Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 9 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (9) | زوجي لا يُولِجُ الكَفَّ ليَعْلَمَ البَثَّ
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
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A husband who does not insert the palm to know the broadcast
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This is a type of man who is stingy in all aspects
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A combination of miserliness of money and miserliness of feelings
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Perhaps the stinginess of money penetrated his heart until it reached his feelings, so he was stingy with them
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That is why his wife, the sixth woman, described him by saying:
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My husband, if he eats, he will turn away, if he does not drink, he will turn away, and if he eats, he will turn away
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He does not insert the palm to know the broadcast
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Abu Ubaidan Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
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Rolling in the restaurant
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A lot of it, while mixing its types
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Until there is nothing left of it
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And snuggling in the bar
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To investigate what is in the vessel
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My questions are not priced in it
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But it was taken from the transparent
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It is the remainder of the drink that remains in the vessel
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If its owner drinks it
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It was said that he missed her
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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This is a woman who disparaged her husband
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She first described him as mean and stingy
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Al-Barm, Al-Nahamah, and Al-Jaraza
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Bad relations and companionship
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And he does not remain in what he eats and drinks or leaves
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He collects everything he finds and destroys it
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This is not good morals
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This type of men
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He is mean, stingy, and voracious in eating
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He eats all the food around him
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He does not take into account his wife and children
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This is from his bad character
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, explained to us
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Etiquette in eating with people
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He forbade eating two dates together
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And people eat dates
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And there is a hadith from Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them both, who said:
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade
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For a man to combine both dates
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Until he asks his companions for permission
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Narrated by Al-Bukhari
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Ibn Battal, may God have mercy on him, said
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The prohibition of the Qur’an regarding dates according to scholars
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Out of good manners in eating
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Because the people in whose hands dates were placed
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Like equals in eating
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If one of them owns more than the other
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He was not thankful for that
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Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said
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He forbade that
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Because it causes gluttony and eagerness to eat a lot
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And in that is what brings disgrace to its owner
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Whoever reminds him of that and criticizes him for it is sinful
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The food in the house is shared between the man, his wife, and his children
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If he takes food from them, he wrongs them
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Even if he was the one who brought the food
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But his household has the right to feed them and spend money on them
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This man is reprehensible enough
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The scholars differed regarding the ruling on doing so
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Is it forbidden or disliked?
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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
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They disagreed about this prohibition
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Is it forbidden or disliked?
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It is correct to detail
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If the food is shared between them
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The Qur’an is forbidden except with their consent
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It happens with their statement
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Or whatever takes its place from a circumstantial evidence
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So that is most likely to be the case
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If the food is for others, it is forbidden
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If one of them had permission to eat
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He required his satisfaction
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It is forbidden for others and it is permissible for him
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However, it is recommended that he ask permission from those eating with him
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Although the ruling on the issue differs
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However, they agreed that the one who did that
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He has misbehaved in eating
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As for the second matter that the woman condemned by saying:
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Where did he lie down?
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He does not insert the cuff to know the broadcast
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Ibn Qutaybah al-Din Wari, may God have mercy on him, said
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She wanted him to sleep
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He turned around and did not have sex with her
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He did not practice with her what a man would do with a woman if he wanted to have intercourse with her
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So he puts his hand into her dress and knows the broadcast
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There is nothing broadcast there except the love of the woman and her husband being close to her
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And she had sex with him
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And I was broadcasting about it
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Because the broadcast was for him
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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Then she described it as a lack of work
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And disrupt it
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And if he sleeps
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He wrapped himself in his clothes and did not have sex with her
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Nor is it lower than himself
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And he has no interest in negotiating
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Which is one of the praises of men
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The Arabs used to praise force for sexual intercourse
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Because it is evidence of masculine health
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And disparage the opposite
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As the other Ayaa said
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This man is stingy
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Even in giving women their right to sexual intercourse
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If he sleeps with her on the bed, he turns away from her
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This symptom is one of the most severe things for a normal woman
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Because sexual intercourse is one of the purposes of marriage
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It is a path to chastity
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If a man fails to do so with his wife
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It caused her great harm
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If she is one of those who fear God
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She preserved herself and stayed with her pain
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But if she was among those tempted by Satan
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She will take the forbidden path
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In order to satisfy herself
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The situation is similar to this type of men
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It's as she said
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He does not twist the scales to teach broadcasting
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This means that even the caress with his hand on her body is missing
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Rather, his body does not touch her body
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Because he was so far away from her
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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She complained about this trait from her husband
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I blamed him for that
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She lost her luck with him
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And he does not have sex with her or get close to her
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He sleeps next to her
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As she said
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And if he lies down, he turns around
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He does not bring her closer to himself
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He puts his hand into it
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He touches her and touches her
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So it will be from him to her
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What men do to their husbands
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He knows that it was broadcast
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And her love for him
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And her sadness because he didn't do that to her
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He rarely misses him because he needs it
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The woman is very sad
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Because this type of men
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He doesn't pay any attention to her
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He knows nothing of her conditions and concerns
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And like this
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Don't expect him to speak nicely to her
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He is stingy with feelings
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And the danger of being stingy with feelings
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If a woman loses her husband
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I looked for it among others
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If it is a woman
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She works outside the home
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It works in a mixed field
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He fears that she will fall into temptation
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With the men around her
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And if she is one of those who are attached
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By means of communication and being preoccupied with it
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He is afraid that she will fall
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In the human trap
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In these means
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The man bears it
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His wife's sin is with her
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If he is the reason for its derivation
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Advice for this type of men
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To fear God Almighty
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He changes this bad disposition
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By learning how to deal with the wife
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Before it's too late
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If the reason for the man’s retirement is his wife
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It is weakness and laziness
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These are matters
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Today it is treated in different ways
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But if his retirement was for her
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Because of the weakness of her love in his heart
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Not all homes are based on love
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There is nothing less than giving her her right of intercourse
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Even if his heart was not inclined towards her
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A woman often loves her husband
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Even if he falls short with her
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If a man touches that
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If he finds a caring and loving heart
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He lives with him at home
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He desires his satisfaction and strives to make him happy
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If some societies today
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They complain of frequent divorces
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He asked women to divorce themselves from their husbands
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This reason must be noted
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In men and its treatment
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It is one of the main reasons
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There are many divorces and divorce requests
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A woman must fear God Almighty
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She will not be harmed by her husband’s negligence towards her
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To open the door to communication with men
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Be very careful not to look too much
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It is a temptation for women
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Therefore, the woman was commanded as the man was commanded
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With the anger of sight
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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds