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Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ | Episode (21) | Did Zara's mother ask for a divorce from her husband?
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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
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The types of men
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In the hadith of Umm Zar'
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Did Umm Zar' ask her husband for a divorce?
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Umm Zar's brief summary of her divorce story
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This prompted some people to look for the real underlying cause of the divorce.
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Why was anyone who reflected upon the hadith left unconvinced?
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In short, the sole reason for the divorce was simply what Umm Zar' described.
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He married another woman alongside her and divorced her for a number of reasons.
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Among these reasons is that the pre-Islamic Arabs were known for practicing polygyny.
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Thus, it is no surprise that Abu Zar' would marry more than one wife.
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Among them is that a man lacks neither wealth nor the means to marry.
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What, then, makes him resort directly to divorce?
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Furthermore, we learn from this that it is in the very nature of a woman.
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To conceal certain facts when it seeks to defend itself
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By altering certain facts, or at the very least, concealing them.
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We have already seen examples of this in a previous episode.
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What, then, was the real reason for her divorce?
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First of all, Umm Zar' is no different from any other woman in the world.
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On the dislikeability of a husband taking an additional wife over his current spouse
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This aversion is innate in women.
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A woman naturally loves to have her husband all to herself.
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And the fire of jealousy was boiling in her heart.
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when she learns that he has taken another wife.
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This natural, innate aversion
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is different from hating Allah's ruling on the permissibility of polygyny.
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Thus, she incurs no sin for it.
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unlike those who despise the ruling of Allah.
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This is something that could indeed end up happening.
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until her good deeds are rendered null and void, and she enters the Fire.
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Allah the Almighty said:
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“That is because they are averse to that which Allah hath revealed, therefor maketh He their actions fruitless.” (47:9)
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So He rendered their deeds worthless.
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Ibn Kathir, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
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Meaning, they do not want him, nor do they like him.
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so He nullified their deeds.
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So it is no surprise that Umm Zar' would dislike
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that her husband would marry another woman in addition to her.
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Secondly, what is expected of a woman
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if her husband marries another woman,
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to react negatively to his marriage.
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This reaction,
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varies from one woman to another.
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according to a woman's faith and her attachment
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and the intensity of her love for her husband.
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This reaction, then,
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It has several forms.
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This includes a complete rejection of the topic.
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This may lead her to...
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either to demand
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by divorcing this wife.
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or by her divorce.
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Among them is intense grief.
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and the husband's unwillingness to accept it.
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and described him as treacherous.
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Among them are sadness and pain.
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with contentment with Allah's decree and destiny.
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Then, striving to calm the soul.
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in a way that pleases Allah.
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and other such actions.
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The first scenario is contrary to Islamic law.
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forbidden.
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On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him,
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from the Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.
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He said, "It is not permissible for a woman..."
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seeks the divorce of her sister.
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to empty her page.
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For she will only receive what has been decreed for her.
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Narrated by Al-Bukhari.
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Ibn Battal, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
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It contains a prohibition for women
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and the severe warning against it.
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Should she not ask for the divorce of her sister?
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and to be content with what Allah has allotted her.
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Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
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His statement, "It is not permissible..."
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apparent in prohibiting that.
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So it is not permissible for her
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that she stipulates to her husband
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to divorce his second wife.
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if he wants it returned to him.
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or remain with him.
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Similarly, a prohibition has been reported.
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about seeking divorce.
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without a valid legal reason.
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On the authority of Thawban, may Allah be pleased with him,
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He said,
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The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
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Any woman
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She asked her husband for a divorce.
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without any harm.
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so it is forbidden for her.
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the fragrance of Paradise
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Narrated by Abu Dawud.
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Ibn Hajar, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
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And in it is that
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The reports that have been transmitted warning against
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A woman who seeks divorce
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her husband, Hamula.
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on what would happen if it were not
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This is based on the hadith.
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Thawban
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and a man marrying another woman while already married,
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does not permit her to seek a divorce.
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And it is not considered among
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The legitimate reasons that permit
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for divorce.
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Ibn 'Uthaymin, may Allah have mercy on him, said:
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Even if the first one were to rise up against him.
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فلا يلزمه أن يطلقها
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لأن الأصل
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أن الزوجة الأولى لا تملك
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منعه التزوج
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فلا تجبره على ذلك
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ولا حق لها أيضا
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أن تطلب الطلاق إن لم يطلق
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الزوجة الجديدة
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وقال عبد العزيز الراجحي
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وليس من حق
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المرأة أن تطلب الطلاق من
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زوجها إذا تزوج عليها
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وأما الصورة الثانية
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وهي عدم تقبل
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الزوج ووصفه بالخيانة
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فهذا وصف غير
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صحيح فالرجل
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لم يرتكب حراما حتى
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يقال خان الأمانة
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وإنما أقدم على أمر
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أباحه الله له
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ولكن هذه العبارات
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أخذناها من الغرب العلماني
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وروجناها
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في الأفلام والمسلسلات
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حتى تشربتها بعض
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القلوب المريضة
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فما ردة الفعل التي نتوقعها
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من أم زرع وأدت إلى
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طلاقها
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أما الصورة الثانية والثالثة
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لردة الفعل
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فلا نتوقعها
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حتى فيهما طلاق
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تبقى الصورة الأولى
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لردة الفعل
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فهل طلبت أم زرع
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من أبي زرع أن يطلقها
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فطلقها بعد إلحاحها
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عليه جاء في
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معجم شيوخ بن العربي
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ومعجم شيوخ بن عساكر
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رواية للحديث
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مختصرة فيها
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سبب طلاقها
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عن عائشة رضي الله عنها
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قالت قال رسول الله
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الله عليه وسلم
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أما ترضينا أن أكون
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لك كأبي زرع لأم
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زرع قالت
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وكان رجلا يكنى
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أبا زرع وامرأته
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أم زرع فكان يحسن
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إليها فتقول
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أحسن إلي أبو
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زرع وكساني أبو
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زرع وأطعمني أبو
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زرع وأكرمني أبو
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زرع ونحو هذا
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من الكلام فلم
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قال به أم زرع
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حتى طلقها
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فتزوجت أم زرع
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رجلا فأكرمها أيضا
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فكانت تقول
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أكرمني وأعطاني
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ونحو هذا من الكلام
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وتقول في آخر ذلك
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ولو جمع ذلك
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كل ما ملأ
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أصغر بعاء لأبي
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زرع فهذه الرواية
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وإن كان فيها ضعف
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في إسنادها
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يمكن أن يستأنس بها
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في معرفة سبب طلاق أبي
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زرع لها
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وهو الحاحها عليه بالطلاق
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وهذا الذي
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تميل إليه النفس
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والله أعلم
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نكمل في لقاء قادم إن شاء الله
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والحمد لله
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