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خلاصة مفاهيم أهل السنة | 52- مفاهيم حول الزواج والأسرة | المفاهيم (825-833)
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Summary of Sunni concepts
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Marriage in Islam and its purposes
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In Islam, marriage is not just an instinctive, bestial relationship between a man and a woman
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Such as the relationship between females and males of most animals
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Or love and passion without strict controls and systems
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It is also common today in the lands of infidelity
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Rather, it is a sacred bond between spouses
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It has noble goals and lofty purposes
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And most importantly
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Firstly
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The immunity and chastity of both spouses
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In an organized manner, it is permissible according to Islamic law
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As God Almighty said
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I will explain to you what is behind them
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That you seek with your wealth chaste and not transgressors
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And in another verse
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They are protected, neither fornicators nor deceivers
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Cheating is adultery with mistresses
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Marriage is called marriage
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Any prevention and maintenance
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Because it results in the spouses being chaste to each other
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And the Almighty said
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And I will marry the days among you and the righteous among your male and female servants
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And the saying of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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O young people!
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Whoever of you can afford it, let him get married
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It lowers one's gaze and protects one's chastity
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Whoever is unable must fast
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For it came to him
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Agreed
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All of this is decided in the souls of believers
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Singleness and non-marriage are a temporary condition
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One must strive to end it
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And remove everything that hinders him from it
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Marriage thus becomes the custom of believers
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Obedience and closeness to God Almighty
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Secondly
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God willing, the Muslim family
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In which the rights of both spouses are taken into account
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As indicated by the Almighty’s saying
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Who created you from one soul
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And her husband was created from her
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Wives are creatures of men
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Because he was the husband of Adam, peace be upon him
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Created from his rib
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There is the closest lineage between them and them
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And the tightest connection
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And the most sacred relationship
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As God Almighty said
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They are clothes for you and you are clothes for them
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It is a connection between one soul and another
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And so
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The Muslim family and the Muslim home
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It is a residence where affection and compassion are widespread
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As God Almighty said
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Among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves
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That you may dwell in it
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And He placed between you affection and mercy
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This is the most wonderful and accurate depiction
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For marital relationship
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The formation of the Muslim home
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Islam is not satisfied with these gestures
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And spiritual radiation
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Rather, it is followed by regulations
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And guaranteeing legislation
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rights of each
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Third
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Increasing the descendants of Muslims
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The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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He married Al-Wadud Al-Walud
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For I am superior to you among the nations
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Narrated by Abu Dawud, Al-Nasa’i and Ahmad
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It was authenticated by Al-Albani
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Guardianship
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God Almighty established that the man in his house has guardianship over the woman
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And God Almighty said
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Men are guardians of women
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Because God has favored some of them over others
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And what they spent of their money
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Not in this format
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To eliminate the woman’s personality in the home
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Nor in human society
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As some believe
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Ignorance of what Sharia wants from us
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But it is something that has its reasons
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Of composition and innate predisposition
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God Almighty
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Make it a woman's job
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Pregnancy and childbirth
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Breastfeeding and child rearing
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Those are huge things
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You need tenderness and compassion
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And effective speed
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And urgent response
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To childhood demands
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All of this is a characteristic of women
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What distinguishes her from men
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It is not fair
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To cost a woman
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In addition to these huge burdens
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Responsible for work
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And maintenance on the marital home
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And manage his affairs
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These are things that require properties that they do not have
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Rather, it is a characteristic of men
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Spherical in thinking
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And study things
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From all its aspects
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Strength and firmness in decisions
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So God assigned them
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With all that
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And give them leadership
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And the guardianship in that
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To be able to do their job
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Those assigned to it
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If this balance is imbalanced
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Jobs and tasks changed
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Or account for all of them
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One party or the other
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Disagreement arose between the spouses
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It is necessary
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And the house rapture
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His problems abounded
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And God Almighty spoke the truth
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Doesn't he know who created him?
