The story of our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her

0:01 The story of the Hajj of our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her.

0:07 The difference between the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) treatment of Safiyyah when she menstruated and his treatment of ‘A’ishah.

0:18 A sister performing Hajj might wonder about the difference between the Prophet’s stance toward our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, when she menstruated at Sarif,

0:30 and his stance toward our Mother Safiyyah, may Allah be pleased with her, when she menstruated at Mina.

0:38 Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, answers this by saying that the discourse differs according to the context.

0:46 As for ‘A’ishah, he entered upon her while she was weeping out of regret for the rites she had missed, so he consoled her.

0:54 As for Safiyyah, he desired from her what a man desires from his wife, but she indicated the obstacle; thus, his address to each of them was appropriate to her specific situation.

1:05 Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said this in response to those who claimed that the reason for the difference in treatment

1:14 was his inclination toward our Mother ‘A’ishah more than toward our Mother Safiyyah.

1:21 This claim is incorrect, for the noble character of the Prophet (peace be upon him) rejects such a notion.

1:27 It may also be added that the onset of menstruation for our Mother ‘A’ishah

1:34 did not affect the movement of the people in performing the rites or otherwise.

1:38 This is in contrast to the onset of menstruation for our Mother Safiyyah,

1:43 as it would have affected the movement of the people and their departure from Makkah.

1:48 If she had not performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah—for there is no farewell circumambulation (Tawaf al-Wada‘) for a menstruating woman—

1:56 once the Prophet (peace be upon him) was certain that our Mother Safiyyah

2:04 had performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah before she menstruated, he ordered her to depart with the people and waived the farewell circumambulation.

2:12 He (peace be upon him) said to her, "There is no harm; depart."

2:19 In the Prophet’s command for her to depart,

2:24 there is evidence that the farewell circumambulation is not required of a menstruating woman, nor must she wait until she is pure.

2:30 This is the position of all the jurists (fuqaha’).

2:33 Therefore, my sister performing Hajj,

2:36 if your period begins during the days of Mina and you have already performed the Tawaf al-Ifadah before it,

2:42 you are exempt from the farewell circumambulation.

2:46 For this reason, you must be diligent in performing the Tawaf al-Ifadah on the Day of Sacrifice (Yawm al-Nahr).

2:51 Do not delay it, lest you encounter difficulties that burden you and your guardian during the journey.

2:58 Our Mother ‘A’ishah’s distress over her rites differing from those of the Mothers of the Believers.

3:07 When the Prophet (peace be upon him) departed from Mina after stoning the pillars (Jamarat),

3:13 he stopped at al-Muhassab, a place between Mina and the Sacred Mosque.

3:18 There, the Prophet (peace be upon him) prayed Dhuhr, ‘Asr, Maghrib, and ‘Isha’.

3:25 In the evening, our Mother ‘A’ishah discussed the matter of her rites with the Prophet (peace be upon him).

3:34 Our Mother ‘A’ishah says:

3:37 When it was the night of al-Hasbah, she said, "O Messenger of Allah,

3:43 your wives are returning with an ‘Umrah and a Hajj, while I am returning only with a Hajj."

3:48 The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her:

3:53 "Your circumambulation of the House and between al-Safa and al-Marwah suffices for both your Hajj and your ‘Umrah."

3:59 She refused and said, "O Messenger of Allah, you have performed ‘Umrah, but I have not."

4:05 "O Messenger of Allah, the people are returning with two rewards, while I return with one."

4:11 "O Messenger of Allah, the people are departing with two rites, while I depart with only one."

4:17 "O Messenger of Allah, your companions are returning with the reward of both Hajj and ‘Umrah, and I have not exceeded the Hajj."

4:25 "Are your wives returning with a Hajj and an ‘Umrah, while I return with a Hajj that has no ‘Umrah with it?"

4:32 When she persisted, he allowed her to perform ‘Umrah to soothe her spirit.

4:37 She felt distressed that her companions would return with a separate Hajj and ‘Umrah,

4:44 for they were performing Tamattu‘ and had not menstruated, nor had they performed Qiran.

4:49 And she was returning with an ‘Umrah included within her Hajj.

4:53 So he ordered her brother to take her to perform ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im to comfort her heart.

4:59 This action of our Mother ‘A’ishah

5:04 illustrates the nature of women from several aspects.

5:08 A woman may persist in a request and repeat it until she obtains approval from her guardian or husband.

5:16 Men should not be annoyed by this, nor should they demand that she act against her nature.

5:22 A woman is affected by the superiority of her peers over her,

5:27 so how much more so if they are her co-wives?

5:31 She does not want others among the wives to surpass her or be distinguished from her.

5:37 The Prophet’s (peace be upon him) soothing of our Mother ‘A’ishah’s heart.

5:46 The Prophet (peace be upon him) was of excellent conduct toward his family.

5:51 When our Mother ‘A’ishah said to him what she said regarding the ‘Umrah,

5:57 he agreed to her desire.

5:59 Jabir, may Allah be pleased with him, said:

6:02 "The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was an easy-going man;

6:07 if she desired something, he would follow her in it."

6:11 This is how a man should be with the women of his household—his wives, daughters, and sisters.

6:20 Easy-going, following his family in their desires, provided it is not a sin.

6:25 This is part of good conduct toward women.

6:29 This character is required at all times when dealing with women,

6:34 but it is even more necessary during travel,

6:37 so that the hardship of travel does not combine with the harshness of the man.

6:44 The ‘Umrah of al-Tan‘im.

6:46 Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) called ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr

6:53 and said to him, "Take your sister out of the Sacred Precinct (Haram),

6:57 let her enter into the state of Ihram for an ‘Umrah,

6:59 then let her finish, and then meet me here."

7:02 "For I will wait for you both until you return."

7:06 The Prophet (peace be upon him) only ordered ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him,

7:12 to go out of the Sacred Precinct

7:14 because a Makkan resident performing ‘Umrah must go out to the Hill (the area outside the Haram),

7:19 and then enter into Ihram from there.

7:21 Furthermore, ‘Umrah is a visit,

7:23 and one visits the Sacred Precinct from outside it,

7:26 just as one visits a person in their home from outside that home.

7:30 That is the Sunnah of Allah for His servants performing ‘Umrah.

7:34 Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to our Mother ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her:

7:42 "Go,"

7:44 "and let ‘Abd al-Rahman ride behind you to al-Tan‘im,"

7:47 "then enter into Ihram for an ‘Umrah."

7:49 Al-Tan‘im is the closest part of the Hill to Makkah.

7:52 It is the nearest point of the Hill to Makkah.

7:55 One performing ‘Umrah from Makkah goes out to the Hill

7:58 to combine the Hill and the Haram.

8:01 This command from the Prophet (peace be upon him) to our Mother ‘A’ishah

8:08 had a reason,

8:10 which is that she had arrived in Makkah intending ‘Umrah,

8:13 but she menstruated and did not become pure until the days of Mina.

8:17 Thus, she did not perform a separate ‘Umrah.

8:20 She requested this from the Prophet (peace be upon him),

8:24 and he permitted her to perform the ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im.

8:27 And this, my sister performing Hajj,

8:29 applies to every woman who arrives in Makkah,

8:32 then menstruates before performing the rites of ‘Umrah,

8:35 and then Hajj overtakes her while she is in the state of Ihram.

8:38 She should stop the acts of ‘Umrah and declare the intention (talbiyah) for Hajj.

8:43 Then, once she has completed her Hajj,

8:45 she performs ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im.

8:47 As for what pilgrims do today—

8:51 repeating the ‘Umrah after Hajj, both men and women—

8:56 this was not known during the time of the salaf.

8:59 No one has reported from the Prophet (peace be upon him),

9:03 nor from any of those who performed Hajj with him,

9:06 that they did this.

9:08 Except for ‘A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her,

9:11 because she had arrived intending Tamattu‘,

9:14 then she menstruated,

9:15 so the Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered her

9:18 to enter into Ihram for Hajj and waive the ‘Umrah.

9:21 That is why our Mother ‘A’ishah used to refer

9:25 to this ‘Umrah

9:27 with phrases indicating that it was in place of the ‘Umrah she did not complete.

9:32 Our Mother ‘A’ishah says:

9:36 "When I completed the Hajj,

9:38 he ordered ‘Abd al-Rahman on the night of al-Hasbah,

9:41 and he helped me perform ‘Umrah from al-Tan‘im in place of the ‘Umrah I had intended."

9:46 She also said:

9:48 "He sent ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Abi Bakr al-Siddiq with me,

9:52 and he ordered me to perform ‘Umrah in place of the ‘Umrah for which the Hajj overtook me,

9:57 and from which I had not exited the state of Ihram, from al-Tan‘im."

10:00 She also said:

10:02 "So I went out to al-Tan‘im,

10:04 and I entered into Ihram for an ‘Umrah in place of my ‘Umrah."

10:07 Indeed, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to her explicitly:

10:12 "This is in place of your ‘Umrah."

The story of our mother Aisha, may God be pleased with her | Episode (13)

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