Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 11 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (11) | زوجي شجّكِ أو فلّكِ أو جمَع كلّا لكِ
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Types of men in the hadith of Umm Zara’
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My husband is shajak or falak or collect all of you
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The seventh woman's suffering with her husband is still being talked about
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Which she described by saying
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Shajak or Falak or collect all of you
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This type of man is violent with his wife
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He beat her a lot
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Beating is often combined with other bad qualities
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Such as harshness, rudeness, and quickness and intensity of anger
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With a lack of wisdom in dealing with matters
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Hitting women is one of the issues where the problem occurred
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In terms of understanding and application for some people
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Some of them deny beating and reject it completely
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Some of them misapply spanking
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It exceeds the legal limits
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Some of them are those whose insight is enlightened by God
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He uses multiplication if necessary, according to legal controls
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The reason why people differ is in their stance on a man hitting his wife
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It is the concepts that each category carries
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And the societal culture spread in society
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To correct these concepts
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We need to approach the issue from several aspects
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First multiply the project
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God Almighty said
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Men are guardians of women
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Because God has favored some of them over others
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And what they spent of their money
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The righteous women are obedient and protect the unseen with what God has preserved
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And those from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them in their beds and beat them
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If they obey you, do not seek a way against them
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God is great
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This is the verse that some people misunderstood
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In all its detailed topics
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Like a man standing up to his wife
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And his right to discipline her and the stages of discipline and others
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She talks about two types of women
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The first type is a righteous woman
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Which God praised in the verse and explained its qualities
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The second type is the outlier
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She is the one who explained how to treat her discordance
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The stages of discipline do not apply to a righteous woman
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Because it is valid and not an outlier
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Such good deeds are remembered if you forget or neglect
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This is enough for her because of the faith God has placed in her heart
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If your wife is of this type, dear man
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You are not allowed to hit her
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Even if it is of the second type, it is the disobedient one
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Do not rush to burn the stages
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And go straight to multiplication
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God has commanded you otherwise
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Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said
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And he said, “Admonish them, and leave them in their beds, and beat them.”
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It is intended to be arranged
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As required by the order in which they are mentioned
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As I see it, it is not intended to combine the three
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The order is the original and the precedent in the conjunction with the waw
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Saeed bin Jubair said
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He advises her if she accepts, otherwise he abandons her
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If she accepts, otherwise he hits her
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But what type of beating is it permissible for him to use to discipline her?
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Scholars agree that this beating is a form of discipline
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And it's not torture
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Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, said
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And he said, “Strike them.”
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That is, if they are not deterred by admonition or abandonment
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You may beat them without causing any harm
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As proven in Sahih Muslim
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On the authority of Jabir, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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As he said in his farewell pilgrimage
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And fear God regarding women
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If they are common people among you
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You are required to not let anyone you hate put on your bed
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If they do, beat them not severely
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They shall be provided with and clothed in a reasonable manner
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This was also said by Ibn Abbas and more than one person
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Unexplained beating
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Al-Hasan Al-Basri said
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I mean, it's not effective
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Jurisprudence said
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It is not to break a limb
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It does not affect anything
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If the scholars talk about the quality of multiplication
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It is a light beating that does not affect her
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So what is the benefit of multiplication?
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Who knows women well?
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He knows that women are affected psychologically
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She may cry bitterly
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If her husband beat her lightly
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Not because she was physically hurt
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But because she feels inferior in status
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When he hit her
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It means something else
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He was the one who hit her
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Able to do what women hate
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Of divorce or marriage to her
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If it was after a light beating
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She still has a living heart
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The thought is that she will abandon nushuz
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She returns to her husband and obeys him
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Thus saving the family
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From disintegration and cracking with its rationality
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Muhammad Abu Zahr, may God have mercy on him, said
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The third is the medicine for nashouz
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Multiplication is the maximum
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He does not resort to it
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Except when the previous two medications fail
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It has been proven that hitting is permissible
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It happens when you reach married life
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A degree at which there is fear of discord and separation
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The Sunnah restricted it with two restrictions
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One of them is that it is not unpleasant
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And it should not be disgraceful
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Not to hit the face
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This was stated in the Sunnah
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Ibn Abbas was asked
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About unexplained beatings
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He said it was beating with a skewer or something similar
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This is permissible beating
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It is a symbol of deserving of being beaten
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Not by hitting
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Al-Tahir bin Ashour, may God have mercy on him, said
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It seems that permission to strike
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To take into account precise circumstances between spouses
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So the husband was allowed to beat his wife in a way that was corrective
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For the purpose of establishing intercourse between them
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If it exceeds what is required by its state of discord
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He was an aggressor
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These are the precise conditions that scientists talk about
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It is a woman's disobedience to a man
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And upload it to him in more than one form
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Which insults the man
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He loses his personality at home
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And it is most severe on the male psyche
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What a disobedient person does in front of his children
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The children rebel against him because of her
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Muhammad Rashid Reda, may God have mercy on him, said
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This is true for most jurists
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Those who have been singled out for legal disobedience
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Which permits hitting
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If needed to remove it
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With few qualities
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Like disobeying a man in bed
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Leaving the house without an excuse
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Some of them made leaving it an ornament
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He is asking for it as a craving
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They told him to hit her too
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To abandon religious obligations
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Such as washing and praying
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It seems that disobedience is more general
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It includes all disobedience
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It is caused by elevation and pride
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This is what he said
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If I obey you
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Do not seek a way against them
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We are faced with two options, not a third
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In dealing with the disobedient
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Which didn't work for her
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Biting or abandoning
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Either we allow the man
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To use what he permitted
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May God give him a light beating
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Who disciplines women
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And restores her sanity
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Or the family will be destroyed
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By dropping the man's personality
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Or divorce
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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds