of women for the best husband.
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Foremost among his pure wives was
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Khadijah bint Khuwaylid,
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may Allah be pleased with her.
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Indeed, Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her,
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is a role model for every Muslim woman,
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from whom one should draw
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lessons in purity and chastity,
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in choosing a husband wisely,
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in mastering the art of being a devoted wife,
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in skillfully resolving a husband's troubles,
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in knowing how to ease
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his grief and worries,
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and in understanding his background
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to help him build his present
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and his future.
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She is an unmatched model of sacrifice
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in championing the truth,
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offering material and moral support
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to the Islamic message,
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and answering its call
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without hesitation or dispute.
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The life of our mother Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her,
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is a rich source
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of righteousness for the believing woman.
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It is an academy
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from which one can graduate with distinction,
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mastering how to be a righteous wife,
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an inspiring caller to the faith,
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an ascetic worshipper,
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and a woman who dedicated her wealth
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to championing the truth and its people.
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The Merits of Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her:
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First:
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Noble lineage and ancestry,
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wealth, honor, and beauty.
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Second:
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Sound judgment and manifest wisdom.
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Third:
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Sacrificing her wealth to champion the truth.
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Fourth:
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Her immense love for the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,
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and prioritizing his pleasure.
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Fifth:
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Chastity and purity;
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even in the pre-Islamic era, she was known as "the Pure One."
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Many of the chieftains of Quraysh sought her hand in marriage,
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yet she declined them all,
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as if searching for a long-sought ideal
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she could not find among them,
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until she found it in Muhammad ibn 'Abdillah.
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For Allah had reserved her for him,
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and reserved him for her.
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Her Virtues:
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First:
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She was the very first responsible person
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to believe in the prophethood of our Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, without exception.
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Second:
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She was given the glad tidings of Paradise
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while she was still walking on the earth.
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Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that he said:
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Gabriel came to the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and said:
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"O Messenger of Allah,
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here is Khadijah coming to you,
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carrying a vessel of seasoning, food, or drink.
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When she reaches you,
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convey to her greetings of peace from her Lord and from me,
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and give her the glad tidings of a palace in Paradise made of hollow pearls,
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wherein there is neither noise nor fatigue."
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Third:
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She received greetings of peace from Allah and from Gabriel,
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as attested by the preceding hadith of Abu Hurayrah.
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Fourth:
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She is among the best women of the worlds.
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On the authority of 'Ali ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him,
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the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
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"The best of its women is Mary,
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and the best of its women is Khadijah."
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Indeed, some narrations state that she is the best woman of this Ummah.
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'Ammar ibn Yasir, may Allah be pleased with him and his father, said:
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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
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"Khadijah has been favored over the women of my Ummah
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just as Mary was favored over the women of the worlds."
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Fifth:
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All the children of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, were from her,
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except for Ibrahim.
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The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
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"She was such and such,
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and she bore my children."
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The Noble Prophet's Reciprocation of Gratitude:
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First, he did not take another wife until she died.
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Second, his immense love for her
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and never forgetting her excellence;
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he, peace and blessings be upon him, said regarding her:
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"I was indeed blessed with her love."
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'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated:
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Whenever the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, mentioned Khadijah,
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he would praise her in the most magnificent manner.
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She said: "One day, I became jealous
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and said: 'How often you remember that toothless old woman,
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when Allah has replaced her for you with someone better than her!'
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He said: 'Allah has not replaced her with anyone better than her.
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She believed in me when the people disbelieved,
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she verified my truthfulness when the people accused me of lying,
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she supported me with her wealth when the people deprived me,
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and Allah blessed me with her children
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while denying me the children of other women.'"
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Third, his profound grief over her passing, as will be discussed.
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Fourth, her memory was never erased from his heart or mind.
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'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated:
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Halah bint Khuwaylid, Khadijah's sister, sought permission to enter
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upon the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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and he recognized Khadijah's manner of asking permission,
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which moved him deeply, and he exclaimed:
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"O Allah, let it be Halah bint Khuwaylid!"
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I became jealous and said:
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"Why do you remember an old woman from among the elders of Quraysh,
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toothless and long deceased,
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when Allah has replaced her for you with someone better?"
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Fifth, his kind treatment of her friends out of loyalty to her.
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'A'ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated:
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"I was never as jealous of any of the Prophet's wives
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as I was of Khadijah, though I never saw her.
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But the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, used to mention her often,
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and he would sometimes slaughter a sheep, cut it into pieces,
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and send them to Khadijah's friends.
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I would sometimes say to him: 'It is as if there were no other woman in the world
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except Khadijah!'
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and he would reply: 'She was such and such,
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and she bore my children.'"
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The Sorrowful Event and Its Date:
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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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enjoyed immense blessings in the embrace of Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her,
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finding in her company solace and serenity,
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soothing comfort against the flames of sorrow,
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and noble support through life's hardships;
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she was the delight of his eyes and a sanctuary of happiness and peace.
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Yet death is an inevitable truth and an unalterable decree;
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thus, death visited Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her,
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in the month of Ramadan, after ten days had passed,
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in the tenth year of the Prophetic mission,
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though some say earlier.
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This event had a painful impact on the soul of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,
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for he lost a strong arm that supported and empowered him,
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an embrace that had comforted and sheltered him,
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and a beloved companion who had stood by him in ease and hardship
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for twenty-five years.
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What intensified this sorrow
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was its proximity to the passing of his uncle, Abu Talib,
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who had been his external protector among the people,
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while the mother of his children, Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her,
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was his internal pillar of support.
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Among the lessons of this event:
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First, no matter how strong and enduring the bonds of love may be,
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death must inevitably sever them;
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love whomever you will, for you will surely part with them.
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Yet for the believer, this is a station of immense reward through patience and acceptance.
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Second:
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Grief that is free from words and deeds contrary to patience
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carries no sin,
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for the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him,
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showed profound sorrow at the loss of Khadijah.
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Third:
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Grief is greatest over the loss of one whose life was an abundant spring
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overflowing with goodness and generosity
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bestowed upon others.
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Fourth:
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The death of a righteous wife
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remains a deep wound in a husband's soul,
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rekindled by memories
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and revived by familiar sights and sounds.
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Fifth:
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All that our mother Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, offered
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in supporting and aiding the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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and her profound righteousness and goodness,
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compel us to hold her in ever greater esteem, love, and praise—
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may Allah be pleased with her.
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Ramadan: Events and Lessons.