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He is the Kind and All-Knowing
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Stewardship is also a must
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Because the house is his business
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Like any institution
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There must be one value
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He has a responsibility
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In her home
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After consultation and understanding
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With his partners in it
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Its existence does not negate the presence of partners
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And workers in their jobs
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Nor their personality
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Guardianship is also a man’s right
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Corresponding to the duty of assignment
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By spending on the house
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Protect him and manage his affairs
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So it's in short
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A strength accompanied by kindness
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Care and maintenance
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And etiquette in behavior
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With wife and children
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It is a complementary relationship
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Between both men and women
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It is misleading to transform this relationship
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To a relationship of opposition and contradiction
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Polygamy and justice between them
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May God allow men
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Polygamy up to four
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A condition for this is fairness between them
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God Almighty said
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So marry whatever women you like
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Two, three and a quarter
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If you fear that you will not be fair, then one
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Or whatever your right hand possesses
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That is less likely that you should not depend
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And the justice required
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It is fairness in treatment, maintenance, and treatment
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As for justice, it is in the feelings of the hearts and feelings
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No one demands it
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It is beyond human power
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He is the one God said about in the other verse
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And you will not be able to treat women justly, even if you strive.
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So do not incline completely, lest you leave it hanging
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Let no one try to take this verse as evidence for the prohibition of polygamy
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This is a multiplication of the verses of the Book one by another
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And it was revealed to it other than what it was revealed to
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And the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
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He is the best example of applying justice between his wives in terms of maintenance and treatment
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And yet
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All his wives, may God be pleased with them
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They know the extent of his love for the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, may God be pleased with her
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And cherish her with a special heartfelt affection
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And do not blame him for that
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The importance of home and family for a Muslim child
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The child grows gradually in the Muslim home and family
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During this, he receives a sufficient balance of love, cooperation, solidarity and construction
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He experiences the mother's tenderness and compassion and the father's guardianship and care
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He notices the affection and mercy between them
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He grows up balanced and upright, with common sense and feelings
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As for the child who is deprived of this natural embrace
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His upbringing was abnormal in many aspects of his life
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No matter how much comfort and education he has available outside the family environment
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The first thing he loses is the feeling of love and tenderness
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Because the child by nature loves to be alone with his mother for the first two years of his life
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In which he depends mainly on her and cannot bear to be shared with anyone else
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Children from shelters and orphanages share a foster carer and a nanny who takes care of them
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Rather, they have multiple nannies and take turns depending on the work time allocated to each one of them
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This results in confusion and a defect in the child’s nature
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Perhaps the children hate each other
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It also leads to his lack of a single authority that supervises him
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To the strangeness of his personality and its instability
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The experiences of public incubators reveal every day the original wisdom in making the family the first building block for building a healthy society
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Which targets Islam, if it wishes, on a sound basis consistent with human nature
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Family and caring for the rights of parents and other relatives
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In a Muslim family, children should be raised to respect the rights of their parents and maximize their value
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In encouraging it and enjoining it, it was coupled with the command to worship God and monotheize Him
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And worship God and do not associate anything with Him, and be kind to parents
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But charity is not limited to them only
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Even if it takes precedence over all other types of charity
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But it extends to all relatives, neighbors, orphans, the poor, and so on
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So the verse continues
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And the kinsfolk, and the orphans, and the needy, and the neighbour, and the neighbour, and the neighbour, and the neighbour, and the wayfarer, and what your right hands possess.
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God does not like someone who is arrogant and proud
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The end of the verse indicates that neglecting this and being negligent in it is a kind of pride, arrogance, and arrogance
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Caring for parental rights is not limited to living with them in one family and one home
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Rather, when a son or daughter grows up and each one of them gets married
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They separate from their parents and form an independent family
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The parents grow older and older
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In this case, their righteousness, care, and non-neglect are confirmed
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God Almighty said
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Your Lord has decreed that you should not worship anyone but Him and that you be kind to your parents
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Either one or both of them reach old age with you, so do not say “fuck” to them or rebuke them
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And speak to them kindly
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And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy
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And say, “My Lord, have mercy on them as they raised me when I was little.”
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No son is distracted by his family and his new responsibility
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The main job of a Muslim woman
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Sharia law makes a woman’s main job to be taking care of her husband’s house
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As he, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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The woman is a shepherd in her husband’s house
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She is responsible for her flock
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Agreed
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The reality of home and housing does not exist unless a woman creates it by spreading tenderness and kindness
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And good education in it
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Unlike women who work outside the home
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Where you spread nothing but exhaustion, weariness and boredom
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A woman may go out to work outside her home if necessary
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But it causes disasters of housing and instability
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This is what working women in the infidel West suffer from
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And in our contemporary societies
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A woman should not work outside her home
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Except within the limits of necessity and urgent need
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Home and family security
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Islam aims to spread peace in the home
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At the same time, he turns to the individual conscience
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And to the human community
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They are all interconnected links
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There is interconnection and communication between them
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To spread this peace, Islam has guaranteed several things
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He urged its availability in the Muslim home
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It is that first
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The couple's relationship must be based on mutual consent
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Neither of them should be forced to do so
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Especially women
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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Do not have sex with a virgin until she asks for permission
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Nor clothing until you ask for advice
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It was said, O Messenger of God, how about her permission?
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He said if you keep quiet
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Narrated by Al-Bukhari
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And so that satisfaction is real
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They must see each other before marriage
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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To Al-Mughirah bin Shu’bah when he wanted to get married
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Look at her
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It is better for it to last between you
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Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi, Al-Nasa’i and Ahmad
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It was authenticated by Al-Albani
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Secondly
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There must also be publicity and testimony in marriage
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It is not done in secret as if it were a crime
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It also occurs in temporary marriage
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There must be an explicit offer and acceptance
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Witnesses bear witness to them
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So that there is no doubt about the reality of this connection
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Third
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Likewise, in marriage, there must be an intention to perpetuate the marriage
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So that it is not a fun marriage
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Its purpose is not to create a Muslim family and a Muslim home
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Fourth
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Islam emphasizes the concept of accommodation, affection and mercy between spouses
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Fifth
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The man was assigned the right of guardianship so that he could manage this partnership
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Sixth
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Make the woman's main job to take care of her husband's house
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Seventh
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Islam forbids adornment and mingling
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So that no strife occurs between women and men
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These include married women or married men
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If they meet with so-called co-workers
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Of the opposite sex for both of them
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The man finds his so-called female co-worker elegant, adorned and adorned
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He does not see her as she really is in her home as he sees his wife
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God Almighty said to women
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And do not show us the display of pre-Islamic times
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He ordered them to wear the veil and ordered both men and women to blind their eyes
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To prevent strife between them
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In return, the woman should adorn herself in her home for her husband
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She does not neglect herself to protect her husband
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In order not to be alienated from it and look at others
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Outside the family project for him
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Eighth
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Sharia law makes homes inviolable
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Permission must be sought before entering
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God Almighty said
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O you who have believed, do not enter houses other than your own
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Until you feel comfortable and greet its people
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That is better for you, so that you may remember
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Ninth
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He forbade spying on homes
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And to see what is inside her
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God Almighty said
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And do not spy
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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Whoever looks into people's homes without their permission
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So they gouged out his eye
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His eye wasted
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Narrated by Abu Dawood
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It was authenticated by Al-Albani
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Tenth
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He ordered the preservation of private parts
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Even between members of the same family
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Even if they were children
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And he was no exception to that
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Except the spouses between each other
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God Almighty said
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O you who have believed, seek your permission
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Those whom your right hand possesses
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And those of you who have not reached the dream three times
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Before dawn prayer
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And when you put on your clothes at noon
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And after the evening prayer
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Three private parts for you
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There is no blame on you or them after them
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You are all over each other
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Thus God makes clear to you the signs
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And God is All-Knowing, All-Wise
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And if your children reach the dream
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Let them ask permission as those before them asked permission
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Thus God makes His signs clear to you
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And God is All-Knowing, All-Wise
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Eleventh
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He commanded justice between wives
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So that the wife can live safe from injustice
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Justice between children also applies to gifts and other things
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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So fear God and be fair among your children
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Agreed
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twelfth
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Until divorce
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The apparent joy of peace in the family
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In reality, it is security and peace
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When it is impossible to live together between spouses
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The children were negatively affected by this crisis
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But this is a condition of divorce
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So that it will be safe and sound
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In conducting it, it must adhere to the Sharia rulings
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To be the last medicine
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After attempts at reconciliation between the two parties
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And send a ruling from each party
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To try to reconcile them
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If he doesn't find it at last
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Then there is a need for divorce
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Taking into account what is known
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Between the two parties and their families
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thirteenth
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And more important than all of the above
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To achieve the security and safety of the Muslim home
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Maintaining the security of the faith
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And good morals for family members
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He commanded them to obey God and protect themselves
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One of the reasons for punishment in this world and the hereafter
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God Almighty said
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O you who have believed
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Protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones.
