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Musk Al-Khattab | Episode (66) | If I were to blame
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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
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There is no harm in gentle reproach.
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For Allah, the Almighty and Majestic, in His Noble Qur'an,
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gently reproached His Prophet.
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And the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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would reproach his Companions.
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However, there are certain rules for reproach
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that must be observed.
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That is why it is said:
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Excessive blame breeds enmity and hatred,
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while abandoning reproach entirely leads to estrangement.
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It is like salt in food;
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if it exceeds its proper measure,
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it turns into its opposite.
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We have in the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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a beautiful example.
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Anas Ibn Malik, may Allah be pleased with him,
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the servant of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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says:
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"I served the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, for ten years,
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and he never once said 'uff' to me.
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He never asked me regarding something I did, 'Why did you do it?'
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Nor regarding something I left undone, 'Why did you leave it?'"
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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him,
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was among the best of people in character.
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"I never touched silk or brocade,
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nor anything softer than the palm of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
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And I never smelled musk,
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nor any perfume, more fragrant than the sweat of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him."
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Therefore, one must be gentle in reproach.
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To eliminate it is a mistake,
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and to do it excessively is a mistake.
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Among the requirements of reproach
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is to clarify the error to the one you are reproaching, if they are indeed in the wrong.
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A second truth regarding reproach:
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Do not demand that others never make mistakes.
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For on the authority of Anas, may Allah be pleased with him, he said:
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The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
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"Every son of Adam is a sinner,
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and the best of sinners are those who repent."
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If you wish to reproach a brother of yours,
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use gentle words
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and kind, acceptable speech,
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for a good word is a charity.
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Reproach is an art that few have mastered.
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That is why we find many friends and loved ones
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losing one another due to their ignorance of the art of reproach.
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So, make the system of reproach between you and your brother
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a means of strengthening your relationship with him,
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and do not make it a cause for dispute.
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For if you were to reproach,
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let it be for the sake of goodness, righteousness, and virtue.
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So be as the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, was
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in his reproach:
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a soothing balm and a gentle touch,
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a means of upbringing and compassion,
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and a manifestation of truthfulness, pardon, appreciation, and respect.
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How beautiful is reproach between those who love one another!
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These are some of the rules of reproach;
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adhere to them if you are to be one who reproaches.