Riyadh Al-Salehin | Episode (174) | Chapter on the prohibition of wailing over the dead

0:00 Riyadh al-Salihin from the words of the Master of the Messengers, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.

0:09 Chapter: The Prohibition of Affectation (Takalluf)

0:14 This refers to doing or saying things that serve no purpose and involve unnecessary hardship.

0:21 Allah the Almighty said:

0:23 “Say (O Muhammad, unto mankind): I ask of you no fee for this, and I am no simulating.” (38:86)

0:30 On the authority of 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

0:35 "We have been forbidden from affectation."

0:37 Narrated by al-Bukhari.

0:41 From the benefits of the hadith:

0:43 It is disliked to ask excessive questions or to be overly pedantic.

0:46 It is also disliked to burden oneself with matters that do not concern one.

0:49 This applies whether it is in religious or worldly affairs.

0:54 On the authority of Masruq, who said:

0:58 We visited 'Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud, may Allah be pleased with him.

1:02 He said:

1:03 "O people,

1:05 whoever knows something, let him speak of it,

1:08 and whoever does not know, let him say:

1:11 'Allah knows best.'

1:13 For it is a part of knowledge to say, regarding what you do not know,

1:17 'Allah knows best.'"

1:19 Allah the Almighty said to His Prophet, peace be upon him:

1:24 “Say (O Muhammad, unto mankind): I ask of you no fee for this, and I am no simulating.” (38:86)

1:31 Narrated by al-Bukhari.

1:34 From the benefits of the hadith:

1:37 The prohibition of affectation in scholarly issues and being overly difficult in questioning.

1:42 The encouragement to follow the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, in avoiding affectation, over-complication, and pedantry.

1:52 It is incumbent upon a scholar, if asked about something he does not know, to say:

1:57 "I do not know" or "I have no knowledge of it."

2:01 This does not diminish the scholar's status in the slightest;

2:04 rather, it is a sign of his piety and religious commitment.

2:07 For above every possessor of knowledge is one who is All-Knowing.

2:14 Chapter: The Prohibition of Wailing over the Deceased,

2:17 slapping the cheeks, tearing the garment,

2:20 plucking the hair, shaving it,

2:22 and calling out for woe and destruction.

2:27 On the authority of 'Umar Ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

2:30 The Prophet, peace be upon him, said:

2:34 "The deceased is punished in his grave for the wailing done over him."

2:39 In another narration:

2:41 "For what is wailed over him."

2:43 Agreed upon.

2:46 This refers to the wailing performed for him.

2:50 Wailing is crying over the deceased with a raised voice,

2:54 and mentioning the deceased's virtues.

2:57 It also refers to the duration of the wailing over him.

3:02 From the benefits of the hadith:

3:04 The prohibition of wailing over the deceased,

3:07 as severe warnings have been issued against it.

3:12 On the authority of Ibn Mas'ud, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

3:16 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said:

3:20 "He is not one of us who strikes his cheeks, tears his garments,

3:24 and calls out with the call of the Jahiliyyah (pre-Islamic ignorance)."

3:27 Agreed upon.

3:31 "Jayb" (plural: juyub) refers to

3:33 the opening of a garment at the neck,

3:36 through which the head passes.

3:39 Tearing it

3:41 means ripping it open completely.

3:43 This is a sign of discontent with the decree of Allah.

3:46 The "call of the Jahiliyyah"

3:48 is lamentation,

3:50 such as saying:

3:51 "O my mountain!"

3:53 "O my support!"

3:55 And other such phrases.

3:58 From the benefits of the hadith:

4:00 The exaggeration of the reality of one who engages in such acts.

4:05 The permissibility of shunning one who does this,

4:07 and turning away from him,

4:09 so that he does not mingle with the community of the Sunnah,

4:11 as a form of discipline for him.

4:14 This is because the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,

4:17 disassociated himself from such actions and behavior.

4:21 The prohibition of using the call of the Jahiliyyah,

4:23 such as wailing, lamenting, and the like.

4:28 A clarification of the virtue of one who is patient and seeks reward from Allah during calamities,

4:32 and shows contentment when the decree of Allah descends.

4:37 On the authority of Abu Burdah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

4:41 Abu Musa became ill,

4:43 and he fell unconscious,

4:44 with his head in the lap of a woman of his family.

4:48 She began to cry out with a wail,

4:50 and he was unable to respond to her at all.

4:55 When he regained consciousness,

4:56 he said:

4:58 "I am free of those whom the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, is free of.

5:04 For the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,

5:08 is free of the *saliqah* (the one who wails loudly),

5:10 the *haliqah* (the one who shaves her head),

5:11 and the *shaqiqah* (the one who tears her clothes)."

5:14 Agreed upon.

5:17 The *saliqah* is

5:18 she who raises her voice in wailing and lamentation.

5:23 The *haliqah* is

5:24 she who shaves her head at the time of a calamity.

5:28 The *shaqiqah* is

5:30 she who tears her garment.

5:33 "Afaqa"

5:34 means he recovered from his unconsciousness.

5:37 "Rannah"

5:38 is a sound accompanied by crying,

5:40 containing a tremulous tone.

5:43 "Nadb"

5:44 means enumerating the virtues of the deceased.

5:48 From the benefits of the hadith:

5:51 The prohibition of wailing, shaving the hair of the head, and tearing garments

5:55 when the calamity of death occurs.

5:58 The servant should follow the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him,

6:04 and disassociate himself from what the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, disassociated himself from.

6:12 On the authority of al-Mughirah Ibn Shu'bah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

6:17 I heard the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, say:

6:21 "Whoever is wailed over,

6:23 he will be punished for what was wailed over him on the Day of Resurrection."

6:29 Agreed upon.

6:31 On the authority of Umm 'Atiyyah,

6:33 Nusaybah, may Allah be pleased with her, who said:

6:37 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, took a pledge from us

6:40 at the time of the oath of allegiance that we would not wail.

6:44 Agreed upon.

6:46 From the benefits of the hadith:

6:49 The permissibility of women giving an oath of allegiance,

6:52 and their oath is taken verbally.

6:55 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, never placed his hand in the hand of a woman

7:00 during the oath of allegiance or otherwise.

7:03 The recommendation of pledging to abandon forbidden acts.

7:09 The oath of allegiance is a legal contract and a divine covenant

7:13 to obey Allah and His Messenger.

7:16 Wailing is among the customs of the Jahiliyyah,

7:19 which a Muslim should cast off

7:22 when he dons the garment of Islam.

7:26 On the authority of al-Nu'man Ibn Bashir, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said:

7:32 'Abdullah Ibn Rawahah, may Allah be pleased with him, fell unconscious,

7:36 and his sister began to weep and say:

7:40 "O my mountain! O such and such!"

7:44 enumerating his virtues over him.

7:46 He said when he regained consciousness:

7:48 "I did not say anything,

7:50 but it was said to me: 'Are you really like that?'"

7:54 Narrated by al-Bukhari.

7:57 "Enumerating his virtues"

7:59 means mentioning his characteristics in the manner of the Jahiliyyah.

8:04 "Are you really like that?"

8:05 is a rhetorical question of rebuke and reprimand.

8:11 From the benefits of the hadith:

8:14 The prohibition of lamenting for the deceased.

8:17 The prohibition of claiming virtues that are not in the person,

8:20 whether by the person himself or by others.

8:25 On the authority of Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them both, who said:

8:29 Sa'd Ibn 'Ubadah, may Allah be pleased with him, fell ill,

8:34 and the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, came to visit him

8:37 along with 'Abd al-Rahman Ibn 'Awf,

8:41 Sa'd Ibn Abi Waqqas,

8:43 and 'Abdullah Ibn Mas'ud, may Allah be pleased with them.

8:47 When he entered, he found him in a state of unconsciousness.

8:52 He asked, "Has he passed away?"

8:55 They said, "No, O Messenger of Allah."

8:58 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, wept.

9:02 When the people saw the weeping of the Prophet, peace be upon him,

9:07 they wept as well.

9:09 He said, "Do you not hear?

9:12 Allah does not punish for the tears of the eye nor for the sadness of the heart,

9:17 but He punishes for this,"

9:20 and he pointed to his tongue, "or He shows mercy."

9:24 Agreed upon.

9:27 On the authority of Abu Malik al-Ash'ari, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

9:32 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said:

9:36 "A wailing woman, if she does not repent before she dies,

9:40 will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a garment of pitch (tar),

9:45 and a coat of scabies."

9:48 Narrated by Muslim.

9:51 "Sirbal" means a shirt.

9:55 "Qatran" (pitch) is a black, foul-smelling liquid

9:59 that helps ignite fire.

10:01 It is used to treat camels for mange.

10:05 "Jarab" (scabies/mange) is a disease that affects the skin and leaves pits in it.

10:12 From the benefits of the hadith:

10:14 The prohibition of wailing and the severity of this sin.

10:18 The validity of repentance,

10:20 provided the accountable person has not died or reached the point of death (the death rattle).

10:25 The recompense is of the same nature as the deed.

10:28 The tears of the wailing woman will be like pitch on the Day of Resurrection,

10:32 igniting the fire and fueling it.

10:35 And the clothes she tore

10:38 will be a disease and a torment upon her.

10:42 On the authority of Usayd Ibn Abi Usayd, the Tabi'i,

10:46 from one of the women who gave the oath of allegiance, who said:

10:49 "Among what the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, took from us,

10:54 in the good things he required of us,

10:56 was that we would not disobey him in them:

10:59 that we would not scratch our faces,

11:01 nor call out for woe,

11:03 nor tear our garments,

11:06 nor dishevel our hair."

11:08 Narrated by Abu Dawud.

11:12 "We would not scratch" means we would not wound.

11:16 "Khamsh" is a wound on the surface of the skin caused by the fingernail.

11:21 This refers to slapping the cheeks.

11:23 "We would not call out for woe"

11:25 means we would not lament by saying "Woe!"

11:29 We scatter our hair,

11:31 meaning we dishevel and tear it,

11:35 among the benefits of the hadith:

11:37 the prohibition of scratching the face, wailing, and scattering the hair during times of calamity.

11:43 The recommendation of pledging allegiance to abandon forbidden acts and perform acts of obedience.

11:50 On the authority of Abu Musa, may Allah be pleased with him,

11:52 that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:

11:57 "There is no person who dies,

11:59 and their mourner stands up and says,

12:02 'Oh, my mountain!'

12:04 'Oh, my master!'

12:06 or words to that effect,

12:08 but that two angels are appointed to him to strike him,

12:11 saying, 'Were you like that?'"

12:14 Narrated by al-Tirmidhi.

12:17 "Striking" (lahz)

12:18 is pushing someone in the chest with a clenched fist.

12:22 Among the benefits of the hadith:

12:25 The deceased who does not disavow these practices before their death,

12:30 while knowing that their family habitually does them,

12:34 will be punished for it.

12:38 On the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, who said:

12:42 The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, said:

12:46 "There are two traits in people that are acts of disbelief:

12:50 slandering one's lineage,

12:52 and wailing over the dead."

12:55 Narrated by Muslim.

12:57 Riyad al-Salihin.

Riyadh Al-Salehin | Episode (174) | Chapter on the prohibition of wailing over the dead

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