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From the evils of homes
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Violating the terms of the previous concept
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Especially the last item
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All of this is considered abominable in homes
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Added to this are other things
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It has now spread in the Muslim home
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From her
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Firstly
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Leniency in images of animate beings
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What's in comics?
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Especially women's ones
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This prevents angels from entering the house
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He is forbidden to bless him
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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Angels do not enter a house in which there are dogs or pictures
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Agreed
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Secondly
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Bringing unencrypted television into homes
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With the widespread evil and great sin it contains
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God Almighty becomes angry
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How many family members were tempted
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Male and female
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Because of this great evil
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They got lost and strayed
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Fear God, the head of the family
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And let him know that he will be responsible for that on the Day of Resurrection
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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You are all a shepherd and you are all responsible for your flock
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Hadith
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Third
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Introduction of foreign servants
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Male and female for homes
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Without taking into account the rules of hijab
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Preventing the mixing of genders
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This is something that has become common and beneficial in Muslim families
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Even the families of preachers and devotees
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There is no power nor strength except in God, the Most High, the Great
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Fourth
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Leniency in women's modesty
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Inside large family homes
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Which consists of several families
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Mixing between brothers and their wives is common
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Without adhering to the legal hijab
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He, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
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Beware of entering upon women
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A man from the Ansar said
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O Messenger of God, have you seen the flesh?
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The fever said death
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Agreed
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This is sufficient to discourage the mixing of relatives and in-laws in one place
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New issues threatening the Muslim family
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It is a serious issue that threatens the Muslim family and the Muslim home
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Firstly
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The issue of women's liberation
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It is an issue adopted by atheists, secularists, hypocrites and their like
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Claiming that they want women's freedom
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And to free her from the injustice and slavery that befell her
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And the truth of their claim
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I invited her to leave the hijab and mingle with men
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They called it women's liberation
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They forget that God Almighty
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He is the one who guaranteed women their rights and honor
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As is stated in detail in the Qur’an and Sunnah
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What they are calling for is in reality the destruction of the family
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Secondly
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And more severe than before
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What is currently known as independent women
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It is a call adopted by feminist organizations
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Known as the feminist movement
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It goes beyond women's liberation
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Spreading the concept that women do not need men
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And her independence by living alone in a private house
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They have no objection to bringing in whomever you want, whether lovers or lovers
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She is the one who spends on herself
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She has the full right and freedom, they claim, to live however she wants
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A feminist movement has now emerged in America to oppose this
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It calls on women to return to their main job at home and raising children
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It has an impact on politics today in America in particular
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Third
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And more dangerous than all of the above
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What is currently common is the support for gay men and women
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Where they allow a woman to be satisfied with a woman like her
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And a man with a man like him
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This is what the people of Lot did
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That is enough crime and obscenity
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They call for them to live together in one house
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They claim that it is like a family
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They call this category deception and embellishment of their actions
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Gays
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They established laws and regulations in the West
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Which allows a man to marry another man
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And a woman is a woman
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Rather, it is now turning to criminalizing those who object to this
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They threatened to impose sanctions on him
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For the life of God
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This has the essence of permissibility and legislation other than God
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Let Muslims adhere to their law
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Let them strongly reject this
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Let them await God’s wrath, curse, and destruction of all who permit this
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God is victorious over his affairs
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But most people don't know