Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 2 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (2) | المرأة تحب الكلام مع زوجها
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Men's types
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In the hadith of Umm Zara’
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A woman loves talking to her husband
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This is a long talk
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Hadith or planting?
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Narrated by the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, may God be pleased with her
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On the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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He listens to her
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Abu Abbas Al-Qurtubi, may God have mercy on him, said
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This is correct in this hadith
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It is all from the words of Aisha, may God be pleased with her
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Except what the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to her
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I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother
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This is what is agreed upon by the scholars of correction
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So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened to Aisha
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She talks this long
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From his good treatment of his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace
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This incident is not the only one of the incidents
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Evidence of his good character, may God bless him and grant him peace
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He listens well to his wives
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Rather, the Sunnah is full of examples of this
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Including his story with Safiya while listening to her
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He is in seclusion in the mosque
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On the authority of Safiyya, the wife of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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She came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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She visits him during his seclusion in the mosque
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In the last ten days of Ramadan
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So I talked to him for an hour
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Then she turned over
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So the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood with her and turned her over
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Even when you reach the door of the mosque
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At Umm Salamah's door
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Two Ansar men passed by
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He greeted the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to them
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On your messengers
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She is Safiyya bint Huyay
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He said, Glory be to God, O Messenger of God
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And he grew up with them
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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Satan reaches the level of blood from a person
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And I feared that he might throw something into your hearts
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Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim
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Ibn Khuzaymah, may God have mercy on him, said
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As for the news of Safiyya Thabet, it is true
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In both of them, it indicates that the wife’s conversation is with her husband
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It is permissible for him to seclude himself at night
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He is the brown one himself
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This incident occurred during the last ten days of Ramadan
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He is in seclusion to his Lord in the mosque
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However, itikaf did not prevent him from sitting with his wives, may God bless him and grant him peace
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And he listens to them
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He talks to them every night of his seclusion
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When the Mother of the Believers, Safiyya, asked to speak to him alone
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He didn't stop her
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Rather, he listened to her for a full hour while she spoke
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And he wasn't bored with it
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It was not impossible for her that this was the month of worship
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He is in seclusion and needs to devote himself to worship
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He did not hurt her with a word that would make her hide what was in herself and live with her pain
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As some of them say
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Be brief and do not waste your time of worship
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He says leave this topic until after Ramadan
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Never
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, listened carefully to his wives
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Even if we kept talking
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As in the hadith of Umm Zar’a and the story of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her
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If a woman forgets to talk to her husband, it does not end
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The hadith of the Mother of the Believers Safiyya, may God be pleased with her, continued
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Even after she got up from her seat and wanted to leave
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, continued to talk to her and listen to her
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He was standing on his feet at the door of the mosque
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He was not bored, and that was a blessing to herself
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It is a woman's nature to love talking to her husband
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The happy man is the one who invests this love in making himself and his wife happy
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There are different types of conversations between a woman and her husband
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One of them relates to children's problems
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Some of them relate to household matters
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Some of them relate to the conditions of the women around her and their relationships with their husbands
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Hadith or implantation is of the last type
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And when a woman talks to her husband
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She wants him to listen to her talk
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They interacted with her by looking into her eyes and face as she spoke
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This purpose is spoiled if the husband is busy playing with his phone
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Or focus on looking at the channels and flipping them
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When a woman raises the problem
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Or tell the long story
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A short comment from the husband on the topic is sufficient for her
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He makes her happy and makes her feel interested in what she proposed
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As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did
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When he told her after she finished
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I was to you like a sow's father to a sow's mother
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Women must choose time well
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When she tries to talk to her husband
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She also improved in choosing the appropriate topic for the time she chose
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It is not appropriate to receive the husband when he is coming from work
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Or from travel or when sitting down to eat
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Or before going to sleep, he mentions the children’s problems or requests at home
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These are times that do not suit men
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The man must guide the woman to a better time
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If she made a mistake in choosing the right time
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A man must also make time to listen to his family
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And he doesn't get bored about it
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Someone better than him listened to them
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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These are examples of what scholars say
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Commenting on the hadith of Umm Zara’
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Al-Khattabi, may God have mercy on him, said
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It includes knowledge of good relations with one’s family
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It is desirable to talk to them about something that does not involve sin
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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A man's good treatment with his family
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And make them feel comfortable and like to talk to them about something that is not sinful
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As the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, did here
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In his conversation with Aisha and those of his wives who were with her
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Tell the news about these women
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And so Al-Bukhari translated it
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Chapter on good relations with the family
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The correct authenticated narrations have been reported
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With his good treatment, may God bless him and grant him peace to his family
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And he spread it to them
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And also on the authority of the righteous predecessors
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Malik, may God have mercy on him, used to say:
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In that are pleasing to your Lord
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And love for your family
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And things about Malik
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And a woman for your sake
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He said
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This was reported to me on the authority of some of the companions of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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He was Malik, may God have mercy on him
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He is one of the people who has the best behavior with his family and children
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And he was saying
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A person must love his people
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So that he is the most beloved to the people
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How good was the humiliation of Omar bin Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him
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When Thumama bin Hazn denounced him
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Listening to a woman
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Even though she made it difficult to say that
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By God listening to a woman
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She complained to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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How could he not listen to her?
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Thumama bin Hazn said
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While Omar bin Al-Khattab was walking on a donkey
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I found him a woman
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And she said
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Stop, Omar
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So he stood up
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A man said
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O Commander of the Faithful!
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I did not see you today as a woman as harsh as a man
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A man does not listen to a woman
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He said
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Woe to you!
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What prevents me from listening to it?
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She is the one whom God listened to
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What was revealed in it
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God has heard the words of the woman who argues with you about her husband
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I have no right to listen to someone whom God listened to
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This is the action of the men we emulate
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So are you, honorable man?
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Who do you listen to your wife and listen to her when she speaks?
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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds