Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 7 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (7) | زوجي كَلَيْلِ تِهامة
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
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My husband is Kalil Tihama
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If the previous three types of men were bad
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This is a good type of man
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This is how life has good and bad
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It is not correct to generalize one category to all people
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Neither on men nor on women
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Rather, generalizing in judging people is a kind of injustice
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Whether it is generalized to the people of a country, a tribe, or others
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It is not correct to say that all men are equal
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It is not said that all women are equal
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But in all good things
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This is a good type of man, different from those before him
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As the fourth woman describes him by saying:
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My husband is Kalil Tihama
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No heat, no bitterness, no fear, no poison
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Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
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She says he has no permission or harm
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But this is like
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Because both heat and cold have an ear when it becomes severe
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No fear
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She says there is no danger to him and no evil to fear
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Nor boredom
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She says he doesn't get bored with my company
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Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said
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Tihama nights are remembered for goodness
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That is, he has no permission and no objection
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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That is, it means that her husband is neither burdensome nor corrupt
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Rather, it is sweet and sweet
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Easy on the companion
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Mastlan side
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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
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She described her husband as beautiful
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Moderation of the situation and inner safety
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It's like she said it
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There is no harm or harm to him
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I am safe from him
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I am not afraid of his evil
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He never gets bored and gets tired of my company
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Or not bad manners
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I am tired of being with him
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I am happy to live with him
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The people of Tihama enjoy their mild night
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This woman described her husband eloquently
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His good qualities were evident in him
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What every woman desires in her husband
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Every woman is happy to feel secure with her husband
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This feeling comes because of the husband's actions
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And check it out as well
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Because of the husband's actions
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A man threatening his wife with divorce is the most ridiculous reason
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Or he frequently mentions divorce in front of her
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He loses her psychological security
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He lives it in constant fear
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Because she is not safe from this aspect
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It is not appropriate for a sane man to threaten his wife with divorce
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At the slightest problem that occurs between them
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Rather, a rational man does not mention divorce in front of his wife
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It can only be released after all means have been exhausted
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To solve his problem with her
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After istikharah, consultation and deliberation
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A woman feels safe with her husband
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It is one of the most important factors for her happiness
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It is a reason for her abundant giving and sacrifice for you
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Dear man
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So keep it and you will be happy
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This feeling of security
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This fourth woman described it
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Three important descriptions in marital life
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The first one
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Men in dealing with the wife in marital life
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The woman likened it to the night of Tihama
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There is neither heat nor comfort
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It means pretty moderate
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This is how a man should be in his married life
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He does not harm his wife in any way
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Because she is his companion in this worldly life
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Which he chose with his consent
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And he fought to get her approval
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He offered her money, gold, and gifts for her to accept
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This hurt her further
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He quickly needs it and can't do without it
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Why should he upset her mind and disturb her soul?
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade the man
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About harming women early in the day
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Then have sex with her at the end
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On the authority of Abdullah bin Zamaa, may God be pleased with him
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On the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said
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None of you should flog his wife like a slave
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Then he has intercourse with her at the end of the day
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Narrated by Al-Bukhari
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Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said
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This is a denial of the one who flogs his wife
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And more than that until he treats her like a nation
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Then it is easy after that
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He goes back to fucking her
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And to satisfy his desire for her
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Do not obey him or be kind to him
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You may hate him
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Maybe he loves her
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His condition deteriorates and their situation worsens
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The mercy and affection that God Almighty established between spouses will disappear
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And the opposite happens
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With it, may God bless him and grant him peace
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With this brief word
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As for the evils that arise from that
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Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani, may God have mercy on him, said
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And intercourse or intercourse
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Rather, it is preferable to treat oneself and the desire to be treated with kindness
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The flogged person often repels the one who was flogged
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It was pointed out that this was condemned
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He respected the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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The woman was psychologically surprised to feel safe and reassured with her husband
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He alerted the husband to the etiquette of dealing with women
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And he does not treat women well
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It is a body without a soul or feelings
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A healthy woman only offers her body to those she loves
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And in a state of complete psychological reassurance
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The second one
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Internal safety
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Do not expect any form of treachery from him in marital life
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And don't be afraid of that
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This is the pinnacle of psychological safety in a woman’s life
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To feel confident in her husband
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Its interior, like its exterior, is clean and there is no treachery in it
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The third one
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Good company and good company never tire of them
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This suggests to the woman that her husband loves her
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Good company and good company only come from someone with good morals
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Sitting with the wife for a long time is evidence of his love for her
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This requires listening well
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Because if he sat with her
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I felt comfortable talking to him and felt comfortable with him
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This is what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did
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In the hadith of Umm Zara’
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He sat with Aisha
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And chat with her
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And listen to her carefully
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Women have a role in eliminating boredom from married life with good treatment
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Choose the topic of conversation
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And renewal in her life, her clothing, and her home
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Therefore, Omar bin Al-Aas said his beautiful words
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I don't get tired of my animal as long as my feet carry it
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Nor did my wife treat me well
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Nor did my friend keep my secret
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Boredom is one of the false morals
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How are you, honorable man, with your wife?
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Do you feel safe with you?
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Do you long to sit with her?
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Do you have the ability to listen to her without interrupting?
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Even if she talked for a long time
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We will continue in the future, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds