Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 5 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (5) | زوجي إن أذكره أذكر عجره
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
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My husband, if I remember him, I remember his fate
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After the first woman finished describing her husband
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It was the turn of the second
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And she said
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My husband, I don't share his news
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I'm afraid I won't let him go
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If I remember him, I remember his reward and reward
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The group pledged to mention all of her husband's conditions
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But she was confused between two things
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The first
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She promised women not to conceal anything from her husband
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The second
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She hated hating her husband and talking about him
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The reason for this confusion
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It is her fear of what he will say to him by talking about him
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She is afraid of two things
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The first
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To talk about it for a long time
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Remember all his apparent and hidden faults
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Al-Asbahani, may God have mercy on him, said
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And she said, “I don’t broadcast his news.”
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That is, I do not publish news about it
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I'm afraid I won't let him go
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That is, I do not leave any of his experience behind
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Affliction and ugliness are defects
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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She said, “I don’t broadcast his news.”
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I'm afraid I won't leave him
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That is, leave his speech
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And it's back to the news
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That is, because of its length and abundance
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If I started it, I wouldn't be able to finish it
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This means that this man's disadvantages are very many
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Some are uglier than others
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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That is, if I was told about any of his faults and shortcomings
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It led to mentioning something else even uglier
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Her companions pledged not to conceal any of his characteristics from them
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She hated what she had contracted with them
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She went to cover her husband's faults because they were many
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You did not want to mention some without others
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And if she mentions one thing, it causes another to be mentioned
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She saw constipation first
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Her words also indicate that her heart is full of him
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She had not spoken to anyone before this council about her concerns with her husband
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This is one of the mistakes of women
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They carry their worries alone
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If the problem gets bigger, run
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It became difficult to solve the problem
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Advice for those in this situation
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To turn to someone who advises her to solve her problems
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Who you trust are good and righteous people
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From scholars, preachers, or reformers
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It is not enough for her to broadcast her concerns to women like her
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They have no advice for her
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Rather, it is dangerous in spreading the conditions of marital life between women
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Those who are not known for their knowledge, righteousness, or ability to solve problems
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To broadcast these matters to them
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It may compound the problem
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And your heart warms to your husband
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Because she may suffer like you
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It increases your worry over their worry
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You may be talking about all men
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She describes them as unjust
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So give your heart to them all
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The second thing this woman is afraid of
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It is divorce
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Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said
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It means that if she described her husband's condition, she mentioned his faults
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And if you do that
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She was afraid of leaving him
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She hates him breaking up with the ties between them
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Her fear of divorce
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It has several meanings
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The most important of which is that she loves him and hates leaving him
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This is what Al-Qurtubi said
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The relationship between them is a love relationship
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With all its reprehensible qualities
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Except she loves him
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Some may not be able to understand this difficult equation
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Love and bad qualities
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This is because we did not understand women and their nature
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And her way of thinking
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Some men may not realize the great love that their women have for them
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Great attachment to them
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Either because they are busy with their personal lives
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Or in practical life and earning a living
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Or by not thinking about the issue at all
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The original, honorable men
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That women do not like or want divorce
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Even if you ask for it during problems
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The state of anger makes everything possible
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Because the angry person does not know what to say
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This does not mean, dear man
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To take advantage of a woman's love for you
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So you continue to hurt her with the qualities in you that she does not like
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Rather, the wisest of men
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He who invests in the honesty of those around him in his criticism of him
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By changing his bad traits
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The woman is afraid of what her husband will say to her
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Another important benefit
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It is thinking about the consequences of things before undertaking them
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This indicates that this second woman is very rational
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She thinks about the outcome of things
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A far cry from the blameworthy haste
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Which may ruin her life in the future
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Her heart is filled with remorse
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She regrets the past
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This woman's behavior also indicates her patience with her husband
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She treated him well
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It is unimaginable for a man to have such bad morals
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He meets a woman with the same character as him
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Then he does not divorce her
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As indicated by this woman’s words
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She must control her tongue when talking about her husband
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Controlling the tongue is one of the most important morals that saves one from Hell
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It indicates a high level of reason and contemplation
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Before giving the speech and speaking it
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This can only be imagined by those who have balance and self-control
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Especially when she does it
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This is a patient, rational woman
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Think about the outcome of things
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She has the ability to control her tongue
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Keeper of her husband's secrets
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And his flaws are hidden
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But she was plagued by an apparently hidden husband
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Good dealing with people
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It is poorly treated inside the house
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Its disadvantages are very many
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Its harm is only to his family
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Judge Ayyab, may God have mercy on him, said
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And I see, and God knows best
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It was apparently hidden
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Reply Albat
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She did not want to tear off his cover
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And if she spoke
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What her companions had agreed upon
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Revealed his hidden ugliness
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She was in bad shape
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Her greatest concern for him was that which had not appeared before
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But even if she waved, she did not declare it
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You explained and explained more beautifully
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It has been broadcast
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And if she says I don't broadcast
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The source must exhale
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Who is blessed with such a sane woman?
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It is not appropriate for him to continue his mistake in dealing with her
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It is a blessing from God Almighty upon him
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You need to thank
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Giving thanks for grace begins with changing the soul
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And commitment to the truth
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And create good morals
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I advise men to act on this hadith
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Following the example of the Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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He followed his example in his dealings with his family
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On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said
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The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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The best of you is the best to his family
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I am the best of you to my family
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Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi
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Ibn Battar, may God have mercy on him, said
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This clearly indicates that what is best for a person and good for him
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Be patient with the harm of his family and turn a blind eye to them
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And forgiveness for the harm he suffers from them in himself
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Without what was in God's essence
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This is due to what Omar, may God be pleased with him, mentioned
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On the authority of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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Of his patience with the evil that befell him from the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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And he gave them to him and abandoned them for him
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It was not mentioned that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, punished them for that
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Rather, he mentioned that Omar was the one who advised them against it, rather than the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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And in the same way as Omar mentioned, the creation of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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News continued about him
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Is there anyone like him who mourned his nation, peace and blessings be upon him?
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Ibn Uthaymeen, may God have mercy on him, said
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This is the best of people
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He is the best to his family
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If there is good in you
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So keep it with the people closest to you
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Let him be the first to benefit from this goodness
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This is the opposite of what some people do today
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You find that he has a bad attitude towards his family
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Good manners with others
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This is a big mistake
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Your family is more deserving of good behavior
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Have good manners with them
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Because they are the ones who are with you day and night
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Secretly and openly
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If something happens to you
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They were injured with you
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If you please, they will walk with you
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If you are sad, they will be sad with you
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Your treatment with them should be better than your treatment with foreigners
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The best of people are the best to their families
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How are you, honorable man, with your family?
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Which type are you with your wife?
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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds