Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ | Episode (20) | Did the woman cause a divorce or an implantation?

0:00 In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

0:03 The types of men in the hadith of Umm Zar‘.

0:11 The hadith of Umm Zar‘.

0:16 Did the woman cause the divorce of Umm Zar‘?

0:21 When a man marries a second wife.

0:26 We hear from people or from the first wife.

0:29 That the second wife ruined the first wife’s life.

0:34 Or that she destroyed the first wife’s home.

0:37 In fact, this phrase has become—

0:39 "I do not want to destroy the first wife's home"—

0:42 Common on the tongues of many women.

0:45 Whom a married man proposes to marry.

0:50 So, what is the validity of this statement?

0:53 First, polygyny cannot be—

0:57 A cause for the ruin of homes.

0:59 And no one would say such a thing—

1:01 Except one who does not truly believe in Allah.

1:04 And has not known their Lord as He ought to be known.

1:07 For the legislation of polygyny—

1:10 Is issued by Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.

1:12 And He is the All-Knowing, the All-Wise.

1:14 Any objection or criticism regarding the subject of polygyny—

1:19 Is an objection against Allah.

1:21 And a challenge to His law, which is built upon His knowledge and wisdom.

1:25 Second.

1:27 Allah has stipulated justice between wives—

1:30 For anyone who wishes to marry more than one wife.

1:33 And adding any condition that Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, did not stipulate—

1:37 Is an accusation of deficiency against the law of Allah.

1:40 And this is an explicit challenge to the Sharia of Allah and His judgment.

1:45 Third.

1:46 The incorrect application by some men—

1:49 Of the subject of polygyny.

1:51 And their failure to maintain justice—

1:53 Does not permit us to challenge the law of Allah.

1:56 For the shortcomings of men in maintaining justice—

1:58 Are like the shortcomings of many Muslims in adhering to the law of Allah in other matters.

2:05 A man’s marriage to a second woman—

2:08 Is not the cause of the corruption of his home, if it becomes corrupt.

2:12 So, what is the real reason for the corruption of homes in cases of polygyny?

2:18 And who is responsible for that?

2:21 Is it the man or the woman?

2:24 And what is the relationship of these questions to the story of Umm Zar‘?

2:28 Perhaps we can answer these questions—

2:31 By reflecting on the story of Umm Zar‘.

2:34 Regarding this woman whom Abu Zar‘ married.

2:38 First.

2:39 How did Abu Zar‘ know—

2:41 The size and shape of the woman’s breasts?

2:44 Umm Zar‘ described the shape of the woman’s breasts.

2:47 And likened them to two pomegranates.

2:50 And certainly, the woman was not naked—

2:53 For Abu Zar‘ to see that from her.

2:56 So how did Abu Zar‘ know the size of her chest?

3:00 She must have been wearing clothing—

3:03 That outlined her body.

3:05 Otherwise, he would not have known the size of her breasts.

3:08 And this is something that Islam has forbidden for women.

3:11 Because outlining a woman’s body tempts men.

3:15 And hadiths have been narrated that indicate—

3:18 The prohibition of clothing that outlines the body.

3:21 Among which is—

3:23 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

3:26 The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

3:30 "There are two types of the people of Hell whom I have not seen:

3:34 A people with whips like the tails of cattle,

3:37 With which they strike the people,

3:39 And women who are clothed yet naked,

3:42 Seducing and seduced,

3:45 Their heads like the swaying humps of camels.

3:48 They will not enter Paradise,

3:50 Nor will they smell its fragrance,

3:53 Even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a distance."

3:57 Narrated by Muslim.

3:59 Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

4:02 "It means they are clothed in name,

4:05 But naked in reality,

4:07 Since those clothes do not cover them."

4:10 And al-Tayyibi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

4:13 "He affirmed clothing for them, then negated it,

4:16 Because the reality of clothing is to cover the ‘awrah (private parts).

4:19 So if covering is not achieved,

4:22 It is as if they are not clothed."

4:25 And Ibn Battal (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

4:28 "He means clothed in garments that describe—

4:31 Their bodies to those other than their husbands,

4:34 And those for whom it is forbidden to look at that from them,

4:37 While they are naked in reality."

4:43 So, clothing that describes a woman’s body and her charms—

4:46 Makes her appear as if she is naked,

4:49 So the man knows all the details of her body—

4:52 From her clothes.

4:55 And among the explicit hadiths forbidding a woman—

4:58 From wearing what describes her body—

5:01 Is the hadith of Usamah ibn Zayd.

5:04 He said: "The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) clothed me—

5:07 With a thick Qubti garment,

5:10 When Dihyah al-Kalbi gifted it to him.

