Part of حديث أم زرع (اكتملت السلسلة)
· Lesson 6 of 25
أصناف الرجال في حديث أم زرع | الحلقة (6) | زوجي العَشَنّق
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In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
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Men's items
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In the hadith of Umm Zara’
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The lover's husband
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There is no time without a woman suffering from her husband
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There is no suffering for the man from his wife
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The nature of this life is that it is not devoid of hardship
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But suffering differs from suffering
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There is temporary suffering
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There is constant suffering
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The most difficult and longest
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Suffering related to the character of a man or a woman
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The difficulty stems from a person's unwillingness to change his character
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And adapting to those around him
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Otherwise
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Every reprehensible creation is subject to change
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Whoever changes himself, God changes his conditions
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Some people may deny the possibility of changing morals
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Under the pretext that he was born with that
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And they say
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Imprinting prevails over imprinting
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He responds to this invitation
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Imam Al-Ghazali, may God have mercy on him
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And he says
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If morals do not accept change
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Commandments, sermons, and chastisements would have become invalid
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Al-Ghazali protests this statement with something else, saying:
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How can this be denied against humans?
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Changing the character of the animal is possible
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It transfers the goshawk from the Istihaash to the Anas
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The dog is a voracious eater
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To be polite, abstain, and let go
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And the horse is from the reins
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To smoothness and obedience
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All of this is a change in morals
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If this applies to animals
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In the human being whom God has honored with reason, first of all
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It is not valid to excuse the statement of the man or the woman
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This is my nature
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The good nature remains with him
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And bad temper changes
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What happened to us was the suffering of the first and second wives
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It's all due to bad temperaments in the man that he did not change
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This is the third suffering
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Narrated by the third woman
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So she says
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The lover's husband
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If I speak, I will release
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If I remain silent, I will comment
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Suffering indicates that a woman is not safe, neither in silence nor in conversation
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So what do you do?
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Abu Ubaid Al-Harawi, may God have mercy on him, said
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The long embrace
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Al-Asmai said
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She says
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He doesn't have more than his length without use
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If I mention his faults, he will divorce me
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If he was silent, he would leave me hanging
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Neither any nor the same as Baal
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This woman describes her husband as tall
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Is she praising him or disparaging him?
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The context of the speech indicates slander
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What do you mean by this word?
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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
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Al-Asmai said
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She wanted him not to have more than his height without benefit
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And someone else said
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It is a must-have length
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And it was said
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I described him at length
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Because length is mostly a guide to stupidity
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He also said, may God have mercy on him
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Abu Saeed Al-Dareer said
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The correct one
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That love
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The long and noble one
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He who owns his own affairs
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Women do not control it
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Rather, he rules over them as he wishes
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His wife is afraid to speak in his presence
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She is reluctantly silent
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Al-Zamakhshari said
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It is a serious complaint
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It's over
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This is supported by what happened in the narration of Yaqoub bin Al-Sakit
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From the increase at the end
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It is as disgusting as the tooth
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By opening the dictionary and tightening the lam
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That is, the abstract with its weight and meaning
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She indicates that she is wary of him
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It is possible that she wanted this
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He is reckless and cannot settle
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Like sharp teeth
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As for describing him as a fool, it is foolish
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This is clearly reprehensible
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The Arabs say that he has a view without an informant
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He sees boys as palm trees
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And you don't know what income is
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As for describing it as not being controlled by women
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This is one of the meanings of manhood
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It is not considered reprehensible
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And the context of her speech
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It indicates that she disparages him by describing him as being long
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The correct meaning
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That these kind of men have looks
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They have no informant
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Unfortunately
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Today, there are many young people who take care of their appearance
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To go out among the people in an elegant way
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If he speaks and speaks
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He showed you his little mind
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And until the man gets rid of this scourge
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He should have knowledge and culture that develop his mind
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Not just to develop his muscles
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And the biggest disaster
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If the husband and wife are busy
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What is called triviality today
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Marital life will collapse quickly
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And who looked at the lives of celebrities closely
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He found the misery and destruction that these people lived through
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Who deceive people with flashy appearances
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They sleep on the thorns of problems and differences
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Because his minds are preoccupied with trivial matters
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Most of his concern was the false portrayal of Al-Baraqa
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And publish it on social media
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To gain followers and gain fame
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This is not the only suffering
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Which she lived this time
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But there is other suffering
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She expressed it by saying:
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If I speak, I will release
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If I remain silent, I will comment
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Ibn Hajar, may God have mercy on him, said
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Which also appears to me
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She wanted to describe her bad condition to him
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She pointed out his bad character
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The potential promise of her words
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If she complains to him about her condition
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And she knew that when she mentioned it to him
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Nothing like that
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He took the initiative to divorce her
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It does not affect his divorce
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For her love in him
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Then I crossed the second sentence
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An indication that it is
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If she remains patient in this situation
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It was like a spoon to him
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Which does not have a husband or any
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She does not live with him in peace
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Rather, she lives in constant anxiety
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Judge Iyad, may God have mercy on him, said
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It fulfills everything I described
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Bad manners and bad behavior
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And she is not safe from harm or harm
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Moreover, it is reprehensible for women and people
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And she is wary of his company
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Not confident in myself
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And there is no stability for him
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Expecting his harm or separation
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She is with him as if he were on the same page
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Of fear and caution
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Lack of reassurance and stability
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The Arabs say who it is
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Cautious and unstable
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It's like the point of a spear
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Like the edge of a sword
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Like the horn of a gazelle
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An important issue for women
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In her married life
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To feel safe and stable with her husband
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This woman does not know security
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Nor stability
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Because the husband does not accept her words
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He threatens her with divorce if she speaks
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If she remained silent, she would live with him in suspense
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And God Almighty
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He forbade men from harming women
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By suspending it in married life
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She is neither a wife nor divorced
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And he said
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And you will not be able to treat women justly, even if you strive.
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So do not incline completely, lest you leave it hanging
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Al-Saadi, may God have mercy on him, said
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If the wife leaves her husband
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What she should
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She became like a hanging woman who has no husband
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She rests and prepares for marriage
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She does not have a husband who can fulfill her rights
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The woman's comment is very supportive of her
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Because marital life is based on the legal relationship between the spouses
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If the husband fails to keep the woman chaste
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It exposes her to temptation
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Especially in a time like this
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In which women interact with men in many jobs
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The words of the third woman indicate
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However, she loves her husband and does not want anyone else
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Because if she hates it
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I would have spoken and pointed out his faults so he would divorce her
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But she preferred to remain silent rather than speak
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Although silence is also permitted
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Because it will remain suspended
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She does not get from married life what other women get
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Except rarely
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However, she chose to stay with him because of her love for him
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Can a man appreciate this love that a woman has for him?
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With the severity of his abuse of her
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Will he reconsider his lifestyle with his wife?
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We will continue in an upcoming meeting, God willing
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Praise be to God, Lord of the worlds