5:13 So I gave it to my wife.

5:16 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me:

5:19 'Why did you not wear the Qubti garment?'

5:22 I said: 'O Messenger of Allah,

5:25 I gave it to my wife.'

5:28 Then the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to me:

5:31 'Order her to place an undergarment beneath it,

5:34 For I fear it will describe the size of her bones.'"

5:38 Narrated by Ahmad.

5:41 Al-Rafi‘i (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

5:44 "The meaning is that the Qubti garment, due to its thinness, clings to the body,

5:47 Revealing the size of the breasts and the buttocks,

5:50 And the firmness of the flesh of the upper arms and thighs,

5:53 So the onlooker knows—

5:56 The dimensions of these parts,

5:59 As if they were visible to his sight,

6:02 And accessible to his touch."

6:05 (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)

6:08 "These areas are like those describing what is behind them,

6:11 And informing of what is hidden by them."

6:14 This is one of the best expressions for this meaning.

6:17 And for this purpose, ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) warned—

6:20 In his saying:

6:23 "Beware of wearing Qubti garments,

6:26 For even if they do not show the skin, they describe the shape."

6:30 And Ahmad al-Sa‘ati (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

6:33 "A woman’s garment is either thick—

6:36 Meaning heavy and tight—

6:39 Describing the contours of the woman’s body,

6:42 Or it is thin, describing the color of her skin,

6:45 And both are not permissible.

6:48 The requirement is that a woman’s outer garment—

6:51 In front of people should be loose and thick,

6:54 Not describing body or skin."

6:58 So this woman was not naked in reality,

7:02 But she wore clothes that covered her skin,

7:05 Yet did not hide the size of her body—

7:08 And her charms.

7:11 And that is why, when Abu Zar‘ saw some of these charms,

7:14 He was tempted by her and married her.

7:18 So, will women accept this bitter truth?

7:21 Which is that the corruption of homes—

7:24 Is caused by immodest women,

7:27 The clothed yet naked, the seducing and the seduced,

7:31 And not by what Allah has legislated regarding the permissibility of polygyny.

7:34 Why do women remain silent—

7:37 About immodesty and do not denounce the immodest,

7:40 And do not show them the same hostility—

7:43 As they show to one who accepts being a second wife?

7:46 And can a woman, after knowing—

7:49 This legal ruling—

7:52 Which is the prohibition of wearing what outlines her body—

7:55 Make this blessed month—

7:58 A starting point to change her clothing in obedience to Allah?

8:01 Has the woman realized that a man—

8:04 Is tempted by her body just from its shape,

8:07 Even if he does not see it naked?

8:10 In fact, more than that,

8:13 A man might be tempted by imagining the woman’s form—

8:16 If it is described to him.

8:19 For on the authority of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ud (may Allah be pleased with him), he said:

8:22 The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

8:25 "No woman should associate with another woman,

8:28 Then describe her to her husband as if he were looking at her."

8:31 Narrated by al-Bukhari.

8:34 Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

8:37 "The wisdom behind this prohibition—

8:40 Is the fear that the husband might be pleased with the description mentioned,

8:43 Which might lead to the divorcing of the one describing,

8:46 Or being tempted by the one described."

8:49 If this is the case with a description,

8:55 Then what will be the state of the man if he sees with his own eyes?

8:58 Second.

9:01 Did Abu Zar‘ err in his marriage to this woman—

9:04 Whose charms he saw?

9:07 This story and incident occurred before Islam,

9:10 So it is no wonder that the man’s concern—

9:13 Was the woman’s shape, her beauty, and her attractiveness.

9:16 Even though Abu Zar‘—

9:19 Had other reasons besides the shape,

9:22 Such as the nobility of the children,

9:25 And the woman’s energy and her performance of the tasks assigned to her.

9:28 But the blame lies with the Muslim man—

9:31 Who thinks only of the woman’s shape,

9:34 And her beauty at the expense of her religion—

9:37 And her character.

9:40 Nevertheless, for a man to proceed to marry—

9:43 A woman who has caught his eye—

9:46 Is better than falling into adultery.

9:49 He did not fall into sin when he married this woman,

9:52 Rather, he did himself a favor by preventing himself—

9:55 From falling into adultery.

9:59 The woman caused, in an indirect way,

10:02 His marriage to her.

10:05 But was she the cause of the divorce of Umm Zar‘?

10:08 And the question is for Muslim women today:

10:11 Would a woman be content with her husband—

10:14 Marrying a woman who has caught his eye?

10:18 We will continue in a future meeting, if Allah wills.

10:21 And praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds.

Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’ | Episode (20) | Did the woman cause a divorce or an implantation?

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